Isolated BDSM Blurts - Roosters are Vicious

[cfuhrer]

Well done ?

Hehe. That could be taken several ways, couldn't it?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cfuhrer]

Oh, only meant in the best but not meant to be presumptive

 

[LallyH]

I've recently discovered Monkey Life - in case you don't know, it's a TV programme filmed in a rescue centre for primates, based in the U.K.

It's fascinating and it describes and illustrates the intricacies and subtleties of the social ordering within the primate groups, particularly the chimps.

Each group has a dominant male whose role is to ensure harmonious cohabitation by asserting his authority and clamping down on any bad behaviour such as the other males picking on the females. The others in the group are expected to show their submission to him in a variety of ways - by offering their rear to him, grooming him, and following him around - and in return, he gives them protection and security, so long as they behave themselves....It seems that this is a tiring and arduous role at times, as the dominant male is permanently 'on guard' but the rewards, in terms of female attention, respect, and the largest share of the food, makes it worth the trouble.

Any of this sound familiar?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I've recently discovered Monkey Life - in case you don't know, it's a TV programme filmed in a rescue centre for primates, based in the U.K.

It's fascinating and it describes and illustrates the intricacies and subtleties of the social ordering within the primate groups, particularly the chimps.

Each group has a dominant male whose role is to ensure harmonious cohabitation by asserting his authority and clamping down on any bad behaviour such as the other males picking on the females. The others in the group are expected to show their submission to him in a variety of ways - by offering their rear to him, grooming him, and following him around - and in return, he gives them protection and security, so long as they behave themselves....It seems that this is a tiring and arduous role at times, as the dominant male is permanently 'on guard' but the rewards, in terms of female attention, respect, and the largest share of the food, makes it worth the trouble.

Any of this sound familiar?

Yes!
I have recently discovered a TV show that interests me

 

[MeekMe]

I feel ready to quit alcohol. There doesn't seem to be much enjoyment for me anymore and since I've been avoiding it, when I do actually have a drink I notice how terrible it makes me feel. I have mixed feelings about this. Good that I don't really want it. Bad that it seems like I will somehow "miss out" because of it. I kind of hate this idea that I might be missing out by not drinking as I think that is just plain ridiculous. Not drinking is a good thing. Wish I felt more comfortable with that.

 

[Tallcajun]

Stay true to yourself.
I had a college roommate that didn't drink. He didn't follow the crowd and I always admired him for that.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I feel ready to quit alcohol. There doesn't seem to be much enjoyment for me anymore and since I've been avoiding it, when I do actually have a drink I notice how terrible it makes me feel. I have mixed feelings about this. Good that I don't really want it. Bad that it seems like I will somehow "miss out" because of it. I kind of hate this idea that I might be missing out by not drinking as I think that is just plain ridiculous. Not drinking is a good thing. Wish I felt more comfortable with that.

Missing out how?
I regularly drink nothing. I usually go from full moon to full moon without drinking when I feel like I need to skip it. The moon thing just for giggles But I'm around friends who are still drinking, and neither of us minds the other.
I'm really curious what you think you might miss? Because, as TC says, I think it's quite fine NOT to drink.

 

[Blue]

I've drunk about 4 or 5 units of alcohol in my life, I don't feel like I'm missing out. I'm actually more annoyed that I don't live in Amsterdam...

 

[MeekMe]

The frustrating part is I know I'm not missing out. And I don't know why I have this nagging feeling of "missing out" when I don't even know what I'd be missing out on. I feel quite good about not drinking. But the part I feel bad about is the weird missing out feeling that doesn't make any sense to me. Maybe it's kind of like that first time you look at your toys (as a kid) and realize you're old enough to not have them anymore?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

The frustrating part is I know I'm not missing out. And I don't know why I have this nagging feeling of "missing out" when I don't even know what I'd be missing out on. I feel quite good about not drinking. But the part I feel bad about is the weird missing out feeling that doesn't make any sense to me. Maybe it's kind of like that first time you look at your toys (as a kid) and realize you're old enough to not have them anymore?

Ok, I get it. There's also probably a sense of community in things. If my friends all took up synchronous swimming, I might consider checking it out. Once Obviously drinking is fun and desirable according to advertising, pop culture, my drunk thread.. But we can't all like exactly the same things. Maybe you just need some time to settlle into a new mindset?

 

[Miles Long]

What if you picked up a sixer of O'Doul's? Would that help?

 

[MeekMe]

Ok, I get it. There's also probably a sense of community in things. If my friends all took up synchronous swimming, I might consider checking it out. Once Obviously drinking is fun and desirable according to advertising, pop culture, my drunk thread.. But we can't all like exactly the same things. Maybe you just need some time to settlle into a new mindset?

Maybe. this is not a dire sort of thing. A realization and a bit of word vomit.

What if you picked up a sixer of O'Doul's? Would that help?

Depends on the taste I suppose. I quite like beer and especially fun craft beer. Yummy IPAs and smooth porters and bright shandies... I like all of those, but I am ready to take a break. One here or there would be fine I think. But maybe not anytime soon.


Edit: Thank you for the encouragement and kind words from those quotes and not quoted.

 

[yukonnights]

The frustrating part is I know I'm not missing out. And I don't know why I have this nagging feeling of "missing out" when I don't even know what I'd be missing out on. I feel quite good about not drinking. But the part I feel bad about is the weird missing out feeling that doesn't make any sense to me. Maybe it's kind of like that first time you look at your toys (as a kid) and realize you're old enough to not have them anymore?

I was once a terrible drinker (as in way too much, way too often). That has been so long ago I cant even remember how long exactly. I mention this just so you know I'm not really a monk who can't relate

Anyway, drinking is a habit really. And anytime we decide to curb a habit it feels like we're sort of at loose ends. And we are...there is a void in our "repertoire". Maybe that's the empty space you're feeling?

 

[Farawyn]

Where is Staggy?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Cumference]

I drink very little.
(but i do enjoy a glass of good beer, single malt or red wine)
I hate the loss of control, have no problems acting weird when sober anyway, always end up being the one in charge (and as such, must stay sober).... and to top it all up, the pain of the hangover overshadows the joy of intoxication.

The benefits are many: The next day is not ruined and I can be annoyingly enthusiastic, when the other guys look like something the cat dragged in.
(and i can remember in exquisite details what went on)

 

[LallyH]

I rarely drink because it makes me ill - I get a bloody awful migraine off a single beer or glass of wine

I can understand why Meeks could feel 'left out' in a social situation because I still miss that relaxed feeling that comes with a couple of drinks, particularly for someone like me who feels uncomfortable and shy around large groups of people.

So I sympathise

 

[Miles Long]

I rarely drink because it makes me ill - I get a bloody awful migraine off a single beer or glass of wine

I can understand why Meeks could feel 'left out' in a social situation because I still miss that relaxed feeling that comes with a couple of drinks, particularly for someone like me who feels uncomfortable and shy around large groups of people.

So I sympathise

Is that why you switched to heroin?

 

[MeekMe]

I rarely drink because it makes me ill - I get a bloody awful migraine off a single beer or glass of wine

I can understand why Meeks could feel 'left out' in a social situation because I still miss that relaxed feeling that comes with a couple of drinks, particularly for someone like me who feels uncomfortable and shy around large groups of people.

So I sympathise

My anxiety towards people does tend to play into how much I drink. It's so easy to keep going during a conversation or around lots of people because I don't even think about it while consuming.

It is ultimately better for me to back off. It has made me think about the drinking culture here and how in some ways it is the first suggestion for visiting with friends. Especially after work type gatherings when the only places typically available are bars or late night restaurants with two for one specials. Drinking is definitely more of a habit for me. And I really do love not being hungover.

 

[HisArpy]

I don't drink booze. I cook with alcohol, but I don't drink it.

It doesn't bother anyone in any social setting that I'm the sober one. If anyone does raise the very rare question, I just shrug and sip my iced tea. I have yet to worry about getting a DUI on the way home from a party.

What's interesting is that my social gatherings do tend to attract non-drinkers. Which has got to irritate the hell out of the wait staff. Large group, dinner with appetizers for everyone but no drinks tab. I once went to dinner at an exclusive venue and we had to wait in the bar for a table. There were 10 of us. Tea, coffee and water all around. It was amazing how fast we got a table once they realized that we weren't going to spend $100 each in the bar.

 

[MeekMe]

.°(ಗдಗ。)°. I haven't studied Japanese in sooooo long. Dinner tonight will be stressful.

 

[Farawyn]

An orgasm can burn around 400 calories, according to my Fitbit.

 

[TheFirmHand80]

An orgasm can burn around 400 calories, according to my Fitbit.

20 minutes a day is the bare minimum

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]