How to know if somebody is flirting with you?

[Noira]

I never get flirted with offline. If I do, I'm completely and utterly oblivious, though I point out to my damn hot ace friend when people are obviously flirting with her and that she should stop leading them on and start being more aware of it even if she doesn't care if they're flirting with her. It annoys me sometimes that she's the hot one, she's convinced that this is just how men are towards anything with tits, and I'm like 'actually it's not...'

Of course I tend to take the pessimistic approach and assume that if a man talks to a woman out of the blue in a non-work/family event type situation, he's interested. There is no universal answer to the body language conundrum. I come off as flirting when I'm not, I get the stink eye from ladies sometimes for talking to their man, but I talk to everyone enthusiastically with an open body language, and I'm a perpetual fidget when talking. It means nothing. If I'm actually flirting, I'll probably make eye contact less and more physical contact.

I've been told though, that Canadians are just less flirty and the whole 'walk down the street and get hit on five times' is an American thing. Or maybe I am getting hit on all the time and just totally oblivious. I don't know. Flirting is so imprecise. I'd sooner someone come right out and say they want sex.

 

[boutrosboutros]

Of course I tend to take the pessimistic approach and assume that if a man talks to a woman out of the blue in a non-work/family event type situation, he's interested.

That is an extremely, extremely safe bet.

 

[JamieJ424]

Took me a while to learn how to tell the difference between flirting and a normal conversation. My general rule of thumb is, if you're talking to a person of the opposite sex (or same sex if thats on the table) and both of you are smiling a lot, it's flirting.

J

 

[BiTodd]

I am almost always flirting.