Good lube for anal?

[MellowMan]

My girlfriend and I are looking to try anal and were wondering what's a good brand of lube to use for anal sex. Any suggestions?

 

[car nut]

Id suggest a silicone lube but DO NOT let it come in contact with a silicone toy. It is condom safe though. Stays slippery seemingly infinantly and doesnt get sticky. Washes off with a bit of soap n water. A little goes a long way but you want lots of lube with anal, especially if its something your just trying.

If you want a traditional lube try to find a bigger shop that will lwt you put a lil on your finger and see how it feels. Thicker is usually better for anal in my opinion. Simple ID Glide is what i usually get, great multi-purpose lube. Gets a lil sticky after you use it for a while but a tiny bit of water brings it back.

 

[Peregrinator]

Riles

 

[SweetErika]

We use silicone lube for just about everything, including anal play/sex. Because anal requires so much lube, we find silicone to be the best, as there's no need to reapply when you use the proper amount from the start (which isn't much, compared to water-based lubes). It's also fantastic for shower fun because it doesn't wash off with water alone, like water-based.

For vaginal sex, silicone also doesn't promote yeast or other infections, like many water-based lubes can.

Some silicone toys CAN be used with silicone lube (100% medical-grade silicone toys, for instance), but if there's any question, slip a condom over the toy or use water-based lube.

I'd STRONGLY suggest reading through the Anal section of The Blank Manual sticky (at the top of the main How To page) before you attempt anal. There's some fantastic advice in there that could mean the difference between a pleasurable and very painful experience. It helped us get it right after many unsuccessful attempts.

 

[tonightsthenigh]

My girlfriend and I are looking to try anal and were wondering what's a good brand of lube to use for anal sex. Any suggestions?

Anal Lube - NOT condom friendly.

Here's some things you should never use.

Avoid using soap or shampoo as a lube as they can be irritants and can cause skin and membranes to get extremely dried out. I have received numerous "please help" e-mails from women (and men) whose rectum has suddenly turned leathery and cracked, or the skin has begun peeling and scaling. Although it eventually heals, it can be scary.

Jani
http://g-gasm.com/temp

 

[izod]

We love Elbow Grease classic gel. Its water based, so you don't have to worry about toys or condoms, and it seems to stay wet longer than most others.

 

[MellowMan]

Thanks everyone for the great replies!

We'll be sure to take everyone's advice into account when we give this a try. Thanks again

 

[mxg1072]

Astroglide.

 

[wally69]

Walmart generic brand "Equate lubricating jelly" or you can even use vegetable shortening , wich doesnt dry out, its a little greasy but works well. Any silicone stuff has the potential to irriate the anus..... been there done that....

 

[SweetErika]

Walmart generic brand "Equate lubricating jelly" or you can even use vegetable shortening , wich doesnt dry out, its a little greasy but works well. Any silicone stuff has the potential to irriate the anus..... been there done that....

KY Jelly (and generic equivalents) isn't a good sexual lubricant. It was originally formulated for a one-time insertion of doctors' fingers and medical instruments, which is why it gets gummy and dry so quickly. Most people use it because they don't know anything else and/or it's really cheap.

It's generally not a good idea to use shortening/Crisco (or other foods, like butter ) because:
a) it can coat the walls and cause a bacterial infection
b) it's not safe to use with latex condoms (which, in reality, should always be used for anal)
c) it stains fabrics
d) it must be scooped out into another vessel so the whole tub/stick doesn't become contaminated with bacteria (i.e. you can't safely take some from the tub, touch stuff, then take some more later, without having to throw away the whole tub)

What silicone lube did you have irritation with? Were you using it on a toy, condom, or clean body part with no soap/other residue? Did you try it more than once, on different days?

Having a reaction to silicone are exceedingly rare, which is why it's been used on lubricated condoms successfully for a very long time now (decades, IIRC). My guess is that something else caused your irritation, or the lining was already a bit irritated and the activity caused you to notice it.

Vaginal and anal irritation from water-based lubes, OTOH, is quite common because they usually contain many ingredients, such as glycerin, alcohol and preservatives, which can cause irritation, allergic reactions and imbalances/infections.

Of course it's always smart to get sample/pillow packs of the lubes that look best and give them a try before investing in larger bottles.

 

[ronaele2006]

While on lubes, anyone know of a good lube for under ten bucks? I was at an lingerie etc store yesterday and all the ones they had were ten or more. Well, they had single users but I need more than that.

 

[kimbernee]

People are going to disagree with me but the stuff they sell at Wal-Mart or CVS works fine for me. They have a couple of brands, can even get Astroglide at CVS, and the KY lube they sell today is not the KY jelly of my youth but a clear, slick lube. I've used it for anal and my BF uses it to masturbate. It's cheap and I don't have to go to a sex store to pick it up. If you're picky about lube maybe it won't work for you but it seems slick and lubey to me and I don't know any better.

 

[raniny]

astroglide Really good for a beginer

 

[popcorn2721]

Id personal lube is my favorite, it contains no silicone for your body to absorb and stays slick longer than most lubes. The next best thing Ive found is olive oil, and I know allot of folks say it doesn't go with toys...but we've always cleaned our toys right after play (you should too) and have not had a bit of trouble. To say abit more on the subject, I have also found that Olive Oil applied first then a slick dab of Id lube is the slickest thing Ive ever used...anal was a blast. Ive used jelly vasoline for some of my hard plastic toys and for actual anal sex (petrol oils will break down rubbers and plastics very quickly so I don't recommend it for toy use) and had alot of fun with it.

Remember that too much lube is almost enough

 

[perfect_deb]

KY Jelly (and generic equivalents) isn't a good sexual lubricant. It was originally formulated for a one-time insertion of doctors' fingers and medical instruments, which is why it gets gummy and dry so quickly. Most people use it because they don't know anything else and/or it's really cheap.

It's generally not a good idea to use shortening/Crisco (or other foods, like butter ) because:
a) it can coat the walls and cause a bacterial infection
b) it's not safe to use with latex condoms (which, in reality, should always be used for anal)
c) it stains fabrics
d) it must be scooped out into another vessel so the whole tub/stick doesn't become contaminated with bacteria (i.e. you can't safely take some from the tub, touch stuff, then take some more later, without having to throw away the whole tub)

What silicone lube did you have irritation with? Were you using it on a toy, condom, or clean body part with no soap/other residue? Did you try it more than once, on different days?

Having a reaction to silicone are exceedingly rare, which is why it's been used on lubricated condoms successfully for a very long time now (decades, IIRC). My guess is that something else caused your irritation, or the lining was already a bit irritated and the activity caused you to notice it.

Vaginal and anal irritation from water-based lubes, OTOH, is quite common because they usually contain many ingredients, such as glycerin, alcohol and preservatives, which can cause irritation, allergic reactions and imbalances/infections.

Of course it's always smart to get sample/pillow packs of the lubes that look best and give them a try before investing in larger bottles.

i didnt like the silicone stuff either - i found it was just not slippery and actually seemed to get hot (no, there was not that much friction!) and i actually didnt really like the idea of silicone inside my body

i found this fantastic one made from kiwifruit a while ago - trouble is the bottle is so small (about 50ml) but it feels fantastic and has no taste or smell

 

[SweetErika]

I'd like to see a credible source that says silicone lube is absorbed, or otherwise gets into the body.

When we were considering trying silicone lube, I did a fair amount of research on the safety of it. Lo and behold, I couldn't find anything that said it goes beyond the mucous membranes or is detrimental to our health. It's widely used as a lubricant in food manufacturing and preparation, as well as on condoms, so in terms of health, allergies, etc., it has to be pretty damn safe.

http://www.babeland.com/shoppingadvice/lubeadvice#silicone explains why it's different than the bad effects from the old silicone breast implants. The main difference is that it's not entering the body. I suppose if it were rubbed into a large, gaping wound or something, some would enter the body, but even that would be such a tiny amount that it's very unlikely to have ANY negative effects. Babeland is concerned with health/safety and does its research as well, so I consider it to be a credible source.

Deb, I've never found a silicone lube to get hot, even with a ton of friction, and they've all felt something like silky/velvety oil. Which brand did you have these problems with?

Ron, you can get lots of lubes for under $10 online. Our first real lube was a bottle of Wet Original (which is a fine product; we use that, or ID, when we need water-based) was about $4 on Amazon.com, IIRC. http://www.babeland.com/shoppingadvice/lubeadvice has good advice on the different kinds of lube. I'd suggest checking it out, then googling the type of lube you've decided to try to find the best price.

 

[perfect_deb]

I'd like to see a credible source that says silicone lube is absorbed, or otherwise gets into the body.

When we were considering trying silicone lube, I did a fair amount of research on the safety of it. Lo and behold, I couldn't find anything that said it goes beyond the mucous membranes or is detrimental to our health. It's widely used as a lubricant in food manufacturing and preparation, as well as on condoms, so in terms of health, allergies, etc., it has to be pretty damn safe.

http://www.babeland.com/shoppingadvice/lubeadvice#silicone explains why it's different than the bad effects from the old silicone breast implants. The main difference is that it's not entering the body. I suppose if it were rubbed into a large, gaping wound or something, some would enter the body, but even that would be such a tiny amount that it's very unlikely to have ANY negative effects. Babeland is concerned with health/safety and does its research as well, so I consider it to be a credible source.

Deb, I've never found a silicone lube to get hot, even with a ton of friction, and they've all felt something like silky/velvety oil. Which brand did you have these problems with?

Ron, you can get lots of lubes for under $10 online. Our first real lube was a bottle of Wet Original (which is a fine product; we use that, or ID, when we need water-based) was about $4 on Amazon.com, IIRC. http://www.babeland.com/shoppingadvice/lubeadvice has good advice on the different kinds of lube. I'd suggest checking it out, then googling the type of lube you've decided to try to find the best price.

ok - not arguing with you (cos you usually seem to know your stuff....) but, wouldnt using it for anal be putting a large amount directly into the body? And, (playing devils advocate) as was the case with dupont, the company that makes or sells the stuff is not necessarily the best source of info.

i thought it felt like silky oil too - but that just didnt seem slippery enough and i was sore later. I'm not sure of the brand - i chucked it out anyway because i didnt like it - but i'll check which one it was when i go shopping next.

i've always used "wet stuff" water based glycerine gel - but you're right, it causes thrush - i didnt put that together till you mentioned it - i havent used it since (thanks for that tip)

 

[perfect_deb]

kiwi based lube

try this - the best lube ever

http://www.sylk.com.au/

 

[SweetErika]

ok - not arguing with you (cos you usually seem to know your stuff....) but, wouldnt using it for anal be putting a large amount directly into the body? And, (playing devils advocate) as was the case with dupont, the company that makes or sells the stuff is not necessarily the best source of info.

From what I understand, the silicone molecules are too large to enter through the skin or mucous membranes, like the anal lining. Even IF some did get through, it'd be just a tiny amount because so little is used during sex compared to the amount that leaked out of the implants, even slowly.

I agree with you about not necessarily trusting sources with an interest in promoting a product. However, Babeland specifically has been VERY forthcoming about the risks and research done on products over the years. For example, they were warning people against using toys containing pthalates w/o a condom well before a lot of the publicity on the possible risks came out, promote natural products and are a pretty well-known source of info on toys and sexuality in general in the U.S. They've always answered my questions honestly, even if the answer means they don't make a sale on that product, so I consider them to be one of the few trustworthy sources in a sea of retailers who don't know much and/or are just trying to make as much as possible.

i thought it felt like silky oil too - but that just didnt seem slippery enough and i was sore later. I'm not sure of the brand - i chucked it out anyway because i didnt like it - but i'll check which one it was when i go shopping next.

I'm interested in the brands people have trouble with because I understand there IS some variation and the brand we've been buying (ID Millenium) is no longer as cheap at the store I've been using, so we may switch eventually.

I think, too, that some people may not look at the labels/ingredient list carefully before buying, and could end up with a lube that's only partially silicone (here it only has to contain 10% to be called "silicone lube"), or other ingredients that could be irritating, reduce the time it lasts, etc. I'm not saying that's you, or anyone else here, but I can see where it could happen rather easily with our crappy labeling laws (hopefully they're better in your neck of the woods!).

There also seems to be a "sweet spot" in the amount of silicone lube. I think it's probably the same amount initially as water-based for us for something like anal, or vaginal if I'm drier, but it adds up to a lot less overall because we rarely have to add more/reapply. Over the years, we've pretty much gotten the amount down to a science, but it took a bit of trial and error to figure out how much we needed for each situation.

i've always used "wet stuff" water based glycerine gel - but you're right, it causes thrush - i didnt put that together till you mentioned it - i havent used it since (thanks for that tip)

I didn't know either, until I read that article on Babeland, I think. I'm usually okay with Wet Original and ID lubes on the few occasions we use them, but Astroglide, KY Jelly (when we didn't know about real lube)and a few others have really played havoc my pussy! When we did switch to silicone, I noticed a reduction in vaginal infections of all types overall (apparently people with PCOS can be more prone to imbalances), and that's definitely one of the reasons we've stuck with it for years.

I also love that I don't have to worry about major burning/stinging with silicone, as I do with some water-based and even a couple of varieties of condoms. Nothing ruins the mood quite like my pussy feeling like it's been coated in battery acid and screaming "GET IT OUT OF ME!!! OH FUCK THAT BURNS!!!"

 

[CorsetLvr]

While on lubes, anyone know of a good lube for under ten bucks? I was at an lingerie etc store yesterday and all the ones they had were ten or more. Well, they had single users but I need more than that.

I just bought a big bottle of Astroglide at my local grocery store for aroung $6-7. The mark up at lingerie stores and other "specialty" shops is going to be a lot higher then at a grocery or drug store.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

I just bought a big bottle of Astroglide at my local grocery store for aroung $6-7. The mark up at lingerie stores and other "specialty" shops is going to be a lot higher then at a grocery or drug store.

Are we talking about lubes with or without condoms?

In the past, I used either vaseline during sex but most of the time we never used a lube.

Currently, I've been using vaseline with my anal toy. Its not messy and stays slick for long periods of time.

 

[CorsetLvr]

Are we talking about lubes with or without condoms?

In the past, I used either vaseline during sex but most of the time we never used a lube.

Currently, I've been using vaseline with my anal toy. Its not messy and stays slick for long periods of time.

Using vaseline is a really bad idea. Its pertoleum based (chemically known as petrolatum). Vaseline has been shown to cause a lot of bad things, including depressing the immune system. Think about it like drinking gasoline, except going in the reverse direction.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

Using vaseline is a really bad idea. Its pertoleum based (chemically known as petrolatum). Vaseline has been shown to cause a lot of bad things, including depressing the immune system. Think about it like drinking gasoline, except going in the reverse direction.

I found it to work the best. Alot of lubes out there are to watery. So if you use an anal toy for a long period of time then you constantly need to keep on lubing up.

I bought (think its called) anal-ease which was good but it was very much like Vaseline only much more expensive. Since then I've been using Vaseline.

Remember: I only use it for anal toys

 

[SweetErika]

I found it to work the best. Alot of lubes out there are to watery. So if you use an anal toy for a long period of time then you constantly need to keep on lubing up.

I bought (think its called) anal-ease which was good but it was very much like Vaseline only much more expensive. Since then I've been using Vaseline.

Remember: I only use it for anal toys

Oil-based lube like Vasoline will break down any toys containing latex/rubber (so, rubber, jelly, cyberskin, etc.), just as it does condoms. That, along with the health risks (in addition to what CorsetLvr said, vasoline can be a problem because the the body can not get rid of it, which can cause infection), make it a poor choice for insertion overall. It's fine for penile or clit masturbation, but shouldn't be inserted.

There are safe oil-based lubes made specifically for male masturbation and anal play.

And anal-eze (or however it's spelled) contains a numbing agent which disrupts the body's ability to tell us when damage may be occurring through pain. If one needs to be numbed up to get through/enjoy anal, they're doing something very wrong, like not using enough lube.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

Oil-based lube like Vasoline will break down any toys containing latex/rubber (so, rubber, jelly, cyberskin, etc.), just as it does condoms. That, along with the health risks (in addition to what CorsetLvr said, vasoline can be a problem because the the body can not get rid of it, which can cause infection), make it a poor choice for insertion overall. It's fine for penile or clit masturbation, but shouldn't be inserted.

There are safe oil-based lubes made specifically for male masturbation and anal play.

And anal-eze (or however it's spelled) contains a numbing agent which disrupts the body's ability to tell us when damage may be occurring through pain. If one needs to be numbed up to get through/enjoy anal, they're doing something very wrong, like not using enough lube.

anal eze (whoever you spell it) has 2 different types. The one that I used many yrs ago was not the numbing type. I would be scared of the numbing type.

If Vaseline should not be used for anal toys (and yes my plug is made out of rubber) then what should I use? Its not for sex or masturbation. It is only used for a rubber plug.

Any suggestions?