How’s your married sex life?
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Medicalman13152
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I believe I am on the "quarterly review plan", meaning she'll review MY needs quarterly and see if SHE feels I am "in need" or not?
pezzheaddazzler
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Mine was the AC isn't blowing and I thought the same thing
LostMidlander85
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18 years together, married 13 years. For the last few years after kids it's been about 4 times a year, at most!
Me 60 she 49. Gone for years, but she was never much into sex to begin with and when we started dating I even had to make a point of being a man and having needs and should I fulfill them elsewhere. Her mother also mentioned to me that they used to wonder about their daughter as she never had a need for men. But over my life I had a lot of sex with a lot of women, so maybe I used up my share. Now unfortunately it is daily solo.
I wonder why it must be that way: either the relationship is right but not the sex, or the sex is pefect but nothing else in the relatiionship.
I wonder why it must be that way: either the relationship is right but not the sex, or the sex is pefect but nothing else in the relatiionship.
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Strixaluco
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These are history now...
1st: in our twenties, in 9 years we went from once a week to once every few months
2nd: around 30 & 35 yo for 4 years, at least twice a week even when we had decided to part our ways - and even when my libido was compromised by meds!
3rd: I was 42 and he 57 when he died after 11 years. Nothing in the last few years, and very seldom for a couple of years before that.
Don't ask why I settled for that in my first and 3rd common law marriage. I don't know, and I don't intend to anymore.
1st: in our twenties, in 9 years we went from once a week to once every few months
2nd: around 30 & 35 yo for 4 years, at least twice a week even when we had decided to part our ways - and even when my libido was compromised by meds!
3rd: I was 42 and he 57 when he died after 11 years. Nothing in the last few years, and very seldom for a couple of years before that.
Don't ask why I settled for that in my first and 3rd common law marriage. I don't know, and I don't intend to anymore.
mouthful6
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Similar here. Almost 20 years together. Once a week or once a month. Every nut has to be scheduled.
It is great when it does happen. We genuinely love & lust for each other. But I want to fuck twice a day, need it twice a week. Over time, the kink and wander lust have become my dark passengers.
SeymourBush
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Could be better. Could be worse. Looking around at other people my age (mid-sixties) I should be grateful.
I’ve just recently given up talking about it. I won’t beg, its degrading. I had vaginal sex once in the last year.
Strixaluco
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I eventually gave up begging for hugs, mostly - and totally for sex. It's actually better now that I am a widow...
Sorry you are widowed. But I wont hope for that. I do love her, it’s really the only part of our marriage that doesn't work anymore. The hope is for an alternative, but there just aren’t women lining up to have sex with a man in his early 60’s.
Strixaluco
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I just hope you have discussed the issue with your wife. Not like my husband, who got his sex elsewhere, leaving me starving... (he was in his 50's, I am younger) It is all too common that both are unsatisfied.
We have discussed it until the cows come home Lol. She just isn’t interested. Honestly it’s puzzling. The few times we have had sex in the last few years she has had a good time. She orgasms both from her clit being stimulated and vaginally. Lots of build up and foreplay. Listen, I’ve tried it all. She just isn’t interested.
Strixaluco
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I wonder whether she realizes how unfair it is for you. (My husband never did!)
I hear ya, it is degrading. I haven't even seen hers in 14 year's. Hope you're situation doesn't last long as mine has.
I'm sorry for your loss, admit I've had thoughts on being widowed, bout happened last year cause of Covid. Showed me that deep down I still cared for her would miss her if gone. It's a tough way to live, I understand but I miss the intimacy more than the sex, honestly, I know what you are saying.
So true, I'm in my 60's & can not find anyone either.
I’m sure she doesn’t. even though I have told her, I don't think she has any idea how strong my sex drive is. And even if she did, she still isn’t going to have any sex drive herself. And isn’t what we want is to have a partner that is as enthusiastic about it as we are? I’m really not wanting to have sex with her if it’s viewed as a chore.
Discussed it till blue in the face to no avail, she says it's my problem not hers. She will not even talk about anymore. Sorry he cheated on you, my first wife did with multiple men, so understand where you're coming from.
Even though I’m told I’m an attractive man, I don‘t think that plays a role in finding someone my age. I think most women our age have experienced the same menopausal loss of libido. Look at the numbers of men who frequent gay and bisexual dating sites, it’s epidemic.
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Here to stay.
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