For Self Harmers

[Lucy_Lastic]

Does anyone else use BDSM as a coping mechanism to replace self-harm?

Or do they see BDSM as a form of self-harm?

 

[apom]

I use self-bondage to hurt myself.

 

[subbyclarajane]

Does anyone else use BDSM as a coping mechanism to replace self-harm?

Or do they see BDSM as a form of self-harm?

A little no, a little yes. No, because I’ve too many endorphins in my system during the sexualization of any activity that it short circuits my self-harm compulsion. But yes, because BDSM is that salted butter on bland bread - if you can’t taste something, add seasoning. If your self-harm is to feel something, then this could be that extra to get you there. And the more physically active you are, the faster your heart rate, the more you tense and release your musculature, the more this physical activity is a natural antidepressant.

Be warned: if you enter BDSM under these circumstances, do not do so with a codependent partner in isolation. It can become both a drug and means of coercive control. The healthiest approach is to use BDSM interests to connect to an entire community. Community is anti-addiction, so you can ride that balance between stimulant, antidepressant, and anti-addiction.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Does anyone else use BDSM as a coping mechanism to replace self-harm?

Or do they see BDSM as a form of self-harm?

Without saying too much, I think a healthy way to use BDSM in this scenario is to redirect and manage self harming impulses. Speaking from a pretty recent awful experience, the negative way would be to indulge in something that pushes you further into a self harming headspace. This would look like someone pushing your boundaries, ignoring safe words/practices, and not providing aftercare. If you're someone into any type of emotional masochism this might feel just right for a time but be really detrimental in the long run.

I think any form of bdsm is best practiced within a safe, communicative, and respectful environment between people who share goals and respect.

Boring answer but a safe one.

 

[HarleyQuim]

If self harm is something you’re considering please stop and find help. I practice self bondage and pain play as part of self-love because I enjoy it. Reading or watching erotica in pleasurepain is wonderful for me all on its own.