How to teach a male virgin

[MacStudent]

Hey everyone. Iam new here a friend told me to check out this site and that you guys may have some help for me. I have recently started seeing a new man. He is perfect in almost every way. The only problem is he is a virgin. which is really not a problem at all but he has decieded that he no longer wants to be a virgin and that he wants me to be his first. He wants me to teach him the ticks of the trade. the problem is I am not completely confindent with sex myself. I have had lots of experience with it, but the control was mostly in the hands of the man. So I am nervous about what to do and how to "help" him. any suggestion?
thanks LJ

 

[TumbledLove]

Ram a huge dildo up his ass and tell him it's foreplay.

 

[Kissophile]

Don't think of it as teaching at all.

Instead, think of it as exploring each other and learning about each other through the medium of sex. Your role is not that of teacher but simply to make sure you're both comfortable.

If you focus on discovering each other and finding ways to please each other you will discover great pleasure - far greater than if you concentrate on mechanics and if Tab A is going into Slot B properly. Forget the mechanics and just enjoy yourselves.

 

[Ansi]

Wha.....?

Tab A? Slot B?



...DAMN!

Of course...THAT'S why it wouldn't work! Geez, no wonder...I kept putting it in her ear!

Man, why couldn't they have written the damn manual in English?

 

[dollface007]

This actually sounds like a fun little situation to me. But maybe that's just me Anyways, don't put so much pressure on yourself. If he wanted somebody that was way way way experienced with sex, he would have gone to a seasoned hooker. Maybe you could look at this as your opportunity to explore your dominant side (you probably do have one, even if it's teeny weeny). Who knows, he might find that he likes to be more dominant once he get's the hang of things, but really, there's not much to tell him, right? Playing out this situation mentally, I think you'll basically need to direct him to all the right spots, tell him what feels good, and help him practice using a condom. No sweat, right?

 

[CodeRed316]

former de-virginized male

Speaking from my own experience, my girlfriend was amazing with me when she and I first......consumated our relationship. She was loving and tender, and while the first time was short and sweet to say the least, we were at it again a few minutes later, and that one was unforgettable. If you want this guy to do a little research before hand, tell him to try some porn. It's worked wonders for me

 

[Bridget69]

I don't think sex comes with a specific plan. Just have fun and explore each other and discover what you like. If you start with expectations, you probably won't have a good time.

 

[Volz]

Everyone is a virgin!

Everyone is a virgin their first time with someone new in my opinion. He is not going to be like your previous lovers and like everything you did to them. And it's going to be different for you too. You may like for him to do certain things that you didn't like previous lovers to do.

Just have fun exploring each other's bodies for the first time and finding what feels good for each other. Communication is key and so is an open mind. And lots of lube!



Volz

 

[Ansi]

Ram a huge dildo up his ass and tell him it's foreplay.

If that's foreplay, I can't wait until she actually has *sex* with me!

Everyone is a virgin their first time with someone new in my opinion.

That's a great POV to have regarding sex and love. Preconceptions (even good ones) can easily destroy an otherwise wonderful relationship if allowed to run rampant. Treat each new person like they're your first, and you're bound to make things better for both of you.

 

[Bobmi357]

Well I suppose you could slip into the Teacher/Student role with flash cards showing little stick figures, pop quizes and a final exam. But if humor isn't your schtick and I honestly don't recommend it in this scenario, you could just go slow and let him explore your body with your guidance.

If its truly his first time, he's gonna blow like mount st. helens at the first sight of a pubic hair. Your reaction to that will set the tone to the rest of the evening and probably for the rest of your relationship. The smart move would be to start him off with a blow/hand job to calm him down. Once the initial storm surge is passed, you'll be able to show him the more pleasureable aspects like going down on YOU, and yes guys, this is a clitoris, treat it gently unless you like peeling your women off the ceiling.

This isn't rocket science. Just take it slow, be understanding and be patient and you'll do fine.

 

[Vixandra]

Remember, even virgins can teach experianced lovers new tricks.
Heaven knows I taught my first a few things, even though he was experianced.


Tell him what you like and have him do the same. Keep the mood light and fun, not serious and demanding and things should be fine.

 

[taolanes]

This actually sounds like a fun little situation to me....Maybe you could look at this as your opportunity to explore your dominant side (you probably do have one, even if it's teeny weeny).

exactly what i was thinking