How’s your married sex life?

[63sDad]

How’s the ‘ol sex life doing on your marriage? I get every relationship is different and goes through it’s ups and downs. Just curious I guess. Let’s hear your ages, years married and times per week/month. I’ll start
Me 36, her 35
9 years married
I’d say 8-10 times a month.

Ok you go

58m 60f 2x a week but just going through the motions very vanilla

 

[Mtnmike]

58m 60f 2x a week but just going through the motions very vanilla

Don't complain, some of aren't getting any, for year's now.

 

[pezzheaddazzler]

I finally had a ménage à trois!
I had a cramp in my right hand and had to switch to my left does that count????

 

[Mtnmike]

I finally had a ménage à trois!
I had a cramp in my right hand and had to switch to my left does that count????

Now that's hilarious, love it. Thanks for the belly laugh.

 

[Curvyscotswoman]

As i have stated before mine is pretty terrible
3 times a year
Its why i am on lit due to the frustration

 

[ILuv2Taste]

As i have stated before mine is pretty terrible
3 times a year
Its why i am on lit due to the frustration

If I was closer to you I could solve that problem if you were willing.

 

[oneblueye]

How’s the ‘ol sex life doing on your marriage? I get every relationship is different and goes through it’s ups and downs. Just curious I guess. Let’s hear your ages, years married and times per week/month. I’ll start
Me 36, her 35
9 years married
I’d say 8-10 times a month.

Ok you go

me 68... her 62
married since 1978
uh, how ya spell C---R---A---P again?

 

[Mtnmike]

As i have stated before mine is pretty terrible
3 times a year
Its why i am on lit due to the frustration

I am very sorry for you but look on the bright side, that's 3 times a year more than I've got in 14 year's.

 

[Older_Pervert]

As i have stated before mine is pretty terrible
3 times a year
Its why i am on lit due to the frustration

Now I’m in my late 60’s I don’t get much either, but that doesn’t stop me wanting it! You have great tits though curvyscotswoman - I’d love to get my hands on them

 

[BillTheKatt90]

Me 49. Her 48. Married nearly 30 years.
Currently varies between 2 and 6 times a week.

• At first, tons of sex seemed like good sex.
• Quality got better as we were having our (many) children.
• Frequency tapered off while we raised the kids, with dry spells lasting up to a few months at a time as the kids got older.
• Beginning about 2018, we went two years with literally nothing. in 2020 I told my wife "we fix this or we divorce."
• We fought about this on and off for two years, with runs of frequent encounters, and dry spells lasting weeks.
• At the beginning of this year we had a huge fight about all this where I re-stated my "we fix this or we divorce" stance, and further stated that we would live separately until we figured something out or until our youngest went to college in a year. We ultimately figured out some things:
  • She realized that sexlessness is not healthy, that she actually enjoyed sex, and that concepts of "sinfulness" were mislaid when applied to a married couple's sex life.
  • I realized some important things about supporting her the way she needed, largely by being more affectionate without creating a feeling of expectation or obligation about full-blown sex.

Currently, sex is not only frequent, but scintillating. Things are WAY better than when we were younger. We "dirty-flirt" (flashing, groping, etc.), she initiates a lot, we fuck in all kinds of positions and all over the house, and she is willing to do stuff she formerly thought was sinful. She is actually tiring me out!

 

[BillTheKatt90]

@BillTheKatt90 ... THAT is inspirational sir. Thank you.

Married 16 years... it was frequent but very vanilla for the first four or five years. Right now it's maybe 6 times in the past 3 years.

Just sent you a note. Check your inbox.

 

[dmonty]

Dead bedroom for a few years now... friends/ roommates without any spousal benefits, raising kids is the happiness we share

Post in thread 'Sexless Marriages' https://forum.literotica.com/threads/sexless-marriages.1503158/post-95348814

 

[Kradder]

Hey Ouens, either the stars and moons were aligned, or i struck the jackpot with many orgasms had by all. Far more than when she was still sexually active and it was 1 orgasm of vanilla and call it a night. We were away and one of the staff was single with enormous breasts, and very flirty with me. My partner, after a bottle of wine decided that the status quo is not good enough and gave me hours of pleasure. And she even swallowed, which she never did before. Far better effect than any scam 'relationship' councillorstein or therapistberg shyster. Now just wait and see if it becomes more regular or whether I must hire big breasted women to make regular appearances lol.

I don't think jealousy describes it as the negative aspects of jealousy were lacking. More like feeling a sexual predator nearby and inbibing some of that energy.

 

[BillTheKatt90]

Reddit has a whole subtopic about sexlessness in marriage: https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/

It is good place to start because you will find many MANY other people in sexless marriages (there are something like 300,000+ members of the subreddit). One weakness that sub has: the people with the best information are oftentimes not well received among the mob of people looking for validation.

My wife and I have experienced (preliminary) success after having a mostly dead bedroom for the better part of seven years, with a two-year stretch of no sex at all that ended in 2020. After talking to a few specific redditors , reading through recommended books, having ego-free honest conversations, and working out some of the barriers between us, we seem to be back on the right track.

 

[Hiyo26]

Once every few months and she doesn’t seem interested.

 

[paulman999]

Negligible

 

[Zenheredonethat]

We're both 41
Married 13 years
Sex around 2-3x a month - it's very fulfilling, just not enough for me. Wishing it was a bit more adventurous at times too. I guess I should still be grateful that it's good sex.

Ages a little different, but my situation exactly. When we have sex, it is great! I just wish it were 2x3 times a week and a bit more than vanilla.

 

[curiouschattycouple]

Both late 30's. Sex about 3x a week. It's been pretty kinky for the last five years - toys, mfm fantasies, dirty talk, and recently some pegging.

 

[Ashfordbloke]

Nothing for about 9 years. I have the occasional solo orgasm but even that is difficult due to her needs (disabled) but I live in hope LOL
She has serious joint issues - severe pain and, to be blunt, cannot even spread her legs wide enough for my head - but if I broach the subject of trying something different (a vibrator for her pleasure, for example), all I get is a blank stare and "I will think about it".

 

[MadisonK]

I'm 49, hubby is 53. 17 yrs together. two kids at home still.
Anywhere from 3-10 times a month.
For us it's a question of windows of opportunity. My work leaves me exhausted through the week and while i'm open to the idea i'm just not hot for it. He's ready at the drop of a bra. Hard before it hits the floor. I'm going through menopause so the little things that used to get me going take a little bit more time and effort. So, usually it's the weekend before i can get myself in the right mind set to be available. Maybe once or twice on the weekend depending on moods and circumstances and every now and then i invite him to bed early through the week just to keep him on his toes.
When we first got together we were like rabbits so he kind of grieves that now and then. We've had some arguements over time as he gets frustrated. I know he still wants me just as much but i just cant force it for him or it's not... real.
A little while ago we had a week off together without the kids. And it just went to show that the desire is still there when the stress and exhuastion isn't. These days, we are just grateful for the fact we both like each other like that and menopause hasn't robbed me completely.
I read a study a while ago that surveyed a number of couples and found that an average of 3 to 4 times a month is considered quite healthy. So i guess we're still above average.
Yes, i miss that spontaneous horniness. Yes, i'm still very happy in the bedroom.
Our little playroom spices things up every few months too and that side of things really gets us going afterward for a few weeks.

 

[NoUseForAnyName]

Sadly, non existent.

 

[Mtnmike]

Sadly, non existent.

Sorry but join the club, it stinks

 

[Polranny]

What married sex life. It's been 12 years!

 

[Micio_Lambire]

Very minimal nowadays, sadly. Medical issues have taken it almost completely away.

 

[Ledipus]

If I work for it, it happens. I’m always the one that has to initiate it. She never makes a move of any kind.