How to make your husband more dominate?

[Dazychains]

New here. So Hello!

The title says it all. Any tips or suggestions?

I have discovered that being forced to suck my husband cock is a major turn on for me. Just thinking about it turns me on. This has led me to the next phase of thoughts or fantasy. If that is what you want to call it.

I would love to have a more sexually dominant husband. Nothing turns me on more than him putting his cock in my mouth and forcing it down my throat. Holding the back of my head and pushing himself further and further in. I want more!

I would also love to share him with another woman. Suck his cock together, guide him into her, finger her pussy while he is fucking her. I am actively seeking this scenario and he is fine with me doing so.

He is more reserved than I am, so it is up to me to work this out. It is a huge turn on to think about seeing him fuck another woman right in front of me. Just thinking about another woman sitting next to us at a bar, rubbing his thighs and cock through his pants, making him rock hard, excites me.

My ultimate goal or fantasy (as it likely will not happen) is to have my husband force me to suck his friends cocks and fully service them until they are all pleased. (with my consent of course)..... not likely to happen. But a girl can dream.

Any ideas or tips on how to get a spouse to become more dominant and enjoy it?

What else could I do to give him the rewards/encouragement for being more dominant?

 

[subwannabe]

Print out some LIT stories and have him read them. Communication is the key and the fear of it seems to be what is most limiting. What are your approximate ages? How long have you been married? Can you describe your sex life so far?

 

[peebudy]

I'm not sure you can make someone more dominant...they either are or they aren't, and the way you describe
things, your hubby doesn't sound up to the challenge.

The mere fact that this is your idea and not his kind of underscores that fact.

 

[amofiga]

The first thing to do about making your husband more dominant is to let him know you like it. In today's world, all you hear about is making men "more sensitive" and horror stories about physical and emotional abuse. I whole heartedly agree that men should not abuse women. However, a certain level of dominance can be a sexual turn on for both. Unfortunately, many men tend to be afraid of crossing the line and don't want to cause a problem in a relationship. It's important to discuss what you mean by "dominant" and how far you are willing to let it go. If you like when your husband "forces you" to suck his cock (and obviously he isn't really "forcing" you if you like it) then you need to let him know. "Sweetie, I really like it when you get all caveman on me and fuck my mouth like you really need it. Don't be afraid to demand that I do stuff like that. It makes me feel really hot and erotic. How do you feel about me being more submissive like that?" If he has any tendency to want to feel more like a cowboy and less like a paper pusher, he'll get the message. If he's the type that himself would rather be in more of the submissive role, it could be a problem, but talking it out could help. I had a lady friend who liked to switch roles with her bed partners. She was primary a sub, but now and then she liked to take charge and she could play the dom with equal enjoyment.

Good luck. But open communication about your needs is the only way you'll get what you need.

 

[klippert]

New here. So Hello!

The title says it all. Any tips or suggestions?

I have discovered that being forced to suck my husband cock is a major turn on for me. Just thinking about it turns me on. This has led me to the next phase of thoughts or fantasy. If that is what you want to call it.

I would love to have a more sexually dominant husband. Nothing turns me on more than him putting his cock in my mouth and forcing it down my throat. Holding the back of my head and pushing himself further and further in. I want more!

I would also love to share him with another woman. Suck his cock together, guide him into her, finger her pussy while he is fucking her. I am actively seeking this scenario and he is fine with me doing so.

He is more reserved than I am, so it is up to me to work this out. It is a huge turn on to think about seeing him fuck another woman right in front of me. Just thinking about another woman sitting next to us at a bar, rubbing his thighs and cock through his pants, making him rock hard, excites me.

My ultimate goal or fantasy (as it likely will not happen) is to have my husband force me to suck his friends cocks and fully service them until they are all pleased. (with my consent of course)..... not likely to happen. But a girl can dream.

Any ideas or tips on how to get a spouse to become more dominant and enjoy it?

What else could I do to give him the rewards/encouragement for being more dominant?

Tell him what you would like.... communication is key, We have at least two threads that have shown this. One is wondering how to get their spouse too open up about sexual fantasies. The other is now cuck...

 

[shesnotcheating]

I had intended to reply after reading the OP, but I don't think I can add anything to this.

The first thing to do about making your husband more dominant is to let him know you like it. In today's world, all you hear about is making men "more sensitive" and horror stories about physical and emotional abuse. I whole heartedly agree that men should not abuse women. However, a certain level of dominance can be a sexual turn on for both. Unfortunately, many men tend to be afraid of crossing the line and don't want to cause a problem in a relationship. It's important to discuss what you mean by "dominant" and how far you are willing to let it go. If you like when your husband "forces you" to suck his cock (and obviously he isn't really "forcing" you if you like it) then you need to let him know. "Sweetie, I really like it when you get all caveman on me and fuck my mouth like you really need it. Don't be afraid to demand that I do stuff like that. It makes me feel really hot and erotic. How do you feel about me being more submissive like that?" If he has any tendency to want to feel more like a cowboy and less like a paper pusher, he'll get the message. If he's the type that himself would rather be in more of the submissive role, it could be a problem, but talking it out could help. I had a lady friend who liked to switch roles with her bed partners. She was primary a sub, but now and then she liked to take charge and she could play the dom with equal enjoyment.

Good luck. But open communication about your needs is the only way you'll get what you need.

 

[NiceyJane123]

We must have the same husband... this is my fantasy as well. If you figure it out, I'd love to know how you did it!

 

[stockman35]

My girlfriend shows reluctance by playfully saying "no" or "please, not like that." It tells me to explore the idea further and increase the amount of aggression.

 

[danigrl84]

I'm not sure you can really "make" anyone more dominant or anything else for that matter. It seems he has it in him a little already as described by your oral sex....encourage it....talk, let him know how much it turns him on when he takes charge.
Good luck.

 

[Reading_is_Sexy]

Good luck! And if you find anything that seems to work for you, please inform the rest of us!

 

[footslut2u]

I am a male, and I had a girlfriend years back that liked being spanked and fingered over my knees to an orgasm.

When I was done, she had her juices running down her thighs!

Suggestion:

Maybe wear some sexy panties one day, put yourself over his knees, cheeks up, panties down just enough to expose your butt cleavage and say in a real seductive baby doll voice, "I've been a bad girl today, and I deserve to be spanked for fingering myself when you weren't around."

Afterwards, get on your knees, look him in the eye and ask, "May I please suck your cock to apologize?"

Tip: When sucking, gaze upwards into his eyes very submissively, that alone is enough to make me blow my wad!

 

[blonde_duchess]

You can take little steps, each one hotter & further than the next.
But first thing is to be open with him & tell him it makes you crazy hot when he "forces" you to suckhim off, whatever you want to happen. discuss this while he is hot, while in bed, etc. also you can suggest roleplays such as cop dr nurse headmaster student cheerleader whatever could be a dominate over you and you playing as something that will turn him on. costumes or special lingerie help to add to the play...
good luck!!

 

[Reading_is_Sexy]

Also, I have found that sharing a couple of the stories that I enjoy on here can help get the point across. My hubby knows that I read the stories, so one night I found one that described in detail things I would like... and I told him about it, and how hot it made me, and asked him to read it. I let him read it on his own so it wasn't awkward and the next time we had sex, I noticed a few new tricks!