Fakes, Phonies and BS'ers...

[redelicious]

I'm right there with ya, babe!!! Hugs!!!

That's right, you and I are members of an exclusive club.


Wellllll, maybe not so exclusive, lol.

 

[concrete]

Just curious how many here have been caught off-guard by Lit members that mislead others about their marital status, age, lifestyle, or anything that truly matters. Face it, we have little knowledge of those we talk to online. Maybe the mystery of it all compels us to trust more than we should?

Please, DON'T name names... this thread isn't for exposing people or getting back at those that may have deceived you. Just share your experience so that others may benefit from the knowledge we've gained collectively.

<-<- I've NEVER rubbed you the wrong way....

 

[STUDDOG]

Blatant liars really piss me off too. Oh, and those that pose as your friends on the boards, but heaven forbid you ever find out what they do behind the scene... in PM's, e-mails, Yahoo and such.

All I can say is one thing... watch your fucking back!

Miss Arden....you as always have a great thread here and I hope everyone reads it and listens to what has happened to them and is possible, because you naturally want to believe. I am not posting much anymore because I have friends hurt here by the group of assholes that do their best to get women to cyber them...or phone sex....seems to be their soul purpose in being here. They have no regard for the feelings of the person involved.

For the ladies that want that and can keep it separated from a feeling that the person somehow loves them or is a real friend...then go for it....just be aware ...One even hit on three of my friends in one night....I guess going for the odds...I personally find this as one of the truely sick parts of Lit...
enough said here...

I also know of one man that carried three Identities and deceived many for a long time...men and women....and still stalks our threads under a pretence of friendship. I'm not here to name someone....just to inform people that this happens and people lie with facts about who they are.

You have to be the judge of character and ask yourself if it's worth the possible consequences......


STUDDOG

 

[STUDDOG]

I might also note this for the ladies that want to know who the assholes are....and it's not perfectly clear already...ask the other ladies you see them acting as a friend too....you might gain a whole new insight into that person and their purpose....if you care to know.

I wish all my friends the best and will try and stay in touch.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Good thread

Admittedly, when I first discovered LIT, I spent all my time playing in the chat rooms. It was a great diversion, and a bit of fun, but I soon tired of the charade I was parading: FOUR different characters ("Jenny Hill" was actually my second nickname).
After the thrill of "make believe" wore off, I stuck with "Jenny" since she was the most like the real me.

Although I never gave any real information out (and nobody asked me to), I soon tired of the games, especially when I began spending hours "chatting" in a group way with others in Syd's Hot Tub area. Folks like Ladybird and Tulip made me realize that "real" folks did spend time together online, and the minute I became myself, Omahaman 2 came into my life.

I discovered the boards after Oman and I started spending our online time together, and my instincts usually pointed out the folks who are here for the friendship, and who are here for other reasons.

I'm completely myself on the boards, and feel safe enough to just be myself. I'm not sure how things would have worked out if I had discovered the boards before the chat area.

I played it as safely as possible (ask Oman!); he was the first person from LIT that I met face to face. Met two others, and they are just as I had pictured them!

I am aware of several LITers who deceive others and string them along, and I feel for those who are affected by them.

 

[concrete]

hi jen.
with the player's, the ranger's have now.
think they'll finally make the playoffs/ or go broke...
.
.
is that a detroit red wing skating at the bottom of your AV??

 

[JennyOmanHill]

hi jen.
with the player's, the ranger's have now.
think they'll finally make the playoffs/ or go broke...

It certainly doesn't look good for them (AGAIN!) this season!

Tried to find a blueshirt skating, but if you squint very hard, the skating player looks generic!

sigh....

When does spring training begin?

 

[MMorJon]

Jenny that is a red wing skating down there

(checked with photoshop)

 

[1sexylady]

I have met alot of friends on here. Some I can count on and some I know are full of shit. The ones you can count on will meet you for real and be just that, a friend.

We have meetings like the one coming up in the Spring down in North Carolina. We met last year and had a ball. No people it was not a orgy......just erotic people getting together talking, laughing, sharing stories and having a good time. Alot of us stayed very very good friends and that is why there is another one.

 

[Guest 2]

I have met many people in here, that have lied to me, hurt me deeply, to the poiont where I had to leave for while, and I am sure many others have gone through the same t hing. NOw, if I feel I am getting too close to somone, caring for them too much, I will back away for while, get myself together, then come back here. Be very careful who you trust, dont give out too much personal information unless you really know that person, take your time getting to know somone, My only friend that I know I can trust completely in here, and have for long time is SILK. She has always ;been here for me, and I know she has been there for many others as well. I al so have had many names in here, because I was so hurt by people, and I have NOT harmed anyone, or hurt anyone in doing that

SO sorry, I have said my piece, even though it was long

Take care

 

[tn_8tiv]

I have met many people in here, that have lied to me, hurt me deeply, to the poiont where I had to leave for while, and I am sure many others have gone through the same t hing. NOw, if I feel I am getting too close to somone, caring for them too much, I will back away for while, get myself together, then come back here. Be very careful who you trust, dont give out too much personal information unless you really know that person, take your time getting to know somone, My only friend that I know I can trust completely in here, and have for long time is SILK. She has always ;been here for me, and I know she has been there for many others as well. I al so have had many names in here, because I was so hurt by people, and I have NOT harmed anyone, or hurt anyone in doing that

SO sorry, I have said my piece, even though it was long

Take care

I thought we were friends sweetheart.

I have met many true friends here on Lit. Sure, I've flirted with lots of women, but when you meet true friends, there is no room for lies or deception of any kind. I have been accused (wrongly) of deceiving someone close to me and the truth is that it's very hard to hurt anyone and sometimes the truth will cause hurt to someone who doesn't deserve it. But time has a way of revealing true feelings and that goes for on-line relationships as well as real life ones.

So, to those real friends here on lit (and you know who you are), if I've hurt any of you, I'm sorry...didn't mean to.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Jenny that is a red wing skating down there

(checked with photoshop)

Found a blue hockey skater, but it can't be a Ranger since it's skating too fast!

Just couldn't justify my sign line with a Red Wing there!


Words can hurt people very much, so it's likely that things will be written that will disturb a person's feelings. Words on a forum can also be misconstrued, so I think other means of communication are important as well in getting to know online people.

 

[Missingmeds]

Excellent point Jenny. Internet communications lacks the facial expressions and the vocal inflections that sometimes help us determine how something is meant.

 

[Bobmi357]

Excellent point Jenny. Internet communications lacks the facial expressions and the vocal inflections that sometimes help us determine how something is meant.

Tis a sad fact, but to many dishonest people, these posts are mere words on a screen having no connection with a live flesh and blood individual.

The anonymity that the net provides, and in particular, this board, allows people to say whatever they want without any threat of someone catching them in a lie. Additionally its a sad fact, but probably true, that for every person you catch lying to you, another 10 get away with it scott-free.

I've been using the net since 1985, and during that time I've seen marriages collapse, relationships crumble, people get hurt left and right all because someone opted to portray themselves as something other than they are. Back in '92, on another network entirely, I lost a friend I knew. She met a guy, they talked for a couple months then finally agreed to meet in real life. When they met he tied her up, raped her repeatedly then killed her (He was eventually caught and went to prison, but still that won't bring her back).

The simple fact is, that these ARE mere words on a screen. Even with audio and video chatting, its hard to catch people in lies, and we truly do want to believe people and what they tell us.

For all I know, these posts made by everyone else could be some clever program doing the posting and the lit board is merely an exersize pumping up traffic to Literotica (and no, I don't really believe that!). Its impossible to read these posts and determine tone and emotional content. You can try, but its a hit and miss affair. So to a large extent, we have no way of telling if someone who says s/he is divorced, or married, or single, is telling the truth.

Caution should be your watchword when engaged here and elsewhere on the net. But if you're looking for that someone special, sooner or later you are either going to have to trust that person, or you might as well give up and cuddle up with a good book.

I met my wife online, a long time ago, on a different network. I was lucky because she believed me, but I was brutally honest and told her my entire situation before we ever met. I told her I was married but getting a divorce, I told her I had 2 kids, I even promised her I would never attempt to meet her unless I had moved out from the ex and was living in my own place. She had had some bad experiences in meeting people online, but still she managed to find it in herself to trust me.

My advice to anyone looking for an online relationship or just a online fling would be to be open and honest about your situation. There are people of both sexes looking for fuck buddies, and looking for relationships. If you're honest, you might get turned down more often, but sooner or later you will run across that person looking for exactly what you're able to offer.

 

[Guest 2]

TN

What you and I share is very special, and it will always be that way, what we went through together,. We had some hard times, but in the end we worked it all out. Yes, you are my friend and much, much mo re baby. Email me, ok?

Kissessssssssssss

 

[Darby_]

most of us are less than honest with ourselves and with others...

for some, playing online is an escape.. and so for them.. its a fantasy world ... a sort of constantly unfolding story

for others, the escape is to another version of their world.. one they make their own.. and hold to strongly.. this personalization can easily lead to problems/disapointments

for me.. its a way to explore and expand myself in a (generally) safe environment..

people will always hurt, and be hurt.. thats human nature..

i, for one, hope to have fun.. and I know there are a lot of good people on here.. and even if they are not exactly how they present themselves.. its fine with me

Darby

 

[silkynsmooth]

TN

What you and I share is very special, and it will always be that way, what we went through together,. We had some hard times, but in the end we worked it all out. Yes, you are my friend and much, much mo re baby. Email me, ok?

Kissessssssssssss

Damnit woman you cheating on me again!!!!! hehehhehe

Love ya sweetie and yeeah you too tn!!

 

[Guest 2]

LOL

SILK!!!!!!!!!!!!

See theres my best girl, told ya she loved me hehehhe

 

[Guest]

I'm a lurker and most likely stay one. There are some awsome people here and I enjoy jumping in now and then to give my 2 cents worth or some comment on the sexy ladies here. Lord knows there are plenty of them. A big kiss to all of you gals. There are some genuine real people that will take the time to answer each and every post to his or her thread but then there are the ones that just blow you off for you didn't say the right thing or take the time to chat back and forth or you're not one of thier favorites. I may be all wet about some things and little shy on others but one thing for sure I never let my gaurd down. I don't like getting hurt and or hurting other people. Take it for what it's worth my dear ladies and gentlmen.

Just like my sig line states.

 

[Darby_]

I'm a lurker and most likely stay one. There are some awsome people here and I enjoy jumping in now and then to give my 2 cents worth or some comment on the sexy ladies here. Lord knows there are plenty of them. A big kiss to all of you gals. There are some genuine real people that will take the time to answer each and every post to his or her thread but then there are the ones that just blow you off for you didn't say the right thing or take the time to chat back and forth or you're not one of thier favorites. I may be all wet about some things and little shy on others but one thing for sure I never let my gaurd down. I don't like getting hurt and or hurting other people. Take it for what it's worth my dear ladies and gentlmen.

Just like my sig line states.

good line

 

[omahaman2]

I have met many people in here, that have lied to me, hurt me deeply, to the poiont where I had to leave for while, and I am sure many others have gone through the same t hing. NOw, if I feel I am getting too close to somone, caring for them too much, I will back away for while, get myself together, then come back here. Be very careful who you trust, dont give out too much personal information unless you really know that person, take your time getting to know somone, My only friend that I know I can trust completely in here, and have for long time is SILK. She has always ;been here for me, and I know she has been there for many others as well. I al so have had many names in here, because I was so hurt by people, and I have NOT harmed anyone, or hurt anyone in doing that

SO sorry, I have said my piece, even though it was long

Take care

GUEST,
I will never hurt you!
You can always trust in what I say.
Two reasons
ONE
I wouldnt hurt a
http://www.stack.nl/~fidget/gallery/img/fly.jpg
Second,

jenny would kill me!

 

[Guest 2]

OMAN


Mwahhhhh I know you wouldnt sweety, and not just because JEN would kill you, lol. Its just the way you are. What happened, to me was in the past, but as they said before, you have to keep your guard up at all times. Protect your heart, smile. You are and a lways have been very sweet to me, dear friend

Hugsssssssssssssss

 

[Guest]

good line

Thanks Darby. I like yours to.

Btw, I see we are nieghbors. Howdy ho nieghbor.

 

[Icey*Fire]

I have been hurt twice by men here on the board. They told me many lies and I in my vulnerablity belived them. I guess like most humans I wanted to believe that someone found me interesting and worth spending time with. More fool me.

I am very open and honest and if there is any lie that I have told, I cant think of it at this moment. My memory is not good enough for me to be telling lies. I would get all tangled up in them. lol.

I have never lied about my looks or my marital status.
I am me, as someone else on here said. If you dont like me the way I am ,, then move along.

I am very shy in real life, and have found it hard to fit in here sometimes. I cant make the kind of quick witty comebacks that most people on here do. so therefore, I dont post on alot of threads that I find interesting. But there are so many threads that I do enjoy.And find very entertaining.

I posted on a thread saturday, a post like no other that I have ever made. I wanted to take it down , but someone had quoted it, so it would do no good for me to delete my post. I regret that I did it. If I could take it back I would in a heartbeat. That person is not me. And I am ashamed that I did it. I stayed away from Lit. all weekend to ashamed to visit here and see what I had done. I want everyone to know that I am not like the person in the post I made. I do have self respect and would never do the things I wrote about. It was my first time at writing, but I think maybe I can use any writing talent I may have in some other direction.
I know this is a little off the subject Arden and please forgive me, but I just had to say this.
Thank you, Icey

 

[jrs259]

Friends-Some Are Some pretend to be.

I have met quite a few women on Lit and cybered with a lot. I have found 3 wonderful women on here who I feel have been totally honest and we have been friends for quite a while. I have always tried to be open and honest with all but have met quite a few who said they wanted to be long term friends but would suddenly dissappear. Then I'd see a reply from them in another thread that was just opposite of what they had told me.
So I feel it is a matter of wading thru the BS till that certain person comes along and you DO find a friend.
A freind is a friend till they prove otherwise.