have you had an affair?

[secretside]

thanks

thanks

 

[PartyMart]

I was the other man in an affair. I had a friend who had a sister that was married at an young age. We, her husband, my friend, and I all played hockey on a bar league. This led to broomball after that, during this time she and I began to notice an attraction.

One thing led to another and we had an affair. We were never found out, and after a year or so we ended it for the most part. A few years later they were divorced, and we never dated but remained only close friends.

 

[secretside]

Thanks PartyMart.

Interesting that they divorced afterall.

 

[PartyMart]

Yes they were always on shakey ground. I always felt he knew about us, but didn't say anything.

To this day my friend, her brother still doesn't know. Some secrets can stay secrets.

 

[autoplot]

Not while married, but repeatedly while I was in a long-term relationship and living with my girlfriend for many years.

I'm not proud of it -- I was miserable in the relationship (not that that's an excuse), and I later learned that she had cheated on me repeatedly as well. She actually told me about one of the affairs and I wasn't even that angry -- that's when I should have known that it wasn't going to work out. And then later I found out that there was at least one more "other guy" that I didn't know about. Oh, well.

The girl I cheated with knew I was in a relationship, and it was never serious between us. We knew it wasn't going anywhere -- it was just sex, and we're still friends.

My gf and I went to counseling, but in the end our relationship couldn't be saved. The only thing I genuinely regret is sticking with it for as long as I did -- it was doomed.

 

[PartyMart]

Are you contemplating having an affair?

 

[infinity706]

I'm not sure I can have an affair. I've told every partner I've had, besides one night stands, that I believe in open relationships. Of course, my partners and I even discuss other partners we have.

 

[McIntosh]

I had an affair with a guy while I was engaged. We didn't have intercourse, just heavy petting. Then, 2.5 yrs into the marriage, I spent the night in another man's bed. Didn't have sex, just lots of foreplay. The next day, I went home to my husband, told him we were getting a divorce, and left. Then i had sex with the other guy. And dated him for a few weeks, cheated on him, broke up with him, and I've been single ever since, though still having sex with both the ex-boyfriend and the guy with whom I cheated on him. And currently wanting yet another man to join me in my bed.

 

[thirty]

I had few affairs, I fell in love deeply to one of them to a point that I tried to divorce my wife but my wife refused.

After having our second kid, the relationship with my wife was getting better and better.

Having another affair is still a possibility, but I will not risk my marriage any more.

 

[Hhot]

I can honestly say I never have. I'm very loyal to the commitment of being together even if I'm not completely in love. If I wanted to stray then I wouldn't be in a relationship.

 

[fgarvb1]

As I was looking over this thread...do you mean having an affair only or getting some on the side when you get the chance.


Cheating is cheating but some people don't think or know there is a difference.

or is there?

I'm not sure how many "Normal " people vist here.

 

[jordansgirl74]

I totally left my husband for an affair that I had.

I am completey, 10000% glad that I did. We've been together now for 5 years and I not only love him, but am STILL in love with him.

I don't condone it, and and I still feel "guilty", but I blame that on my Catholic bringing up.

I am happy, I am content, and I cannot wait to share the rest of my life with him. (And others, as it turns out, we are swingers with an open relationship, lol)

T

 

[thirty]

I totally left my husband for an affair that I had.

I am completey, 10000% glad that I did. We've been together now for 5 years and I not only love him, but am STILL in love with him.

I don't condone it, and and I still feel "guilty", but I blame that on my Catholic bringing up.

I am happy, I am content, and I cannot wait to share the rest of my life with him. (And others, as it turns out, we are swingers with an open relationship, lol)

T

All's well that ends well!

 

[CurvAppeal]

I didn't do it but my ex s/o did and it hurt a lot. But I am glad he is happy. =)

 

[bottomsatx]

Yep

But it was after the marriage was pretty much over. We didn't have anything in common any more besides the kids, I was miserable, and all she did was bitch and complain at/to me.

 

[Fun4UsHere]

So much for getting laid... her arthritis and migranes, plus my asthma and extra weight, equils fapping on /s/ while she trys to knock her self out to attempt to sleep off the pain. 6"1" and 230 lbs isnt that much extra weight but her joints just wont take it for much longer... and it isn't like we're old she's 27 and I'm 33. Looks like at this rate she will be in a wheelchair in a few years and that 3way will be me getting some strange while she makes out with me :- [ I'm un sure what to do... we've already agreed that when she can't have sex any more she will find a girl who can, because I'm hormonal and bitchy to the point of being unbareable to be around if I dont get laid at least once a week, but the fucked up thing is I don't want the strange... I'll accept it if thats all I'm going to be able to get... but what I really want is her. So I think you should be glad for what you have and I find it quite ironic that I could go get the strange pussy without penalty but crave having my wife, while it sounds like you dont want what you have at home but are afraid of what might happen. Why are you so afraid?

 

[orgasmsgalore]

I have cheated and so has my SO. I am in an affair right now.

 

[tenacinmaine]

I am happy, I am content, and I cannot wait to share the rest of my life with him. (And others, as it turns out, we are swingers with an open relationship, lol)

We are thinking of inviting another couple to join us..
I have cheated and then tried to reconcile the relationship, but that did neither of us any good. We ended up going our separate ways and I am still with the guy I cheated with and love him very much and am extremely happy now.

 

[Lust Engine]

I had an ex cheat on me before. It hurt like hell for awhile. I learned at that point that I would never cheat on someone and inflict the kind of pain I felt. If I wanted to stray I broke it off. I'd much rather break things off rather than sneaking around and being secretive about it. But them's my moral standards for cheating.

Some might think I'm looking down on them for having affairs but I'm not. It's obviously your call.

 

[Carnevil9]

I'm a guy who cheats when necessary, but that's not what I'm here to talk about. I'd rather talk about women.

I have had lots of lady friends who have affairs with married men. They all think, "Oh, he's going to leave his wife and marry ME!"

I just cannot freaking believe this! I want to smack them. Look, doll: He is cheating on his wife, with you. You want him to leave his wife, and make YOU his wife. What do you think he is going to do NEXT?

I cannot believe some women can be so stupid. Why would you marry a man who you KNOW cheats on his wife?

Jeez!!!!

 

[_Abby_]

object of lust

I personally haven't had an affair...but I was the one the married man slept with when "He" had his affair. I didn't know he was married originally...but found out later, but he told me he was leaving her and kept sleeping with me, he never left her he just used me as his object of lust. I was young & dumb and let him.

 

[twister947]

I have, more than once. These things rarely end well, but for sheer out-on-the-ledge intensity, they have no equal.

 

[Lust Engine]

I'm a guy who cheats when necessary, but that's not what I'm here to talk about.

I usually consider simple things like food, water and shelter "necessary". I'm curious as to when one finds it "necessary" to cheat. Possibly on another thread so as not to hijack this one.

I'm also curious as to the the definition of "cheating" here because obviously it implies some form of hiding, secrecy and deceit, right?

 

[erotiquegirl]

and decided to leave your spouse?

Are you glad that you did? Are you happier with the "other"

He did. We got divorced. It was a year affair for him.

If I was first, I'm not so sure I would say, okay, forgiven either. But, it was a year not a one-night stand. Men are usually truthful when they say, it meant nothing. No, it didn't. It was just a booty call to see if ya still got it. Longer ones. It's a problem. Destruction of trust and absolute betrayal.

Or did you decide to stop, seek counseling and make your marriage better? Did it get better?

He didn't. I felt better after I started screwing around. Tons of offers but took one after I proved he cheated and we separated.

I have nothing against her since she didn't know. He lied to her. She testified against him in my divorce.

Not looking for judging or rants about affairs. Just looking to hear from people who have "been there done that". Have no one to talk to. PM me if you prefer.

If you cheated, yeah, you should tell them and come clean. Women usually know if they don't want to believe. Men do as well. Lots of sex then a big drop or none at all is cheating or a physical problem. Not so sure I could exist in an open marriage though if marriage happens again. Maybe sex clubs with the right one. I'm 33 and still young. Never know.

If you cheated and it's eating you up, come clean and live with the consequences. Only way out is to confess.

 

[Honed_Hunger]

Insight on the psychology behind an affair.........

http://www.psychologytoday.com/search/query?keys=affair