I Forgive You For...

[Mrs.H]

This thread is my cowboys idea but I decided to start the thread.

To quote him?

""So I saw in the PG someone made a thread titled Fuck You and read a few posts and noticed how some people felt really empowered by it. perhaps what we really could find useful is a thread titled I Forgive You For?""

I love you cowboy



Ok litsters, share your forgiveness stories, please?

 

[Cashern]

I forgive you for breaking my heart and stomping on the pieces. For lieing to me and telling me you loved me, and that we'd go far, and then turning the world upside down in a single day.

For that I forgive you...

 

[justaguymass]

I forgive you litsters for torturing the OP of the now infamous "Clicks" thread. I wont blame you when the poor OP ends up like David Carradine.

Consider yourselves forgiven in advance

 

[geronimo_appleby]

i forgive lance ... hang on, no i don't.

 

[Husker1987]

I forgive you litsters for torturing the OP of the now infamous "Clicks" thread. I wont blame you when the poor OP ends up like David Carradine.

Consider yourselves forgiven in advance

Here is the OP's response to the "torturing" you refer to:

Wow I really am blown away how far this thread has gone.
First off sorry but this post was more of a "I wonder if anyone will respond to this" kind of thing and not suppose to actually offend anyone. If it did offend some I guess I can understand but come on its a thread on the web. And yes click was meant to be a pun, that's hard to figure out?!
Well anyways it was nice to actually write something and get responses.
Next time ill go for a more positive message though the things I did say do have merrit and you all know it...I just exaggerated it all abit.
Rock and roll everyone!

And you are forgiven for forgiving.

 

[Gyps33boi]

I forgive you for doing the one thing you said you'd never do, the thing you said was the worst possible thing you could do in a relationship, the thing that you said was a signal that it was over, then begging me to keep you.
I forgive you for shatter my concept of trust, and the romantic notion of what love and a marriage should be. I forgive you for making it impossible for me to share my life with you the way I thought I would.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

For all the tears, for all the hurt, for the way you treated me...I forgive you.
For casting me aside, for crushing my heart, for destroying my dreams...I forgive you.
For telling me you loved me, for exposing my vulnerabilty, for the lingering pain...I forgive you.

 

[janeyl]

Yeah...not so much of a one for forgiving...too much a Scorpion for that...

And people who say they forgive and then go on and on ad infinitum about things and bring them out to hit you over the head with them constantly...

 

[availableslave2u]

Yeah...not so much of a one for forgiving...too much a Scorpion for that...

And people who say they forgive and then go on and on ad infinitum about things and bring them out to hit you over the head with them constantly...

i forgive janey for saying she doesn't forgive before i said it

 

[janeyl]

i forgive janey for saying she doesn't forgive before i said it

You don't really!! ha ha!

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

I forgive you for making me feel like I was undesirable, unwanted and unworthy.
I forgive you for making me think we had a future together.
I forgive you for being selfish, insecure and cowardly.

And I thank you for motivating me to focus on myself.
And for reminding me to trust my instincts.
And in so doing, putting my path in sync with a man that showed me what it means to feel loved, beautiful and precious, even if it was only for a moment in time.

 

[lance gt]

I'll forgive, when the deed is repented and the heart is sincere.

I live by my own sig line, the Truth of the Heart, Gives Purpose to the Deed.

Learn not to do, that for which you need forgiving.

 

[garbage can]

I forgive you for the worst blowjob I've ever had.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

 

[sereneone4u]

I forgive you for attempting to ruin my birthday last year and even more importantly hurting a sweet man.

I do not even know you nor have I ever been rude to you here on Lit, so why you felt the need to be cruel to me and my friend I will never know.

Ironic thread, seriously.

 

[goodgurlgetsbad]

I forgive you for being such a dog.. I have to remind myself...its impossible not to love dogs -LOL
thanks for the lovely thread Mrs H

 

[lolaluscious]

This thread made me feel sad.... I guess i'm over tired.
But it doesn't seem fair that the people you love have so much power to hurt you.... I suppose that's just the nature of love, you gotta take the good with the bad.

So here goes mine....

I forgive you for hurting me like that, over and over again.
I realise now you were showing me your emotional flaws, when I thought you were perfect. I hope you forgive me for that.

 

[Morrigu]

I forgive you for turning my life upside down
I forgive you for shattering those dreams
I forgive you because I understand why you feel the need to do this

....................I will however never forget.

 

[border_humper]

This thread made me feel sad.... I guess i'm over tired.
But it doesn't seem fair that the people you love have so much power to hurt you.... I suppose that's just the nature of love, you gotta take the good with the bad.

So here goes mine....

I forgive you for hurting me like that, over and over again.
I realise now you were showing me your emotional flaws, when I thought you were perfect. I hope you forgive me for that.

Lola,

PMJI

So true. The people we love, or have loved, do have power to hurt us. Yet, ultimately, we are the ones who determine how long and how painful the hurting is. It takes great effort, but we can change our focus, moving these people--or at least the pain they cause--from the center of our lives to the periphery. At greater distance, we stand a better chance to see people for who they really are (imperfect)... We also stand a better chance to do what's really important, which is to forgive ourselves.

BH

 

[newbiebabe]

Please forgive me in advance...

but I have watched this thread for a couple days since it was started and it saddens me to see how it has been taken lightly and ridiculed even by some. There is great freedom when one realizes that forgiveness is not for the sake of the one being forgiven but instead, it is solely for the one doing the forgiving. I hope Mrs H nor DB mind if I do this but I have copied over a post from DB's "The Morning Joe" thread... it is long but worth the read.

If I offend some of you by this, I apologize in advance. For those of you who have taken this thread seriously and poured out your hearts and thoughts, I encourage you on your journey to forgiveness... because that is what it is many times... a constant reminding to oneself to forgive. Forgiveness is not an easy road.. it is often riddled with reminders and set backs... but there is joy at the end of it when one realizes that the hurt no longer has rule of their emotions and life.

Have a wonderful day everyone and please take this in the spirit of which it was shared....



posted by DrunkenBarbarian on "The Morning Joe" thread earlier this past week:

Today, I have been pondering greatly the effects of forgiveness. I know, this is going to seem like a big ass wall of text, and I apologize for that.

Anyone ever see the movie, The Tale of Despereaux?

Just saw it the other day, having never seen it before. In it there was a part that really stands out.

.......Ok, remember when we said that grief was the strongest thing a person could feel? Well, it isn't. It's forgiveness because a single act of forgiveness can change everything.

So there was a few things I found.....( here's where you can drink your coffee before continuing? )

- Researchers and academics may have an answer for those who do not believe that the act of forgiveness is good for the soul. Scientists have gotten interested in the health benefits of forgiveness. Their studies have shown the serious mental, emotional and physical consequences of an unforgiving heart.

In some studies, forgiveness has been linked to a lessening of chronic back pain and depression; in others to reduce levels of stress hormones. Scientist have also found that forgiveness is one of several coping mechanisms that help people with HIV/AIDS live longer, or at least more satisfying lives.

- It is important to recognize that your distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you five minutes ago or five years ago. Research has shown that people who are deeply and unjustly hurt by others can heal emotionally and, in some cases, physically by forgiving their offender.

- Forgiveness breaks the cycle of hatred, resentment, anger and pain that is often passed on to those around you. Forgiveness helps you make peace with your past.

- Forgiveness is a journey. You may never forget AND you can choose to forgive. You can forgive and tomorrow you may feel the pain all over again. As life goes on and you choose to remember and feel the pain, then is the time to once again remember that you have already forgiven. Mentally forgive again if necessary, then move forward. When we allow it, time can dull the vividness of the memory of the hurt; the memory will eventually fade.

( more coffee please? )

- Compassion is one of the key ingredients of forgiveness. Learn to look for and appreciate the love, beauty and kindness around you. It's there, and you may have to change your thinking and behavior to discover it. To have compassion for others, you must first have compassion for yourself.

- HEALTHY love relationships are not possible without forgiveness! You cannot have a loving and rewarding relationship with anyone else, much less yourself, if you continue to hold on to things that happened in the past. Regardless of the situation, making peace with past love partners, your parents, children, your boss or anyone who you think may have "done you wrong" is the only way to improve your chances of a "healthy" relationship with yourself or anyone else for that matter!

- The greatest misconception about forgiveness is the belief that forgiving the offense, such as an affair, means that you condone it. Not true. In fact, we can only forgive what we know to be wrong. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to reconcile with someone who badly treated you.

- Another misconception is that it depends on whether the person who did you wrong apologizes, wants you back, or changes his or her ways. If another person's poor behavior were the primary determinant for your healing then the unkind and selfish people in your life would retain power over you indefinitely. Forgiveness is the experience of finding peace inside and can neither be compelled nor stopped by another.

( it does go on and on, huh? give it a chance? Want some more coffee? )

- I believe that to withhold forgiveness is to choose to continue to remain the victim. Remember, you always have choice.

- When you forgive you do it for you, not for the other. The person you have never forgiven. . . owns you! How about an affair? Just because you choose to forgive, does not mean you have to stay in the relationship. That is only and always your choice. The choice to forgive is only and always yours.

- When you feel that forgiveness is necessary, do not forgive for "their" sake. Do it for yourself! It would be great if they would come to you and ask forgiveness but you must accept the fact that some people will never do that. That is their choice. They do not NEED to be forgiven. They did what they did and that is it - except for the consequences, which THEY must live with.

 

[goodgurlgetsbad]

I forgive you for thinking u need to be forgiven but want you to know I myself appreciate this thread sincerely ... as I posted earlier- its just that we all have different ways of expressing ourselves and surely- one can forgive in a light hearted manner albeit whole heartedly forgiving for I find that when I forgive my heart actually gets lighter ... much much lighter

just my 2 cents

 

[NorthernPA4U]

I forgive you for letting that ball go between your legs, Mr. Buckner.

And for that glorified pop fly, Mr. Dent.

I am still working on forgiving you your managerial decisions, Mr. Little, but I will get there.


*My, doesn't that feel good!*

 

[ubagooba]

I forgive you for breaking my heart
I forgive you for lying to me
I forgive you for making me watch you pursue another, unsure of what you want
I forgive you for doubting my love
And I forgive you for all the pain we will endure until this is done, no matter how it ends up.

 

[garbage can]

I forgive you for breaking my heart
I forgive you for lying to me
I forgive you for making me watch you pursue another, unsure of what you want
I forgive you for doubting my love
And I forgive you for all the pain we will endure until this is done, no matter how it ends up.

UBA, that's a lot of forgiving... I pray you resolve your situation in your favor....

 

[kendra1980]

I forgive one litster, ME, for letting myself be hurt over and over again by someone who didn't have the strength to even tell me he was weak. I deserved more than that.

I forgive myself for letting him run, then come back, only to run again and again....I'm smarter than that.

I forgive myself for waiting hours for someone, putting things important in my world on hold, who said they'd be there, and never showed up. I'm better than that.

In all of this, I have not only become stronger, I have found where I truly should be. I've come to see clearly what is good for me.

Love doesn't make us feel less....it makes us stronger, it makes us more sure.

I forgive myself for not seeing that then, but realizing it fully now.

 

[ubagooba]

UBA, that's a lot of forgiving... I pray you resolve your situation in your favor....

Thank you sir