How to ease feeling lonely in a long-distance relationship?

[sheath]

I'm running out of ideas...

My man and I have been together almost a year, and we are in a long-distance relationship. We live five hours apart. He is absolutely the love of my life and by this summer we will be together...and married, hopefully.

My problem is that the more time passes, the more lonely we get for each other. We talk on the phone every day for hours at a time. (Thank goodness for unlimited calling plans! ) We send letters and cards, and little packages filled with tokens of love...things like a small bottle of my perfume, some of his old shirts for me to wear around the house, things like that.

What else can we do? I need ideas on how to ease feeling this way. We are certainly not looking for anyone else and we are content with one another, perfectly in love...we just miss each other so damn bad. It's worth it...I know we will be together soon...it's the nights in between that are so damn hard.

Has anyone else been in this position? What did you do to ease the loneliness? What special things did you send through the mail? Any suggestions on how I can make him feel more like I am "there"?

Thanks!

S.

 

[Guest]

Wow - we've been there -

Before my husband and I were married we lived 3 hours apart. It was the longest year we ever spent.

We had long phone calls (sometimes very nasty - just hearing his voice made everything better but was also frustrating since it made me miss him more) and yes, we would manage to get together every weekend for some serious sex!! (Today, we'd do instant messaging, voice chat, and webcam - at least then we'd get to see each other!!)

Share fantasies and naughty pictures, maybe some webcam self-stimulation with each other as audience? Find naughty stories you like and read them together. Sleep in one of his shirts (I still do that). It always made me feel better.

Good luck - hang in there! We'll be thinking about you!

 

[guest1977]

As far as I can see, you are both already doing everything possible to show one and other how much you care about each other.

Though I must say that 5 hours is not that much of a distance. Compare that to those folks who have had or are in long distance relationships where oceans seperate them.

It ought to be easier for the both of you to be able to plan two days off from work and visit one and other. 10 hours drive, back and forth, mayhaps 8 hours of sleep, that still leaves you with 30 hours of one and other's company.

 

[Esha]

Darlin....my hubby was in the military for five VERY long years....he missed all sorts of things, and I missed the hell out of him.
Unfortunalty, there isn't much you can do to ease that feeling of emptiness, except take comfort in the fact that it means you love each other!
The concern would be that you WOULDNT miss him when he was gone...


PS, WEBCAMS are mans greatest modern invention!!

 

[Bandit58]

I just got back from spending 4 days with my lover.......just days cos he's married and lives 5 hours drive from me. We met online 7 months ago and have only been together a few times, but each time it gets better and better, and harder and harder to leave and go back home.....I feel like my heart is being ripped out and I know he feels the same. Circumstances prevent him from leaving his wife just yet, she is emotionally abusive and holds the purse strings, and he won't let me support him either.

We talk every weekday on ICQ, and I phone him as often as I can. We hope to set up voice chat next week (I've got a new computer now so hopefully it will work!) so we can save on phone bills. We exchange cards and text messages when one or both of us is away from our PCs, and if it doesn't sound too strange to you, we can "feel" each other so we know when we're being thought about, it's very comforting......the pain is still there but there's much happiness too.

We take time together when we can......a few days when we have holidays, the occasional day off from work when we meet in a town half way between our places. It would be a lot easier if he wasn't married, we could have weekends......that will come next year when he leaves his wife and gets his life together, I am prepared to wait for that to happen however long it takes.....

 

[Willing and Unsure]

try to fill some of your free time with other things. volunteer some in the community or at a hospital or something like that. the other ideas here are good too. but if you keep yourselves busy, the time will pass a lot faster

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Long distance relationships suck. I live at the north pole and BF lives in Michigan. we have only had one visit was this summer we spent a month together. Hes supposed to come back this summer possibly longer. It gets very lonely. very hard. but thanks to the internet makes things a little better. Keep yourself busy, read books. thats what I am doing LOL he told me to read
get a hobbie. take long walks.