How you became bisexual

[liqueur]

Since I didn’t have much of a chance getting those met by a woman, I lowered my standards and took what I could reasonably get.

Glad to know I meet your lowered standards.

 

[shewantsmore]

Someone said you dont become bisexual or gay/ lesbian you discover your true self,i was always more comfortable around other women and from a early on i had dreams fantasies involving other women and would be more aroused too, , long story short a close friend opened my eyes to what i was missing, you could say she seduced me but it didnt take much.
I still love enjoy being married and enjoy sex with men but i couldn't be without the touch of another woman

 

[KinkStevens]

Great reply Liqueur!

I have posted here many times, and with Great Respect to the mods, I will keep it within the lines...

I started "early" with several neighborhood 'guys' Started at a summer campout in the backyard with maybe 7-8 of us. After playing around a bit, we all got involved in some form of M2M contact; some jerking and a few sucking. When our education restarted in September we continued our adventures in my finished basement late afternoons. Soon I because the group's cocksucker, and I was a happy man! At this point I had not even seen a girl's tits in person, never mind had any sexual contact with the opposite sex. Yes a few of them stole 'Girly Magazines' from their older brothers and we enjoyed looking at the photos, but for me to have one of my buds with the centerfold opened while his cock was deep in my mouth was such a turn on for me!!! Back then when I sucked cock I was always Rock Hard!!! (Today at 67 not so much).

One afternoon one of my buds older brothers stopped by right before dinner time. He said his little brother told him that I was a pretty cock cocksucker and maybe I would like to give him a test ride. I told him my Mom would be home soon, so he better cum quick. I sucked him for maybe 4-5 minutes and he said his sweet load was too good to waste on my pretty little mouth, so he pulled me to my feet, pushed and bent over the pool table, dropped my shorts, and slowly worked his still wet cock into my ass. It hurt like hell for a few minutes until I adjusted, and just then I heard my Mom come home and call downstairs that she was home.

I replied that we were starting up a new game of pool, so I will be upstairs in a little bit. She acknowledged and went upon her business of getting dinner ready.

To my "buddy" this signaled that he had 15-20 minutes to fully enjoy my ass, and wow did he take advantage of that time. He plowed me over the pool table for a bit, then moved us to one of the couches. He fed me his cock directly from my ass to get it wet again, and then placed me bent over on my knees and went to town fucking me doggy style. Finally he tired of that position and after feeding his cock into my mouth once again, he laid me down on my back and mounted me missionary. He said he wanted to look at my face and into my eyes as he filled my ass with his cum.

With my legs held high over my head, he pounded my ass relentlessly until he could hold out no longer. Finally he held his face close to mine and looking right into my eyes he filled my ass with 'buckets' of cum like a healthy 18 year old guy typically produces!

This was the start of my journey of becoming a total bottom, a position I am damm proud of!!!

Sexy story!

I don’t subscribe to the idea of being born bi. I had a ‘unique’ experience early on that led me to a world of kinky things. Over the years it led me to tgirls. Then I began to share some of these things with female fwb. Exploring with them opened me up to more blatantly bi interests

 

[DickandDoof]

So hotso hot. I’d love to see you caressing and being caressed by another woman.

 

[JackWilson0715]

Glad to know I meet your lowered standards.

Just because they are lower doesn’t mean you meet them, smartass

 

[shemyezza]

I became bisexual when dressed for a fancy dress party as a maid ( cliche or what ) the first time I felt a hand slowly slide up my stockings and try to work its way under my panties and then the guy said I really want to fuck you and used my real name ,From that monent on all I wanted was more of the same and to be treated as a proper sub by a dom with a hard cock

https://ibb.co/QFd2Cjx5

 

[ChasBozwell30]

What clinched it?
A prostate massage that was EARTH SHATTERING

Kind of similar for me. I was always curious, always open minded, but I explored anal play with a girl friend, and the pleasure was insane. Opened my mind to a lot of new things, and I've simply never looked back...

 

[jjfish3231]

Me too. I was 14 at the time...

Would love to hear about your experience at 14

 

[Travler99921]

I really don't know how it happened. Having sex with a man just confirmed it.

 

[Persuademe]

I became bisexual when dressed for a fancy dress party as a maid ( cliche or what ) the first time I felt a hand slowly slide up my stockings and try to work its way under my panties and then the guy said I really want to fuck you and used my real name ,From that monent on all I wanted was more of the same and to be treated as a proper sub by a dom with a hard cock

https://ibb.co/QFd2Cjx5

Ooooolala

 

[dodgeboy2]

I became bisexual when dressed for a fancy dress party as a maid ( cliche or what ) the first time I felt a hand slowly slide up my stockings and try to work its way under my panties and then the guy said I really want to fuck you and used my real name ,From that monent on all I wanted was more of the same and to be treated as a proper sub by a dom with a hard cock

https://ibb.co/QFd2Cjx5

Oh my what a wonderous view, so very tempting & lovely!

 

[CD_Bree]

I think I always knew I am bi. I just didn't act on it until my late 20's. I look at a hot guy the same as I look at a hot woman! I would do them both or should say... let him do me. So sexy!

 

[J1biboi]

I waited until marriage for any sexual behavior. My wife is content to remain sexless from now on, so I started exploring options to get my needs met. Since I didn’t have much of a chance getting those met by a woman, I lowered my standards and took what I could reasonably get. Some might call this bi, some might say it’s opportunistic, I don’t really put a label on it, it’s just simply how it had to be to ever have the experience of getting a blowjob.

Men like you are in high demand!

 

[BriannaHope]

Would love to hear from others on how they became bisexual. I was straight (or thought I was) until my early sixties. I always had difficulty in maintaining an erection and ejaculating during intercourse and had to assist with my hand. When computer porn became widespread I was extremely excited watching trans porn, especially trans fucking guys. Maybe this was a tell tale sign.
I started visiting adult bookstores with gloryholes and progressed from voyeur, to having my dick sucked, to sucking cock myself, to swallowing cum, then to intercouse through the gloryhole and eventually at my home.
Love to hear from others and maybe masturbate together online jjfish3231@yahoo.com

I Started crossdressing as a teen after my mom went to work. Had the house full time to myself from the time I got home from school until she came home from her shift later that evening. Back then there was no internet, so I my source of information was from some magazines I scored for sources that to this day will remain unknown.
fast forward about 50 years, internet is in full swing, porn sites prevail showing the what, YouTube, showing the how, and offering a little brainwashing at the same time.
When I watched video is seemed the girls were getting a lot more pleasure out of the experience then guys, so I would imagine I was one of the girls while I was fapping away infront of the monitor. Thanks to online ordering and self check out counters at stores, I started to build up a wardrobe of my own. I got brave enough to start going out enfemme. One summer I met a guy at pridefest, we started hanging out after, the next thing we knew we evolved from friends to lovers and everything I used to imagine when fapping in my mom's clothes, was a thousand times better for real. And still is...wink

 

[BillyWalrus]

I Started crossdressing as a teen after my mom went to work. Had the house full time to myself from the time I got home from school until she came home from her shift later that evening. Back then there was no internet, so I my source of information was from some magazines I scored for sources that to this day will remain unknown.
fast forward about 50 years, internet is in full swing, porn sites prevail showing the what, YouTube, showing the how, and offering a little brainwashing at the same time.
When I watched video is seemed the girls were getting a lot more pleasure out of the experience then guys, so I would imagine I was one of the girls while I was fapping away infront of the monitor. Thanks to online ordering and self check out counters at stores, I started to build up a wardrobe of my own. I got brave enough to start going out enfemme. One summer I met a guy at pridefest, we started hanging out after, the next thing we knew we evolved from friends to lovers and everything I used to imagine when fapping in my mom's clothes, was a thousand times better for real. And still is...wink

Great story and an encouraging one. It's good to see that dreams CAN be realized.

 

[Vaslim74]

I was very closed minded when It came to sex when I was younger. My mind became more and more open to all things Sex and sexual has I got older. It was in my early 40 when I met an older couple on craigslist, I was looking for a couple to have a 3some with. This couple let me know that the husband was bi and if I was ok with it, and they said nothing has to happen between him and I! I figure I would just go with the flow and what happens happens. When I got there they made me feel very comfortable. The wife and I started making out, next that I know he was undoing my pants and taking my cock in his mouth and I was okay with it. Need list to stay I end up sucking and play with his cock a few time that night. Even let him finger my ass while I was fucking his wife. It was a great night indeed! I have a two more mfm like that for the most part, unfortunately its been to long since I have 3some like that.

 

[jchtlit]

I waited until marriage for any sexual behavior. My wife is content to remain sexless from now on, so I started exploring options to get my needs met. Since I didn’t have much of a chance getting those met by a woman, I lowered my standards and took what I could reasonably get. Some might call this bi, some might say it’s opportunistic, I don’t really put a label on it, it’s just simply how it had to be to ever have the experience of getting a blowjob.

There are many of us in the same situation.

 

[Scooter58]

There are a few posters on here that may have seen my comments on other similar threads so I don’t want to bore anyone….BUT..

I wandered onto Lit Forums just this year. Was searching around under Taboo/incest because I had experiences with my older brother when we were both young. He taught me a lot and I was seeking others with similar experiences. He ended up gay and I ended up straight but wanting to be bi. I wrote about my experiences in 6 installments in draft form (not published to Lit) and have shared them with anyone who wants to read them. I thought my story was kind of sexy but then ended up chatting with guys who had way more frequent, numerous and wilder M2M encounters as boys than me. Made my story seem super lame! I’m so envious of a lot of these guys. Anyway, I’m very open minded about bi/gay interactions. I think the term “bi-curious “ is a “safe” term that guys like to use outwardly that doesn’t sound too aggressive when what they really want is some get-down-to-business sucking and fucking of cocks. I think we’re all a little (maybe a lot) gay interested.

I think about playing with cocks all the time!
I love reading the stories of “early” interactions between boys. The taboo nature is scintillating. I want to stroke one (other than my own) and suck one. Am very open minded and like messaging with like minded guys. I’ve always loved sex and exploring

 

[mikurt]

It all started with porn. A hot woman sucking a nice looking big cock got me very hot! I then realized I was also attracted to the cock, not just the woman. Then I noticed an older friend of a friend in college who was openly gay start looking at me differently and it gave me butterflies. Long story short (I actually wrote 2 stories about it here) he ended up finally sucking my cock and it was the best blow job of my young 19 or 20 year old life! I went back for more and more and more. It gave me the courage to experiment with more guys and do a little more. Now, it’s been a few years since a guy has sucked my cock and I’m craving it bad! 46 muscular & masculine wm here and love experienced cock worshipers servicing my cock but also very curious to try sucking one myself….

 

[BlueChamisa]

I’d like to push back (gently) on the idea that liking ass play means one is gay or bi. Not so!

I’m bi and love things up my asshole. But plenty of straight men love it, too.

As you were.

 

[Scooter58]

I’d like to push back (gently) on the idea that liking ass play means one is gay or bi. Not so!

I’m bi and love things up my asshole. But plenty of straight men love it, too.

As you were.

I definitely enjoy ass play. Love vibrating plugs! There’s a certain flex of the sphincter that’s almost involuntary, almost like you’re trying to expel something but with a contoured plug, when you flex it feels like it’s pulling the plug in deeper. I love that feeling!

 

[BlueChamisa]

I don't think anyone “becomes” bisexual. I think all bisexuals— maybe all people— are born that way. For some, it's a strong attraction from early on; for some it's a latent urge that they might get in touch with later in life, or some night when they're drink and their inhibitions are down, or (sadly) never at all.

So I suspect what you're really asking is “When did you realize you were bisexual?”

Myself, I lived a weird life of cognitive dissonance. I started having dreams and then fantasies about having homosexual acts “done to” at an age when I was, presumably, too young to even know what sex was. I made my own dildo and started using it as a preadolescent. By my second of third year of high school, I was masturbating to full-blown homosexual and bisexual fantasies all the time. And yet through it all, I told myself “Yeah, but that's just fantasy. That's not who I really am.”

The denial was mostly from ¹social conditioning. I grew up in a time and a place where engaging in homosexual activity not only put you at risk of becoming a pariah, but quite literally put your life at risk. Some of it came from ²religion. Even though my parents were atheists, I was quite curious about religion, and read the Bible a lot. Definitely, a lot of it came from my ³family. There was a lot of machismo there. My parents sensed early on that something was “not quite right” about me, and tried from an early age to stamp it out. My older brother was very much a man's man, and my mother loved him for it. I didn't understand why she withheld her love from me— except I think I did, on some not-quite conscious level.

So anyway, I denied myself any activity with men, despite overwhelming urges, through two marriages, until my 40s. It's no wonder, with all the frustration and depression, that I couldn't make a marriage stick. Starting in my late 40s, I finally began accepting and embracing who I really am, and I'm a whole different person now.

I know this is longer and maybe more serious than you wanted. But it's a classic example of bisexual urges always being there, and classic denial.

I'd like to push back a bit on the whole "born this way" explanation.

While I have no doubt that genetics (i.e. nature) partially explains one's sexuality, there remains no data establishing a clear link, and it's simply incomplete to assert that "nurture" has nothing to do with it.

Despite having been molested as a boy, I never played with other boys and never had an inkling of my bisexuality until I was 20, when I read a Penthouse Variations letter about a cocksucking cowboy that turned me on.

That was also the first time as an adult that I had seen another hard cock other than my own — in a black-and-white photo accompanying the story. I knew immediately that I was, at minimum, interested in sucking cock.

But I hid that fact from the world, and tried desperately to hide it from myself, until decades later when I decided to stop trying to be someone I thought others expected me to be.

I also happen to believe that "born this way" is both defensive and somewhat homophobic. Here's why: Insisting that all LGBT people are inevitably, genetically programmed to be who they are completely invalidates the idea that any person can choose how to express their sexuality, within the bounds of what they find interesting. Why would choosing to explore outside one's previous sexuality be a problem? It wouldn't; but the scolds and religious authoritarians would like us to think that it is.

I also am no fan of anyone who thinks it's their job to tell me what I think, what I feel, what my motivations are, who I am and what labels I "should" use. I am the sole proprietor of myself, and nobody is a mind reader.

As someone else noted, each human gets to explore their own sexuality, with or without labels, without regard to someone else's notion of what they "should" be, or who they "really" are. It's just fine if we're not "born that way," but eventually become interested and choose to explore.

Flatly declaring that all LGBT people ARE born with the precise map for the sexuality they now have is, in my opinion, both invalidating and potentially dangerous.

Though now that I think of it, hard determinists would say yes, one could ONLY be exactly as they are in this moment, because the placement and motion of each atom in the history of the universe was in PRECISELY that state, and no other. But that's a whole different discussion!

 

[bobb64]

I'd like to push back a bit on the whole "born this way" explanation.

While I have no doubt that genetics (i.e. nature) partially explains one's sexuality, there remains no data establishing a clear link, and it's simply incomplete to assert that "nurture" has nothing to do with it.

Despite having been molested as a boy, I never played with other boys and never had an inkling of my bisexuality until I was 20, when I read a Penthouse Variations letter about a cocksucking cowboy that turned me on.

That was also the first time as an adult that I had seen another hard cock other than my own — in a black-and-white photo accompanying the story. I knew immediately that I was, at minimum, interested in sucking cock.

But I hid that fact from the world, and tried desperately to hide it from myself, until decades later when I decided to stop trying to be someone I thought others expected me to be.

I also happen to believe that "born this way" is both defensive and somewhat homophobic. Here's why: Insisting that all LGBT people are inevitably, genetically programmed to be who they are completely invalidates the idea that any person can choose how to express their sexuality, within the bounds of what they find interesting. Why would choosing to explore outside one's previous sexuality be a problem? It wouldn't; but the scolds and religious authoritarians would like us to think that it is.

I also am no fan of anyone who thinks it's their job to tell me what I think, what I feel, what my motivations are, who I am and what labels I "should" use. I am the sole proprietor of myself, and nobody is a mind reader.

As someone else noted, each human gets to explore their own sexuality, with or without labels, without regard to someone else's notion of what they "should" be, or who they "really" are. It's just fine if we're not "born that way," but eventually become interested and choose to explore.

Flatly declaring that all LGBT people ARE born with the precise map for the sexuality they now have is, in my opinion, both invalidating and potentially dangerous.

Though now that I think of it, hard determinists would say yes, one could ONLY be exactly as they are in this moment, because the placement and motion of each atom in the history of the universe was in PRECISELY that state, and no other. But that's a whole different discussion!

i haven't seen anyone say all LGBT people were born that way i've seen some myself included say they were born that way.

 

[dodgeboy2]

i haven't seen anyone say all LGBT people were born that way i've seen some myself included say they were born that way.

I truly believe we are all born with some in us! But I honestly do believe you cannot make someone that way, it is how much of it is born into you, I think if we were to do deep real soul searching many so called straight people would think differently. I mean I do think that outside presences could have more of an effect of turning you away from your natural proclivities into living and trying to be straight than there are presences that make you turn from the so called straight life into bi or gay.

Hope that all made sense!

 

[EmmAgain]

I used to make out with other girls mainly to get attention from boys. It always felt very natural and arousing, and a few times things progressed beyond kissing - however tentatively - during silly party games.

This was in suburban Houston, TX, where there was a bit of stigma associated with same-sex fun. One of my first semi-casual boyfriends (once I’d actually started having sex) was a bit older and pretty wild, and he brought in other girls.

So girl-girl stuff was a regular part of my sex life - but only in the context of threeways with a boy involved there somewhere. Even if said boy was snoring upstairs, as long as he was nominally part of it, it was cool to get busy with another girl as, you know, we weren’t lezzos or anything.

About a year after that, I finally embraced bisexuality and started getting busy with other girls without the permission of any nearby cock.