goodbye my friends......
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BiBunny
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I have no dog in the fight one way or the other, but I'll be the first to say that Lit folks are damned quick to jump up and condemn people when they don't have the foggiest fucking clue what's going on oftentimes. I get it tossed at me pretty regularly (not so much on the boards, but in PMs). *Shrug* That's the price you pay when you make your shit public, I suppose. Folks think they're privy to a lot more than they really are.
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lil_slave_rose
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there are too many posts to reply individually.
Minx: thank you for your great post. everything you said touched me. i know that it must be "hard" for you because you know all of us
but rest assured, everything is ok. the other party involved in this is not a "lit ho" and i agree that comment was very unfair.
Cat: thank you also, but he did not leave me for her. i disappeared on him for a minute, not really but wasn't talking to him much and well, i don't know. i won't make excuses for any of it but i will say in my heart of hearts i KNOW that neither of them meant to hurt me. yes i will say that i think they should have waited, especially until he had atleast "ended it" with me officially. but that's all water under the bridge and can't be changed. i'm not blaming myself for anything more than what IS my fault. there is alot of behind the scenes that went on that i didn't post on here, all of this is only the end of the story, i didn't start at the beginning.
WriterDom: i started the drama not MP or the other party. when i made the thread i was angry, hurt, and just lashed out. i shouldn't have, but i did, and i can't take it back now.
BiBunny: the fact that people on here are easy to lay blame stems from the fact that i put this all out here and everyone reacted. again, i shouldn't have but, well, i was angry.
ITW: i do not blame myself for doing the right thing. i blame Him and i both for not coming to each other a long time ago and saying "hey, this isn't working..i feel.....or i need......" instead we pretended all was well and went on with a relationship that wasn't what either of us really wanted because neither of us were getting what we needed out of it.
Etoile: no he was not forced into someone else's arms, you're right. and that is what hurts the most is that he Found someone else before we were even officially over. as for me, well there is someone who's been trying to get me to date him for over a year now, he's from my own home town and well i don't know yet, i'm still healing but we're taking it as it comes to us.
Mickey and Netz: thank you both for the kind words and netz, i'm sorry i made it a public play by play..i truly am.......
wow..that was alot to reply to. you all are great people and i thank you so much for every bit of support i've received.
Minx: thank you for your great post. everything you said touched me. i know that it must be "hard" for you because you know all of us
but rest assured, everything is ok. the other party involved in this is not a "lit ho" and i agree that comment was very unfair. Cat: thank you also, but he did not leave me for her. i disappeared on him for a minute, not really but wasn't talking to him much and well, i don't know. i won't make excuses for any of it but i will say in my heart of hearts i KNOW that neither of them meant to hurt me. yes i will say that i think they should have waited, especially until he had atleast "ended it" with me officially. but that's all water under the bridge and can't be changed. i'm not blaming myself for anything more than what IS my fault. there is alot of behind the scenes that went on that i didn't post on here, all of this is only the end of the story, i didn't start at the beginning.
WriterDom: i started the drama not MP or the other party. when i made the thread i was angry, hurt, and just lashed out. i shouldn't have, but i did, and i can't take it back now.
BiBunny: the fact that people on here are easy to lay blame stems from the fact that i put this all out here and everyone reacted. again, i shouldn't have but, well, i was angry.
ITW: i do not blame myself for doing the right thing. i blame Him and i both for not coming to each other a long time ago and saying "hey, this isn't working..i feel.....or i need......" instead we pretended all was well and went on with a relationship that wasn't what either of us really wanted because neither of us were getting what we needed out of it.
Etoile: no he was not forced into someone else's arms, you're right. and that is what hurts the most is that he Found someone else before we were even officially over. as for me, well there is someone who's been trying to get me to date him for over a year now, he's from my own home town and well i don't know yet, i'm still healing but we're taking it as it comes to us.
Mickey and Netz: thank you both for the kind words and netz, i'm sorry i made it a public play by play..i truly am.......
wow..that was alot to reply to. you all are great people and i thank you so much for every bit of support i've received.
LittleJade
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LSR- not sure if you're still reading this thread, but what I offer is a simple, though not perfect solution-
the ignore function.
When relationships that I've had with people on here end, and I am still horribly smarting from them, I put the other person on ignore. It's not that I want to be bitchy, it's not that I'm trying to be mean... it's that it just hurts me too much to see their name, or to see the name of the person they're involved with.
I STILL have an ex-Sir on ignore, as well as his chosen... because it hurts. I'm glad he's happy and I'm glad they're happy, but I can't do it.
We're here as a community to you. We're here as a support, whether he's with you or not... and we hope that you'll stick around...
the ignore function.
When relationships that I've had with people on here end, and I am still horribly smarting from them, I put the other person on ignore. It's not that I want to be bitchy, it's not that I'm trying to be mean... it's that it just hurts me too much to see their name, or to see the name of the person they're involved with.
I STILL have an ex-Sir on ignore, as well as his chosen... because it hurts. I'm glad he's happy and I'm glad they're happy, but I can't do it.
We're here as a community to you. We're here as a support, whether he's with you or not... and we hope that you'll stick around...
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Yasashii_Kaze
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I don't know anyone in this situation, so all I will say is good luck and take care. Hopefully, your healing process will not keep you from our presence forever.
Netzach
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there are too many posts to reply individually.
Minx: thank you for your great post. everything you said touched me. i know that it must be "hard" for you because you know all of us
Cat: thank you also, but he did not leave me for her. i disappeared on him for a minute, not really but wasn't talking to him much and well, i don't know. i won't make excuses for any of it but i will say in my heart of hearts i KNOW that neither of them meant to hurt me. yes i will say that i think they should have waited, especially until he had atleast "ended it" with me officially. but that's all water under the bridge and can't be changed. i'm not blaming myself for anything more than what IS my fault. there is alot of behind the scenes that went on that i didn't post on here, all of this is only the end of the story, i didn't start at the beginning.
WriterDom: i started the drama not MP or the other party. when i made the thread i was angry, hurt, and just lashed out. i shouldn't have, but i did, and i can't take it back now.
BiBunny: the fact that people on here are easy to lay blame stems from the fact that i put this all out here and everyone reacted. again, i shouldn't have but, well, i was angry.
ITW: i do not blame myself for doing the right thing. i blame Him and i both for not coming to each other a long time ago and saying "hey, this isn't working..i feel.....or i need......" instead we pretended all was well and went on with a relationship that wasn't what either of us really wanted because neither of us were getting what we needed out of it.
Etoile: no he was not forced into someone else's arms, you're right. and that is what hurts the most is that he Found someone else before we were even officially over. as for me, well there is someone who's been trying to get me to date him for over a year now, he's from my own home town and well i don't know yet, i'm still healing but we're taking it as it comes to us.
Mickey and Netz: thank you both for the kind words and netz, i'm sorry i made it a public play by play..i truly am.......
wow..that was alot to reply to. you all are great people and i thank you so much for every bit of support i've received.
It's not what you posted. It's that everyone and their dog wants to share their interpretation.
lil_slave_rose
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Etoile
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I don't have a dog, but my cat wants to know when she gets to share HER opinion.
Netzach
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pussy is like that, it's true.
BiBunny
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Right, that's what I was getting at, too. God knows, I've been a victim of it often enough. People are so often convinced that their interpretation is the correct one, even if they don't know the other person involved at all.
lil_slave_rose
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very true and i assure you the other person involved is a very sweet, kind caring woman who honestly never intended to hurt me. MP never intended to hurt me either. as i've said over and over, there are many factors that went into this break up and the "other woman" really wasn't even in the equation at all until it was already over maybe not officially because we hadn't actually spoke the words but it was over and MP made no promises to her until him and i spoke. people are always quick to judge and honestly i am partly to blame also because i just threw the end of it all out here no one here knows any of the in between crap that has gone on, and i honestly don't feel like hashing it all out here but trust me i played a HUGE part in our breakup. i'll just say i avoided him because i didn't want to face the truth. we were caught in a relationship that neither one of us were happy in but we were too much in love with each other to admit it was over almost a year ago, last summer. now this is the after effects.
the only people who know what really happened are me and MP and it's not something that JUST happened it's been happening for a LONG time. anyway, i do thank every single one of you for all the support you've shown me through this. it still hurts but i'm healing and you're all helping with that. i am not going anywhere and i'm not putting anyone on ignore. lit is where i need to be
sanjuaneros
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That is good to hear.
i am not going anywhere and i'm not putting anyone on ignore. lit is where i need to be
