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Is all the misogyny I’m noticing just me reading too much into things lately?
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What do you do when a guy sends you porn* that really gets him off and the person in the video is someone you actually know in real life and used to be friends with? The guy enjoys the video specifically because the person I know looks really reluctant and doesn't seem to be enjoying at all what happens.
Fuck, I don't know. Threw me in a weird loop.
*Not leaked pics, just straight up porn with a production company, shitty music and all.
Fuck, I don't know. Threw me in a weird loop.
*Not leaked pics, just straight up porn with a production company, shitty music and all.
MeekMe
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Not just you. It’s a daily thing here and most of the internet. A good portion gets filtered out by our brains but after seeing it day in and day out it builds up and the next thing you know you need a break from Lit and similar places because you’ve started to feel negatively towards the whole of men. At least that’s what happens to me.
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Nope. It was completely uncalled for but explains a lot. Not only is he dismissive of our time, effort and help but he's dismissive of his wife. He may hear her but he's sure not listening to her.
Funny thing is, I considered asking a Dom friend of mine to take a read and offer the guy some help. Not because my friend was male, but because he was a Dom. I thought the OP might listen better. I stopped myself from asking though because I'd already decided that the OP either didn't want the advice (despite his protestations that he appreciated it...then went on to dismiss all of it) or was incapable of comprehending what we were saying, so wasn't worth my time and effort then why should I ask my friend to spend his time and effort? What the OP doesn't know is my friend wouldn't have been half as kind as us 'women' were.
What I find really funny though is a man with so little regard for women would start a thread asking 'Just wondering if there are any other men here who have a deep desire to be dominated by a strong woman?'
The mistake we made was believing him when he said he wanted a D/s relationship. He doesn't. She says she's not submissive. He just wants to role-play and have someone do what he says.
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Oy fucking vey.
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As other have already said, it’s definitely not just you.
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Rolling here. Thanks for the laugh. Have you hurt your eyes rolling them back yet? (Asking for a friend.)
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Turns out I’m quite good at it so made it through unscathed. My daughters must have inherited their skill at this from me, lol.
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Turns out I’m quite good at it so made it through unscathed. My daughters must have inherited their skill at this from me, lol.
I'm so pleased that you're fine. Wouldn't want you to be unable to read some of this stuff.
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Now I’m rolling!
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Turns out I’m quite good at it so made it through unscathed. My daughters must have inherited their skill at this from me, lol.
The eye rolling is natural to all teen girls. Some if us just never stop.
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I get that it must feel weird. You didn’t know that the person had been in that kind of production either?
Sometimes you just wish you could unknow things.
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Oh, yes.
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I knew she had done porn, because I ran into her pics years ago on tumblr, but I had kind of pushed it aside. When I first found out it made me super sad, because she did not look happy and like life had turned out well for her. It made me think a lot.
And now I saw the vid and it was more of the same. Her looking very uncomfortable and not like she’s enjoying things. That vid is from around the same time as the pics I saw on tumblr. She has since gone full on implants and fillers, but she still looks every bit as unhappy in all pics I’ve seen.
Seeing the vid was somehow way worse than just seeing the pics. Made it more real. And the guy telling that it’s exactly because she looks so reluctant that makes it hot. I can get on board of that, but I guess because I actually know the person looking sad and reluctant it makes it feel very different. I really gotta wonder what happened to her. We haven’t really been in contact since 2011 when I moved.
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An ex of mine worked as a stills photographer for a production company that did both porn an other stuff. It’s not a happy crowd and yes, stills are taken out of context and easier to distance from.
Your last paragraph is the kind of cognitive dissonance that really hurts for me.
Finding something hot and still finding it wrong or worse is bad enough. When it gets up close and personal it’s worse.
ETA: You know where to find me if you want to talk.
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That's so tough. I've thought about the types of scenes or sessions where it would appear that the submissive wants it to end but never safewords. It could be physical or emotional, humiliating, etc. But then if there is a pervading sadness, it would seem that it actually wasn't wanted on both sides. I then also wonder what each side gets out of those types of scenes and realize it could be all sorts of things and most likely things that I haven't even considered. I haven't been to many events where I could potentially see something like that but I know people that do play that hard. I imagine it would be disconcerting to watch.
I've only had a couple of experiences that might fit into this category. One we stopped. The other we kept going. Afterwards he said it was the only time he saw me anywhere close to giving up. I really came close and came close to not playing any more after that. I'm glad I didn't. I felt a kind of power for not giving up. We continued with some of the same and it's been interesting to see how I've evolved and grown.
Anyway, I hope you're ok.
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That was an interesting meeting.
I don’t know if I was discreetly threatened, discreetly bribed or very discreetly hit on.
I don’t know if I was discreetly threatened, discreetly bribed or very discreetly hit on.
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All of the above?
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Or some sort of combination perhaps, yes.
I’m pretty sure the last part won’t become a problem.
The other two? Time will tell.
Short time, I think we both got a reasonable deal but I don’t know what will cone of it in the long haul.
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20 hours post shot two with just a sore arm and a little fatigue. Yeah!
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