Hotwife hotline - ask away......

[LucyCanyon]

So far we've mostly talked about how much our husbands enjoyed it, how much we enjoyed being with each other , Tiger King, making homemade facemasks and when/where/who we might want to invite to our next party.

But, I asked this on another thread AND I'm totally serious. Just because my husband and I both participated in our first swingers/couples swap party a couple of weekends ago, does that automatically make me a hotwife or not? He never watched me with any other guys (although he certainly heard me from down the hall LOL) and I kind of get the impression that the husband watching and enjoying watching is a key part of being in the hotwife club.

Is that the definition of being a hotwife, Dee? Your husband has to be into watching?

(again, totally serious question - of course I'd love to be in the hotwife club natch, but I'm not sure I am yet based on everything you and others have told me! )

Pardon me for dropping a thought in, and having read the inestimable Dee's description I proffer a thought.

Both Liz and Dee do seem to be hot wives - in that they are sexy as hell and they are married. From my perspective they are therefore hot... their escapades show that... and they are married.

However, hotwife as a separate and distinct noun does , I agree, have a different connotation in many circles on here especially. The enjoyment of others whilst remaining married ramps up the 'hot' part of the noun whilst never detracting from the latter. Watched or just shared with full knowledge moves Liz towards that hotwife category, a repeat at intervals in needed to cement her place... however... I would say both are very HOT wives and their respective spouses are to be envied!!

 

[bigsly]

Ooooh, do I best ignore it then???? Thanks!

Unfortunately, you can't ignore him: he's herpes, personified.

 

[Botanical11B]

Knew a dude in the Army who was into watching his wife bang all she wanted and swore he got more out of the show than he ever did actually fucking.

From an ace's perspective this is one of the more bizarre sexual behaviors I never understood.

 

[sexwithspence]

Are hotwives ever interested in fucking younger guys?

 

[marriedpervs]

Pardon me for dropping a thought in, and having read the inestimable Dee's description I proffer a thought.

Both Liz and Dee do seem to be hot wives - in that they are sexy as hell and they are married. From my perspective they are therefore hot... their escapades show that... and they are married.

However, hotwife as a separate and distinct noun does , I agree, have a different connotation in many circles on here especially. The enjoyment of others whilst remaining married ramps up the 'hot' part of the noun whilst never detracting from the latter. Watched or just shared with full knowledge moves Liz towards that hotwife category, a repeat at intervals in needed to cement her place... however... I would say both are very HOT wives and their respective spouses are to be envied!!

Lucy - wonderful to have your input - and I am sure you are as HOT as Liz or myself. Feel free to post a pic or two of your HOTNESS here, honey.

I agree with your summation. The fact we are both married and happily so, enhances the 'hotwife' definition in my mind.

I think we are lucky to have spouses that not only let us play, but LOVE us playing, as it seems Liz's partner is evolving in the same way Steve did all those years ago.

Unfortunately, you can't ignore him: he's herpes, personified.

Ooooh I see!

Knew a dude in the Army who was into watching his wife bang all she wanted and swore he got more out of the show than he ever did actually fucking.

From an ace's perspective this is one of the more bizarre sexual behaviors I never understood.

That's interesting. I know I get heaps out of the fucking and the 'performance' aspect of it with Steve watching and then joining in. But he sure does like to watch, so I am not sure who enjoys it more - me or him?

Liz or Lucy - any thoughts??

Are hotwives ever interested in fucking younger guys?

This one sure is!! It's become my 'go to hunt' when we go looking for fun......

 

[LucyCanyon]

See my thoughts starting with capitals... the forum posting didn't recognise I had written anything as it's inside the quotes!!

Lucy - wonderful to have your input - and I am sure you are as HOT as Liz or myself. Feel free to post a pic or two of your HOTNESS here, honey.

I agree with your summation. The fact we are both married and happily so, enhances the 'hotwife' definition in my mind.

I think we are lucky to have spouses that not only let us play, but LOVE us playing, as it seems Liz's partner is evolving in the same way Steve did all those years ago.

Aah, THERE could be a small misunderstanding here... I am not a wife at all, and probably not that hot... only a few women find my cross dressing attractive and sexy and want to have fun... and as I am not into men I cannot claim to be hot at all really!

Ooooh I see!



That's interesting. I know I get heaps out of the fucking and the 'performance' aspect of it with Steve watching and then joining in. But he sure does like to watch, so I am not sure who enjoys it more - me or him?

Liz or Lucy - any thoughts??

THERE is a substantial group of men who find it hot to watch and not participate, and more who then join in. A couple I am in touch with regularly has the bloke definitely getting more from watching me than doing the fucking but she gets more from pleasing him - ie having someone else for him but she still gets more from the sexy with him!

This one sure is!! It's become my 'go to hunt' when we go looking for fun......

 

[LizVegas79]

Hot husbands?

I definitely think that should be a thing lol

HI again Liz,

Now........how are you coping with this virus shit????

Sort of okay I guess. It's nice getting to spend more time with my girls. But I'm also firmly in the camp that teachers need to have their salaries DOUBLED! They are both geniuses and saints at the same time imho.

I miss working. All the cattiness whispering about guests, talking about all the tacky outfits, hearing all the stories of drunken fun outrageous debauchery. I never knew I loved it as much as I do! Can't wait to get back.

I also hate grocery shopping now. It use to be fun. Now it's almost terrifying.

How are you dealing with it Dee?

Yes, but are you necessarily 'competing' or can it just be co-existing'?????

No, not competing. Definitely co-existing.

And so far .... sharing every single big and little detail on the phone for days afterwards!

Pardon me for dropping a thought in, and having read the inestimable Dee's description I proffer a thought.

Both Liz and Dee do seem to be hot wives - in that they are sexy as hell and they are married. From my perspective they are therefore hot... their escapades show that... and they are married.

However, hotwife as a separate and distinct noun does , I agree, have a different connotation in many circles on here especially. The enjoyment of others whilst remaining married ramps up the 'hot' part of the noun whilst never detracting from the latter. Watched or just shared with full knowledge moves Liz towards that hotwife category, a repeat at intervals in needed to cement her place... however... I would say both are very HOT wives and their respective spouses are to be envied!!

A repeat at intervals - I both LOVE and ACCEPT that requirement!

Are hotwives ever interested in fucking younger guys?

Uhh, this one sure is. Looking forward to it a lot actually!

Lucy - wonderful to have your input - and I am sure you are as HOT as Liz or myself. Feel free to post a pic or two of your HOTNESS here, honey.

I agree with your summation. The fact we are both married and happily so, enhances the 'hotwife' definition in my mind.

I think we are lucky to have spouses that not only let us play, but LOVE us playing, as it seems Liz's partner is evolving in the same way Steve did all those years ago.

That's interesting. I know I get heaps out of the fucking and the 'performance' aspect of it with Steve watching and then joining in. But he sure does like to watch, so I am not sure who enjoys it more - me or him?

Liz or Lucy - any thoughts??

Well, since I haven't yet had the pleasure of watching my husband watch me with someone else I'm not sure I can speak to this.

However, I can say with some fair degree of certainty that I'm going to absolutely love it. I mean when he "reclaimed me" I lost count of how many orgasms I had so he's going to have a high bar to enjoy it more than me!

See my thoughts starting with capitals... the forum posting didn't recognise I had written anything as it's inside the quotes!!

Everyone's perspective is unique and valuable. I hope you never feel like you have to compare yourself to anyone else on here before you post a comment or a question. This is discussion forum right? We don't all have to agree with each other but hopefully we can all accept everyone's point of view as long as it is not harmful or hurtful or debasing of others.

 

[hogjack]

I like to watch but only in the afternoon or sometimes in the early evening. My hotwife is at work then so it is difficult to coordinate.

Are my sexual cycles completely screwed up? Could this be the result of the current global pandemic and all the psychological elements attached to it? Or is this kind of voyeuristic window of interest really common?

 

[InsightRiot]

Serious question, do swinger do std testing? Like is that part of admission into the club? How do you know someone isn’t an asymptomatic viral shedder?

 

[sexwithspence]

If only there was a young guy looking for a hotwife to fuck....

 

[LucyCanyon]

Everyone's perspective is unique and valuable. I hope you never feel like you have to compare yourself to anyone else on here before you post a comment or a question. This is discussion forum right? We don't all have to agree with each other but hopefully we can all accept everyone's point of view as long as it is not harmful or hurtful or debasing of others.

Thanks Liz, agree its a wonderful place and I am grateful for that... what I was trying to say was that when I was responding to Dee and meant it to look like this...

- Lucy - wonderful to have your input - and I am sure you are as HOT as Liz or myself. Feel free to post a pic or two of your HOTNESS here, honey.

I agree with your summation. The fact we are both married and happily so, enhances the 'hotwife' definition in my mind.

I think we are lucky to have spouses that not only let us play, but LOVE us playing, as it seems Liz's partner is evolving in the same way Steve did all those years ago.

Aah, THERE could be a small misunderstanding here... I am not a wife at all, and probably not that hot... only a few women find my cross dressing attractive and sexy and want to have fun... and as I am not into men I cannot claim to be hot at all really!

That's interesting. I know I get heaps out of the fucking and the 'performance' aspect of it with Steve watching and then joining in. But he sure does like to watch, so I am not sure who enjoys it more - me or him?

Liz or Lucy - any thoughts??

THERE is a substantial group of men who find it hot to watch and not participate, and more who then join in. A couple I am in touch with regularly has the bloke definitely getting more from watching me than doing the fucking but she gets more from pleasing him - ie having someone else for him but she still gets more from the sexy with him!

 

[BuckyDuckman]

Serious question, do swinger do std testing? Like is that part of admission into the club? How do you know someone isn’t an asymptomatic viral shedder?

Most swingers are very self-regulating when it comes to this. As with any hook-up, there's always a risk. However, within the lifestyle community, nearly everyone understands and respects the risk. If you don't trust someone, you don't have sex with them, whether in a club or outside of one. Condom use is common. Sexual, free-for-alls between absolute strangers are very rare. And, yes, some clubs do require testing.

 

[marriedpervs]

THERE is a substantial group of men who find it hot to watch and not participate, and more who then join in. A couple I am in touch with regularly has the bloke definitely getting more from watching me than doing the fucking but she gets more from pleasing him - ie having someone else for him but she still gets more from the sexy with him!

Mmmm......very hot and totally agree. What do you other voyeur husband's think?

Most swingers are very self-regulating when it comes to this. As with any hook-up, there's always a risk. However, within the lifestyle community, nearly everyone understands and respects the risk. If you don't trust someone, you don't have sex with them, whether in a club or outside of one. Condom use is common. Sexual, free-for-alls between absolute strangers are very rare. And, yes, some clubs do require testing.

Yes, this is what we have found to be true. We have also attended a few functions where it has been compulsory to present a health screening / blood test result for entrance. It certainly helps the peace of mind, but I also ask those I don't know to use condoms.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

THERE is a substantial group of men who find it hot to watch and not participate, and more who then join in. A couple I am in touch with regularly has the bloke definitely getting more from watching me than doing the fucking but she gets more from pleasing him - ie having someone else for him but she still gets more from the sexy with him!

Mmmm......very hot and totally agree. What do you other voyeur husband's think?

I wouldn't classify myself as a voyeur or my wife as an exhibitionist. However, that goes out the window once we add another man to our evening. There's a certain, sublime pleasure to witnessing my wife having sex with another man. You'll hear her making the same sounds she makes with you. You'll see her move in the same ways. You'll recognize when he does something to her outside your usual repertoire and you'll see her reaction, too. In a strange way, it's like being with her, but once removed. It's a joy. It's interesting and fun!

As for my "not an exhibitionist" wife, she sometimes feels a bit self-conscious if our extra man is watching the two of us having sex. She doesn't enjoy the sense of performing for him. However, once things switch and it's him with her, she says it feels very different.

She enjoys seeing the pleasure and lust in my eyes. She enjoys seeing me naked or at least obviously hard. Sometimes, our eyes will lock while she's in the midst of something fun and the fastest internet connection in the world could never upload the amount of communication that's shared between us in that single glance, everything from love to lust to our entire history together. It's hot!

 

[marriedpervs]

I wouldn't classify myself as a voyeur or my wife as an exhibitionist. However, that goes out the window once we add another man to our evening. There's a certain, sublime pleasure to witnessing my wife having sex with another man. You'll hear her making the same sounds she makes with you. You'll see her move in the same ways. You'll recognize when he does something to her outside your usual repertoire and you'll see her reaction, too. In a strange way, it's like being with her, but once removed. It's a joy. It's interesting and fun!

As for my "not an exhibitionist" wife, she sometimes feels a bit self-conscious if our extra man is watching the two of us having sex. She doesn't enjoy the sense of performing for him. However, once things switch and it's him with her, she says it feels very different.

She enjoys seeing the pleasure and lust in my eyes. She enjoys seeing me naked or at least obviously hard. Sometimes, our eyes will lock while she's in the midst of something fun and the fastest internet connection in the world could never upload the amount of communication that's shared between us in that single glance, everything from love to lust to our entire history together. It's hot!

Hi BuckyDuckman,

I like your first point because my husband says he absolutely loves hearing the different noises I make when a lover touches me or makes me moan, yelp, shriek or groan in a way which is different to what I usually do with him.

I was self-conscious early on and didn't exactly enjoy the showing off element. Now, however, that is one of the greatest turn ons for me, and I suspect I am becoming almost an exhibitionist now that I am totally comfortable teasing, seducing and fucking others while hubby or other lovers watch me do my thing.

The eyes have it, baby!!!! Fully agree - I am obsessed with the eye contact, and to be honest, I can get extremely wet just by making eye contact during foreplay.

 

[MrRetro]

Hi all,

In this crazy world I feel as if more and more men and women are wanting more from their lives and so are exploring the hotwife phenomenon.

I'm in my early 50's now, and have been what I now realise is a hotwife for about 20 years since we realized he was a voyeur and I loved cock more than my hubby could provide.

So...…..if you have any questions, or are contemplating taking the lunge, on either side, post your thoughts or questions, and I'll try to provide some opinion, answers r suggestions.

Let's have fun and explore together...….

Hey there Dee..

Great to see you still hanging around Lit..!

You guys rock, seriously, you’re such an inspiration for couples that are considering this lifestyle and have some reservations or concerns..

I have read so much online about men that desire their woman to be a ‘Hotwife’, but I can’t see this type of lifestyle being successful unless it is something that is also desired by the woman, I’m sure you’ll agree..

So my question is, if you were single and a prospective lover asked you about what you desired, would you have shared with him your desires to be with other men sexually..? I’m always very cautious about raising discussion about this type of lifestyle with women, I don’t find that many will openly share their desires at this
level.. Have you got any advice for men wanting to meet women like yourself and how they should approach the topic..?

 

[marriedpervs]

Hey there Dee..

Great to see you still hanging around Lit..!

You guys rock, seriously, you’re such an inspiration for couples that are considering this lifestyle and have some reservations or concerns..

I have read so much online about men that desire their woman to be a ‘Hotwife’, but I can’t see this type of lifestyle being successful unless it is something that is also desired by the woman, I’m sure you’ll agree..

So my question is, if you were single and a prospective lover asked you about what you desired, would you have shared with him your desires to be with other men sexually..? I’m always very cautious about raising discussion about this type of lifestyle with women, I don’t find that many will openly share their desires at this
level.. Have you got any advice for men wanting to meet women like yourself and how they should approach the topic..?

Hi Mr Retro,

Yes, I get on here quite often for a look these days. I'm over 50 now so don't post much, but I still enjoy jumping on the threads and commenting. I love the kinky life on here.........and it seems my own thread has sparked back into life again!

I definitely think the 'Hotwife' lifestyle needs the woman to be in favour. Otherwise it simply won't work in my opinion.

I don't think I would have told a man when I was single. As you know we stumbled into this by accident and circumstance many years ago, and just went with what was happening with us. Steve remains a total voyeur and so it works for us and always has, thank goodness!

I'm not sure how to approach the topic, but perhaps a sexy discussion after a few drinks might stimulate some interesting conversation????

 

[Islander55]

I just read through the thread. Interesting. I guess I technically qualify as a hotwife as I recently had my first experience at 62. Actually several experiences but all with the same guy. I figured with this virus running rampant, I should make full use of a guy that has been isolated. I was originally leaning toward a swap but hubby is more comfortable with just adding the extra man and either watching, joining or even just hearing about it later.

 

[marriedpervs]

I just read through the thread. Interesting. I guess I technically qualify as a hotwife as I recently had my first experience at 62. Actually several experiences but all with the same guy. I figured with this virus running rampant, I should make full use of a guy that has been isolated. I was originally leaning toward a swap but hubby is more comfortable with just adding the extra man and either watching, joining or even just hearing about it later.

Yes - you sure do qualify! Welcome to the 'club'. Your hubby sounds like mine. Happy to watch and join in but not really into other guys women unless there is a real sense of attraction. So what did it feel like for you with hubby either watching or hearing about it later? Mine is always there......

 

[Islander55]

Yes - you sure do qualify! Welcome to the 'club'. Your hubby sounds like mine. Happy to watch and join in but not really into other guys women unless there is a real sense of attraction. So what did it feel like for you with hubby either watching or hearing about it later? Mine is always there......

Before the meeting I was a bit concerned about how hubby would feel. If it would bother him if I was obviously having a great time. As it turned out I got really into it and hubby was very happy for me so that concern faded. The first few times, hubby watched or participated but then he suggested I might like to see the guy alone. In some ways that was easier as I did not have to think about hubby at all. Just my partner and myself. I am good with either way and I think hubby is as well. Of course hubby correctly assumed that I would feel I owed him a treat if I got to be with my friend alone. Going forward I expect we will go both ways depending on everyone's desires. Of course it would be nice if we could get this virus under control so we could actually have some type of social life.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

Before the meeting I was a bit concerned about how hubby would feel. If it would bother him if I was obviously having a great time. As it turned out I got really into it and hubby was very happy for me so that concern faded. The first few times, hubby watched or participated but then he suggested I might like to see the guy alone. In some ways that was easier as I did not have to think about hubby at all. Just my partner and myself. I am good with either way and I think hubby is as well. Of course hubby correctly assumed that I would feel I owed him a treat if I got to be with my friend alone. Going forward I expect we will go both ways depending on everyone's desires. Of course it would be nice if we could get this virus under control so we could actually have some type of social life.

We began with threesomes and it morphed into my wife going out on dates with guys she met online and that she had personally vetted. (I trust her ability to make good judgments.)

Along the way, she adopted an attitude of being slightly submissive to her date. Not in a BDSM or Dom/sub sort of way. More in a slutty, go with the flow, do whatever he wants sort of way. As a result, she sometimes did things with one of her lovers that she and I hadn't done. Having her come home to tell me, "He made me . . ." became VERY exciting for both of us.

For her, without me there, she felt more free to explore with these other men. In part, because she wasn't married to them and if she felt embarrassed or uncomfortable with something that had happened, she never had to see them again.

Is that weird? To me, it makes sense.

 

[leftie]

Hi Dee,

I have a question: how soon can the trans-Tasman bubble open!

 

[Hipshot1554]

My question is about the interactions with other men. I would imagine that some are much more pleasurable than others. How do your emotions come into play? Do some become favorites? Are there any you find yourself wanting to see?

The emotions of other men, do they ever get in the way?

 

[Islander55]

We began with threesomes and it morphed into my wife going out on dates with guys she met online and that she had personally vetted. (I trust her ability to make good judgments.)

Along the way, she adopted an attitude of being slightly submissive to her date. Not in a BDSM or Dom/sub sort of way. More in a slutty, go with the flow, do whatever he wants sort of way. As a result, she sometimes did things with one of her lovers that she and I hadn't done. Having her come home to tell me, "He made me . . ." became VERY exciting for both of us.

For her, without me there, she felt more free to explore with these other men. In part, because she wasn't married to them and if she felt embarrassed or uncomfortable with something that had happened, she never had to see them again.

Is that weird? To me, it makes sense.

I think that makes sense. I find it so for me. Hubby and I have a long history so one does not want to do something that might cause an issue. With just the BF, I can just let go and do as the moment dictates. If it doesn't work out, I don't have to see him anymore. I guess it is just my hangup but I do feel more free to go "full slut mode" with a casual lover.

 

[LizVegas79]

My question is about the interactions with other men. I would imagine that some are much more pleasurable than others. How do your emotions come into play? Do some become favorites? Are there any you find yourself wanting to see?

The emotions of other men, do they ever get in the way?

I've found myself thinking more and more about my (new) friend's spouse who likes to be utterly and completely submissive to us. (My husband rarely submits to this kind of play so it's been fun to re-explore some of my own dom role-playing with past bf's, etc.) So, to that extent I would answer yes, he is my current "favorite" and I do very much look forward to the chance to play with him again.

Re: his emotions, I wouldn't say they have gotten in the way, but I can certainly see how they might. Since he wants to keep his submissive nature a secret from his buddies (my husband is one of them) it has sort of electrified our conversation whenever I've run into him when he has stopped by work to see, drop off or pick up his wife (she and I work together).

Dee have you had any experience with this sort of dynamic - keeping someone's secret and running into them from time to time at work or in other non-sexual situations?