Hitchiker69
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So true. But there are enough good experiences to make me want to try again with the next guy
Gay fantasy versus reality
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That picture is so fucking hot, yet also somewhat sensual and even kinda romantic. Like those 2 cocks finally found each other! I want that so bad too! I’ve had some so-so one-off encounters but the hottest gay encounters I’ve had have always been with someone I’ve been with before and trusted. I need another FWB! 46 muscular/masculine bingo in need!
ZacharyFagg
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Oh for sure! Not every encounter will be wonderful. Ive had some initial encounters that were so so, but the next time we met it was amazing. It's just like any kind of dating, things don't always mesh.
Probably helps for sure, also it start to get into what you both want and keep experimenting. Thinking of different ways to please each other…maybe that will run dry eventually but a lot of fun
chapter6plan
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I can't decide whether I want to be one of those two guys or a third, kneeling between their legs!
Missmister
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Nothing beats being penetrated by another man….
Aleisterwolfe
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I think it depends on your partner(s) and your expectations. Most of my gay experiences have been underwhelming but there was one guy i really enjoyed (repeatedly lol). And I had a three way with two guys that was fun even though it wasn’t super hot. More of a way to pass the time one night. 
Have to agree. Nothing beats naked, skin-on-skin!
Far1957mer
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I am still hoping to suck my first cock and take a real cock in my ass!!! Until then....I have fantasize A LOT!!! and practiced with many different cock shaped dildos.....like the one I have in my mouth now!
Filthy_needs1
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Mmmmm
Filthy_needs1
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Is that after the first one!? Or just by a man
The addiction begins from the a start; once you had a cock inside you, being fucked will progressively become the only type of sex you'll want to have. At least, this is my personal experience
BillyWalrus
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Yes, that is my experience also.
Biguy77578
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I agree, it's good stuff.
BillyWalrus
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It sure is. Getting fucked in the ass by a nice big cock full of cum!
FINLEYDIXON
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Similar for me. The idea of gay sex is very arousing... but IRL, it was rarely good... and when it was; it stopped being good about a week into fucking like rabbits.
I write and read gay male erotica almost exclusively. And I find both activities very arousing.
I write and read gay male erotica almost exclusively. And I find both activities very arousing.
I think for me i fantasize about it so much that when it becomes a reality it can't possibly live up to my expectations. That may be why first times may be so great, we don't really know what to expect. Then we continue to search for the high of that first time but rarely get there ever again. Doesn't stop me from trying though.
Treatlerite69
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Fantasies of being with men and enjoying dick turn me on so much. When I masturbate it's almost always to a fantasy of a guy. But I didn't really enjoy the one time I met up with a guy for a quick BJ exchange. I frequently sext with guys, but stop short of meeting with them. I think I will always enjoy gay fantasies, but won't enjoy it irl.
CuriousJInLA
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Interesting. I’ve only had a few 1:1 experiences with guys, all oral, but I’ve found myself wanting it more afterwards
Treatlerite69
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in fairness, it was one guy, and he was a bottom. Maybe I could have had a different kind of experience with a dom top. I was also very nervous and it was not a very safe situation (small chance of getting caught), so yh. But I have yet to see a guy's face and think 'i wanna give oral to him'. I have fantasied about guys I know, but don't feel anything when I meet them casually. ATP I think my desires are exclusively porn/erotica induced. I am not ashamed of them, because I still have a good time by myself. but I will probably never have a sexual relationship with a guy.
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fantasy and reality haven't really matched up for me. not in any bad way. some not so satisfying. I didn't have decades of wondering.
looking back, fortunately / unfortunately my m/m experiences start with a neighborhood friend. old enough to know what it was that we were doing ! fueled by images that we were looking at. naïve enough to cum up with ridiculous excuses to continue doing it'..
Until college, it made for locker rooms fantasy in my head. once in college the fantasies became more reality... meeting up with people for their first time was always a comedy of errors or bouts of conscience. Which I never held against anyone.
As I matured; fantasy and reality have cum closer. this all truly because of the internet and luck. Today you can check boxes to match up with your person and fetishes. This will never stop the fantasies of hiking or the lucky meeting... and the apps or web base it increases the no shows..
looking back, fortunately / unfortunately my m/m experiences start with a neighborhood friend. old enough to know what it was that we were doing ! fueled by images that we were looking at. naïve enough to cum up with ridiculous excuses to continue doing it'..
Until college, it made for locker rooms fantasy in my head. once in college the fantasies became more reality... meeting up with people for their first time was always a comedy of errors or bouts of conscience. Which I never held against anyone.
As I matured; fantasy and reality have cum closer. this all truly because of the internet and luck. Today you can check boxes to match up with your person and fetishes. This will never stop the fantasies of hiking or the lucky meeting... and the apps or web base it increases the no shows..
starfish71
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the reality of sex, gay or straight, IMO, almost never lives up to fantasy…
in fantasy you are who you want, your partner(s) is/are who you want, everything goes the way you want…
In reality, all the messy bits are present, even when it all goes right… that doesn’t make it bad, it is what it is… unless you get hung up on the gaps… in which case you have a choice to make.
Which choice is right, for you, is entirely up to you (and you can change your mind as often as you like)
in fantasy you are who you want, your partner(s) is/are who you want, everything goes the way you want…
In reality, all the messy bits are present, even when it all goes right… that doesn’t make it bad, it is what it is… unless you get hung up on the gaps… in which case you have a choice to make.
Which choice is right, for you, is entirely up to you (and you can change your mind as often as you like)
BillyWalrus
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I don't understand the posts in this thread.
For me, the sex was amazing the first time I felt a hard cock penetrating me. I felt euphoric like I could not believe this was actually happening to me.
Afterwards I thought, I want this as much as I can get it. So I have with my girlfriend. Her pleasure is my pleasure and it is wonderful.
For me, the sex was amazing the first time I felt a hard cock penetrating me. I felt euphoric like I could not believe this was actually happening to me.
Afterwards I thought, I want this as much as I can get it. So I have with my girlfriend. Her pleasure is my pleasure and it is wonderful.
BBCfan
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Isn't the point of these posts somewhat for us to find people we can relate to and just share how many variances there can be in this genre. perhaps you can't relate but hopefully you can understand that everybody is wired just a little different. So hopefully you understand we're all different and can identify as we wish, there's no one size fits all it seems.
Kind of envious of you as when I delved into my fantasies the reality just never held up in a way I hoped it would. I think sometimes others think that perhaps we're not being true to ourselves or we are denying our true essence I know that's certainly not the case for me. My fetishistic draw has not changed in 30 years. I pushed my boundaries as much as I was comfortable with and realized it's more fantasy and fetish than reality I can enjoy.
it's wonderful you found a balance that works for you. I can't relate to the feelings you describe but I understand it and support it
BillyWalrus
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Of course I understand that everyone is different. I am not denying that other people have had quite different experiences. Nevertheless, I don't understand those posts coming as I am from my own experience which is dramatically different. You say you can't relate to my experience, that's fine, maybe it is relatively uncommon.
