Is this a true statement? for the women....

[Kayr]

"A women generally decides within 30 seconds of meeting a guy if she's NOT going to sleep with him, or whether she's going to stay open to the possibility."


I'm curious about that statement. Notice, the phrase is NOT whether she decides right away TO sleep with him, but whether she'd outright decide against the possibility sometime in the future.


Comments welcome.

Edit.... I read this in one of those damn spam emails I got a week or so ago. It sounded reasonable but what do I know? haha.

 

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[Shadowann2]

Not true! There have been a lot of guys that I've met and not been sexualy attracted to right away, but after getting to know them better, I became sexualy interested. Nothing certain is ever decided in the first 30 seconds of meeting someone. Hell, I 've met some guys that I was instantly physicaly attracted to but as I got to know them I have lost that attraction because they were assholes!

 

[lilpriss]

Mine is... I always run "WOuld i sleep with this guy?" through my head when I meet him...

But it takes me longer if I think I want to sleep with the guy...

And I can usually talk myself out of it pretty quick.

 

[SexyChele]

Well, first not every man I meet will be a potential candidate for the bedroom. But those that might be, well, yeah I rule out pretty quickly those I have no sexual interest in. Not sure if it is within 30 seconds, though. Definetely within the first 5 minutes. There are/have been exceptions, always are, but generally I've stayed true to my first inclination.

 

[peachykeen]

nope. If that were true, Mr Keen would not be Mr Keen today

 

[HzDomme]

"A women generally decides within 30 seconds of meeting a guy if she's NOT going to sleep with him, or whether she's going to stay open to the possibility."


I'm curious about that statement. Notice, the phrase is NOT whether she decides right away TO sleep with him, but whether she'd outright decide against the possibility sometime in the future.


Comments welcome.

Edit.... I read this in one of those damn spam emails I got a week or so ago. It sounded reasonable but what do I know? haha.

The reason you read it in spam mail is that it is part of a very very old joke that has been floating around the web for years.
And no, it is not true. Generalizations usually aren't.

 

[asenath]

It's a silly statement.

 

[capricious_chic]

I believe I am going to have to take the other end of the spectrum here and say, yes.

Yes, it is true.

Yes, it does happen.

It is really a subconcious thing, not something in the forefront of my mind. I know, absolutely, right away whether or not I would sleep with someone. Whether or not that would ever come to fruition, is anyone's guess. The possibility though, is already in the back of my mind. I would like to think that I can take in the sum of a person in a sweeping glance. No, it is not about appearance either. Aesthetics are not key for me and whether or not I am attracted to someone. It is about their stance, their confidence level, whether or not intelligence is gleened in their eye's. Very rarely have I been wrong. Everyone once in awhile someone will open their mouth, and that first impression is blown all to hell.. but not very often.

Perhaps I think about sex way too often? If it is not within the first 30 seconds, it is within the first two minutes.

I have swung the other way though, and been pleasantly surprised by someone that I had thought would not be a potential partner... and been seduced by their charm, wit, and kindness.


So while it does go through the back of my mind, it is not an absolute when it comes to potential partners. Just a cursory thought.

 

[sheath]

I agree with Chic!

Absolutely, I think about it within the first few minutes of meeting a man. It all comes down to his level of confidence. If he has that walk about him and that look in his eyes... that stance that says he doesn't care what ANYONE thinks because he is comfortable with himself...well, damn, there you go, I'm in. If he doesn't have those things about him, sleeping with him would be nothing more than a passing question.

If a man isn't confident about himself he DAMN sure won't be confident enough to thoroughly please a woman in bed.

But yes...LOL Maybe I'm also one of those women who thinks about sex too much! But that question in my mind of "Would I sleep with him?" isn't a very obvious one. It's always in the back of my mind, but it is definitely there. Whether I would actually PURSUE it or not is a very different story! I might see a man now and think, wow, I would like that. But I have a man at home who loves me more than I ever dreamed a man could love a woman and he gives me everything I need and more...so...

I'm gonna stop rambling. Yes, I think about it.

S.

 

[RomanHans]

Deceptive

Interesting that the word 'generally' is in the question...does this mean that a woman supposedly makes this decision with, say at least 50 percent of the men that she meets?

Roman

 

[Willing and Unsure]

this goes along with the whole bit of "you cnat judge a book by its cover." if you say outright when you first meet someone there is no way in hell you'd ever sleep with them, then you could be missing out on a lot with this person, especially if they show themselves to be different from your initial impression of them.

I dont make that decision. I dont think I ever have, or ever will.

 

[hotNnasty]

Sleeping with him is probably the last thing on my mind when I meet a guy. There's so much more I'd rather know or wonder about first.

 

[Hawks_Titansfan]

I would hope

She wouldn't be thinking about
that so quickly.There are so many
important things to take into
consideration.

 

[Sabledrake]

We may say that you can't judge a book by its cover, but it's amazing how many people actually do. More in the sense that a good cover will encourage a reader to pick the thing up and read the back copy and flip through it a little; I've only met a few people who flat-out refuse to give a book a try because they hate the cover art.

Mind, I am talking literal books here ... but the same thing does apply to a certain extent to people. First impressions, the appearance that one chooses to present, can determine whether or not someone will give the "story" a chance.

I know I judge people on the way they dress, the way they wear their hair. Those things, unlike other physical traits like race or height or gender for instance, are much more a matter of choice and carry various connotations.

Ack, I'm wandering off on a tangent here. As for the original question, I've never 'dated' so I've never had the experience of going out with a guy and making that initial yea-or-nay decision.

But it brings to mind a scene from one of my favorite Britcoms, "Coupling." Steve was dining with Susan, and remarked that men are always more anxious because they go through the entire date wondering if they're going to get lucky, while the women have already made the decision.

Sabledrake