Fantasies that worry/scare you

[banes27]

Inspired by another thread and the developments of my own fantasies over the last month. I thought it was worth discussing sexual fantasies that do actually scare us or make us worry about our own minds.

Now, my usual fantasies do consist of a certain amount deepthroat, maybe some bondage and a little bit of asphixiation, nothing too extreme, as well as various 3+ person scenarios, mmf, ffm, mmff, mfff, fmmm, etc. but recently it's been getting a bit more extreme. I find myself being a bit more forceful in my mind, with fantasies entailing facial abuse (not to the point of vomiting but still pretty forceful), being quite verbally abusive and generally pushing/holding the woman in my head down quite firmly. Even my 3+ person fantasies are going down this root, even the mff-like ones with one woman dominating the other rather than specifically taking part in the actual sex, and if they do it's more of a "do it like this you dirty whore" kind of way. Also statrting to get into sexual punishment bordering on humiliation too. I've posted one fantasy on the "scissors" thread as well in which scissors are used by two women to cut each other clothes but in a way which adds risk in order to increase pleasure.

Oddly enough, I do very often have rape fantasies which don't bother me in the least. They're perfectly normal to me and I've having them since god knows when. I guess they don't worry me as much because the actual act of sex is the same but the permission wasn't there so I guess I'm worried about the forcefulness of them.

Anywho, although I'm worried about them I know they're just fantasies so as long as they stay in my head and out of the real world it'll be ok (luckily my fiancee likes being called a whore, cum on, flung around a bit, rape-roleplaying so I can enjoy them a bit ) and I can make myself cum quicker thinking about those fantasies quicker than pretty much anything else.

So, was wondering if anyone else has had a fantasy they absolutely enjoy the hell out of but which slightly worry you?

(I'm also willing to share a fantasy or two if anyone asks).

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Inspired by another thread and the developments of my own fantasies over the last month. I thought it was worth discussing sexual fantasies that do actually scare us or make us worry about our own minds.

Now, my usual fantasies do consist of a certain amount deepthroat, maybe some bondage and a little bit of asphixiation, nothing too extreme, as well as various 3+ person scenarios, mmf, ffm, mmff, mfff, fmmm, etc. but recently it's been getting a bit more extreme. I find myself being a bit more forceful in my mind, with fantasies entailing facial abuse (not to the point of vomiting but still pretty forceful), being quite verbally abusive and generally pushing/holding the woman in my head down quite firmly. Even my 3+ person fantasies are going down this root, even the mff-like ones with one woman dominating the other rather than specifically taking part in the actual sex, and if they do it's more of a "do it like this you dirty whore" kind of way. Also statrting to get into sexual punishment bordering on humiliation too. I've posted one fantasy on the "scissors" thread as well in which scissors are used by two women to cut each other clothes but in a way which adds risk in order to increase pleasure.

Oddly enough, I do very often have rape fantasies which don't bother me in the least. They're perfectly normal to me and I've having them since god knows when. I guess they don't worry me as much because the actual act of sex is the same but the permission wasn't there so I guess I'm worried about the forcefulness of them.

Anywho, although I'm worried about them I know they're just fantasies so as long as they stay in my head and out of the real world it'll be ok (luckily my fiancee likes being called a whore, cum on, flung around a bit, rape-roleplaying so I can enjoy them a bit ) and I can make myself cum quicker thinking about those fantasies quicker than pretty much anything else.

So, was wondering if anyone else has had a fantasy they absolutely enjoy the hell out of but which slightly worry you?

(I'm also willing to share a fantasy or two if anyone asks).

My my outrageous ones tend to contain outright abuse, real rape, body and mind modification, the works.

Sometimes I get concerned that such thoughts turn me on, mostly, I just go with it.

 

[infinity706]

I've never worried about a fantasy that I had. It's seriously just a fantasy.

 

[banes27]

I've never worried about a fantasy that I had. It's seriously just a fantasy.

I have a tendency to flip between "it's just a fantasy" and "WTF's wrong with my head!!!"

 

[petes478]

I share some of your fantasies you mention.

My view is that as long as these stay in your mind, as fantasies, keep them coming and enjoy!

Fantasies are healthy and good for your mind/soul/spirit/body.

Inspired by another thread and the developments of my own fantasies over the last month. I thought it was worth discussing sexual fantasies that do actually scare us or make us worry about our own minds.

Now, my usual fantasies do consist of a certain amount deepthroat, maybe some bondage and a little bit of asphixiation, nothing too extreme, as well as various 3+ person scenarios, mmf, ffm, mmff, mfff, fmmm, etc. but recently it's been getting a bit more extreme. I find myself being a bit more forceful in my mind, with fantasies entailing facial abuse (not to the point of vomiting but still pretty forceful), being quite verbally abusive and generally pushing/holding the woman in my head down quite firmly. Even my 3+ person fantasies are going down this root, even the mff-like ones with one woman dominating the other rather than specifically taking part in the actual sex, and if they do it's more of a "do it like this you dirty whore" kind of way. Also statrting to get into sexual punishment bordering on humiliation too. I've posted one fantasy on the "scissors" thread as well in which scissors are used by two women to cut each other clothes but in a way which adds risk in order to increase pleasure.

Oddly enough, I do very often have rape fantasies which don't bother me in the least. They're perfectly normal to me and I've having them since god knows when. I guess they don't worry me as much because the actual act of sex is the same but the permission wasn't there so I guess I'm worried about the forcefulness of them.

Anywho, although I'm worried about them I know they're just fantasies so as long as they stay in my head and out of the real world it'll be ok (luckily my fiancee likes being called a whore, cum on, flung around a bit, rape-roleplaying so I can enjoy them a bit ) and I can make myself cum quicker thinking about those fantasies quicker than pretty much anything else.

So, was wondering if anyone else has had a fantasy they absolutely enjoy the hell out of but which slightly worry you?

(I'm also willing to share a fantasy or two if anyone asks).

 

[Iftheshoefits]

Maybe you should worry, I dunno. I've heard it said that for most women, a fantasy is a fantasy. Because of social stigma their most visceral sexual desires stay in their own minds. While on the other hand, for men, fantasy is merely a prelude to reality - i.e. they often go to great lengths to make their fantasies come true, often paying a high personal price for it. Me thinks there is some truth in that.

 

[petes478]

A fantasy is just that, a fantasy - man or woman - shouldn't matter. Not that I'm an expert. I'm not.

The very defining thing here is fantasy/thought versus reality/action.

Keep it in the fantasy/thought realm and all will be all right.

Maybe you should worry, I dunno. I've heard it said that for most women, a fantasy is a fantasy. Because of social stigma their most visceral sexual desires stay in their own minds. While on the other hand, for men, fantasy is merely a prelude to reality - i.e. they often go to great lengths to make their fantasies come true, often paying a high personal price for it. Me thinks there is some truth in that.

 

[LaRocha]

One summer I tried to get my cousin to show me her beautiful titties. She was a year older, she just turned me down a bunch. I fantasize about fucking her still. That's sort of the most shocking fantasy spilled over into real life thing I've got. The stuff that's pure fantasy and actually shocking I would've even share, and if given the chance probably wouldn't do, cuz that's what makes fantasy great.

 

[petes478]

Exactly!!!!

What this guy says!!!!

Perfect.

One summer I tried to get my cousin to show me her beautiful titties. She was a year older, she just turned me down a bunch. I fantasize about fucking her still. That's sort of the most shocking fantasy spilled over into real life thing I've got. The stuff that's pure fantasy and actually shocking I would've even share, and if given the chance probably wouldn't do, cuz that's what makes fantasy great.

 

[Iftheshoefits]

A fantasy is just that, a fantasy - man or woman - shouldn't matter.

Disagree with you on that point. There are a number of reasons why sexuality and social stigma is different for men than women, and I'm not talking anatomy. But like you, I am no expert.

 

[banes27]

AFAIK, there are only two major differences between fantasies between males and females. The first is which are the more common fantasies. I think across the sexes threesome fantasies are probably the most common beyond fantasies about partners/non-partners and after that it starts to diverge a bit.

The second is how likely the individual is to open admit to having that fantasy. It seems men are more likely to voice fantasies to their partners than women are, possibly, as Iftheshoefits suggested, because of social points-of-view regarding male and female sexuality. Men are viewed as having greater sexual freedom than women and as a result men might be comfortable both having and voicing fantasies while women might, out of fear of stigma, be more reserved if not more guilty about fantasies. This may explain, in some way, why fantasies of seduction or non-consent are common in women, i.e. guilt from possible social stigma about more "vanilla" fantasies may lead them into fantasies in which either act as imaginary punishments or as a way of relieving responsibility and thus guilt (I've read both these somewhere, but how likely they are I don't know).

After merely voicing fantasies, I don't know if there's much of a divide between which sex is going to try the hardest to achieve that fantasy in reality. Assuming the fantasy is accepted by all those concerned and the individual feels to guilt/stigma/etc from/towards it then fulfilment falls to the individual and the other parties concerned.

Either way fantasy-to-reality ratio, it doesn't seem like either sex has the advantage in who actually fulfils a fantasy so it might be that men try harder than women, but neither comes out on top in pure numbers, AFAIK.

 

[Fatso66]

Fantasies that are just fantasies are harmless. Often they are so good because we know they'll never happen, more like a dream thing. Seldom do fantasies come true. If you have fantasies are you trying to make true, those are just ideas. And it is different for men and women. Men actively try to make their fantasies reality. Women are a more reserved species by nature.

 

[SallyIsHere]

Not content

It's not the content of fantasies that is the problem. The problem is that they bother you, kind of like obsessive thoughts.

 

[CuteBrat]

I do have fantasies that can trouble me. Mainly because I have this tendency to try to live mt fantasies out in real life. So when I have rape/snuff fantasies, or fantasies about being seized and made into a sex slave someplace overseas where no one speaks english, part of my brain says 'whoa girl.....take it easy there...'

I think that is one thing that makes being owned work for me. The Masters are, probably, better at keeping their eye on my physical safety (even if it TOTALLY doesn't feel like that at the time) than I am. Get my pussy wet enough and there is no telling what I'm willing to do...

I also think its a reason cyber and roleplay works for me. Its an opportunity to act out some really dark shit, without my limbs actually BEING amputated in real life....

 

[englitgirl]

Where do you think those fantasies actually come from? I know I've had some pretty dark fantasies ever since I learned acts like that existed (which was actually not too long ago). There's something erotic and taboo about them for sure. I also think it has to do with your own tendencies if you're dominant, which maybe a lot more men are. I'm on the other side of the scale, so I fantisize about being on the receiving end of that sometimes, which I think is a lot harder to admit and say out loud. That might be why guys can vocalize it more. It's less of an odd thing to want to be in control than to want to lose it all.

 

[hornybastard66]

We all have dark fantasies I think. I am by no means a dominant person but I do fantasize about being that way.