Gay fantasy versus reality

[Travler99921]

I am unquestionably bi. I enjoy sex with men and women. However I often find that I am more aroused by fantasizing about gay sex than having gay sex. Some of my best orgasms happen when I masturbate while fantasizing about gay sex or when I am masturbating while chatting about gay sex. Is this true for anyone else?

 

[gk6h]

So true

 

[PFWilly]

I am unquestionably bi. I enjoy sex with men and women. However I often find that I am more aroused by fantasizing about gay sex than having gay sex. Some of my best orgasms happen when I masturbate while fantasizing about gay sex or when I am masturbating while chatting about gay sex. Is this true for anyone else?

Quite the opposite for me. I’ve had some really great orgasms while fantasizing…but none that match the intensity of actually sucking and/or being sucked. Never done anal, so that’s another bridge to cross…lol.

And yes, I’m also bisexual.

 

[Sweepup50]

I didn't realise that I was bi until later in my life and yes I enjoy sex with women but since my life with my wife has turned to no sex then I discovered sex with men. I get so turned on when I am sucking a cock and love it when I end up with a mouthful of their cum. I do watch a lot of gay porn and find that I often imagine that I am that guy. I have sucked many cocks mostly married men but recently the opportunity to suck cock has diminished but I still fantasise often about having sex with men.

 

[mtsnowrider]

I am unquestionably bi. I enjoy sex with men and women. However I often find that I am more aroused by fantasizing about gay sex than having gay sex. Some of my best orgasms happen when I masturbate while fantasizing about gay sex or when I am masturbating while chatting about gay sex. Is this true for anyone else?

I don't have a lot of experience but the gay sex with a long term FWB was fantastic. The very few random pretty much anonymous contacts have been disappointing. So I realize I need some element of a "relationship" to fully enjoy sex. I guess it's a bit ironic that I can imagine that to make jerking off so intensely pleasurable

 

[curiousguy80]

I'm still somewhat new to this and this may sway a bit from the intent of the question, but this topic was one of my hold outs. "Is the fantasy greater than what the experience will be." Because once you do it, if you don't like it and regret doing it, there's no way to walk back what you did. I read stories here about people who didn't like it, and read some that loved it and they continue with it.

I have not had anal with a guy yet, my fantasy was mostly about giving a bj. For me, I feel the reality met or exceeded what I fantasized. My first time giving head was brief, but I enjoyed it and couldn't wait to do it again. My 2nd time I was able to get him to cum. Knowing how amazing it feels when I've received head, it felt amazing bringing a cock that was not mine to that same satisfaction with my mouth. He also sucked me, which was also good, but for me it was more about me doing the pleasing versus being pleased.

Hopefully someday soon I can make it a reality again. Until then, back to fantasy land

 

[jchtlit]

I get aroused thinking about gay sex, something about being with another guy and exploring our sexuality is both different and very erotic as opposed to sex with a woman.

Sometimes when I am with a woman I find I get harder and cum with more force thinking about blowing or being blown by a guy.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Some encounters are disappointing. There's no chemistry, and you're not really into each other.
Then others are like fireworks, and they're just amazing.

 

[jchtlit]

Some encounters are disappointing. There's no chemistry, and you're not really into each other.
Then others are like fireworks, and they're just amazing.

I have had that with a few guys. Fireworks seem to be somewhat rare for me.

 

[saintcero]

My last two were disappointing. They kind of put me on the sidelines for a while. But they have not stopped me from chatting, reading and looking about M2M fun, Not one little bit

 

[Chatomatic]

The issue always seems to be we each have our perfect bi or gay fantasy scenario. And finding another person who has the same or similar scenario in mind is rare. As far as orgasms my most intense orgasms have always been self inflicted. We all know our own bodies better than anyone else ever could. As far as eroticism having sex with another adds its own pleasure to the situation even if the orgasm isnt as intense

 

[CharlieBoker]

I can understand this.

I get super aroused thinking about gay sex but the reality has sometimes been disappointing, usually because of the idiot attached to the cock I'm craving.

That said, with the right male partner, gay sex can be amazing too.

 

[jchtlit]

I can understand this.

I get super aroused thinking about gay sex but the reality has sometimes been disappointing, usually because of the idiot attached to the cock I'm craving.

That said, with the right male partner, gay sex can be amazing too.

I agree... gay sex has been a mixed bag for me so far.

 

[BBCfan]

For me that's totally the case. I've never wanted to be more than just a cocksucker in my gay experiences. I realize for me it's more a fetishistic draw.
My first experience doing it as an adult, I've never quite been able to top. Even the next few experiences performing in front of a girlfriend, a total rush, Ever since then the handful of experiences I had felt like I was trying to recreate that initial rush of doing something taboo I fantasized about for years.
The lead up before the experience of meeting a guy was a super big rush but the experience became a letdown time after time, so I kinda put it to rest in reality. There were times I met a guy the experience would should have been great but I couldn't even get aroused. But stroking to the right porn that reminds me of those 1st experiences is like sexual crack.

 

[jchtlit]

For me that's totally the case. I've never wanted to be more than just a cocksucker in my gay experiences. I realize for me it's more a fetishistic draw.
My first experience doing it as an adult, I've never quite been able to top. Even the next few experiences performing in front of a girlfriend, a total rush, Ever since then the handful of experiences I had felt like I was trying to recreate that initial rush of doing something taboo I fantasized about for years.
The lead up before the experience of meeting a guy was a super big rush but the experience became a letdown time after time, so I kinda put it to rest in reality. There were times I met a guy the experience would should have been great but I couldn't even get aroused. But stroking to the right porn that reminds me of those 1st experiences is like sexual crack.

Sounds like some of my experiences. The cock sucking is what I find most satisfying. Not into anal penis penetration sex either giving or receiving. Something about exploring another guy's cock with my hands, lips, and mouth is very erotic for me.

 

[whiteasianlvr]

Fantasy is rarely reality which is messy, awkward and not easily achievable. That's why so many of us are here!

 

[BlueChamisa]

I am unquestionably bi. I enjoy sex with men and women. However I often find that I am more aroused by fantasizing about gay sex than having gay sex. Some of my best orgasms happen when I masturbate while fantasizing about gay sex or when I am masturbating while chatting about gay sex. Is this true for anyone else?

Being honest, I’m the same way.

 

[BlueChamisa]

I'm still somewhat new to this and this may sway a bit from the intent of the question, but this topic was one of my hold outs. "Is the fantasy greater than what the experience will be." Because once you do it, if you don't like it and regret doing it, there's no way to walk back what you did. I read stories here about people who didn't like it, and read some that loved it and they continue with it.

I have not had anal with a guy yet, my fantasy was mostly about giving a bj. For me, I feel the reality met or exceeded what I fantasized. My first time giving head was brief, but I enjoyed it and couldn't wait to do it again. My 2nd time I was able to get him to cum. Knowing how amazing it feels when I've received head, it felt amazing bringing a cock that was not mine to that same satisfaction with my mouth. He also sucked me, which was also good, but for me it was more about me doing the pleasing versus being pleased.

Hopefully someday soon I can make it a reality again. Until then, back to fantasy land

So if one doesn’t like it, one can choose not to do it again. Chalk it up to experience.

I don’t understand the notion of “walking it back,” unless it’s rooted in internal homophobia or shame

 

[Britva415]

I don’t understand the notion of “walking it back,” unless it’s rooted in internal homophobia or shame

Can't "like" this hard enough.

 

[Horndauwg]

So true

I agree gk6h. Nice picture to

 

[Dave1812]

Nothing beats being naked with another man...real flesh....mmm

 

[RVED]

I have had some cum and goes and found them lacking. Yes, we came and went but there was no actual connection. Afterwards I either felt guilty of something, dirty or nothing at all. I still have all these envisioned scenarios I want to bring to life but have come to realize they will not happen with anonymous. I must locate one person as eager as I am with their own unfulfilled fantasies. Someone that wants to explore each other at a pace where we are both comfortable enough that we can share each other's desires. Either that or a giant orgy.

 

[dingdongditchding]

Quite the opposite for me. I’ve had some really great orgasms while fantasizing…but none that match the intensity of actually sucking and/or being sucked. Never done anal, so that’s another bridge to cross…lol.

And yes, I’m also bisexual.

agree to all

 

[dingdongditchding]

I have had some cum and goes and found them lacking. Yes, we came and went but there was no actual connection. Afterwards I either felt guilty of something, dirty or nothing at all. I still have all these envisioned scenarios I want to bring to life but have come to realize they will not happen with anonymous. I must locate one person as eager as I am with their own unfulfilled fantasies. Someone that wants to explore each other at a pace where we are both comfortable enough that we can share each other's desires. Either that or a giant orgy.

it is hard to find a FWB

 

[RVED]

It is but the search continuesView attachment 2580925 I will not quit I will not surrender I will find the cock for me.