How to last longer..

[eXsaNe2]

Ok. I am sure there have been many many post about this issue, but I can't find a search feature. So I am very sorry, if this has been posted so many times, it makes you mad when you see a new one..

I am a 21 year old male. And well, when I masterbate, I can't last more than 5 minutes. I have only had 2 hand jobs in my life, and 2 blow jobs. One of the hj I had, I only lasted about 5 min. The other one lasted about 6. The 2 bj's I had lasted about 10 min, but, I was pretty drunk, and couln't keep it up..

SO really, when I am not drunk, I can't last more than 5 min. And right now, I am scared to do anything with a girl, because I can't last that long. And when I do get drunk, or ahve a few beers, I can't even keep it up.

So is there anything I can do to last longer? Without taking pills. Or is there any pills that you don't need a persciption? Any advice would be really great! Thanks alot.

 

[SweetErika]

Have her get you off before sex or masturbate before you see her. And, of course, use a condom (which you should do anyway every time) - that should help some. Also, research kegels and using your PC muscle to control ejaculation (though it'll take at least 6 weeks of regular exercises to work).

The search is at the top/right of the page usually, as a link. Click it and then Advanced Search. Instructionsare in the "FAQs Before Posting" sticky on the main HT page.

 

[Shooter_XL]

I'd say jerk it if you think you might get some action later on. Also there are some creams you can use to desensitise yourself but thats not at much fun. If your really worried that you wont be able to satisfy a woman durring sex then go down on her and get her to cum before you actually do the deed, then if you really are unable to please her she wont go away bitter

 

[SweetErika]

If your really worried that you wont be able to satisfy a woman durring sex then go down on her and get her to cum before you actually do the deed, then if you really are unable to please her she wont go away bitter

Er...shouldn't one make a concerted effort to give their partner orgasms regardless of how long they last during sex? Most women don't come during intercourse, especially when they don't know their bodies well and/or are with a newer partner, so pleasing them multiple times in multiple ways (which doesn't necessarily mean orgasm - getting too caught up in that often causes frustration and poor results) should always be the goal.

 

[Tuomas]

I don't suppose this is the right place to point in laugh

Aside from jerking beforehand, you can also consider trying to be multiorgasmic...

 

[tanyachrs]

Why don't you start with slowing down how long it takes you to come when jerking off? It's completely within your control. As it starts to feel "too good," back off. Go faster and slower in response to what your body is saying. Don't rush to finish up but work on drawing it out. That will prepare you to last longer with a woman, although you can expect to always be a little quick on the draw your first time with a new woman.

All that stuff about learning to please her in other ways is good too.

 

[Bystander]

masturbation is not a good indicator of how long you can last in sex. Atleast in my experience its not. Once you have sex, it depends on the position, how fast you're going etc. You'll eventually manage to figure it out, based on your body's reactions, how to control yourself during sex.

When I want to masturbate it takes me less than a minute to finish. Fortunately sex lasts longer

 

[eXsaNe2]

masturbation is not a good indicator of how long you can last in sex. Atleast in my experience its not. Once you have sex, it depends on the position, how fast you're going etc. You'll eventually manage to figure it out, based on your body's reactions, how to control yourself during sex.

When I want to masturbate it takes me less than a minute to finish. Fortunately sex lasts longer

Hrm, that is werid. When you masturbate, it go very fast. But can last alot longer when having sex. I haven't had sex yet (Yes I know, being 20 it is sad, but I don't care), but I am just worried that when I do, I don't last that long, and the girl I am with will laugh at me. I like foreplay, and love going down on a girl, so I think I can do that first, but the real intercourse I don't want to look like a sally, so I thought if there was anything to do to help.

Thanks everyone for your reply's.

 

[Tuomas]

Hrm, that is werid. When you masturbate, it go very fast. But can last alot longer when having sex. I haven't had sex yet (Yes I know, being 20 it is sad, but I don't care), but I am just worried that when I do, I don't last that long, and the girl I am with will laugh at me. I like foreplay, and love going down on a girl, so I think I can do that first, but the real intercourse I don't want to look like a sally, so I thought if there was anything to do to help.

Thanks everyone for your reply's.

I think you need to worry about that bridge when you get there.

There's to much preasure to "last long enought".. who the hell said play had to stop when you cum? In fact, worring about it will only make you last less.

So, when the time comes, relax, concentrate on the wonderful person you are with, how she acts, what she wants, what makes her happy, what you can do to make her enjoy the experience -and how "long" you last won't matter.

 

[eXsaNe2]

I think you need to worry about that bridge when you get there.

There's to much preasure to "last long enought".. who the hell said play had to stop when you cum? In fact, worring about it will only make you last less.

So, when the time comes, relax, concentrate on the wonderful person you are with, how she acts, what she wants, what makes her happy, what you can do to make her enjoy the experience -and how "long" you last won't matter.

You know what, your right. It's just that, it might happen soon, because I am taking her next weekend up to the cabin to go snowboarding all weekend, and I just don't know what might happen...But your right. I just gota relax, and enjoy what ever might happen, and stop worring about things.

Thanks alot, I finally get it now.

 

[MellowMan]

You know what, your right. It's just that, it might happen soon, because I am taking her next weekend up to the cabin to go snowboarding all weekend, and I just don't know what might happen...But your right. I just gota relax, and enjoy what ever might happen, and stop worring about things.

Thanks alot, I finally get it now.

Also, if you feel you are about to go over the edge, pull out and start fingering her at the same pace you were just working her with your cock. Not only does this save you, it will also help her get off. You can work her as fast as you want with your fingers without having to worry about cumming. Then just slip your cock in for a bit until you feel the urge again and then switch out for your fingers. Then when she says she's going to cum just slip your cock back in a have at it!

 

[Llan2193]

When I masturbate I can get off in less than 5 min everytime. When I have sex it takes longer.
Even if you are really going at it, you are not going to be as fast as your hand. Plus the condom, plus you are going to start slow for her sake.
Don't worry about it. Just have fun!