How often do you have sex with your spouse/SO?

[coacheric]

...almost 2 years. Before that, 1 or 2 times a month. I find it sad, we had a talk (not a fight) and I found out I just don't do anything for her anymore. I've become what I never wanted to be, a paycheck. I truly believe it's not her fault and don't blame her.

I feel your pain. Mine tells me all the time that she loves me. She still does little things for me here and there that show that she does. There is just no sex anymore.

 

[Kitty]

When I was with my ex, we had all day events sometimes.

 

[Kitty]

I feel your pain. Mine tells me all the time that she loves me. She still does little things for me here and there that show that she does. There is just no sex anymore.

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[Lilylovex64]

Married two years and we have sex daily.

 

[coacheric]

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Ahhh, thanks, I needed that today

 

[Kitty]

Married two years and we have sex daily.

Really?!

You're purf.
21, TKD belt holder. Hookah. Married. Spanish.

 

[Lilylovex64]

Really?!

You're purf.
21, TKD belt holder. Hookah. Married. Spanish.

Thanks Kitty

You are pretty awesome yourself girly.

 

[Little_Sister]

I answered. Now shoot. Lol

You already know...

 

[RickTango]

Now I'm envious

 

[jasonmason]

A question for all the marrieds out there, and those in long-term relationships: How often do you have sex?

And, do you consider that amount to be OK? Good? Bad? Amazing? Awful?


Me: Married 13 years
Sex: Once a month, if that, lately. Was about twice a month in the not-so-distant past.

I classify this frequency as abysmal.

Married almost 15 years. We have gone from many times a month to maybe once or twice a month for about 3 years now. I classify this as abysmal also. Not only is the frequency gone but now it is very vanilla when it happens.

 

[sereneone4u]

Married almost 21 years. When things were good between us, we had sex every day, couple times a day. I would say the last ten years maybe a dozen times? Not been together in almost a year.

He wants to, I do not.

 

[SCcouple1990]

We've been married 18 years, and together for 24. On a good, normal week it is two or three times per week. Then life with three younger boys, and all the illnesses and running around that comes with them, to go along with work, other family, and volunteering, makes many weeks zero to one time. It's always fun.

 

[Doog_kuron]

for me it was once every six months, if I was lucky. I wasn't happy with that but she point blank refused to do anything about it. She lost all interest in me completely, all but ignoring me. Didn't even like holding my hand. After her I met other's but they turned out to be terrible people. The upshot is ironic. Now I've completely lost interest in sex and as a general rule tend to steer clear of women.

Sounds pretty grim but I'm actually a lot happier now. Also no more debates over who controls the TV remote. Everyone's a winner

 

[suckonsimon]

Married almost 21 years. When things were good between us, we had sex every day, couple times a day. I would say the last ten years maybe a dozen times? Not been together in almost a year.

He wants to, I do not.

Sereneone, a question to you which I feel fits this thread - respecting your choice as to whether or not you want to discuss it:

Would you tell us a bit about why you do not want to?

 

[powermanp3]

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[sereneone4u]

Sereneone, a question to you which I feel fits this thread - respecting your choice as to whether or not you want to discuss it:

Would you tell us a bit about why you do not want to?

Sure Simon.

He is passive aggressive.
He lies about the most simple of things.
He is extremely selfish.
We have gone to counseling, they are not to take sides but everytime, EVERYTIME they tell him that he is extremely selfish. I mean a couple of times their jaws dropped. It does not register with him that anyone else has needs much less wants.
I don't want to be intimate with someone I can't trust, someone who is so very selfish.

 

[coati]

Best LTR

I've been in three LTRs, the current one lasting for the last 9 years. This relationship has been the best one for consistently good sex, and for sanity in general. Maybe for some people, it pays to change partners.

We fuck about once per week, and those sessions tend to involve a couple of orgasms on her part and a very strong one for me. Also, at other times during the week, I will either finger her or lick her to orgasm. She is very good about allowing my hands to slip under her clothes in everyday life to explore her body. These impromptu situations help to build sexual tension that tends to explode during our fuck sessions. For some reason, the weekly schedule seems to work best for her to work up the optimum electrical charge for wanting to feel my cock inside of her, and after a few teases during the week, she makes it clear that she wants to fuck.

Since I need more than one orgasm per week, I masturbate whenever I feel like it. Those orgasms are good, but nothing like coming inside of my S.O.

 

[suckonsimon]

Sure Simon.

He is passive aggressive.
He lies about the most simple of things.
He is extremely selfish.
We have gone to counseling, they are not to take sides but everytime, EVERYTIME they tell him that he is extremely selfish. I mean a couple of times their jaws dropped. It does not register with him that anyone else has needs much less wants.
I don't want to be intimate with someone I can't trust, someone who is so very selfish.

I'm so sorry you have that to live with darling. I guessed it must be something serious, you being the gorgeous and generous person you are. What can I say. All respect to you for what you have been trying to do for him to get turned around. There are plenty here who know you are a star, and I'm one of them, lady!

 

[sereneone4u]

I'm so sorry you have that to live with darling. I guessed it must be something serious, you being the gorgeous and generous person you are. What can I say. All respect to you for what you have been trying to do for him to get turned around. There are plenty here who know you are a star, and I'm one of them, lady!

Thank you, Simon.

I am not perfect either. I am an enabler so we feed off of each other.

Anyways, I hope your weekend is a lovely one.

 

[followmenow6969]

In the last 8 years Its WAY over 12 times a month... Let me add, we met here on Lit 9 years ago. Him in a horrible marriage, I was never married though had more than a fair share of good an bad FWB's

Both of us are making up for lost time with no end in site .

 

[mustang_driver]

Married: 20 years
Sex: Once every 2-3 months now...went almost a full year without not long ago.

 

[charley58]

Married 37 yrs been together 40 yrs as of yesterday , generaly once a week

 

[NeglectedWife]

The last time I had sex with my spouse was September.
We had sex a total of 3 times in 2014, 2 of which I initiated (actually I initiated more than twice, but I was turned down the other times... Including on my birthday)

Well I finally had sex with the husband yesterday .... First time in 4 months.

We went away for a trip together.
He'd booked it months ago but I hadn't heard anything so I thought it wasn't happening.
But no it was on and he's booked a nice hotel with a view.

We stayed in and had drinks and food and looked at the view but there was no cuddling or kissing - then we went to bed and watched a movie and then he decides that he wants some.

He was shocked when I turned down his less than enticing offer.

But in the morning it came together and he actually made an effort to seduce me - I was pretty impressed.
He went down on me for a long time and then we had sex at the window... And he gave me a couple of really good orgasms.

And then we spent the day together and had a pretty good time.

 

[suckonsimon]

Well I finally had sex with the husband yesterday .... First time in 4 months.

...

But in the morning it came together and he actually made an effort to seduce me - I was pretty impressed.
He went down on me for a long time and then we had sex at the window... And he gave me a couple of really good orgasms.

And then we spent the day together and had a pretty good time.

Lady! Promising, I hope, for a more fulfilling 2015?

 

[luv2bfkd]

Often enough that I always have his sperm in me.