Husbands denial

[pntyhseluvr]

I 100% couldn't disagree more.

Not saying she hasn't lost her sex drive, but have you lost the early years "attention" you gave her?

We have a standard, day-to-day marriage until his cock is locked up. He's not even the same person with it on and the attention he gives me and seeing him edging for DAYS has me wetter than I ever was growing up!

Life gets in the way, don't blame her for lack of sex drive when it may be deeper than that. Try it for a couple days, if it doesn't help you please her and add touching throughout the day your not really out anything!

She lost her sex drive almost completely to chemo.

 

[95sunsets]

She lost her sex drive almost completely to chemo.

I'm sorry to hear and really have no insight on that... But from a woman's perspective added attention never hurts even if you do it just to show your affection for her still once you get release from the cage you can still treat yourself to more well deserved "sessions."

 

[9to5]

So far at least us three think its a wonderful idea to post-pone his release...!!

Imagine my update to him "Sorry love, the internet agrees I should extend your time.."

stay a little longer lock like us on the internet

 

[ZenDiver]

stay a little longer lock like us on the internet

Agreed. Keep him locked until you’re home and able to get the full benefit of his frustration. It doesn’t sound like he’s really all that upset! And after all, it’s not really your fault that your plans are up in the air at the moment. Just part of what he signed up for when you put the cage on him.

I really like the line that you said earlier in this thread, about why waste his cum if you’re not there. I think that if you say more things like that and more frequently, it will make him even crazier as maybe another layer of denial. Maybe, give him a reason to be embarrassed for leaking. Like, why is he wasting so much of your pre-cum?

 

[KinkyCouple84]

Last night was a turn in events... Part of the project that was supposed to be completed in 5 days fell apart and were currently working on schedule to see if I just stay longer or what to do!!

Late last night when I informed my husband (I'm supposed to fly out in a couple hours) about it he sent me a picture of his cage and cock squeezing so tight I said well what's a few added days of denial and in his voice I could tell he didn't like that comment but also I think did...

We weren't in a rush so I started asking how he was doing, sleeping... dripping... etc...(basically making sure he's not in any pain)because it got me thinking once I hear back on if I'm staying or flying home should I add days to the timer so when I get there he still has two days of being caged or just let the timer run out without me home.... I know how horny he is right now, and when I mentioned what's a few more days he said while he's almost out of his mind thinking of release he just wants to please me...

Thoughts... Add more days from my phone or just let timer run out??!!

We'd suggest letting it get down under 24hrs then add one more day. Then again let it almost run down, and add another day.

The mindf**k of thinking each day will be the last will drive him wild.

Then when you are on the drive/plane home... add a couple of extra days, like you had originally.

 

[95sunsets]

Work sucks! I had to extend my stay 5 more days!

I called my husband and you could hear horny frustration in his voice as I know when he's going through days of being locked all he can think about is feeling how wet I am and the only satisfaction he gets is listening and watching my orgasms and now he cant even get that!

Never once did he mention the timer box or the possibility of adding more time to it. I did check in though and make sure he's not in pain or anything and besides the obvious ball pain from not being able to release he said he's good and cant wait to see me....
So, that brought about my "evil" or in my point genius idea...

After I let him use the massager I made sure after he washed it he set it back on the top of the timer box, that way I know if he goes into get the massager for me to play he has to check the remaining time, or if he goes in to check the remaining time he cant help but think of me having control of his cock and his prostate!

The app on my phone has the clock to I can watch it closely before adding time. The timer is set to open tonight and since he ( on purpose didn't mention it on the call) I am planning on calling him and playing again with the massager tonight like an hour before it times out.

After he says it's on and in rather than going straight into controlling it I'm going to add the five days to the timer. As i watch him drip and squirm on the call after I reach orgasm I'm going to shut off the massager and simply say "Your going to wish you came" and hang up!

I can't imagine his face after he washes everything up and heads back to return the massager onto the timer box thinking he has like no time to wait and can release himself yet he's going to see ANOTHER 5 days!!!

I feel so cruel yet he didn't express any "issues" so what's a few more days to save up my cum!

Now to decide if I should add more time while he's on his way to pick me up from the airport so I actually get all the added attention rather than him just exploding right away when I get home... Since while he's been denied the ability to orgasm he hasn't really been "let down" while I get to orgasm and he just has to suffer laying next to me knowing I got to release and satisfied...

Do you guys think I deserve a few days "extra" added to the timer or let him go? This will have been by far the longest lock down we've done, but since we're away from each other I don't think it really counts like normal... Thoughts?

 

[9to5]

cruel yes but he should only orgasm in your presence
I bet he's not sure at all no matter what that clock says.
your both doing great

 

[9to5]

he should give you orgasm in person when you get back and then maybe the next day, but ask him if he deserves it

 

[95sunsets]

Maybe while I wait to board the plane I can call and ask if he deserves it, so he can go into detail about what he will do to me once it's off and beg for a release. That way my time waiting at the airport goes by faster as I build anticipation and get horny myself before the flight!!

 

[9to5]

thats a great idea, both of you working up and getting horny for each other.
ask what how he plans to serve you when you get to the car and at home.
and your still thinking about his release date

 

[ZenDiver]

thats a great idea, both of you working up and getting horny for each other.
ask what how he plans to serve you when you get to the car and at home.
and your still thinking about his release date

Have you told him you’ve been keeping your Lit friends advised of his predicament? I was just thinking you could let us know what he’s promising when you get home, and tell him your friends will also pass judgement on whether it’s enough to earn him a release, or just more time in the cage.

 

[9to5]

Have you told him you’ve been keeping your Lit friends advised of his predicament? I was just thinking you could let us know what he’s promising when you get home, and tell him your friends will also pass judgement on whether it’s enough to earn him a release, or just more time in the cage.

I do hope she lets us know what she does with him and keep him guessing

 

[NancyPan]

I just saw this thread for the first time today. I am a sub sissy husband in an FLR. Although I am not in a chastity device, my orgasms are strictly managed. I am allowed to cum about once every 3-6 weeks. As of today it has been about 5 weeks. We are on the honor system, no chastity device. My Wife knows if I disobey. On the very few occasions that I did, the punishment was severe.

So, my perspective may be different from those who are locked. IMO, you should reward your husband by giving him his release. Part of my obedience is trusting that Mistress will reward me and will keep Her promises. To me, making his spurt a “big deal” is your way of showing that your are an understanding Domme. However, I’d encourage you to make his spurt as humiliating as possible, and/or make it a ruined orgasm (for example, restrain him, give a stop and start handjob, tease and denial, then pull your hand away when he starts to spurt, OR make him masturbate in front of you while he tells you how much he missed you.

After he recovers and gets hard again, you could allow him to have PIV sex for your satisfaction, but do not allow him to spurt again.

But, be merciful and let him spurt. Your power as a Domme will be enhanced by his knowing that you will reward him.

 

[95sunsets]

I did as I said I would as "mid-massage" added the time and hung up. What I wasn't prepared for was the out of line text i got!

I thought I covered my part and asked how he was doing, mentioned playfully maybe adding more time and he never mentioned being opposed to it.

Now I'm possibly just over analyzing as I really wouldn't expect a "whoo hooo I want to be denied for another 5 days" but I figure in a day or two I'll reach out and check on him if he hasn't gotten back to me by then just to give him some time...

I'm hoping he cools down (not excitement level though) and I still have our "talk" while I wait at the airport.. Which has me wondering do I just take the Wife role and even if he's back into it let him release that night I get home or play the "Dom" role and possibly add the two days or at least a ruined orgasm...

This stuff has a lot of decisions!

 

[9to5]

I just hope he is not mad about more time. but for me no there is no jumping up and down saying yes yes yes, its just yes this is what you want of me. im ok with it. I hope that is what he thinks.

but after all your in charge, so 2 more days is good, ruin is up to you but as one who is also locked a full orgasm would make it all worth while to be caged for you. I hope it gets one

 

[95sunsets]

That's how I feel to as while I'm thinking "yes, yes, yes more pleasure" I completely understand where the thrill wouldn't be mutual to that same extent.

I am thinking If I don't add the two days I'm actually "rewarding" his response rather than still being in control of it and not letting some whining alter my plans.. I do think after he has been caged a ruined orgasm would be just cruel at this point and a waste.

He deserves a major, rememberable release to not begin thinking it's no longer worth it. I would expect after the fact he won't have much attitude or hesitation to continue our roles. Just got to deny him until then!

 

[9to5]

a full release will let him know its still good and will be worth it to be locked back up for you. the reward for being caged and I hope it excites him to give you your orgasm.
a little edging before full release might be fun and just to get him to beg more for it. He just might promise your what ever you want to get to cum
I love edging!!

 

[ZenDiver]

I did as I said I would as "mid-massage" added the time and hung up. What I wasn't prepared for was the out of line text i got!

I thought I covered my part and asked how he was doing, mentioned playfully maybe adding more time and he never mentioned being opposed to it.

Now I'm possibly just over analyzing as I really wouldn't expect a "whoo hooo I want to be denied for another 5 days" but I figure in a day or two I'll reach out and check on him if he hasn't gotten back to me by then just to give him some time...

I'm hoping he cools down (not excitement level though) and I still have our "talk" while I wait at the airport.. Which has me wondering do I just take the Wife role and even if he's back into it let him release that night I get home or play the "Dom" role and possibly add the two days or at least a ruined orgasm...

This stuff has a lot

That's how I feel to as while I'm thinking "yes, yes, yes more pleasure" I completely understand where the thrill wouldn't be mutual to that same extent.

I am thinking If I don't add the two days I'm actually "rewarding" his response rather than still being in control of it and not letting some whining alter my plans.. I do think after he has been caged a ruined orgasm would be just cruel at this point and a waste.

He deserves a major, rememberable release to not begin thinking it's no longer worth it. I would expect after the fact he won't have much attitude or hesitation to continue our roles. Just got to deny him until then!

So, I haven’t been caged or denied to this extent; these are mostly just fantasies for me (although I’d love to have the opportunity to try!).

That said, Im curious as to what his text said, exactly. Was it so out of line that he should be punished for disrespecting his Goddess? If so, then add on the extra days with that as the reason. Otherwise I think you might be better off limiting the unexpected plan changes. Not that you can’t deny him for a long time, but perhaps establish how long through a game (dice rolls, etc) and stick to that. Just to give him some hope. Just don’t keep moving the goal posts.

This situation is complicated by his complaining, so maybe you could give him a choice: shorter time caged with a ruin, or go for a longer time but be rewarded with a full orgasm - or the chance to finish inside you.

 

[95sunsets]

Giving him that choice is hot!

 

[emme8]

This situation is complicated by his complaining, so maybe you could give him a choice: shorter time caged with a ruin, or go for a longer time but be rewarded with a full orgasm - or the chance to finish inside you.

I like giving him the choice.

Since you are so new at this you may ask him if he needs to "Safeword" out.

 

[NancyPan]

I also like the choice: If he waits, he can cum by fucking. If he feels he needs to spurt right away, it must be in some humiliating fashion — either a ruined orgasm or he kneels in front of your exposed pussy after he orally satisfies you and jerks off like a teenager.

 

[ZenDiver]

I also like the choice: If he waits, he can cum by fucking. If he feels he needs to spurt right away, it must be in some humiliating fashion — either a ruined orgasm or he kneels in front of your exposed pussy after he orally satisfies you and jerks off like a teenager.

Agree with the humiliation part as it may make him more willing to let you make decisions for him. Idea: if he wants to wait, full orgasm inside you. If not, he needs to satisfy you with his mouth (a given!), and after have him upside down - lower legs/feet on the bed, couch or coffee table and his shoulders on the floor. Allow him one hand and 60 seconds to jerk off while he’s looking up at his cock.

Then back in the cage and he has to clean himself up while you watch.

 

[NancyPan]

Agree with the humiliation part as it may make him more willing to let you make decisions for him. Idea: if he wants to wait, full orgasm inside you. If not, he needs to satisfy you with his mouth (a given!), and after have him upside down - lower legs/feet on the bed, couch or coffee table and his shoulders on the floor. Allow him one hand and 60 seconds to jerk off while he’s looking up at his cock.

Then back in the cage and he has to clean himself up while you watch.

IMO, This is too much too soon. From what I have read here, this couple is at the very beginning of both their chastity journey and Her Dominance. One step at a time. Better to coax him into dependent submission, and not go too fast.

There is a difference between the fantasy of outside observers and real-life relationships.

 

[ZenDiver]

noted. I should probably have a disclaimer at the start of all my posts. I’ve thought that this thread and 95sunsets’ experiences would make a great story submission, and I admit to getting a little carried away with melding this with other stories I’ve read on Lit.

I’m happy to sit quietly in a corner and watch this unfold.

 

[95sunsets]

All very good ideas! So excited to make up some decisions and finally get home!