i can't get over her

[Honeysucklevine]

deeper than the girl

It does sound like this dilemma you have goes far beyond the scope of our readers. This situation is much more than "getting over a lost love". It is about something else much deeper and you are needing some good advice. Find a regular physician and get a list of some good psych doctors to contact before this gets out of hand. If that doesn't sound like what you want, there are some good folks at ---WEB MD.com--- that have some excellent advice on this topic of cutting. There is also a licensed physician on line to answer any immediate "need to know now" questions. It's time for you to move on and be happy again sweetie!

 

[wicked woman]

Re: deeper than the girl

Originally posted by Honeysucklevine
It does sound like this dilemma you have goes far beyond the scope of our readers. This situation is much more than "getting over a lost love". It is about something else much deeper and you are needing some good advice. Find a regular physician and get a list of some good psych doctors to contact before this gets out of hand. If that doesn't sound like what you want, there are some good folks at ---WEB MD.com--- that have some excellent advice on this topic of cutting. There is also a licensed physician on line to answer any immediate "need to know now" questions. It's time for you to move on and be happy again sweetie!

This is good advice...listen to it. If you're cutting yourself it's a cry for help...please get some.

 

[English Lady]

Yes hockeyfan..it seems you're doing more than just missing an ex....see your GP and get yourself some help. it's out there and you might as well use it. *hugs* let us know how you go on....

 

[Kissophile]

Thank you all for your advice. ALthough I agree with many of your words of wisdom, for some reason I am just completely unable to do what you say I should. I have tried to get rid of the pictures, but then I just go back and get them. I try to force myself to stop, but I just haven't been able to. On a somewhat related subject to this, I've been cutting myself for the past... uh.... probably 10 months. It's nothing serious, no real damage, not that much blood, and it heals pretty quickly, but I know I shouldn't be doing it. I just don't know how to stop any of this. My friends yell at me if they see it, but I just don't care. What should I do if I can't force myself to stop? To stop any of it?

You have taken the first small step by admitting this in a slightly public way. Now take the second step and find a competent and non-judgmental counselor to work with. If you are interested in stopping the cutting, you can. It's as simple and as difficult as that.

But it's not something anyone is ever likely to be able to do alone. We're just not built that way. Think of it this way: we need a professional mechanic to help adjust parts we just can't reach in order to change this kind of behavior.

 

[Guest]

Dude, if you have started "cutting" because of this you really need to look into getting some professional counseling. It's one thing to be hard to let go, it's another to start self-mutilation over it, regardless of how minor you may think it is. It's not normal on any scale.

 

[fgarvb1]

If I recall most cutters as well as burners do so because they numb out and want to "feel something" of maybe from some supposed guilt.

When one comes to the summation of your postings the thought that you could tremendously benefit from some professional help as well as at least two support groups can not be denied.

For you, your future... do it.

 

[TiltedHalo2805]

Brian, you need to see a psychologist. Don't make me feel so bad.

 

[hockeyfan04]

Well I'm sorry. I didn't mean to make YOU feel so fucking bad.

 

[TiltedHalo2805]

Let's be nice. If you'd like to yell at me, you know my screen name.

 

[Honeysucklevine]

Now, now boys.

If I may interject here, it's very easy to misunderstand one's mood when expressing one's self in written form. Maybe a few smilies are in order to let people know that the sarcasm is meant to be taken lightly. Women are certainly, on average, better at this. That is just my opinion.

 

[hockeyfan04]

In response to the, Now, Now boys comment; I would just like to share with everyone that Tiltedhalo2805 is the person that this entire thread is about. This thread wasn't for you christine, it was for me, so your writing is unnecessary. I would like to say I'm sorry to everyone for having that interruption in the thread, but reading what she wrote did not make me feel any better.

 

[SweetErika]

Christine, Brian needs help. I seriously doubt the purpose of this thread was to make you feel bad. He also needs to make a clean break and get on with his life, so stop talking to him.

Brian, you need help from a professional. And you need to start fresh without Christine. We're all happy to have you, but perhaps you could put eachother on ignore so you can coexist peacefully here and keep your sanity.

 

[English Lady]

I think Erika's suggestion is a very good one

 

[jacuzzigal]

Re: Re: i can't get over her

Well for starters stop doing this:

Just stop it! How do you expect to forget her and move on if you're still living in the past?

ww, i LOVE practical advise. you go girl!

 

[sartana]

Its posts like this that make me realize my life could be worse than it is.Here I am feeling lonely as hell and feeling jealous every time I see an attractive woman with a guy but I guess I shouldn't complain as it's my own fault for having such low self esteem.
I have only been in love once in my life.I used to lie awake in my bed and after praying I would become angry and ask God(no ,not out loud),
"Why did I have such feelings for a person who obviously didn't have the same feelings for me?Dammit!I just want to be loved,same as everyone else."And this was more than 8 years after I last saw her!I finally stopped feeling sorry for myself.I was once told by an old friend that there is someone out there for each of us.I really didn't agree with her at the time but I believe it now more than ever.And I do belive that there is someone for you.You will meet her someday.Hang in there,you'll be OK.

 

[eggyweggy]

Dude!

Hey, we can all feel your hurt man. From your posts dude, it feels like your brain is running around in circles. Here's why. You are hanging around the wrong places and asking yourself the wrong questions:

Why can't I move on? Why can't I finally get on with my life and meet someone?

NoNoNoNoNo. "What adventure am I going to have next" "How can I live my life to the fullest" ""How can I meet someone new" "Why am I so fucking good" "Why am I having so much fun" "How can I feel more confident and independent" "Why are chicks always thinking about sex, I just want to talk" "Is this chick up to my standards?" Ask yourself positive questions, no negatives. I'd also give up or destory anything that reminds you of her, including this board. Just leave it. It aint that good anyway, and it gives you the wrong feelings. Besides, you got College chicks and study to do! No time for some fake internet chatboard drama or some little girl who lost out on the million dollar gift of you. You have got your own life now.

I'd also COMMIT to learning or doing whatever it takes to get your own self-confidence and manhood back. You don't need any chick or anyone to validate you. You are HockeyFan fucking 04. Go learn and find that out for yourself.

Man, you are responsible for your own thoughts, emotions and actions. All of this is up to you, if you can take the challenge.

 

[Lust Engine]

It never hurts to seek professional help.

Why delay? Ask them for some advice and see where it goes from there.

From the sounds of it, there isn't much we as the general public can do from here.