I find myself

[rosylady]

sitting here wondering what happened to all the "friends" I have or had. I understand people have real lives and such, but if one is suppose to be a very good friend, wouldn't you expect them to at least say good bye to you or contact you once in awhile and say hi if you are still friends. Not just ignore you when you log in to yahoo or msn. Or ignore you on the boards. I don't get people sometimes.


Sorry for the rant.

 

[carrie-on]

sitting here wondering what happened to all the "friends" I have or had. I understand people have real lives and such, but if one is suppose to be a very good friend, wouldn't you expect them to at least say good bye to you or contact you once in awhile and say hi if you are still friends. Not just ignore you when you log in to yahoo or msn. Or ignore you on the boards. I don't get people sometimes.


Sorry for the rant.

Rosy..I wonder the same things sometimes. If they don't want to talk to me,fine... tell me and I won't email or send them messages anymore.What's so hard about that?

 

[rosylady]

Re: Re: I find myself

Rosy..I wonder the same things sometimes. If they don't want to talk to me,fine... tell me and I won't email or send them messages anymore.What's so hard about that?

Thanks Carrie. I was wondering if I was the only one who lost a good friend and didn't have a clue why.

 

[midwestyankee]

sitting here wondering what happened to all the "friends" I have or had. I understand people have real lives and such, but if one is suppose to be a very good friend, wouldn't you expect them to at least say good bye to you or contact you once in awhile and say hi if you are still friends. Not just ignore you when you log in to yahoo or msn. Or ignore you on the boards. I don't get people sometimes.


Sorry for the rant.

Rosy,

I think some people just have no manners or are so incredibly self-centered that such things never occur to them. The world is a poorer place for it.

I'm glad you made your rant. If a few million others did the same in other venues all over the world, things might be different and everyone would treat each other better.

Have a good one.

 

[Missingmeds]

You are not the only one that it has happened to rosylady. I have had it to happen several times.

 

[tonitits]

I have had several friends that all of sudden just disappeared. Some of them I see have moved on to other areas of Lit and some just seem to have vanished. I have emailed some and have received some emails back, but seems that they respond less often. All I can do is be a good friend. If they don't/can't respond back, well at least I have tried and done my part. But we do all have our personal lives and sometime our schedules, etc..do not always line up with our friends. I don't think that I have anyone who actually avoids me, if they do, I am not aware of it.

((((((((Rosy)))))))))

 

[rosylady]

Re: Re: I find myself

Rosy,

I think some people just have no manners or are so incredibly self-centered that such things never occur to them. The world is a poorer place for it.

I'm glad you made your rant. If a few million others did the same in other venues all over the world, things might be different and everyone would treat each other better.

Have a good one.

Thanks yankee....I expect this behaviour from some people but not others.

 

[rosylady]

You are not the only one that it has happened to rosylady. I have had it to happen several times.

I guess I wasn't as good a friend as I thought.

 

[rosylady]

I have had several friends that all of sudden just disappeared. Some of them I see have moved on to other areas of Lit and some just seem to have vanished. I have emailed some and have received some emails back, but seems that they respond less often. All I can do is be a good friend. If they don't/can't respond back, well at least I have tried and done my part. But we do all have our personal lives and sometime our schedules, etc..do not always line up with our friends. I don't think that I have anyone who actually avoids me, if they do, I am not aware of it.

((((((((Rosy)))))))))

Toni you are always a great friend to everyone new and old. I'm so glad to interact with you on the boards and you would be terribly missed if you left without a word to anyone.

 

[Missingmeds]

I guess I wasn't as good a friend as I thought.

I don't think that it has anything to do with how a good a friend that someone is. I think it has to do with the person that disappears or just ignores someone.

There could be things going on in their lives that they just are not telling anyone. It could also be out of a feeling of guilt. They have done something that they know that you wouldn't agree with them on and rather than deal with that, they chose to ignore you.

 

[Dumpling]

You are not the only one that it has happened to rosylady. I have had it to happen several times.

So it happens to more People then just me!
Sorry for lurking around,but just seen a topic and thought it always just happens to me. Oh well maybe it makes me feel a little easier what to think of those situations.
Thanks for letting me rand

 

[rosylady]

I don't think that it has anything to do with how a good a friend that someone is. I think it has to do with the person that disappears or just ignores someone.

There could be things going on in their lives that they just are not telling anyone. It could also be out of a feeling of guilt. They have done something that they know that you wouldn't agree with them on and rather than deal with that, they chose to ignore you.

I have a tendency to complain to much about my life, about how rotten a husband I have, how messy my house is and the worst is I'm always complaining I don't get enough sleep. I can understand that grating on someones nerves, but for me I have nothing else interesting to talk about. My whole life is home, work, home again.

 

[omahaman2]

ROSY,

Whoever you refer to isnt too bright to ignore you.
Your friendship is priceless
dont let them get you down,
its thier loss
Like i tried to dedicate to you in that other thread.


THANK YOU FOR BEING A FRIEND
Andrew Gold

Thank you for being a friend
Traveled down a road and back again
Your heart is true, you're a pal and a confidant

I'm not ashamed to say
I hope it always will stay this way
My hat is off, won't you stand up and take a bow

And if you threw a party
Invited everyone you knew
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say

Thank you for being a friend

If it's a car you lack
I'd surely buy you a Cadillac
Whatever you need any time of the day or night

I'm not ashamed to say
I hope it always will stay this way
My hat is off, won't you stand up and take a bow

And when we both get older
With walking canes and hair of gray
Have no fear even though it's hard to hear
I will stand real close and say

Thank you for being a friend

And when we die
And float away
Into the night
The milky way
You'll hear me call
As we ascend
I'll say your name
Then once again

Thank you for being a friend

 

[rosylady]

So it happens to more People then just me!
Sorry for lurking around,but just seen a topic and thought it always just happens to me. Oh well maybe it makes me feel a little easier what to think of those situations.
Thanks for letting me rand

It happens to alot of people. I'm not talking about casual acquaintances here. But people you interact with almost every day.

 

[rosylady]

ROSY,

Whoever you refer to isnt too bright to ignore you.
Your friendship is priceless
dont let them get you down,
its thier loss
Like i tried to dedicate to you in that other thread.


THANK YOU FOR BEING A FRIEND
Andrew Gold

Thank you for being a friend
Traveled down a road and back again
Your heart is true, you're a pal and a confidant

I'm not ashamed to say
I hope it always will stay this way
My hat is off, won't you stand up and take a bow

And if you threw a party
Invited everyone you knew
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say

Thank you for being a friend

If it's a car you lack
I'd surely buy you a Cadillac
Whatever you need any time of the day or night

I'm not ashamed to say
I hope it always will stay this way
My hat is off, won't you stand up and take a bow

And when we both get older
With walking canes and hair of gray
Have no fear even though it's hard to hear
I will stand real close and say

Thank you for being a friend

And when we die
And float away
Into the night
The milky way
You'll hear me call
As we ascend
I'll say your name
Then once again

Thank you for being a friend

Oman, your are a great friend for anyone to have, and I'm so lucky to call you my friend.

 

[omahaman2]

Oman, your are a great friend for anyone to have, and I'm so lucky to call you my friend.

Thank youlady of the
I really hope you realize that is how many many people here including myself feel about you.Now, let me tell you about my messy house,the lack of sleep ive been having . Jut kidding you, lol other than the messy house part. I just wanted you to know when you have a friend they care about you, you should feel free to talk about anything you want to. PLEASE realize that there are many here that will listen to anything you want to
discuss. These people go by the name of friend,if they dont care what's on your mind they arent friends. You've got many of these
people called friend here.

 

[Kiss Me]

I have a tendency to complain to much about my life, about how rotten a husband I have, how messy my house is and the worst is I'm always complaining I don't get enough sleep. I can understand that grating on someones nerves, but for me I have nothing else interesting to talk about. My whole life is home, work, home again.

Rosy a lot of us are in the same situation, our homelife is our only life and often it can get us down since we are all human. But we make friends and feel the trust and affection that allows us to share our thoughts and feelings and problems . Really we all need friends for that exact purpose and true friends can listen to our woes and share their own with acceptance and understanding.

If any of us have been lucky enough not to loose a friend we thought we were close to, then they are in a minority. It is easy to fall into the self doubt and loneliness that comes with what we assume is rejection. Sometimes it is and sometimes we find out that it really was just rl. I cope by making new friends while still trying to make sure I'm not leaping to conclusions about my old ones. I wouldnt want to end a relationship that didn't need to be ended. Good luck with reaching your old friends or with making more. Everyone I know likes you Rosy and I agree that you are one of the nicer people here, sorry to hear your pain.

 

[carrie-on]

Thank youlady of the
I really hope you realize that is how many many people here including myself feel about you.Now, let me tell you about my messy house,the lack of sleep ive been having . Jut kidding you, lol other than the messy house part. I just wanted you to know when you have a friend they care about you, you should feel free to talk about anything you want to. PLEASE realize that there are many here that will listen to anything you want to
discuss. These people go by the name of friend,if they dont care what's on your mind they arent friends. You've got many of these
people called friend here.

HEAR HEAR!! What He says!!!

 

[tonitits]

Rosy a lot of us are in the same situation, our homelife is our only life and often it can get us down since we are all human. But we make friends and feel the trust and affection that allows us to share our thoughts and feelings and problems . Really we all need friends for that exact purpose and true friends can listen to our woes and share their own with acceptance and understanding.

If any of us have been lucky enough not to loose a friend we thought we were close to, then they are in a minority. It is easy to fall into the self doubt and loneliness that comes with what we assume is rejection. Sometimes it is and sometimes we find out that it really was just rl. I cope by making new friends while still trying to make sure I'm not leaping to conclusions about my old ones. I wouldnt want to end a relationship that didn't need to be ended. Good luck with reaching your old friends or with making more. Everyone I know likes you Rosy and I agree that you are one of the nicer people here, sorry to hear your pain.

I think that this is true especially for women who have very small children, you are wrapped up in their worlds, about the only person you have to talk to is the little ppl and about Barney, Elmo, etc...and you crave adult conversation. My mom even went through this when she was keeping my son and nephews and niece. That is all she knew was their world. Until she was able to get out more and do things for herself more again. Being a parent is not an easy thing, being in a less than desirable marriage isn't either, I know when I was married, I was so miserable and even though I was away from home at work, I could not talk to anyone. I did not want them to know how bad things were for me. So I put on a happy face and pretending that everything was great. But my mom knew, she saw it in my eyes. I guess if I had had a good, close friend, that they probably could have told also. You combine a not so happy marriage and stress of having small children and craving some adult attention and it is quite understandable. If you ever need someone to talk to, about anything, we are here for you!

 

[Angelofsex]

sitting here wondering what happened to all the "friends" I have or had. I understand people have real lives and such, but if one is suppose to be a very good friend, wouldn't you expect them to at least say good bye to you or contact you once in awhile and say hi if you are still friends. Not just ignore you when you log in to yahoo or msn. Or ignore you on the boards. I don't get people sometimes.


Sorry for the rant.

rosy......if has happen to me.......on here even.......I see a friend come back on and get so excited.......pm them right away and they are happy to see me too.......but then they are gone again and my heart hurts all over again............

I learn from sites like this.......you don't keep some for life.

 

[Dumpling]

It happens to alot of people. I'm not talking about casual acquaintances here. But people you interact with almost every day.

Yes I know it, some even stab you in the Back!

 

[rosylady]

Yes I know it, some even stab you in the Back!

So do we only trust ourselves, and not believe others when they say "hey I'm your friend"?

 

[omahaman2]

So do we only trust ourselves, and not believe others when they say "hey I'm your friend"?

http://www.johannesburg.gov.za/images/stop-sign.jpg

NO!!! NO!!!!! NO!!!! NO!!!

You learn who to trust.You dont wall yourself away from
others just because of some idiots who made a huge mistake to spurn your friendship. True friends will never turn their backs on you,never hurt you and always listen to whatever you want to talk of. Sometimes you might get hurt but if you wall yourself off
to avoid getting hurt you'll lose the happiness of true friendship!!

 

[Blue Dolphin]

Rosy my love

We all change, we move on
friends are like swings and roundabouts sometimes, they come, they go
and, one day invariably they return.
We all have to learn to ride the blows, and to go with the flow so to speak
I know this is full of cliches
but I guess it isat I am your friend
and yes, we have had our moments
our arguments and misunderstandings
but
I am here
and you are here
and we are still the same people
hugs and kisses my dear friend

 

[Yuber]

Well..I will be your friend. But you never gave me your yahoo..meanie.


It happens. I have lost many friends, not just on forums. I havent been here long enough..but I am on a lot of forums. It is part of life. People make foolish mistakes. All I can think of is keep going and keep making new friends.