Ok, so I have wanted to fuck this one guy for the longest time...he's a good friend now and it just...happened. The only problem is now that I've done it with him I don't want it anymore. I feel like such a guy, but I want to know what the hell to say to him....I'm just not attracted to him like that anymore, but we've been talking about it and hinting around for months. It finally happens and I don't want it anymore and he's making plans for future occurances....
How to tell a guy....
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M's girl said:
We've always JUST been friends, but I found out lately that he's wanted me for a long time. The plans he's making are more along the lines of lust. And we HAVE had a conversation that if anything ever happened it would be purely sexual and if feelings were to ever get involved he would tell me or I him and we would stop. But this morning I had to take him something and he kissed me and looked at me like...all puppy dogish. LOL
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I've actually done the exact same thing, but I went the stupid route and strung the girl in question along for two or three weeks before she cottoned on to the fact I didn't like her that way anymore. She was ashamed and embarrassed and the whole thing was a bit of a mess. Far better to tell him now so he doesn't get his hopes up.
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Yeah, but sexually or for more?Goddess83 said:
So.... just tell him. Tell him maybe you are afraid that if you continue to sleep together it will ruin your friendship. That both your curiousities are cured as far as you can see and that you want to go back to being just friends. When you've talked about this several times before he can't say he did not know.....
I don't know... there IS this extended intimacy at the moment of course. It will pass and go back to normal. If he is a really good friend I don't think you would appreciate the cold shoulder instead? It's hard to figure out how to behave exactly when a long time friendship suddenly has become something different; no matter what happens after that. I would just tell him something like "Do you remember how we always talked about staying friends whatever would happen....?" etcetera.
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I say tell him right away, but if you're anything like me... as soon as it's off limits, you'll be wanting to again. 
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Goddess83 said:
First of all, tell him immediately, in no uncertain terms that you are not attracted to him any more. I mean, that's going to be very harsh. He will be hurt, but he'll get over it.
I would suggest that you agree not to see each other for a specified period of time. Personally, if this happened to me, I'd tell the person I didn't want to see them for six months. This would give both of you time to move on, and hopefully dispense with any remaining sexual tension/awkwardness.
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You should in all conscience tell him and put him out of his misery.
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Don't be surprised if you lose him as a friend. In spite of your previous talk he may feel used...just as a woman would feel used if the reverse were true. He may not feel comfortable in your presence anymore...especially if you like to flirt while around him or with him again. He will always wonder why? Unless he is a player himself...then probably all will be fine.
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Don't be surprised if you lose him as a friend. In spite of your previous talk he may feel used...just as a woman would feel used if the reverse were true. He may not feel comfortable in your presence anymore...especially if you like to flirt while around him or with him again. He will always wonder why? Unless he is a player himself...then probably all will be fine.
naamplao said:
Yeah see, that's the thing. I'm thinking "how would I feel if he was to do this to me?" I would feel HORRIBLE, used, no good...etc. So that's why I'm hesitant to say anything just yet. He's not really a player. I think if the circumstances were diffrent he might actually have feelings for me. I don't want to let it drag out, but I also don't want to lose a friend just yet.
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Goddess83 said:
I think there is more to this than you are letting on here. I found this thread by you from a few months ago
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=472974&page=1&pp=25
Is this the same guy???
If so you should definately tell him, break it off and get your life back in order.
Otherwise you are headed for more problems down the road. You have an excuse...you are married...he should understand.
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What made you change your mind? I am intensely curious.
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I once had this girl really grooving on me short of getting naked and raping me. Only I wanted nothing to do with her, so I told her I had the clap; she went away and never bothered me again.
So just tell them you've got the clap
So just tell them you've got the clap
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