Just to let you all know

[Nobody Special's wife]

I will not be on lit because of the hubby, Today I have pissed him off because he wanted to check his mail and he was only on for 20mins. And THe Bad Wife was on for 2hrs.Then to piss him off more I shut down the putter and proceeded to get off the net with out asking him if he wanted to check his e-mail



So for the Remander of my stay I have to wait and see if its ok for me to get on the putter with the husbands approval.OF course he does love to air our dirty laundry so why not I....

I have to be a good girl and learn to share with the hubby so he won't get mad at me because I have Computer sysndrom

So now I bid you all farewell, I just hope I don't get into troble because I shouldn't be on the putter because the hubby has people he needs to talk to....So I have to say far thee well to all my friends here on lit.....It was fun while it lasted but now I'm grounded so to speak...Because I don't know how to share....

So I will go back to my crying jag because of the pin head and the way he has treated me all day because he couldn't play on the putter even when I did apoligize ....for my bad manners...Guess I go back to reform school

BYe for now err well till the hubby lets me back on but then I guess I have to schedule for an appointmen

Only men allowed on the putter no women!!!!


THE WIFE

 

[Angel]

Go have sex.

Make up sex fixes everything. And when it doesn't.. hey at least you got off.

 

[*bratcat*]

awwww

 

[Angel]

Or just tell him I'll beat him up

 

[Guru]

 

[Angel]

I should try that. I'll walk up to some random male downtown and say "I want sex NOW OR I WILL KILL YOU!"














think it'll work?

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

Just to let you know I'm still up set with him I didn't even go to his band practice because of it

 

[Angel]

So log on AIM and talk to me I won't tell

 

[Cheyenne]

The man loves you, that is obvious. He must have just had a bad day today. I vote for the make up sex!

 

[April]

What time is band practice over?

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

Men doesn't matter he is gonna read my post any how

 

[Bahamut]

TAKE YOUR MEDICATION

 

[Ravenloft]

Redrum, redrum!

For the sake of MY sanity! Please, please take YOUR F****** medication! Please!!!

Sorry bout that (No I'm not!)Hush you! It seems I have just channeling Fake Name... The greatest of all trolls!

(Don't forget Fat Bastard.)

Oh yes, him too...

 

[Nobody Special]

OK The Big Bad Meannie is here...

OK since you wanted to air it all out here love, First off I was on for less then 5 min.. Just enough time to deleat unwanted mail and do one post.. and not enough time to even open up another program that was ready to open and read..

now I didn't say that you were grounded from the computer and never will.. This morning as I was trying to look at my mail and did one post on lit you said you wanted to do ONE post.. I said sure and went and fixed myself breakfast and poped in a movie.. well near the end of the movie you logged off line and started plaing a game on the comp KNowing that I was wanting to check my mail and see what was going on on lit, she checked hers cause she checked hers by changing what I had already started..

So I ended up leaving and doing some other things that I had planned for this day.. and when I returned I did 4 loads of laundry and folded 6, 2 of which already needed to be folded.. and and for the 4 th time in as many months she did dishes which still need to be finished.

but that is not what this is about. I Left her an E-mail explaining to her what had happend and here it is.. was I too harsh to say what I said?? I don't know but here it is..

If you are still wondering what it was that pissed me off this morning.... Think about it... we have talked about it many times....

It hurts when I can't even talk to people that I have been talking to before april of last year and not since sept.. hmmmmmmmm.... think about it for a min.. what happend at that time...


I don't regret it one bit.. I love you.. but I would also like to talk to more of the people that I used to talk to.. or have more then 5 to 30 minutes a day to check my mail and talk to these people...

I have thought about being really cruel and sending them an I'm sorry letter that describes why I havn't been on as much as I used to and using taht as an excuse but it's not worth it... it hurt that the only time that I can check my mail and have a conversation on my computer is when you are either sleeping or at work.. other then that I get yelled at and put on a shit list for even trying to share a common site with you..

I just have one question for you in this matter....

is it fare??

I don't know any more...

but some proof of this is on Literotica.... think about it... I have been on there for over a year and just now made 800 posts you have been on there for about 4 months and well over 1000 posts... How can this be???

that is somthing you may wnat to think about.. I love you Christy.. I just want the same respect to me that I have given to you and to Nic concerning MY computer...

I love you with all my heart.. but please think about what you just read and what happend this morning....

shure I was on the comp for 3 hours yesterday and I had a good time for a change.. I had time to be me.. but most of the time i'm only on between 5 and 30 min cause I keep getting asked to let you on so you can check your mail or post one post and then 3 hours later you still have to check your mail if I ask for it back at that time.. yes love this has happened a few times.....

and Like I said before when I try to share Lit with you, you get all pissed off cause I have thought and want to post on it...

all I want to do is share my life with you.. but it just seems that the more that I share the less sharing I get...

I love you Christy.. please think of what I have said... this is the main erason as to why I have been pissed all day....

I love you..

Eric..

 

[Nobody Special]

I don't know, am I asking for Too Much??

I don't know.. I let her and Xander talk to every one that they want to. I don't have a prob with Xander, he is usually on when we are sleeping, but it seems that every time I get on the computer with in 30 min I'm asked to get off of it by her.. I tried viewing lit with her and still do.. but she gets Pissed off when I say that I want to post something and has refused to let me do so many times..

maybe its a joke to her I don't know.... I try to make the computer and lit a place for the both of us to enjoy to gether but I get basically get told that I can't when she is on..

am I asking too much?? or am I just blowing hot air cause I want to spend some quality time with her yet still talk to people that I was close to before I kept getting asked to relenquuish the computer??

Am I asking too much??

E

 

[*bratcat*]

fill in the blanks please...

 

[Cheyenne]

Ouch. That hurt just to read, much less what it must be like to be involved in. Just a guess- stress in both your lives due to the illness? I recognize a few of the symptoms- snapping at each other being the main one.

How about a practical suggestion? A computer time schedule. Set up a signup sheet with blocks of time and stick to it after people in the household schedule "their" time. Post it on the side of your monitor. May sound silly at first, but I've seen household schedules work for chores. And believe me, no one was more skeptical at the approach than I was.

But for now? I still vote for the make-up sex.

 

[Angel]

You know...
I love you guys :-D

But step back for a second. And don't let the internet and the computer fuck up your relationship. It's ruined two for me.

The first one was my fault. I literally spent every waking moment online and totally neglected my ex. He deserved it, but instead of facing the problems and getting myself out, I stayed and buried my entire life into the internet to escape the reality of the horrible relationship.


The second one was the last one. He was new to the net and so was understandably on it alot. Instead of giving him time to explore it and let the novelty wear off, I nagged him constantly to get off and stop ignoring me. I based it on how I acted with the computer in the past and forgot that he wasn't me.

I pushed him away.



Dont do the same thing...either of you.

 

[Nobody Special]

Angal that first example is how the Wife got rid of her Ex as well... just spent every waking moment on the comp.. but she didn't have to ask him to get off of it to do what she wanted like she does here...

I don't think she know how much it hurts to be left out.. esp.. when it was the comp and the people on the comp that I have talked to, and try to continue talking to, that pulled me out of the deepest state of depression that I have ever been in.. and it scared the shit out of me.. the things taht I was thinking about.. I don't know if she realises that that is where I'm going again.. and I'm trying to fight and not let it take over again..

but I guess there is notheing like being ignored by the people you love ... it seems to happen to me all the fucking time...


I don't know do I sound that selfish to you??

E

 

[Angel]

No. You don;t sound selfish.

But you and her should both break from the computer altogether on a day when you are both free, DO NOT GO NEAR IT.

Just be together and TALK. Go out. If you can't afford it unplug the goddamn thing and make Nic hide it. And spend actualy time together with nothing in the way. Explain to each other why you feel how you feel about the situation.
If that doesnt work feel free to drive to ROchester and beat me senseless with a stick for getting in your business.
I love you both to death.

Then fuck. All day and night

 

[teresafannin]

My sweetie & I went through the same thing 2 years ago when he gave me my first computer. He has had computers for years & done all of the BB & chat stuff he wanted to. I am a bad internet junkie & that first year, I spent way too much time on the computer. The 6 month LOA I took after my son died, I spent hours on the computer, just to get away from the real world. In the last 6 months, I have cut way back on my online time & am rarely on line when he is with me. Most of my computer time is on my days off & late at night when I can't sleep. As much as I love my computer & talking with my friends, I love him more. When he is here, he is showing me how to build a web site & how to use my digital camera & web cam. No computer is worth fighting with him, I only get to see him on the weekends as it is. What will be interesting is when we are under the same roof, going to have to have a big room for the 3 computers we have between us. I agree with Angel, spend some time away from the computer, just be together & enjoy each other.

 

[Angel]

Or the two of you could vacation in my humble home. I have no phone or computer at the moment at my house.

(Thank the powers that be for mommy's house! LOL)

I will lock you in my attic and force you to have makeup sex for your entire visit.

Just dont wake up my mom, she lives next door.

 

[Cheyenne]

I don't think she know how much it hurts to be left out.. esp.. when it was the comp and the people on the comp that I have talked to, and try to continue talking to, that pulled me out of the deepest state of depression that I have ever been in.. and it scared the shit out of me.. the things taht I was thinking about.. I don't know if she realises that that is where I'm going again.. and I'm trying to fight and not let it take over again..

NS, you are screaming for help for yourself with that post. I forgot something else- are you still in a job search? Unemployed at the moment? One of the most common problems the unemployed have is stress at home. Depression sets in for people who AREN'T normally depressed, and I'd guess could be much worse for someone who already tends to be in depression. How do I know? I've been through the layoffs and being fired for downsizing three times in my career. Work has never been as stressful as the months of unemployment were.

You need help yourself if you are going to be able to help NSW with her illness, too. Please don't rely on being able to talk to friends at Lit to save you- see your doctor, too. Join a support group of other people who are in a job search (those groups helped me the most.)Please do something to help yourself, too.

Just MHO, but I don't think I'm wrong on this one.

 

[Angel]

I agree Chey. NS and NSW are two of the people I like the most on this board.

I love you guys to death, and I know that I have used the internet to cope in the past. Shit I did it for Valentines day, although not with the obsession I did back in 99.

You are both dealing and coping with very stressful situations, and I know all too well that the internet is the perfect escape. It definitely takes your mind off of your stress. But when it starts to be the CAUSE of MORE stress, especially in a relationship you really need to step back.

I'm not saying never get on the computer, I'm saying one full day of together WITHOUT IT. The Boards and the Web will be here when you get back. We will all be here for you when you get back. But if you don't stay off it to at least have a heart to heart and solve your problem your relationship may not be.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

The bitch is here

YOu know all you had to do is say hon don't hog the putter I would be more then happy to get off, As for viewing lit together Hell I don't even get to read the titles then you say you want to post!!!! JUst let me read them.... But then your real good at makeing me look stupid huh!!! I"m tired I'm in pain and I"m bitchy what more do you want .....

I love you but your a pin head at times.. So right now you can go kiss my ass!!!!



But then I still love you, But then you never ask why I like to get on the putter but Who cares what I need I'm Just a pysco bitch......I just think of my self because I have this bad disease that keeps me from being little miss sunshine 24-7 BUt then who really gives a fuck ....YOU know what hon fuck my family I will just never talk to them again fuck my friends who needs them.....YOu can have the fucking computer all to your fucking self....

Have a nice fucking night with you computer