Girlfriend's feelings about my guy-guy curiousity

[read2me]

I also told her best friend and her friend, a girl, is very into it and she thinks my gf should be more open minded about it and should take advantage of it because a lot of girls have that fantasy but are not with guys willing to do it.

I would love any advice on what to do from here.[/QUOTE]

hmmm. maybe you should date her best friend. I think if your girlfriend can't be more open minded, especially since she wants to be with a woman, it won't work out. She'll always have a problem with you wanting to be with a guy. and you'll always regret never acting on it.

 

[Wyldfire]

Frankly the OP's GF is an insecure bitch. What's good for the goose IS good for the gander. Make it clear, if she gets to experiment so do you. If she doesn't like it she can tough it and be the nasty assed bitch that is the cheating whore for breaking the agreements. Make it clear that if one gets to experiment so does the other. If she's not mature enough to deal with her own insecurities then you don't need her.

 

[Cabeza]

It's easy to say she is being unfair and that she's insecure, both of which are true, but you should also realize that just because watching her with a woman turns you on doesn't mean she's turned on by the idea of watching you with a guy. And if she's insecure, it's at least partly because she cares about you and is afraid that she'll lose you to a guy, or at least to gay sex. There's a perception that gay/bi men are much more promiscuous than women. Maybe she thinks you won't need her any more.

If you already have her agreeing that you can try it, but she doesn't want to watch, you're doing well! There are a lot of men on here for whom MM sex will only ever be a fantasy because they love their wives.

I'd just give her time. Talk to her more, try to get her to read MM stories on Lit or watch some MM or MMF porn, etc., until she feels more comfortable. If you can't seem to make any progress, then you need to decide how important that is in your relationship. As someone said - the desires won't go away.

 

[SilkyDave]

very nice pictures

 

[Runner_3]

Thank you awolfe. Thats what I'm currently doing. We haven't talked bout it much lately but the last times we did it went better so there is hope.

 

[Cabeza]

Thank you awolfe. Thats what I'm currently doing. We haven't talked bout it much lately but the last times we did it went better so there is hope.

Keep us updated so we can live vicariously through your (hopeful) success.

And how about some more pics of that nice cock?

 

[rainbowgirl1028]

I'm in total agreement with safe_bet in post two. I couldn't have said it better myself!! .

 

[sarod]

Thank you awolfe. Thats what I'm currently doing. We haven't talked bout it much lately but the last times we did it went better so there is hope.

Runner 3, if I was there with you, I'd suck down that cock like I was at a 1950's malt shop sucking down a soda from a soda fountain. I'll bet the final reward would be just as yummy, and creamy!

 

[Missgeorgi]

Well, the best I can say coming from a girl who just found out that my guy is very bi curious, I not for one minute think it had anything to do with me. I am bi curious as well and we have decide to make it happen for both of us, but our relationship comes first and we both feel that its important to find out if these curious thoughts are something we can play together with or if they are just thouhts... Also I find the idea of watching my man be in control of another man. And I know he loves me and this is something I cant give him... a good strap on will never be the same as the real thing...

I wish you luck with all this, I know it cant be easy to tell someone something like this and it not be handled well...

 

[mijnenig]

You had better find out what other things she may have a double standard about! This may go way beyond just a sexual thing. But I must say - I am a bit surprised at some of the peoples comments. I thought GLBT people would be a bit more understanding of someone with a different view from their own...after all you ask that others not condemn you for your wants/needs/beliefs - where the hell is your tolerance for theirs?

 

[explorrgrrl]

Maybe your GF wants you back home while she experiments, holding down the fort of the relationship so she has something secure to come back to when she's done. If both of you are out experimenting at the same time, there's no safe harbor for either of you. Maybe after she has her experiment, the discussion will go to another level.

 

[Wyldfire]

You had better find out what other things she may have a double standard about! This may go way beyond just a sexual thing. But I must say - I am a bit surprised at some of the peoples comments. I thought GLBT people would be a bit more understanding of someone with a different view from their own...after all you ask that others not condemn you for your wants/needs/beliefs - where the hell is your tolerance for theirs?

I had no idea that a double standard was a want/need/belief.

 

[Runner_3]

Here is a little update. We have talked about it some and she said shes ok with me doing stuff now but worries how it would affect our relationship and she itsnt sure if she wants to be there and watch but she does want me to tell her later. I think shes mostly worried I wont be as into her once I do stuff with a guy but I'm I still will be. We also talked bout her using toys on me and she said she'd be ok using a vibrator on me but itsnt sure if she'd want to fuck me with a strap-on yet. She does like the idea of me being louder, moaning, and screaming from being fucked in the ass. She still hasn't done anything with a girl but they are just trying to workout the details and when a good time would be.

 

[yoyome100]

Good for you two

Well, the best I can say coming from a girl who just found out that my guy is very bi curious, I not for one minute think it had anything to do with me. I am bi curious as well and we have decide to make it happen for both of us, but our relationship comes first and we both feel that its important to find out if these curious thoughts are something we can play together with or if they are just thouhts... Also I find the idea of watching my man be in control of another man. And I know he loves me and this is something I cant give him... a good strap on will never be the same as the real thing...

I wish you luck with all this, I know it cant be easy to tell someone something like this and it not be handled well...

Congats on finding each other.

 

[Runner_3]

Thank you Missgeorgi. Good Luck to you too!