ChasingShadowsX
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How do I talk my girlfriend into trying something kinky and using her dildo on me? Also how do I get her into using it on herself? She says its too big, how does she get used to it?
Getting girlfriend to use dildo on me!
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Ariel_Marie
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lets go shopping...
Why don't u talk to her about exploring different things together such as your fantasy of role reversal where she uses the dildo on u. Or tell her your curious how it would feel and want to experiance it with her. Offer to take her shopping and pick out one u both would enjoy comfortably. Playfully offer her a strap on option and see if she likes the idea. Hope it helps.
Why don't u talk to her about exploring different things together such as your fantasy of role reversal where she uses the dildo on u. Or tell her your curious how it would feel and want to experiance it with her. Offer to take her shopping and pick out one u both would enjoy comfortably. Playfully offer her a strap on option and see if she likes the idea. Hope it helps.
Lil_Squish
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As Ariel said, communication with your girlfriend will do better than any advice that can be given by strangers. Tell her what you're thinking, ask her what she thinks of it, go through the process together. Tell her about your fantasies and why they turn you on.
Also about using the dildo on herself, if its too big and it hurts to try and use it... dont force it. Go out and buy a smaller one, maybe eventually she can work her way up to the big one.
Also about using the dildo on herself, if its too big and it hurts to try and use it... dont force it. Go out and buy a smaller one, maybe eventually she can work her way up to the big one.
mercuryfrost
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I agree with the other posts here. You need to be up front and honest with her. Make sure you have open communication between the both of you. You may be surprised what you discover about yourselves if you are open about it.
I wouldn't open up with how about you use your dildo on my. More like I would like to try and see how it feels to do this.
If she is not all that open to it try it on yourself and then broach the subject again with how you the feeling.
Mutual masturbation would also be a way to introduce it gently as you can let her see you trying it and perhaps then she can offer it.
I wouldn't open up with how about you use your dildo on my. More like I would like to try and see how it feels to do this.
If she is not all that open to it try it on yourself and then broach the subject again with how you the feeling.
Mutual masturbation would also be a way to introduce it gently as you can let her see you trying it and perhaps then she can offer it.
Yes exactly you dont need a huge one do you! Maybe look online together and 'accidentally' stumble across something which says it can be used for men and women? That gives you the opening to start talking about it and I'm sure she will get used to the idea when shes thought about it, also obviously get some nice lube you can try she may like the idea of something being cherry flavour lol 
