First post here, kinda nervous, but I could use some help.

[Montsegur]

Hey guys and gals, thanks for poppin' in.
I'm not really sure if this is the right place to ask this (since
it's not sexual in nature) but I figured I'd try anyway.

I dated this girl a while back and she was awesome, she had it all.
Needless to say, I loved her. However, like an idiot, I fucked up badly by lettin' me
libido override my heart, makin' her think I'm not someone she'd want to be with. Well we recently started talking again and I really want a second chance to show her I can be the guy she's looking for.

Any ideas how I can get her to even consider dating me again?

Thanks again

~Tyler

 

[silverwhisper]

without knowing anything about you or her, only that you made a heck of a mistake, it's very hard to say, because with such a massive gap in relevant information, knowing whether she's even open to the idea (the first and most important question) might well end this conversation before it ever starts, so to speak.

so long as you've actually said to her, "look, i made a hell of a mistake. i have to own that as a fuck up. give me a chance to show you i'm not really that guy." and she hasn't told you to fuck off, i think the answer to that question is yes.

is that a fair assumption?

ed

 

[ImOnIt]

You do not owe penance. You do not have a right to anything.


If you can hold a conversation, spill your heart, show your soft belly and be vulnerable to rejection - like someone who can fuckin handle being rejected or pushed away again. Show your affection like it is, behave like the human you want to be, and

YOU ARE IN CHARGE.


You are still the same person, except maybe now you know a little more. Fucking over a friend and lover HURTS, and it hurts two ways.

 

[littlebabyclit]

Tyler,

I'm assuming a mistake involving your libido means you slept with someone else. She has it all, and yet you fucked her over anyways. If she takes you back, subconsciously, you won't respect her for it, and you'll do it to her again. Why don't you take the lessons learned from screwing up this relationship, and apply them (and yourself fully) to the next girl who "has it all" and not mess up again?