I just found out my boyfriend is bisexual !

[Shankara20]

The best thing you can do is be supportive and understanding. By the way, bisexual men are perfectly capable of being monogamous. Being bi doesn't mean the guy will ditch you and hump the nearest jock or cheerleader he sees walking around. My wife knew I was bi and she was supportive. We spent decades together, raised children and had our own business. I have no regrets. God rest her soul.

You have touched on the problem most people have with Bi's, IMHO, fear that we can not be monogamous.

I fully agree, we can be and are committed partners if that is what the relationship requires.

I have a long rant about this issue - but I will stop here.

 

[maleorfemale]

My husband and I have been married for 24 years and approximately 3 years ago he verbally let me know he was Bi. Yes, it was a shock at first but over the years I had noticed bi porn on the computer. At that point I thought, o.k. he's got some fantasies just like me. Doesn't mean he'd ever act on them. Then about 3 years ago he told me that he has thought about other men since he was young and would like to try it out. I guess that was when he was ready to tell me or maybe he felt I was ready to hear about it. At first I said o.k. figureing it was talk and would never happen or in time he would forget about it. I was wrong! But within the past three years we have grown so much closer. We are so much more open with each other. And to tell the truth it makes me hot as hell to watch him suck a cock. We've even shared cocks. WHAT A TURN ON!!!!!! I admit all the crazy thoughts ran around my head for a long time. Am I good enough for him, is he searching out another man because of something I lack? Will he leave me for a man? Has he cheated on me already? What can I do to keep him? After getting over my own shit about his bisexuality and doing a lot of talking with him I have realized that it really doesn't have a lot to do with me. It's sex, not much more than that. I have come to accept a lot of things that I never in my life thought I would and we are having a great time. Our love for each other is stronger than it ever has been.
You know what is really funny. The green eyes and long claws don't come out if he checks out another man but another woman the claws still come part way out. We have rules we follow and as long as neither of us breaks them we will continue to have fun. The one rule is "no one other than each other unless the other is present or has knowledge of the meet. NO CHEATING!!!!

 

[PredatorSmile]

I am going to have a talk with him about it tonight. He's in class right now. I'm at the college library. I want to thank everyone for their words. Y'all have been really supportive. It was really helpful to hear from a woman who also loves a bisexual man. It really helped put things in perspectives, even though my guy and I aren't married...yet. Thanks.

 

[Shankara20]

I am going to have a talk with him about it tonight. He's in class right now. I'm at the college library. I want to thank everyone for their words. Y'all have been really supportive. It was really helpful to hear from a woman who also loves a bisexual man. It really helped put things in perspectives, even though my guy and I aren't married...yet. Thanks.

all the best to you both....

 

[Atarax]

My husband and I have been married for 24 years and approximately 3 years ago he verbally let me know he was Bi. Yes, it was a shock at first but over the years I had noticed bi porn on the computer. At that point I thought, o.k. he's got some fantasies just like me. Doesn't mean he'd ever act on them. Then about 3 years ago he told me that he has thought about other men since he was young and would like to try it out. I guess that was when he was ready to tell me or maybe he felt I was ready to hear about it. At first I said o.k. figureing it was talk and would never happen or in time he would forget about it. I was wrong! But within the past three years we have grown so much closer. We are so much more open with each other. And to tell the truth it makes me hot as hell to watch him suck a cock. We've even shared cocks. WHAT A TURN ON!!!!!! I admit all the crazy thoughts ran around my head for a long time. Am I good enough for him, is he searching out another man because of something I lack? Will he leave me for a man? Has he cheated on me already? What can I do to keep him? After getting over my own shit about his bisexuality and doing a lot of talking with him I have realized that it really doesn't have a lot to do with me. It's sex, not much more than that. I have come to accept a lot of things that I never in my life thought I would and we are having a great time. Our love for each other is stronger than it ever has been.
You know what is really funny. The green eyes and long claws don't come out if he checks out another man but another woman the claws still come part way out. We have rules we follow and as long as neither of us breaks them we will continue to have fun. The one rule is "no one other than each other unless the other is present or has knowledge of the meet. NO CHEATING!!!!

Great. Fabulous. Love that openeness.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I finally did it !!! Yesterday night, I invited him to a small dinner at my place. I ordered some chinese ( I'm not a cook !). We sat together and ate. I had brought him there because we had something important to discuss. "What is it ?" He asked me. I remember biting my lips and crossing my fingers before saying. " I got something to tell you. A few nights ago, I found your card. The one with the...bisexual stuff on it." I watched him. He didn't say anything. I went ahead with it. "You know I'm bi too. Why didn't you just tell me ?" He laughed and said : "You were meant to find the card." I couldn't believe it. It was no accident that I found the bi-card. I couldn't resist asking him the question that tortured my mind for days. " How many male lovers have you had ?" I asked him. He told me that he had a relationship with a guy he knew in high school, from his sophomore year of high school to his freshman year of college. "I'd been split up from him for three months before I met you," he told me. Again, I couldn't believe it. My gorgeous bisexual boyfriend had only had two lovers in his life. One boy and one girl. And I was the girl !!! I didn't see that one coming. He smiled at me and said : "Is there anything else ?" I just laughed and shook my head. We both laughed. I hugged him. We barely touched our food because I had so many questions. I didn't ask him the question that bothered me the most : Was I enough for him ? He put my mind at ease. By telling me that I was the only one he ever wanted. He wasn't out to anyone.
Being a jock, he was familiar with the homophobia expressed by people in the athletic world and didn't want any of that. I, on the other hand, was out and proud. In the eyes of everyone on campus, he was the "straight guy with the bisexual girlfriend." I laughed at that. We slept together. No, we didn't have sex. I wanted to. He didn't. He just held me and we talked and talked for hours. This morning, we watched TV together. Curled up on my bed. We watched Angel on TNT. He admitted to liking Charisma Carpenter and David Boreanaz. I had a thing for Alyson Hannigan, a frequent guest star on the show.
He left the dorm early because he had morning classes. I dont have class before 2 PM on tuesdays and thursdays so I stayed at home. I felt so happy. I think this is going to change our lives....for the better. In a weird way, we're each other's firsts. He is the first guy I ever slept with.
Before I met him, I was strictly into girls. I am the first girl he ever slept with. Before he met me, he was strictly into guys. This is so odd but I'm not complaining. I love this boy something fierce. I can't wait until he returns. I'm gonna f-him like a bunny. Boy am I glad we had this talk. Thank you for encouraging me, guys. Ciao.

 

[TrojanMan77]

woohoo!!!

 

[fingermagic]

I finally did it !!! Yesterday night, I invited him to a small dinner at my place. I ordered some chinese ( I'm not a cook !). We sat together and ate. I had brought him there because we had something important to discuss. "What is it ?" He asked me. I remember biting my lips and crossing my fingers before saying. " I got something to tell you. A few nights ago, I found your card. The one with the...bisexual stuff on it." I watched him. He didn't say anything. I went ahead with it. "You know I'm bi too. Why didn't you just tell me ?" He laughed and said : "You were meant to find the card." I couldn't believe it. It was no accident that I found the bi-card. I couldn't resist asking him the question that tortured my mind for days. " How many male lovers have you had ?" I asked him. He told me that he had a relationship with a guy he knew in high school, from his sophomore year of high school to his freshman year of college. "I'd been split up from him for three months before I met you," he told me. Again, I couldn't believe it. My gorgeous bisexual boyfriend had only had two lovers in his life. One boy and one girl. And I was the girl !!! I didn't see that one coming. He smiled at me and said : "Is there anything else ?" I just laughed and shook my head. We both laughed. I hugged him. We barely touched our food because I had so many questions. I didn't ask him the question that bothered me the most : Was I enough for him ? He put my mind at ease. By telling me that I was the only one he ever wanted. He wasn't out to anyone.
Being a jock, he was familiar with the homophobia expressed by people in the athletic world and didn't want any of that. I, on the other hand, was out and proud. In the eyes of everyone on campus, he was the "straight guy with the bisexual girlfriend." I laughed at that. We slept together. No, we didn't have sex. I wanted to. He didn't. He just held me and we talked and talked for hours. This morning, we watched TV together. Curled up on my bed. We watched Angel on TNT. He admitted to liking Charisma Carpenter and David Boreanaz. I had a thing for Alyson Hannigan, a frequent guest star on the show.
He left the dorm early because he had morning classes. I dont have class before 2 PM on tuesdays and thursdays so I stayed at home. I felt so happy. I think this is going to change our lives....for the better. In a weird way, we're each other's firsts. He is the first guy I ever slept with.
Before I met him, I was strictly into girls. I am the first girl he ever slept with. Before he met me, he was strictly into guys. This is so odd but I'm not complaining. I love this boy something fierce. I can't wait until he returns. I'm gonna f-him like a bunny. Boy am I glad we had this talk. Thank you for encouraging me, guys. Ciao.

Ok, I am really hot now. And I've had 3 orgasms today. I am thrilled it is working out well and very hot for you.

 

[mreneetg]

Yeah, for predatorsmile. Thank you maleorfemale for helping predatorsmile get the courage to talk with her boyfriend.

 

[Shankara20]

I finally did it !!!
.... Thank you for encouraging me, guys. Ciao.

good for you both for talking about this HUGE issue...

well done

 

[Anniejustagirl]

Kudos PredatorSmile

So glad to hear that it all worked out so well!

You have a right to be proud of yourself and of your wonderful boyfriend!

 

[Raine D8]

I have just discovered something shocking about my boyfriend of 2 years. It seems that my tall, dark and handsome, sensitive poet boyfriend is bisexual. How did I discover it ? He spent the night at my place and I saw something that caught my attention. A shiny card sticking out of his pants pocket. While he was asleep. I found the words " Bisexual Men's Network" on it. It seems that he's a member of that organization.

First - you are a nosy parker! Second Woo hoo! No need to tell him you know, unless you want to break up for being a nosy parker invading his space.

Tell him you'd like another guy in the bedroom and introduce the idea (and talk in depth about what you want for you and out of the experience - preferably something that he wants .. like seeing him suck dick or fucking or being fucked) and he will open up. Careful depending on your age though... He may be gay and that could be an upset for you.

Edit to add: to little and late now - I do hope it went well.

 

[TrojanMan77]

First - you are a nosy parker! Second Woo hoo! No need to tell him you know, unless you want to break up for being a nosy parker invading his space.

Tell him you'd like another guy in the bedroom and introduce the idea (and talk in depth about what you want for you and out of the experience - preferably something that he wants .. like seeing him suck dick or fucking or being fucked) and he will open up. Careful depending on your age though... He may be gay and that could be an upset for you.

you obviously didnt read thru the thread

 

[Raine D8]

you obviously didnt read thru the thread

Obviously, I read a bit, but not enough. I did edit before your post though. What can I say - ADD rules.

 

[TrojanMan77]

oh well...ADD does rule!!!! lmao

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Omg!!! Your bf is such a teaser!!
You were MEANT to find it! LOL!!
Anyways, I'm happy about you two!
I hope it's gonna get even more fun from now on

 

[BT-NJ]

He had only one male and you.

Well you can't argue about where is loyalty stands, with you!!

 

[maleorfemale]

glad to hear you talked. Always remember to keep open the lines of communication and all should be well.

 

[CJontherocks]

Wow, that's awesome! I read your post a while back and was re-reading the thread today for an update... I was honestly on the edge of my seat when I saw your last post. I can relate to the issue.

Anyway, I'm so glad you got a happy ending!

 

[slimchance]

have you told him you are bi?

 

[delboccore]

Positive Side

Hey, look at it this way, MORE DICK FOR YOU BOTH!!!

 

[PredatorSmile]

Yeah, it all worked out in the end. I accepted him for who he was and he did the same for me. Right now, we "commute" to each other's dorms but I'm hoping that soemday soon we will move in together. He's the only man I've ever loved. Being bi is cool especially when you're both bi and luv each other. same species and all dat jaz. Anyway, thanx for "listening".

 

[fieryjen]

I just randomly stopped by this forum and this thread caught my attention, so I just wanted to say... this is such a cute thread! I adore love stories with happy endings Congratulations. Thanks for giving me a case of the fuzzies!

 

[artisticbiguy]

If you're his first female partner, he male feel a bit insecure with it. There may be some inner demons in him that come from a lot of societal pressures. I myself am bisexual and was open about it when I met my wife.

The hardest time I've had with people about my bisexuality has been with gay men - for some reason many (but certainly not all) gay men are more threatened by bisexuality than heterosexuality. I've been accused many time, always by gay men, that I'm "just a gay man posing".

I can't say why your boyfriend didn't mention his sexual orientation... I can only think that he is struggling with finding where he fits in.

 

[PredatorSmile]

If you're his first female partner, he male feel a bit insecure with it. There may be some inner demons in him that come from a lot of societal pressures. I myself am bisexual and was open about it when I met my wife.

The hardest time I've had with people about my bisexuality has been with gay men - for some reason many (but certainly not all) gay men are more threatened by bisexuality than heterosexuality. I've been accused many time, always by gay men, that I'm "just a gay man posing".

I can't say why your boyfriend didn't mention his sexual orientation... I can only think that he is struggling with finding where he fits in.

We've solved that problem some time ago. We're good right now. Quite happy too. He's away for a couple of nights but should be back soon. thanks, artisticbiguy.