Is honesty the best policy

[luvslingerie200]

Mine must never know. She would not take the news well at all.

^^^^^^This^^^^^^

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

I think I am safe in saying most bi married guys have not come out to their wives. This question is addressed to you, but all are welcome to comment. If your wife asked you point blank if you were having gay sex, how would you respond?

I am not having gay sex, but if I were, I'd have obtained permission, by first telling my wife I had bisexual feelings

And then confessing I dream about bisexual fantasies

And then asking her for her explicit permission, as I made marital vows suggesting I would only be with her forever. Not even suggesting, explicitly.

So, it's up to her if I can or not.

I would absolutely tell my partners before I even got involved about my kinks. It's why I am on here.

I need some place where kink discussion is normalized and women are encouraged to be frank about their sexual desires and needs and not hide them.

I am then free to do the same.

 

[Horndauwg]

Mine must never know. She would not take the news well at all.

Mine either

 

[CharlieBoker]

I’m out to my wife, she knows I’m bisexual.

I have to repress my primal urges and strong desire for cock though, as she insists on monogamy.

I have so much to lose for just a little sexual fun so most of the time I see it as a fair compromise.

Sometimes though it does create inner conflict for me as I’m a free spirit at heart and would prefer to explore sexually.

 

[UKgreyas]

I think I am safe in saying most bi married guys have not come out to their wives. This question is addressed to you, but all are welcome to comment. If your wife asked you point blank if you were having gay sex, how would you respond?

Had a 'hetero' threesome with her and I sucked cock for an age... and he sucked mine. Then we both wanked off into her mouth.

She knows that I am bi. I would deny having ANY extra marital sex with any gender. I just would. But I would do it in a blink. In secret.

 

[Britva415]

I wouldn't want to be married to someone I couldn't be honest with.

I understand that some guys get married before they are even aware of "certain truths," and that wasn't my situation, but I do have the experience of discovering things after getting married and disclosing them because hiding them would be intolerable. This has gone both ways - my wife has made her own discoveries and disclosed them.

Regardless of whether any particular people's marriage can survive the disclosure or not: While you're married, can't you trust each other to be honest, to witness each other's honesty, and cope with whatever fallout results from the truth?

That fallout could include divorce, sure. I mean, sometimes two people are simply incompatible. I can't imagine spending the rest of one's life with one or both spouses being ignorant of that or in active denial of it. I get that people do it, and I understand the reasons they give, it just isn't how I would ever live my own life.

 

[Britva415]

I think I am safe in saying most bi married guys have not come out to their wives. This question is addressed to you, but all are welcome to comment. If your wife asked you point blank if you were having gay sex, how would you respond?

I strongly dislike the presumption that if you're bi then you must be being unfaithful.

"Coming out" does not automatically mean disclosing infidelity, and it's harmful to perpetuate the idea that it does.

I'm not judging you for being in that situation, yourself, but don't project it onto everyone else.

 

[PeteyPP]

Im not married but In a live in situation. She doesn't know that I have bi Fantasies. She does know that I like my ass played with and will indulge me from time to time. I have fucklicked her while using her dildo. I would imagine she felt my tongue stray on it a few times. We've talked about adding a third both male and female into our play but I think it's more talk. In those talks it's more about watching her suck another dick not me helping her.

 

[captainhedy]

Are you joking ? Honesty is never the best policy, I mean it's not even a policy. Lie, lie through your teeth, until the whole thing explodes and then lie some more. Lying keeps everyon.e happy, more or less

 

[liqueur]

Are you joking ? Honesty is never the best policy, I mean it's not even a policy. Lie, lie through your teeth, until the whole thing explodes and then lie some more. Lying keeps everyon.e happy, more or less

 

[Britva415]

Are you joking ? Honesty is never the best policy, I mean it's not even a policy. Lie, lie through your teeth, until the whole thing explodes and then lie some more. Lying keeps everyon.e happy, more or less

Other than the "exploding" part, eh

 

[closetcraving]

I don't think I'd be able to tell my SO that I love cock. In this case, I feel like transparency would do more harm than good and I love the way our relationship is established

I think of it as two different sides of me. In one, I'm a truly loving and supportive partner, in the other, I'm sucking cocks and making sure they are drained. I feel like these don't have to overlap

Also, I'd be lying if I didn't say that keeping it a secret is what fuels this desire too

 

[TrailerHitch]

When we entered into our ethical non-monogamous relationship it became part of the discussion. She was okay with it as long as I play safe. Never been an issue.

 

[mwmforfun]

I think I am safe in saying most bi married guys have not come out to their wives. This question is addressed to you, but all are welcome to comment. If your wife asked you point blank if you were having gay sex, how would you respond?

I told my wife I was bi. I did not tell her I had sex with men at first, but later did. It was hard for her, because I'd been cheating, but she's healed over time and now better understands me.

 

[SigmaJay]

This question is addressed to you, but all are welcome to comment. If your wife asked you point blank if you were having gay sex, how would you respond?

I would tell her the truth. I take full responsibility for my actions.

 

[leftwantingmore]

Honesty is not without risks. That information can be used to cause emotional pain, embarrassment and to humiliate.
1st and 2nd wives both did exactly that. I didn't take the risk again. Consider carefully. I was bi but never active when married. I was always faithful. That didn't matter to #1 or #2.

 

[bobb_sledd]

This question is addressed to you, but all are welcome to comment. If your wife asked you point blank if you were having gay sex, how would you respond?

I would tell her the truth. I take full responsibility for my actions.

She knows I have; she doesn't know that I still do. There's a part of me that wishes she would ask.

 

[romand]

Absolutely not for me. In my experience confessing does not go well. My wife would absolutely be horrified. Strictly downlow. Been caught before, not cool.

 

[JessiQueVix]

Among the men i have dated, i had a bisexual boyfriend. When we were dating, he wanted me to finger him when i gave head. Then introduced me to pegging him. And then he confessed that he is actually by. Not a bad experience for me though. We had a good relationship. Guess it worked because we were not husband wife

 

[liqueur]

I told my wife I was bi. I did not tell her I had sex with men at first, but later did. It was hard for her, because I'd been cheating, but she's healed over time and now better understands me.

I've said this before, but you illustrate it for me: most women, unless they're very conservative, will not have a problem with their partner being bi. It's being cheated on that's the issue. Seems like it ought to be a no-brainer