He wants to be with other women, am I wrong for my reaction?

[LadyVer]

I'm no idiot, sure looks like it don't it? He's been kicked out A LOT but, he's a player/conman & knows what to say to get his foot back in the door. I have NEVER let anybody do me this way. I just told him that I have 99% of you guys telling me to get rid of you. He thinks if the sex stops things will improve between us. I won't deal w/ his fuck for the night coming to pick him up. I've been telling him for a week that he needs to go. I just hate that it'll end this way, we were so close & had so much fun for almost a yr.

Why would you even bother telling this loser you have 99% of a sex forum thread backing you up? Why don't you just kick his ass out with no explanations or excuses? Just tell him you've had enough, you want and deserve better from a human, that he may know how to use his dick but his dick has been too many places that lowers his dick value.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I'm no idiot, sure looks like it don't it? He's been kicked out A LOT but, he's a player/conman & knows what to say to get his foot back in the door. I have NEVER let anybody do me this way. I just told him that I have 99% of you guys telling me to get rid of you. He thinks if the sex stops things will improve between us. I won't deal w/ his fuck for the night coming to pick him up. I've been telling him for a week that he needs to go. I just hate that it'll end this way, we were so close & had so much fun for almost a yr.

It sounds like you've had loads of fun. I mean, having him "cheat" on you. Having him expose you to whatever STDs he may or may not have. Having him suck your money and resources like a vampire. Sounds like a blast.

The truth is, you're not going to kick him out. I mean, the guy is literally endangering you. Do ye have sex without a condom? I imagine it happens. So you are letting him seriously endanger you. Wand your response to him is to tell him that 99% of the forum is telling you to kick his arse out? First, 100% of the people say to give him the boot, I believe. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't see a single person arguing for this asshole. Second, if you've not kicked him out for having unprotected sex with hundreds of women and free loading off of you, then the words of some faceless Internet forum lurkers isn't going to do the trick.

This guy is by no means lazy. He can't find a job in his field of work. Kind of hard to go from $25 an hr. doing what you enjoy to a job you hate. Money isn't a big issue bc, any would help

This is complete monkey shit. I mean that. There are lots of people in this situation. Any decent man wouldn't find a girl to screw over in order to supplement his lost income. I'd get two jobs working at fast food restaurants before I considered being a bum.

This guy is pure shit and if you continue one more day of this, you cannot bitch about his freeloading or the burning sensation you're inevitably going to get when you pee.

But we all know what you will do...

 

[Noor]

I'm no idiot, sure looks like it don't it? He's been kicked out A LOT but, he's a player/conman & knows what to say to get his foot back in the door. I have NEVER let anybody do me this way. I just told him that I have 99% of you guys telling me to get rid of you. He thinks if the sex stops things will improve between us. I won't deal w/ his fuck for the night coming to pick him up. I've been telling him for a week that he needs to go. I just hate that it'll end this way, we were so close & had so much fun for almost a yr.

Sounds like you are sexually jealous and want more than him just having an income.

 

[smuggy_x]

He treats you this way because you let him. He doesn't care about you, he just knows that you're easy to use and manipulate. Why on earth you would even give this guy a SECOND chance is kind of baffling. Why would you let a guy you barely know move in with you anyway? You do sound like an idiot...kick him out or quit complaining about something that you are LETTING HAPPEN TO YOU.

 

[afriendg]

I'm not complaining, I just want to know others opinions on his wanting to fuck other chicks. I told him once he's working again and has his own ride then it's nothing I can do or say.

In the wise words of the author Erica Jong: "Advise is what we ask for when we already know the right answer and we don't like it".
You know what to do...but being human...a quote from Frank Zappa: " two things are universal, hydrogen and stupidity."
Time to wise up..

 

[Goey]

It's situations like these which makes me realise how sexism has survived so many years...

 

[SweetErika]

Condoms make sex safer, NOT safe. Have you ever heard of Herpes or HPV (the virus that causes genital warts)? Plenty of people get those even when they use condoms religiously because they can be transmitted via skin contact. If he gets cold sores and performs oral sex on you, you could have genital herpes. If he has HPV on his genital area and touches your genital area, you could have genital warts. If he has HPV (or any number of other viruses or infections) and you perform oral sex on him, you could contract whatever he has that way. Yep, all while you're using condoms for vaginal or anal sex, even every single time.

So, your first step is to kick him out. He's not on your lease or anything, so you have every right to make him an uninvited guest starting right now.

If he won't leave, call the police for assistance in evicting your new uninvited guest/trespasser.

Then you need to block him from your life.

Finally, you need to get yourself checked out for all of those delightful diseases and infections he's probably given you. While you're at it, ask for a referral to a good mental health professional. I'm not saying that to be mean; you clearly need help working through all of your issues so you will not put yourself in this type of situation again.

Oh, and Pmann is right - this jackass IS incredibly lazy. He could get a job or three to support himself. He just has no reason to as long as you're supporting him AND paying for him to fuck every skank he can find!

Then again, if you're capable of having all that sex and driving the mooch around so much, you could probably find yourself some sort of gainful employment as well. You could be a driver for a paycheck, or a greeter at like Walmart (they'll even give you a stool or chair if you can't stand), or even do a computer job at home. There are plenty of jobs for folks with all sorts of disabilities out there, and I bet working would give you a sense of purpose, self-esteem and keep you out of the sort of trouble you're in currently.

 

[Lord Pmann]

This guy is pretty talented I say. I mean, he's more clever than me. Here I am, working like a dipshit and paying for my own stuff. I could be banging some girl for free rent and all.

The guy is a shitsipper, but he is pretty clever.

And thanks for pointing out the herpes info. She totally needs to hear that.

 

[Goey]

My money is on this thing being posted by a man anyway

 

[LadyVer]

Yeah, kind of hard to believe a woman can be this stupid.

 

[Goey]

Exactly, it reeks of "I have a giant penis and think women should worship me, this is the life I wish I had"

 

[Eilan]

Yeah, kind of hard to believe a woman can be this stupid.

Not really. For some women, a crappy man is better than no man at all.

That said, I also wouldn't be surprised to find out that the OP is a dude.

 

[subwannabe]

I'm not very good in these matters because I like to say what is on my mind, not always what you really want to hear. I'm really, really sorry but the only resonse that entered into my mind is how stupid you were and still are. You need to jettison this bum and learn to live with dildos and fantasies. This guy is nothing but a leech.

 

[mediocre]

My money is on this thing being posted by a man anyway

A teenage boy.

 

[LadyVer]

A teenage boy.

Not really. For some women, a crappy man is better than no man at all.

That said, I also wouldn't be surprised to find out that the OP is a dude.

Agree. Some women prefer a crappy man to no man at all. In this case, he's one of the crappiest I've ever heard of. Almost unbelievably crappy.

 

[kcwordsmith]

hard to believe this is real

I have a hard time buying your version of events. You're probably a guy living in your parents' basement seeing how outlandish a scenario you can create that people will respond to. If I'm wrong my condolences. You're in an untenable situation.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I can see that this may be a guy and thought so myself, but I think everyone on this forum is a guy. However, the situation isn't unheard of. In fact, I believe it's all too common. I've seen lots of girls with dickhole boyfriends like this one. The girl either has low self esteem or just an idiot or a combination of both. While the way the poster writes (built like a brick shithouse) may be indicative of a guy, the scenario isn't hard for me to believe at all.

 

[billrichards41]

You asked for thoughts...
What do you look like? Are you interesting? Any redeeming qualities?
If you are willing to put up with his nonsense I fear you lack in the above questions and have little self respect.

 

[Noor]

Agree. Some women prefer a crappy man to no man at all. In this case, he's one of the crappiest I've ever heard of. Almost unbelievably crappy.

No, I am sure there are worse. I knew of someone who kept a guy like this once and the sex also sucked...

 

[Goey]

No, I am sure there are worse. I knew of someone who kept a guy like this once and the sex also sucked...

Low self-esteem can do terrible things

 

[redguitarplays]

When debating important life changing decisions. I believe it's important to consider the opportunity cost. What great love and sex could you be missing out while you are with this 'man' who doesn't respect you? Respect is sexy, a lack of respect is not.

 

[agenttexx]

If his sex is so good, maybe he needs to start charging these other ladies so he can bring home some bread. You've already put a price on what he's given you - its worth free room and board. Figure out what that is costing you per hour and have him start collecting money.

For just a few hundred dollars an hour, you can support a needy manwhore...

So he's opened your eyes to your own sexuality. That's wonderful. Now that your eyes are open, you should find a man who loves and respects you and will help you enjoy this new found world.

 

[desertslave]

The OP hasn't posted since that first day. Either she kicked the guy out, problem solved, she's getting her brains boffed again, or she's laughing at the fact that we're still gnawing on this and she's long gone.