how do you cure performance anxiety or weak erections?

[maskedpro]

hi

the last three sexual encounters i have had I can't seem to get hard. I think i am getting performance anxiety and i would really like to sure this. i don't know if it's a fear of a women not liking my penis size ( i don't have a big one) or being good in bed. anyone have any advise how to sure this? I am new to having sex so i don't know if this is the cause

also when masturbating my erection doesn't seem to be as hard. I goto the gym 3-4 times a week and i am in good shape I don't knwo if this is a normal body change or something is wrong. and i can't maintain an erection for long i have to keep playing with it to keep it hard

 

[thirty]

hi

the last three sexual encounters i have had I can't seem to get hard. I think i am getting performance anxiety and i would really like to sure this. i don't know if it's a fear of a women not liking my penis size ( i don't have a big one) or being good in bed. anyone have any advise how to sure this? I am new to having sex so i don't know if this is the cause

also when masturbating my erection doesn't seem to be as hard. I goto the gym 3-4 times a week and i am in good shape I don't knwo if this is a normal body change or something is wrong. and i can't maintain an erection for long i have to keep playing with it to keep it hard

It's quite normal for an inexperienced guy to have such problems, you will be getting better when you are familiar with your partner.

 

[maskedpro]

also doesn't excite me as it used too

i used to get an instant erection now not anymore i guess i am desensitized from it now

 

[roomfor1more]

If you are able to get hard when masturbating then, I feel, the issue is more psychological than physical. Unless, the issue involves the ability to maintain the erection and if that is the case then it could be a physical issue. Nonetheless, what could cause psychological issues when it comes to sex? You already highlight two issues, size and lack of confidence. Other issues can include, fear of pregnancy, guilt, and if she is involved with someone then the fear of them finding out. Finally alcohol, illegal drugs, and prescription drugs can play a role in this too.

How do you get over this? There is no magical formula and it involves trying to figure out the issue. In my opinion, counselling is a waste of time and money. I feel, instead you can talk with her and work through the issue together and you may find by talking with her that the problems solves itself.

 

[klippert]

have a sit down with your doctor.....your more than likely in line for some tests....

 

[lovecraft68]

have a sit down with your doctor.....your more than likely in line for some tests....

Honestly I disagree, if he is in good shape otherwise it is most likely not physical.

Masked pro: You said the key word "anxiety" many people joke that men's little head controls the big head. It works in reverse. Once you start telling yourself there is a problem or thinking about one then there is a problem.

You need to relax. Maybe a drink or two could help. A new gilrfriend does complicate things because there is not that familiarity and you are trying to impress. Occasionally I will have a problem if stress is really getting to me but have been with my wife for ten years so she just tells me lay back and will go down on me.

I know this may not be completely on the up and up but there are online pharmacy's that sell generic viagra I think you can get like 30 for $90 with shipping. They are 100 milligram which you would not need so cut them in half. Viagra works as described andafter using it a few times you will get your confidence back.

 

[maskedpro]

the partners were one night stands not a girlfriend so i guess that is bad

i was think ing about talking to a doctor about it but maybe it is all in my head as you guys have said

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

hi

the last three sexual encounters i have had I can't seem to get hard. I think i am getting performance anxiety and i would really like to sure this. i don't know if it's a fear of a women not liking my penis size ( i don't have a big one) or being good in bed. anyone have any advise how to sure this? I am new to having sex so i don't know if this is the cause

also when masturbating my erection doesn't seem to be as hard. I goto the gym 3-4 times a week and i am in good shape I don't knwo if this is a normal body change or something is wrong. and i can't maintain an erection for long i have to keep playing with it to keep it hard

Could be caused by anything from stress, to a medication you are taking, to age related, but realistically, you have 3 choices.

1. A visit to the Doctor

2. Viagra/Cialis

3. Celibacy


Your choice.

 

[SweetErika]

It sounds like there could very well be a physical component since you're also having issues during masturbation, so you really do need to see a good doctor and investigate/rule out any physical problems. While you're there, you may even get a prescription for an ED medication, just in case you feel you need it now or down the road.

As for the psychological part, you need to stop worrying about your cock and start focusing on becoming an amazing lover in other ways. If you can dazzle your partner with your mind, touching, oral sex, toys, etc., your cock will be far less important. Obviously, it's not necessary to have a penis at all to be an incredible lover and have a satisfying sex life - just look at women who have amazing sex with each other.

So, go get yourself checked out thoroughly by a doctor who has a lot of experience with ED issues and work on your skills and confidence so your partner will be satisfied regardless of what your cock does or doesn't do.

Oh, and you also might look into getting a cock ring or three to help you maintain your erection.

 

[RedguyTx]

Another thing to think about is how often you are masturbating.
Too much of a good thing can leave you desensitized.

You can also masturbate using a condom to get used to the feeling. That one comes from Dr. Drew on the old Love Lines show.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

No. 1, cut back on the masturbation. Like Redguy says, you could be desensitizing your junk, thereby making it less receptive to the exigencies of a romantic situation.

No. 2, watch your alcohol intake. One drink, maybe two, can help calm your nerves and perk up your courage. More than that, however, and you run the risk of alcohol impotence.

 

[maskedpro]

No. 1, cut back on the masturbation. Like Redguy says, you could be desensitizing your junk, thereby making it less receptive to the exigencies of a romantic situation.

No. 2, watch your alcohol intake. One drink, maybe two, can help calm your nerves and perk up your courage. More than that, however, and you run the risk of alcohol impotence.

yea i am thinking about stopping masturbating for awhile

even though i don't do it everyday( only have time on weekends really) but when i do i do it multiple times lol

 

[aniowachick]

Hubby uses Levitra if we are going to play with anyone..
It is anxiety, some people say it doesnt work for that, but it really does. He gets so hard it gets hot.

 

[secretlover1]

Sweetheart if you can get hard - a way to stay hard is to edge........and glorious fun

You'll get there babe x