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laughs........oh myRJMasters said:Showing? Hell, I flashed it
Goodmorning.
Goodmorning you. Shouldn't you be out lassoing the mighty dollar ?
Just sayun......
I know I will regret this..................
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Goodmorning you. Shouldn't you be out lassoing the mighty dollar ?
Just sayun......
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RJMasters said:Showing? Hell, I flashed it
Goodmorning.
do that again, I wasn't looking the first time.....
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Hello Darlun Fu , You attempting to top the Cowboy there ?Shankara20 said:do that again, I wasn't looking the first time.....
Good Luck let me know how that works out ......laughing
Gotta go adapt the little emperor for imminent release into the school environment YAY.
back laters xxx
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Shankara20 said:do that again, I wasn't looking the first time.....
Thisty for more?
Here you go
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Is this like a Dom inflation type thang ?RJMasters said:
Looks to me like you're getting more than 50% of your flirting dollar Mr Masters
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The term 'more bang for your buck' comes to mind . Do people use that in the US ?RJMasters said:What can I say
Edit : To clarify I am more the 'bling' type of woman.
Think I need to step away from the coffee. It may also be frenzy induced by having more than 2 hours to myself !
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Dog collar therapist 'didn't whip woman'
January 31, 2007 03:43pm
A PERTH psychologist has insisted he never sexually touched or hit a bulimic patient with whom he engaged in sado-masochistic role play.
Bruce Alistair Beaton, 64, of Fremantle, was giving evidence today to the Western Australia District Court where he is on trial for indecently assaulting and sexually penetrating a 22-year-old woman at his practice between January and March 2005.
Mr Beaton has denied accusations he used the fragile woman as a sexual submissive under the guise of curing her bulimia.
The psychologist was arrested when police burst into his office in March 2005, after hearing whipping sounds while they were secretly video recording his session with the woman, who is now 24.
Mr Beaton told the jury he engaged in sado-masochistic role play with the woman to get her in touch with her feelings about the destructive relationships she was in.
But he said he never hit her with a pink cat-o'-nine tailed whip which is heard cracking 12 times in the police video.
The woman was sitting on a chair and he "started cracking the whip on the side of the chair", Mr Beaton said.
He also denied ever sexually touching her.
"I was not comfortable in the role of the dominant person," Mr Beaton said.
Later, Mr Beaton's wife, Evana Beaton, 50, told the court sado-masochism was not part of her sexual relationship with her husband.
"The greatest pain I've received was in childbirth ... I don't believe in that sort of stuff, I don't know what it is hardly," Ms Beaton said.
The jury has watched the tape on which the woman is seen wearing a dog collar and heard swearing an oath to give him her body in order "to become a better person".
Mr Beaton gives her the pink whip and this is heard, but not seen, cracking before police intervene.
On the tape, Mr Beaton is heard calling the woman his "delicious" submissive and she calls him "master".
Mr Beaton has previously said matching language commonly used by a patient was a very important therapeutic technique.
His lawyer Jeremy Scudds has accused the woman of being a habitual liar who fabricated her tale of Mr Beaton sitting naked in some sessions.
She denied lying about Mr Beaton but has acknowledged lying about other things.
January 31, 2007 03:43pm
A PERTH psychologist has insisted he never sexually touched or hit a bulimic patient with whom he engaged in sado-masochistic role play.
Bruce Alistair Beaton, 64, of Fremantle, was giving evidence today to the Western Australia District Court where he is on trial for indecently assaulting and sexually penetrating a 22-year-old woman at his practice between January and March 2005.
Mr Beaton has denied accusations he used the fragile woman as a sexual submissive under the guise of curing her bulimia.
The psychologist was arrested when police burst into his office in March 2005, after hearing whipping sounds while they were secretly video recording his session with the woman, who is now 24.
Mr Beaton told the jury he engaged in sado-masochistic role play with the woman to get her in touch with her feelings about the destructive relationships she was in.
But he said he never hit her with a pink cat-o'-nine tailed whip which is heard cracking 12 times in the police video.
The woman was sitting on a chair and he "started cracking the whip on the side of the chair", Mr Beaton said.
He also denied ever sexually touching her.
"I was not comfortable in the role of the dominant person," Mr Beaton said.
Later, Mr Beaton's wife, Evana Beaton, 50, told the court sado-masochism was not part of her sexual relationship with her husband.
"The greatest pain I've received was in childbirth ... I don't believe in that sort of stuff, I don't know what it is hardly," Ms Beaton said.
The jury has watched the tape on which the woman is seen wearing a dog collar and heard swearing an oath to give him her body in order "to become a better person".
Mr Beaton gives her the pink whip and this is heard, but not seen, cracking before police intervene.
On the tape, Mr Beaton is heard calling the woman his "delicious" submissive and she calls him "master".
Mr Beaton has previously said matching language commonly used by a patient was a very important therapeutic technique.
His lawyer Jeremy Scudds has accused the woman of being a habitual liar who fabricated her tale of Mr Beaton sitting naked in some sessions.
She denied lying about Mr Beaton but has acknowledged lying about other things.
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Dog collar and whip therapy 'just rubbish'
* By Nicolas Perpitch
* January 31, 2007
A PERTH psychologist's claim to have used a cat-o'-nine tails whip, dog collar and sado-masochism to address his bulimic patient's problems was rubbish served up as psychological treatment, a court has heard.
Bruce Alistair Beaton, 64, of Fremantle, made the claims in evidence today to the Western Australia District Court where he is on trial for indecently assaulting and sexually penetrating a 22-year-old woman at his practice between January and March 2005.
Mr Beaton has denied accusations he used the fragile woman as a sexual submissive under the guise of curing her bulimia.
The psychologist was arrested when police burst into his office in March 2005, after hearing whipping sounds while they were secretly video recording his session with the woman, who is now 24.
The prosecution and the defence today presented their closing arguments to the jury.
Mr Beaton's lawyer Jeremy Scudds said the alleged victim was a habitual liar who liked sado-masochism and Mr Beaton was simply trying to connect with her.
Prosecutor Amanda Forrester said Mr Beaton had taken advantage of the woman.
"This is not a psychologist, this is a man who is taking advantage of a very vulnerable girl," Ms Forrester said.
In the surveillance video, shown to the jury, Mr Beaton can be heard saying "If you were my submissive then sometimes I'm going to enjoy you".
Mr Beaton has previously said matching language commonly used by a patient was a very important therapeutic technique.
But Ms Forrester said telling a woman he would sometimes enjoy her could not possibly be matching.
"It's just rubbish served up as psychological treatment, she said.
Mr Scudds said the woman had lied about numerous things, including her evidence to police.
"She's not a witness of truth," Mr Scudds said.
The woman had a problem with BDSM, an acronym which stands variously for bondage, discipline, domination, submission and sadism and masochism, Mr Scudds said.
Mr Beaton was trying to connect with her on that level through role playing using a whip, dog leash and paddle which actually belonged to her, he argued.
"He's trying to help a person who's been abused, who's been in relationships that involved violence."
On the police surveillance video, Mr Beaton gives the woman a pink whip and this is heard, but not seen, cracking before police intervene.
Mr Scudds said the video does not show Mr Beaton hitting the woman because it never happened.
He said his client may have made mistakes but he never hit or sexually assaulted her and she had made it all up.
"In hindsight it was a stupid thing to do, trying to connect to her with those things."
* By Nicolas Perpitch
* January 31, 2007
A PERTH psychologist's claim to have used a cat-o'-nine tails whip, dog collar and sado-masochism to address his bulimic patient's problems was rubbish served up as psychological treatment, a court has heard.
Bruce Alistair Beaton, 64, of Fremantle, made the claims in evidence today to the Western Australia District Court where he is on trial for indecently assaulting and sexually penetrating a 22-year-old woman at his practice between January and March 2005.
Mr Beaton has denied accusations he used the fragile woman as a sexual submissive under the guise of curing her bulimia.
The psychologist was arrested when police burst into his office in March 2005, after hearing whipping sounds while they were secretly video recording his session with the woman, who is now 24.
The prosecution and the defence today presented their closing arguments to the jury.
Mr Beaton's lawyer Jeremy Scudds said the alleged victim was a habitual liar who liked sado-masochism and Mr Beaton was simply trying to connect with her.
Prosecutor Amanda Forrester said Mr Beaton had taken advantage of the woman.
"This is not a psychologist, this is a man who is taking advantage of a very vulnerable girl," Ms Forrester said.
In the surveillance video, shown to the jury, Mr Beaton can be heard saying "If you were my submissive then sometimes I'm going to enjoy you".
Mr Beaton has previously said matching language commonly used by a patient was a very important therapeutic technique.
But Ms Forrester said telling a woman he would sometimes enjoy her could not possibly be matching.
"It's just rubbish served up as psychological treatment, she said.
Mr Scudds said the woman had lied about numerous things, including her evidence to police.
"She's not a witness of truth," Mr Scudds said.
The woman had a problem with BDSM, an acronym which stands variously for bondage, discipline, domination, submission and sadism and masochism, Mr Scudds said.
Mr Beaton was trying to connect with her on that level through role playing using a whip, dog leash and paddle which actually belonged to her, he argued.
"He's trying to help a person who's been abused, who's been in relationships that involved violence."
On the police surveillance video, Mr Beaton gives the woman a pink whip and this is heard, but not seen, cracking before police intervene.
Mr Scudds said the video does not show Mr Beaton hitting the woman because it never happened.
He said his client may have made mistakes but he never hit or sexually assaulted her and she had made it all up.
"In hindsight it was a stupid thing to do, trying to connect to her with those things."
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Psychologist in defence of whip assault charge
* Alana Buckley-Carr
* February 01, 2007
FORMER patients of a psychologist accused of whipping a bulimic woman with a cat o'nine tails have told how his unorthodox methods worked for them.
Bruce Beaton, 64, is accused of sexually assaulting a 22-year-old patient, making her wear a dog collar and whipping her with a wire coathanger and cat o'nine tails.
But Mr Beaton, giving evidence in his defence in Perth District Court yesterday, said he only whipped the couch and had told the patient to call him master as part of her treatment.
As the defence case drew to a close yesterday, two former patients of Mr Beaton's said his unconventional methods had worked.
A former anorexia sufferer told the court Mr Beaton had rostered people on to make sure she ate. She said while she did not agree with the method at the time, she later realised its effectiveness.
A male patient said Mr Beaton had read him parables that had become an important part of his life.
The jury also heard from Mr Beaton's wife of 22 years, Evana, who said she and her husband had a good sex life that did not involve sado-masochism.
"The greatest pain I've received was in childbirth," Mrs Beaton said. "I don't believe in that sort of stuff - I don't know what it is hardly."
Mr Beaton has told the jury he had given his patient homework, which involved having sexual fantasies that did not involve violence.
But he denied ever touching her sexually or hitting her with a whip.
He said he asked her to bring a dog collar, school uniform, whip and handcuffs to a therapy session because she had told him she owned the items.
He claims she had a condition known as BDSM - bondage, discipline and sado-masochism - that needed to be addressed before her bulimia could be properly treated. That included mirroring her language and role-playing as a dominant person, even though the position made him uncomfortable.
"I'm not gruff or aggressive," Mr Beaton said. "I'm trying to join with her in her frame of reference."
Mr Beaton said a list of rules he gave to the patient, including that she call him master and dress according to his wishes, were downloaded from the internet and were part of a role play.
The eating-disorder expert is listed as a preferred psychologist by the Department of Families and Children's Services.
The jury is expected to begin deliberations today.
* Alana Buckley-Carr
* February 01, 2007
FORMER patients of a psychologist accused of whipping a bulimic woman with a cat o'nine tails have told how his unorthodox methods worked for them.
Bruce Beaton, 64, is accused of sexually assaulting a 22-year-old patient, making her wear a dog collar and whipping her with a wire coathanger and cat o'nine tails.
But Mr Beaton, giving evidence in his defence in Perth District Court yesterday, said he only whipped the couch and had told the patient to call him master as part of her treatment.
As the defence case drew to a close yesterday, two former patients of Mr Beaton's said his unconventional methods had worked.
A former anorexia sufferer told the court Mr Beaton had rostered people on to make sure she ate. She said while she did not agree with the method at the time, she later realised its effectiveness.
A male patient said Mr Beaton had read him parables that had become an important part of his life.
The jury also heard from Mr Beaton's wife of 22 years, Evana, who said she and her husband had a good sex life that did not involve sado-masochism.
"The greatest pain I've received was in childbirth," Mrs Beaton said. "I don't believe in that sort of stuff - I don't know what it is hardly."
Mr Beaton has told the jury he had given his patient homework, which involved having sexual fantasies that did not involve violence.
But he denied ever touching her sexually or hitting her with a whip.
He said he asked her to bring a dog collar, school uniform, whip and handcuffs to a therapy session because she had told him she owned the items.
He claims she had a condition known as BDSM - bondage, discipline and sado-masochism - that needed to be addressed before her bulimia could be properly treated. That included mirroring her language and role-playing as a dominant person, even though the position made him uncomfortable.
"I'm not gruff or aggressive," Mr Beaton said. "I'm trying to join with her in her frame of reference."
Mr Beaton said a list of rules he gave to the patient, including that she call him master and dress according to his wishes, were downloaded from the internet and were part of a role play.
The eating-disorder expert is listed as a preferred psychologist by the Department of Families and Children's Services.
The jury is expected to begin deliberations today.
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January 30th, 2007 1:21 PM
Savage Gets Drunk, Auctions Off Column
by Dan Savage
I regard this column, gentle readers, as a sacred calling and I would never intentionally do anything that would cause you to question my judgment. Sound judgment, after all, is the professional advice columnist's most precious commodity.
Nevertheless, I have—once again— stupidly auctioned off the right to give advice in this space. Every once in a while some do-gooder gets me shitfaced and the next thing I know I'm raising money for some dumbass charity. (This week's column is feeding the homeless—you know, in addition to clothing them.) Auctioning off the column is a risky business because what if the winning bidders are assholes? What if they spew bullshit? What if they cruelly abuse readers seeking my counsel? And what if they're better at all of that than I am?
Because being an asshole, spewing bullshit, and cruelly abusing readers is my goddamn job. And it's not in my best interest to create the impression that just anyone can do this shit.
Meet the winning bidders: Steve Lippman and his lovely wife, Marla Russo. Steve is a 37-year-old Jewish dude who does advocacy work for a socially responsible investment firm that I'm not allowed to name in my skeezy advice column. Marla works in public health and was raised Catholic. For the sake of the folks whose letters they're responding to, I'm hoping Steve and Marla are good at this. But for the sake of my own job security, gentle readers, I'm hoping Steve and Marla totally suck.
Q: I hope you post this note as a warning. I recommend that everybody stay away from Craigslist. When I started looking at the personals on Craigslist, I was fascinated (there are some freaks out there), but I was also looking for pictures with bare female flesh. After I exhausted the pages for cities in the U.S., I started looking at ads posted in other countries. That's when I noticed that the same hot babe in Finland posted the same picture in six different U.S. states and four different countries. She wasn't the only one posting the same ad in many different places. When I realized that all these offers for NSA sex were scams, I lost interest in even looking at the pictures. Your readers should know that hot anonymous sex is unlikely to occur—at least through Craigslist—and focus their efforts elsewhere. —DON'T BE FOOLED
Steve: If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. On the Internet, that applies to (1) offers for creams to help men "grow extra inches"; (2) chain e-mails claiming that if you forward them, you'll get cash from Bill Gates or a big pharmaceutical company will give free drugs to a poor kid with cancer; and (3) Craigslist ads for no-strings-attached sex posted by women with pictures that look remarkably similar to porn stars or Lindsay Lohan.
But there are real women on Craigslist. Some of them post for NSA sex in the Casual Encounters section, and many more post in other categories, like Women Seeking Men, Women Seeking Women, and Missed Connections. I know this because five years ago I met my own "too good to be true" wife by answering her Craigslist ad.
Marla: SA sex is fun, too.
Dan: OK, that wasn't too bad—although it would be nice if Marla would shut the fuck up and let Steve get a word in edgewise. But Steve and Marla weren't nearly abusive enough to DBF, who comes across like a total douche. A true advice professional would call attention to DBF's total douchebaggery. Grade: B-.
Q: I'm sure you've answered a question like this before or have refused to answer on principle, but . . . where can you find down-to-earth, laid-back gay men? I'm trying to avoid the online-dating thing because it's not really romantic, but trying to meet guys in a large room with a remix of a remix bouncing in the background isn't working either. —LITTLE OR NO EFFORT
Steve: In less than five minutes of Internet searching, I found the Steel City Skiers, a group for gay skiers and snowboarders in Pittsburgh; Gapers Block, a Chicago book club for gays and lesbians who read books about the Windy City or by authors from that area; Bottom Dwellers, a gay and lesbian scuba diving club in Seattle; and OUTdoors KC, "a gay-inclusive club for those interested in biking, hiking, walking, camping, and other outdoor recreational activities in Kansas City." Point is, even if you don't like online personals, with little or no effort you are only a few clicks away from finding a group of gay men who live near you and like whatever scene you do.
arla: Nice job, Steve.
Dan: Blah blah, Marla! Let the man talk! But Steve really pounds his point home—and even works LONE's sign-off into his response. B+.
Q: I'm hoping you can give me some advice. I'm a happily married 27-year-old female. The problem is that I've never been able to have an orgasm. I had several relationships before my husband and none of those men were able to get me to orgasm. I've tried to masturbate several times, but am not able to reach orgasm. Are some women physically incapable of having an orgasm? Do you have any advice for me? This is upsetting my husband, and he feels like he's failing. —NOT COMING AROUND
Marla: It's a commonly cited statistic that 70 percent of women don't orgasm from intercourse alone, so one question is whether your husband and previous sex partners have provided you with enough clitoral stimulation for you to orgasm. Putting pressure on yourself with expectations from you or your husband isn't going to help the situation any. But putting pressure on yourself with a Hitachi Magic Wand or other vibrator may help a whole lot! Vibrators are so popular these days that it's only a matter of time until Apple comes out with cute white iVibes that let you listen to music, make cell phone calls, and send e-mail all while stimulating your clitoris.
Steve:If you still can't orgasm, you should talk to your doctor because there are a few hormone disorders, or other medical conditions that can prevent orgasm. Some might say to start with this step, but quality time with a new vibrator is more fun than talking to your doctor, and might just be the cure. Plus, you can get a vibrator delivered to your door faster than you can get an appointment with most HMO doctors.
Dan: Marla and Steve's joint response to NCA was exhaustive, helpful, and informative. Hell, I learned a thing or two. A+. But their response lacked the bile, invective, profanity, tangents, and poop jokes that are the hallmark of a true advice professional at work. My job is saved!
For more from Marla and Steve, go to thestranger.com/savage/guests.
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Savage Gets Drunk, Auctions Off Column
by Dan Savage
I regard this column, gentle readers, as a sacred calling and I would never intentionally do anything that would cause you to question my judgment. Sound judgment, after all, is the professional advice columnist's most precious commodity.
Nevertheless, I have—once again— stupidly auctioned off the right to give advice in this space. Every once in a while some do-gooder gets me shitfaced and the next thing I know I'm raising money for some dumbass charity. (This week's column is feeding the homeless—you know, in addition to clothing them.) Auctioning off the column is a risky business because what if the winning bidders are assholes? What if they spew bullshit? What if they cruelly abuse readers seeking my counsel? And what if they're better at all of that than I am?
Because being an asshole, spewing bullshit, and cruelly abusing readers is my goddamn job. And it's not in my best interest to create the impression that just anyone can do this shit.
Meet the winning bidders: Steve Lippman and his lovely wife, Marla Russo. Steve is a 37-year-old Jewish dude who does advocacy work for a socially responsible investment firm that I'm not allowed to name in my skeezy advice column. Marla works in public health and was raised Catholic. For the sake of the folks whose letters they're responding to, I'm hoping Steve and Marla are good at this. But for the sake of my own job security, gentle readers, I'm hoping Steve and Marla totally suck.
Q: I hope you post this note as a warning. I recommend that everybody stay away from Craigslist. When I started looking at the personals on Craigslist, I was fascinated (there are some freaks out there), but I was also looking for pictures with bare female flesh. After I exhausted the pages for cities in the U.S., I started looking at ads posted in other countries. That's when I noticed that the same hot babe in Finland posted the same picture in six different U.S. states and four different countries. She wasn't the only one posting the same ad in many different places. When I realized that all these offers for NSA sex were scams, I lost interest in even looking at the pictures. Your readers should know that hot anonymous sex is unlikely to occur—at least through Craigslist—and focus their efforts elsewhere. —DON'T BE FOOLED
Steve: If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. On the Internet, that applies to (1) offers for creams to help men "grow extra inches"; (2) chain e-mails claiming that if you forward them, you'll get cash from Bill Gates or a big pharmaceutical company will give free drugs to a poor kid with cancer; and (3) Craigslist ads for no-strings-attached sex posted by women with pictures that look remarkably similar to porn stars or Lindsay Lohan.
But there are real women on Craigslist. Some of them post for NSA sex in the Casual Encounters section, and many more post in other categories, like Women Seeking Men, Women Seeking Women, and Missed Connections. I know this because five years ago I met my own "too good to be true" wife by answering her Craigslist ad.
Marla: SA sex is fun, too.
Dan: OK, that wasn't too bad—although it would be nice if Marla would shut the fuck up and let Steve get a word in edgewise. But Steve and Marla weren't nearly abusive enough to DBF, who comes across like a total douche. A true advice professional would call attention to DBF's total douchebaggery. Grade: B-.
Q: I'm sure you've answered a question like this before or have refused to answer on principle, but . . . where can you find down-to-earth, laid-back gay men? I'm trying to avoid the online-dating thing because it's not really romantic, but trying to meet guys in a large room with a remix of a remix bouncing in the background isn't working either. —LITTLE OR NO EFFORT
Steve: In less than five minutes of Internet searching, I found the Steel City Skiers, a group for gay skiers and snowboarders in Pittsburgh; Gapers Block, a Chicago book club for gays and lesbians who read books about the Windy City or by authors from that area; Bottom Dwellers, a gay and lesbian scuba diving club in Seattle; and OUTdoors KC, "a gay-inclusive club for those interested in biking, hiking, walking, camping, and other outdoor recreational activities in Kansas City." Point is, even if you don't like online personals, with little or no effort you are only a few clicks away from finding a group of gay men who live near you and like whatever scene you do.
arla: Nice job, Steve.
Dan: Blah blah, Marla! Let the man talk! But Steve really pounds his point home—and even works LONE's sign-off into his response. B+.
Q: I'm hoping you can give me some advice. I'm a happily married 27-year-old female. The problem is that I've never been able to have an orgasm. I had several relationships before my husband and none of those men were able to get me to orgasm. I've tried to masturbate several times, but am not able to reach orgasm. Are some women physically incapable of having an orgasm? Do you have any advice for me? This is upsetting my husband, and he feels like he's failing. —NOT COMING AROUND
Marla: It's a commonly cited statistic that 70 percent of women don't orgasm from intercourse alone, so one question is whether your husband and previous sex partners have provided you with enough clitoral stimulation for you to orgasm. Putting pressure on yourself with expectations from you or your husband isn't going to help the situation any. But putting pressure on yourself with a Hitachi Magic Wand or other vibrator may help a whole lot! Vibrators are so popular these days that it's only a matter of time until Apple comes out with cute white iVibes that let you listen to music, make cell phone calls, and send e-mail all while stimulating your clitoris.
Steve:If you still can't orgasm, you should talk to your doctor because there are a few hormone disorders, or other medical conditions that can prevent orgasm. Some might say to start with this step, but quality time with a new vibrator is more fun than talking to your doctor, and might just be the cure. Plus, you can get a vibrator delivered to your door faster than you can get an appointment with most HMO doctors.
Dan: Marla and Steve's joint response to NCA was exhaustive, helpful, and informative. Hell, I learned a thing or two. A+. But their response lacked the bile, invective, profanity, tangents, and poop jokes that are the hallmark of a true advice professional at work. My job is saved!
For more from Marla and Steve, go to thestranger.com/savage/guests.
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Jury retires in whip and collar case
February 01, 2007 03:56pm
A JURY has retired to decide whether a Perth psychologist was curing or abusing a bulimic patient when he used a cat-o'-nine-tails whip, a dog collar and sado-masochism in treatment sessions.
Bruce Alistair Beaton, 64, of Fremantle, has pleaded not guilty in West Australian District Court to indecently assaulting and sexually penetrating a 22-year-old woman at his practice between January and March 2005.
The psychologist was arrested when police burst into his office in March 2005, after hearing whipping sounds while they were secretly video recording his session with the woman, who is now 24.
Mr Beaton's lawyer Jeremy Scudds said the woman was a habitual liar who liked sado-masochism and Mr Beaton was simply trying to connect with her.
But prosecutor Amanda Forrester said Mr Beaton had taken advantage of the very vulnerable woman under the guise of treatment.
February 01, 2007 03:56pm
A JURY has retired to decide whether a Perth psychologist was curing or abusing a bulimic patient when he used a cat-o'-nine-tails whip, a dog collar and sado-masochism in treatment sessions.
Bruce Alistair Beaton, 64, of Fremantle, has pleaded not guilty in West Australian District Court to indecently assaulting and sexually penetrating a 22-year-old woman at his practice between January and March 2005.
The psychologist was arrested when police burst into his office in March 2005, after hearing whipping sounds while they were secretly video recording his session with the woman, who is now 24.
Mr Beaton's lawyer Jeremy Scudds said the woman was a habitual liar who liked sado-masochism and Mr Beaton was simply trying to connect with her.
But prosecutor Amanda Forrester said Mr Beaton had taken advantage of the very vulnerable woman under the guise of treatment.
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Psychologist cleared of assault
* Alana Buckley-Carr
* February 02, 2007
A PERTH psychologist has vowed never to return to the profession despite being cleared of salacious allegations that he whipped, sexually assaulted and forced a bulimic patient to wear a dog collar.
Evana Beaton broke down in tears as her husband, Bruce Beaton, 64, was acquitted on all charges by the Perth District Court last night.
Mr Beaton, an eating disorder expert, denied the accusations but said he had whipped the couch next to the 22-year-old woman, who had to be treated for acondition called BDSM - bondage, discipline and sadomasochism.
The woman accused her psychologist of making her wear a dog collar, whipping her with a wire coathanger and a cat o'nine tails, giving her oral sex and digitally penetrating her.
While the acquittal spared Mr Beaton any time in prison, he was convicted of contempt of court for refusing to answer a question during the trial.
He claimed to have consulted colleagues on how to treat BDSM but during cross-examination, he refused to name a Murdoch University staff member he said he spoke with.
Mr Beaton told judge Troy Sweeney that he would not reveal the colleague's name, for fear it would be revealed in the media.
The offence carries a maximum penalty of five years' jail and a $50,000 fine but Judge Sweeney said Mr Beaton was a hard-working, caring and professional man who had lost his career as a result of the case. He was fined $10,000.
Leaving the court arm in arm with his wife last night, Mr Beaton said he would never return to psychology and would have to retrain in a different field.
"Its been really dreadful," he said. "All I can say is this kind of thing has destroyed my career - I'll never work in psychology again. I loved it. I thought I did it well for a long time."
Mrs Beaton, who was called to give evidence about the health of the couple's sex life, said the acquittal was a huge relief to the family. "We've had to sell our house, it's been utterly traumatic," she said.
Mr Beaton remained straight faced as the verdict was read, mirroring his composure during the trial. His only smile came as his wife approached him in the dock after he was discharged.
"There's no winners in a case like this," Defence counsel Jeremy Scudds said outside court. "He's a person who cares about his patients and he cares about ex-patients.
"Unfortunately the whole process has effectively meant he is going to lose his career."
During the trial, the jury was told the woman, who had suffered from bulimia for 10 years, had a myriad of problems, including drug use, self harm and being sexually abused at the age of 9.
After complaining to police about Mr Beaton's alleged behaviour in 2005, a covert operation was set up, including the recording of phone calls between the pair and the recording of a therapy session when a secret camera was placed in the woman's bag.
During the session, Mr Beaton is heard calling the woman his "delicious" submissive, who he wants to have a taste of.
He also tells her he made a special whip, before retrieving the cat o'nine tails. The sound of 12 whipping noises are heard before police are seen storming the consulting room.
Mr Beaton explained his language to the patient by saying he had to mirror the woman's behaviour in order for her to trust him. He also admitted telling the woman to masturbate while having sexual fantasies that did not involve violence.
He said the patient's violent sexual relationships and BDSM had to be explored to determine what sustained her bulimia.
* Alana Buckley-Carr
* February 02, 2007
A PERTH psychologist has vowed never to return to the profession despite being cleared of salacious allegations that he whipped, sexually assaulted and forced a bulimic patient to wear a dog collar.
Evana Beaton broke down in tears as her husband, Bruce Beaton, 64, was acquitted on all charges by the Perth District Court last night.
Mr Beaton, an eating disorder expert, denied the accusations but said he had whipped the couch next to the 22-year-old woman, who had to be treated for acondition called BDSM - bondage, discipline and sadomasochism.
The woman accused her psychologist of making her wear a dog collar, whipping her with a wire coathanger and a cat o'nine tails, giving her oral sex and digitally penetrating her.
While the acquittal spared Mr Beaton any time in prison, he was convicted of contempt of court for refusing to answer a question during the trial.
He claimed to have consulted colleagues on how to treat BDSM but during cross-examination, he refused to name a Murdoch University staff member he said he spoke with.
Mr Beaton told judge Troy Sweeney that he would not reveal the colleague's name, for fear it would be revealed in the media.
The offence carries a maximum penalty of five years' jail and a $50,000 fine but Judge Sweeney said Mr Beaton was a hard-working, caring and professional man who had lost his career as a result of the case. He was fined $10,000.
Leaving the court arm in arm with his wife last night, Mr Beaton said he would never return to psychology and would have to retrain in a different field.
"Its been really dreadful," he said. "All I can say is this kind of thing has destroyed my career - I'll never work in psychology again. I loved it. I thought I did it well for a long time."
Mrs Beaton, who was called to give evidence about the health of the couple's sex life, said the acquittal was a huge relief to the family. "We've had to sell our house, it's been utterly traumatic," she said.
Mr Beaton remained straight faced as the verdict was read, mirroring his composure during the trial. His only smile came as his wife approached him in the dock after he was discharged.
"There's no winners in a case like this," Defence counsel Jeremy Scudds said outside court. "He's a person who cares about his patients and he cares about ex-patients.
"Unfortunately the whole process has effectively meant he is going to lose his career."
During the trial, the jury was told the woman, who had suffered from bulimia for 10 years, had a myriad of problems, including drug use, self harm and being sexually abused at the age of 9.
After complaining to police about Mr Beaton's alleged behaviour in 2005, a covert operation was set up, including the recording of phone calls between the pair and the recording of a therapy session when a secret camera was placed in the woman's bag.
During the session, Mr Beaton is heard calling the woman his "delicious" submissive, who he wants to have a taste of.
He also tells her he made a special whip, before retrieving the cat o'nine tails. The sound of 12 whipping noises are heard before police are seen storming the consulting room.
Mr Beaton explained his language to the patient by saying he had to mirror the woman's behaviour in order for her to trust him. He also admitted telling the woman to masturbate while having sexual fantasies that did not involve violence.
He said the patient's violent sexual relationships and BDSM had to be explored to determine what sustained her bulimia.
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Therapists scorn S&M 'treatment'
* Alana Buckley-Carr
* February 03, 2007
WHEN prominent Perth psychologist Bruce Beaton explained that his sadomasochistic treatment of a 22-year-old patient was part of her therapy, a Perth jury believed him. His peers, however, are not so sure.
The Beaton case, which played out in a Perth courtroom this week, has sparked a debate about what represents acceptable therapeutic practice behind closed doors.
Mr Beaton was acquitted of sexual penetration and indecent assault charges on Thursday, but colleagues in the profession have cast serious doubt on whether his "treatment" was appropriate.
The case revolved around a patient who began seeing him for bulimia, which she had suffered from for 10 years.
Mr Beaton argued she first had to be treated for the primary cause of the problem, which he diagnosed as BDSM - bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. But his colleagues have disputed that BDSM is a psychiatric condition, arguing it is a lifestyle choice.
During the District Court trial, the patient alleged Mr Beaton made her wear a dog collar and whipped her with a wire coathanger and cat o'nine tails.
But Mr Beaton denied this, saying he only whipped the couch and had told the patient to call him "master" as part of her treatment. He said after she began calling him master and talking about violent sexual relationships, he realised the only way to get through to the patient was to role-play a situation she was used to.
While he was not comfortable with the position, he began mirroring her language and behaviour in a bid to communicate on her level.
Mr Beaton was arrested in 2005 after a police sting which involved the secret recording of phone calls between the therapist and patient and a covert recording of one therapy session where he was seen getting out a cat o'nine tails he said he made especially for her.
Mobile phone text messages between the therapist and his patient tendered to the court detail his commands to her, including many which are signed by him as "M". He admitted the letter stood for "master".
In one, he tells the woman, who is now 24, to let her hair grow to its natural colour. He admitted giving her a list of other commands, such as how to dress and curtsy. He also demanded that she masturbate while fantasising.
Mr Beaton told the court he wanted "a taste of her" - as recorded by secret police surveillance - and in one text message, wrote: "I thought you might not be wanting to do all the sexual things that I was wanting to do."
But Australian Psychological Society president Amanda Gordon disputed that BDSM was a psychological condition as opposed to a sexual behaviour.
"If someone is into sadomasochism we don't necessarily try to change that," she said. "That is a personal choice."
While Ms Gordon accepted that scaring a patient may be helpful to them, such as showing an arachnophobe a spider, she questioned whether using a whip in the treatment of a person who was into BDSM was appropriate.
"Cognitive therapy is about helping the person change their thoughts and in turn their moods and behaviours," Ms Gordon said. "What we must not do is exploit a client."
University of Western Australia clinical psychology lecturer Neil McLean said the industry worked with treatments that had proven results. He said even in the case of unusual and rare problems, therapists turned to therapeutic guidelines in developing a treatment.
The Psychologists Board of Western Australia will discuss Mr Beaton's case on Tuesday. But Mr Beaton has already began the process of resigning as a registered therapist.
* Alana Buckley-Carr
* February 03, 2007
WHEN prominent Perth psychologist Bruce Beaton explained that his sadomasochistic treatment of a 22-year-old patient was part of her therapy, a Perth jury believed him. His peers, however, are not so sure.
The Beaton case, which played out in a Perth courtroom this week, has sparked a debate about what represents acceptable therapeutic practice behind closed doors.
Mr Beaton was acquitted of sexual penetration and indecent assault charges on Thursday, but colleagues in the profession have cast serious doubt on whether his "treatment" was appropriate.
The case revolved around a patient who began seeing him for bulimia, which she had suffered from for 10 years.
Mr Beaton argued she first had to be treated for the primary cause of the problem, which he diagnosed as BDSM - bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. But his colleagues have disputed that BDSM is a psychiatric condition, arguing it is a lifestyle choice.
During the District Court trial, the patient alleged Mr Beaton made her wear a dog collar and whipped her with a wire coathanger and cat o'nine tails.
But Mr Beaton denied this, saying he only whipped the couch and had told the patient to call him "master" as part of her treatment. He said after she began calling him master and talking about violent sexual relationships, he realised the only way to get through to the patient was to role-play a situation she was used to.
While he was not comfortable with the position, he began mirroring her language and behaviour in a bid to communicate on her level.
Mr Beaton was arrested in 2005 after a police sting which involved the secret recording of phone calls between the therapist and patient and a covert recording of one therapy session where he was seen getting out a cat o'nine tails he said he made especially for her.
Mobile phone text messages between the therapist and his patient tendered to the court detail his commands to her, including many which are signed by him as "M". He admitted the letter stood for "master".
In one, he tells the woman, who is now 24, to let her hair grow to its natural colour. He admitted giving her a list of other commands, such as how to dress and curtsy. He also demanded that she masturbate while fantasising.
Mr Beaton told the court he wanted "a taste of her" - as recorded by secret police surveillance - and in one text message, wrote: "I thought you might not be wanting to do all the sexual things that I was wanting to do."
But Australian Psychological Society president Amanda Gordon disputed that BDSM was a psychological condition as opposed to a sexual behaviour.
"If someone is into sadomasochism we don't necessarily try to change that," she said. "That is a personal choice."
While Ms Gordon accepted that scaring a patient may be helpful to them, such as showing an arachnophobe a spider, she questioned whether using a whip in the treatment of a person who was into BDSM was appropriate.
"Cognitive therapy is about helping the person change their thoughts and in turn their moods and behaviours," Ms Gordon said. "What we must not do is exploit a client."
University of Western Australia clinical psychology lecturer Neil McLean said the industry worked with treatments that had proven results. He said even in the case of unusual and rare problems, therapists turned to therapeutic guidelines in developing a treatment.
The Psychologists Board of Western Australia will discuss Mr Beaton's case on Tuesday. But Mr Beaton has already began the process of resigning as a registered therapist.
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Going to see my therapist now. Don't mind any strange sounds you hear!
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We are a Nation descended of convicts if you believe popular culture. He is out of his profession , he has the disdain of his 'peers' and according to a TV interview it nearly cost him his marriage. Sounds almost dunked . I think there is still more to this case that has yet to be reported . I am trying to get some court transcripts currently. May take a few days.RJMasters said:
Ohh just remembered . The contempt of Court charge and a penalty fine of $10,000 by Judge Troy Sweeny for refusing to name a colleague.
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