Just lonely and in a sexless marriage

[amigayorbi]

Considering getting paid sex! Damn I need a bj!

 

[SexyOlderNWMale]

I have been married a long time. I get that people can grow apart. It certainly has happened in my marriage. My wife has no interest in sex or intimacy. It has been over a year. I get that, in that I am certainly not the man I was in my 20's. In 30 or so years we all change.

But I have needs that shee seems to not care about. We talk about it, and she gets it, but she never wants to address it physically, or in any manner that would make me feel like her husband or even a man. I am not sure what to do.

My life now is all masturbation in terms of intimacy. I still have a strong libido. What I do not still have is my 30 year old self. I feel that if you are in love at 30 you can also be in love at 50 or older, but you cannot expect that 30 year old man and body you were into........we grow older, and our love should too.

So I am lonely and depressed. I have to get myself off, but it is getting harder to do as i am not only feeling bitter, but really abnormal and guilty. Online pictures, videos, and stories have become my intimate life. Maybe I need to give into that.....I don't know. But I am looking for anything that would help.

Thanks!

The lonely cock club. Welcome. I have to seek pussy outside of the marriage. Even that is challenging.

 

[SweetLips44DD]

I have been married a long time. I get that people can grow apart. It certainly has happened in my marriage. My wife has no interest in sex or intimacy. It has been over a year. I get that, in that I am certainly not the man I was in my 20's. In 30 or so years we all change.

But I have needs that shee seems to not care about. We talk about it, and she gets it, but she never wants to address it physically, or in any manner that would make me feel like her husband or even a man. I am not sure what to do.

My life now is all masturbation in terms of intimacy. I still have a strong libido. What I do not still have is my 30 year old self. I feel that if you are in love at 30 you can also be in love at 50 or older, but you cannot expect that 30 year old man and body you were into........we grow older, and our love should too.

So I am lonely and depressed. I have to get myself off, but it is getting harder to do as i am not only feeling bitter, but really abnormal and guilty. Online pictures, videos, and stories have become my intimate life. Maybe I need to give into that.....I don't know. But I am looking for anything that would help.

Thanks!

I wish we could chat and see how I could help

 

[Canadian1968]

Sounds like mine except mine never initiated even in our first date . Worst date ever but I was getting something out of it so I seduced him on the living room carpet lol ! Unfortunately I think he thought that was how it was supposed to be and never did try initiating anything . I think I missed the red flags .

You know how they say love is blind or was blind. The red flags could have been there but you were smitten with the whole picture and not a specific detail. You are not the only one. Trust me.

 

[NightOfPassion2]

Sounds like mine except mine never initiated even in our first date . Worst date ever but I was getting something out of it so I seduced him on the living room carpet lol ! Unfortunately I think he thought that was how it was supposed to be and never did try initiating anything . I think I missed the red flags .

Sometimes the flags show up later. Mine did...so many "used to's".

 

[LovelyLadyBits]

You know how they say love is blind or was blind. The red flags could have been there but you were smitten with the whole picture and not a specific detail. You are not the only one. Trust me.

No, I definitely wasn’t smitten .

 

[michael00kk]

Sounds like mine except mine never initiated even in our first date . Worst date ever but I was getting something out of it so I seduced him on the living room carpet lol ! Unfortunately I think he thought that was how it was supposed to be and never did try initiating anything . I think I missed the red flags .

You need someone who can barely keep their hands off of you from the get-go...

 

[LovelyLadyBits]

You need someone who can barely keep their hands off of you from the get-go...

You’re absolutely correct ! Had that once and let it get away , holding out hope of finding it again someday .

 

[michael00kk]

You’re absolutely correct ! Had that once and let it get away , holding out hope of finding it again someday .

you can tell when you've found it because of the hands that will be all over you

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Regrettably I too share the same situation.

Right there with you…

 

[doesntlookthetype]

As a female in the same position it is not good my husband would rather play golf any day - he looks after and provides no problem but in the bedroom unfortunately very little

Good to get the perspective from a female though its saddening to hear you feel the same as the rest of us

 

[DragonSoul44]

I’m sorry you feel this way. I know it can happen on both sides and it is a very lonely feeling.