Just had first time anal

[glancaster102]

hey all, I'm a bit new here to forum, and I was hoping y'all could give me a bit of insight into the world of the bum. My girlfriend and I just had anal for the first time last night - something that we both had agreed on trying for a few weeks now - and I was a little unimpressed. We took it very slowly, used lots of lube, and I kept her in control of the pace, and I dunno, I remember thinking to myself afterwards, 'can she even cum from this?' Because as stimulated as I was, I definitely got the sense that it was a terribly one sided event, which really soured the mood for me as well. I was wondering if it's one of things that gets better with time, or if she is supposed to achieve orgasm from just penetration, or if it just heightens other sexual stimulation.
thanks,

 

[Inna]

Better with time.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Also only a few lucky women seem to cum from anal penetration. This isn't a big deal, but it does mean you should do more than just pump away on her bum . Reach around and play with her clit, use a vibrator or toy at the same time, etc. Don't be afraid to get your hands involved. it will definitely make it better.

 

[fa18]

hey all, I'm a bit new here to forum, and I was hoping y'all could give me a bit of insight into the world of the bum. My girlfriend and I just had anal for the first time last night - something that we both had agreed on trying for a few weeks now - and I was a little unimpressed. We took it very slowly, used lots of lube, and I kept her in control of the pace, and I dunno, I remember thinking to myself afterwards, 'can she even cum from this?' Because as stimulated as I was, I definitely got the sense that it was a terribly one sided event, which really soured the mood for me as well. I was wondering if it's one of things that gets better with time, or if she is supposed to achieve orgasm from just penetration, or if it just heightens other sexual stimulation.
thanks,

First off all I am around the 40yrs mark and I only had my first experence this last weekend and man I was very impressed for myself but was unsure if my Lady was so I asked her and she told me that it takes a little bit of play and time to get use to it but when you are in there try and stimulate her aswell by playing with her viginathat is the best way I have found and she soon forgets that you are in the bum and just concentrats on the pleasure of the moment... well that has worked for me anyway

 

[Chicklet]

With me, with my first time, it was hard to totally completely enjoy because I was in a scared, self-concious mental state. I kept wondering if it was grossing the guy out at all, if I was dirty, if it felt good for him, etc, etc. Your girl might have had similar thoughts hampering her excitement at the moment, tensing her up, such like that. I'm sure it did seem a little one-sided, but if you want it to happen again, I'd bet your excitement to repeat the event will ease her up to a little more relaxation.

 

[M's girl]

Also only a few lucky women seem to cum from anal penetration. This isn't a big deal, but it does mean you should do more than just pump away on her bum . Reach around and play with her clit, use a vibrator or toy at the same time, etc. Don't be afraid to get your hands involved. it will definitely make it better.

Glad to hear there are at least some men who seem to realize that! Maybe it's the wrong example coming from a girl (woman) who does not (even) cum from PIV sex (alone) but to me the question sounds as silly as "last night I fucked her in the ear and she did not seem to enjoy it.... howcome...?"

Sigh.....

 

[SwEeT_LiL_LadY]

Most guys i know would never try anal because they think its "dirty" -- but im glad to see that your willing to try different "holes'

 

[TBKahuna123]

Glad to hear there are at least some men who seem to realize that! Maybe it's the wrong example coming from a girl (woman) who does not (even) cum from PIV sex (alone) but to me the question sounds as silly as "last night I fucked her in the ear and she did not seem to enjoy it.... howcome...?"

Sigh.....

True, but a lot of guys don't know this shit. They don't ever get past the porn channel. I mean sure, there are women out there who do cum from anal intercourse, but like I said, I've never met one. This is one of what I like to call the Porn Myths.

Now, I don't mean that to be degrading to these guys, it's just a fact that most of us don't have any education on these matters. Do you know how much I had to fuck it up along the way to get it right? I was lucky in that I actually came of age in the era BEFORE the Internet and easy access to porn. Because of that I didn't get a lot of the misinformation that teenagers these days do get.

On this subject I still remember thinking in college, how can anal sex be fun? I happened to have a friend who was a biology major, so I asked her in all seriousness how, if the female center for sexual enjoyment was the clitoris, how was it connected to the nerves in the anus so it was stimulated through anal sex. To my shock she offered to show me exactly how they were connected, an offer which sent me running, but that's another story. Ahh missed opportunities.

But I digress. Glancaster, I think you'll find that anal sex is usually akward the first time for both parties, especially if you care about your partner's pleasure. I give you props for even worrying about it, that's a BIG step toward making it fun for her. The thing you ahve to do now is really talk about it. Ask her what she liked, what she disliked, what you can do better. Give her additional stimulation because chances are penetration isn't going to be enough. Personally I think anal sex is even more mental than any other act. I mean while it may be a little tighter, there really isn't anything about anal sex that's any better than vagina penetration, at least from my perspective. I remember thinking the same thing you did my first time: "This is it?" I'm not sure what I expected, to be honest.

You have to truly embrace the concept, whether it's the trust and intimacy factor or the flat out taboo nastiness of it, it's the idea I think is more arrousing than the act itself. But, I've been wrong before.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Most guys i know would never try anal because they think its "dirty" -- but im glad to see that your willing to try different "holes'

Young guys, right? I remember back in high school thinking I'd never do this. In fact we used to ridicule one of our friends on a regular basis becasue he did some girl in the ass at a party. In hind sight, probably jealousy on our parts, but still. With age though comes understanding, sexual enlightenment, etc. Of course it's dirty, isn't that the best part?

Seriously though, the older you get the more likely you are to try something new, I think. You start to realize that it's not such a big deal and you life won't crumble if you hate it. Of course, that might just be a trust factor with your partner too.

 

[SwEeT_LiL_LadY]

Young guys, right? I remember back in high school thinking I'd never do this. In fact we used to ridicule one of our friends on a regular basis becasue he did some girl in the ass at a party. In hind sight, probably jealousy on our parts, but still. With age though comes understanding, sexual enlightenment, etc. Of course it's dirty, isn't that the best part?

Seriously though, the older you get the more likely you are to try something new, I think. You start to realize that it's not such a big deal and you life won't crumble if you hate it. Of course, that might just be a trust factor with your partner too.

i understand what your trying to say...but im talking about guys around my age (19-24) years old who are still immature about it.

but i do notice that i usually end up havin anal sex with guys who are 30+

 

[TBKahuna123]

i understand what your trying to say...but im talking about guys around my age (19-24) years old who are still immature about it.

but i do notice that i usually end up havin anal sex with guys who are 30+

That's cause we lose our machismo at 30.

Seriosuly though, it seems to be around late 20's that guys hit that level of maturity where we start to care about our partners more than ourselves. it's still about ego, but the ego is stroked not by the fact that we just scored, but by how many times we can make you scream our names. Or something like that.

 

[SwEeT_LiL_LadY]

That's cause we lose our machismo at 30.

Seriosuly though, it seems to be around late 20's that guys hit that level of maturity where we start to care about our partners more than ourselves. it's still about ego, but the ego is stroked not by the fact that we just scored, but by how many times we can make you scream our names. Or something like that.

most of the time my anal hole is much much tigher than my vaginal whole sooo its soooo easy to make me or any other lady scream and moan durring anal sex than vaginal sex

but thats just my opinion lol

 

[M's girl]

most of the time my anal hole is much much tigher than my vaginal whole sooo its soooo easy to make me or any other lady scream and moan durring anal sex than vaginal sex

but thats just my opinion lol

Sorry, but that is so funny!

"most of the time my anal hole is much much tigher than my vaginal whole" Huh?! Most of the time....?

".... sooo its soooo easy to make me or any other lady scream and moan durring anal sex than vaginal sex"

Uh..... do you, then, scream why I think you are screaming? I mean.... my bellybutton is even tighter I suppose. Should I give that one a try then?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Hmm... Maybe I should have been more specific.

 

[Eilan]

the question sounds as silly as "last night I fucked her in the ear and she did not seem to enjoy it.... howcome...?"

What? You don't have multiple orgasms from a good ear-dicking? There must be something wrong with you!

 

[TBKahuna123]

What? You don't have multiple orgasms from a good ear-dicking? There must be something wrong with you!

If you think it hurts when a guy bottoms out on your cervix, wait till you feel him bottom out on your ear drum!

And how did we move from the ass to the ear? Does this mean we all have our heads up our asses?

 

[ickle_stace]

most of the time my anal hole is much much tigher than my vaginal whole sooo its soooo easy to make me or any other lady scream and moan durring anal sex than vaginal sex

but thats just my opinion lol

my vaginal hole is tight anyway so im ok

anal isn't somethin thats ever really appealed to me

my ex pressured me into it and i was ill for days after, so now i just tell them i don't like anal sex cos my pussy is tight enough anyway hehe

 

[ickle_stace]

If you think it hurts when a guy bottoms out on your cervix, wait till you feel him bottom out on your ear drum!

And how did we move from the ass to the ear? Does this mean we all have our heads up our asses?

ok now i have ear ache from that thought!

 

[M's girl]

What? You don't have multiple orgasms from a good ear-dicking? There must be something wrong with you!

I know..... I know!!! It's just so sad.... But is it really me? I mean.... there must me more women like me?!

Silverwhisper can help out maybe? Poll please? Just to ease my mind (and ear)?
Thankyou...

 

[M's girl]

If you think it hurts when a guy bottoms out on your cervix, wait till you feel him bottom out on your ear drum!

And how did we move from the ass to the ear? Does this mean we all have our heads up our asses?

Euh..... some of us do.... I mean.... I hear (read) some really weird stuff here sometimes! I would not be surprised at all!

 

[TBKahuna123]

ok now i have ear ache from that thought!

Uhh sorry about that.

*zips his fly*

my ex pressured me into it and...

Blah blah blah, man it's always us "pressuring" you isn't it? Sad thing is, yeah it usually is and every woman who's been "pressured" into it doesn't like it. Why? BECAUSE THEY'VE BEEN PRESSURED INTO IT!

If you really want it and your girl just isn't into it, you can do one of two things. Slowly build up and "coax" her into it. There is a difference. If/When it finally happens it will be her choosing it to happen, not her giving in. Trust me this is much more fulfilling. The second thing you can do is just fucking deal with it! If she is absolutely against it, then just let it go and be happy you're getting laid int he first place!

The problem is the guys who pressure their girlfriends into anal sex don't knwo what the fuck their doing anyway. Stace, you should NOT get sick from anal sex, so obviously he was doing something wrong. This is classic inexperienced male lover at work here. Hell I know, I did it too! I ws young and dumb once. Maybe that's why I'm on a tirade.

Sorry, lost my head for a minute there. I'm just sick of hearing the same lame story over and over. Assholes fucking it up for the rest of us decent guys.

EDIT: Assholes fucking it up? Wow that's such a bad unintentional pun I have to leave it!

 

[M's girl]

my vaginal hole is tight anyway so im ok

anal isn't somethin thats ever really appealed to me

my ex pressured me into it and i was ill for days after, so now i just tell them i don't like anal sex cos my pussy is tight enough anyway hehe

Anal sex, apart from the tightness-aspect in some cases maybe, is more a thing from the mind. Come to think of it... and staying off topic like I already did in some way.... it's something BETWEEN THE EARS for most people... haha

 

[silverwhisper]

[reads m girl's post]

[laughing too hard to type anything sensible]



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[djdarth]

Well, I have discover one method that is near sure fire;

1) Start off in either doggy or missionary (but not over her), to allow for easy access. I am going to describe the nexts step for doggy style, but you can figure out the other way I'm sure.

2) Slide you penis between her legs and slip it in her vagina. Pump her about 15 times, but make sure you move really slow so she gets impacient.

3) Take it out, but make sure you keep in contact with her the whole time.

4) Slide your penis up to her anus, but DO NOT penetrate.

5) Start heading back down to the vagina, pushing fairly hard on the soft spot between her anus and vagina.

6) Once at the vagina, pump her once.

7) Go from her vagina to anus to vagina like this about 5 times.

8) Now on this last time sliding it back into her vagina, pump twice, and only twice.

9) Now slide it back to her anus, and put just your head it.

10) Slide back to her vagina. Put it in, but only the head this time.

11) Repeat this new movement about 10-20, once you feel a little precum about to rise do step 12.

12) Going from vagina to anus; pop your head into her, pull it out but still make contact. Slide it back it, only to the head.

13) Reach around with one hand and take two fingers and insert them into her vagina, rubbing near the top but do not overstimulate her clit.

14) Take your other hand and place it on her thigh, this will help prove a little balance.

15) During these hand movements, keep popping just your head in, this will get her exicited like you wouldn't believe, and she will love the feeling of the precum slowly dripping down her anus to her vagina.

16) Listen to her; if you've had her orgasm with you before bring her near it by stimulating her clit.

17) SLOWLY increase depth into her anus, and increase stimulation on her clit.

Caution: When you start penetrating her anus deeply, do not take it out all the way. It can unstimulate her, and she may not orgasm.

18) Keep it slow once you get to full depth, both with your fingers and your penis.

19) She will begin to get into that orgasm mode, but do not ride her like a bull, the more senuous you are with her anus, the better chance of her having an orgasm. Not only are you stimulating her anally, but you also associate any vaginal sensations with anal technique.

20) She will have a wondorous orgasm, and love you for it.

I used this technique on a girl named Olivia, and I kept her cumming, and I was happy with the anal sex I got to perform!

 

[FurryFury]

The first time we tried anal we didn't know to go slow or use lube. It took three years before we tried it again and this time I researched it.

I didn't expect to enjoy it. I just wanted to do it because I hadn't. I didn't come from it BUT the intensity of sensation was shocking and instantly hooked me on anal.

I still haven't come from it except one time. I think the sensation is so overwhelming it makes it hard to come frankly I think it overloads me.

The one time I did come? I was talking with an online Master via im chat and he was timing me. I had never ever inserted anything "back there" in myself or anyone but he knew that and had me do it. I was already highly aroused from masturbating but not being allowed to come several times a day and I really like being given a task. I also vibrated my clit and damn if I didn't come in under three minutes!

Now I just need to be able to repeat the intensity of all that.

*sigh*

Fury