I take it she's younger than you!?
Kinkier as we get older?
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I think it’s about finally raising our kids and then having the freedom to enjoy what’s put in front of us
Britva415
"Alabaster," my ass
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I never thought of myself as kinky, never thought I had kinks, never thought I was interested or would know what to do if I should find myself with a partner who wanted me to participate in kinks. Up until now I guess I was just happy with vanilla sex and didn’t look any more broadly for anything different.
Now at my age my marriage has opened, for reasons unrelated to kink, and what I find is that the prospect (and experience) of having other partners, plus the recognition that people in kink spaces and lifestyles seem to be generally more open to playing with a (permissively) married guy, these things have made me kind of say, fuck it, why the hell not. Maybe I should really lean into some “out-there” things which I wouldn’t have asked past partners to try with me.
Mostly because I wasn’t really missing those things, and I didn’t think I would have known what to do. It also never occurred to me to seek people with experience to show me the “ropes” so to speak.
A handful of chance conversations with recent sex partners and other people I know well enough to know a little about their sex lives have gotten me to think about kink more, and I find myself very interested in a couple of kinks. Specifically spanking and rope play. So I’m legit putting myself out there to start exploring these both.
About to order some gear, and putting ads out asking for mentorship. I’m a natural switch so I expect I’ll bottom first to get introduced to the scene and the things to know. Rope topping is of interest to me and I’d want to switch regularly for the spanking.
I don’t think I can honestly say that not being kinky for 35 sexually-active years has cost me, but I do think that if I had realized at, say, 25 or 30 what I know now, my sex life for those decades would have been very different and probably a lot more intense and varied.
PM me if you want to add me on Fetlife.
Now at my age my marriage has opened, for reasons unrelated to kink, and what I find is that the prospect (and experience) of having other partners, plus the recognition that people in kink spaces and lifestyles seem to be generally more open to playing with a (permissively) married guy, these things have made me kind of say, fuck it, why the hell not. Maybe I should really lean into some “out-there” things which I wouldn’t have asked past partners to try with me.
Mostly because I wasn’t really missing those things, and I didn’t think I would have known what to do. It also never occurred to me to seek people with experience to show me the “ropes” so to speak.
A handful of chance conversations with recent sex partners and other people I know well enough to know a little about their sex lives have gotten me to think about kink more, and I find myself very interested in a couple of kinks. Specifically spanking and rope play. So I’m legit putting myself out there to start exploring these both.
About to order some gear, and putting ads out asking for mentorship. I’m a natural switch so I expect I’ll bottom first to get introduced to the scene and the things to know. Rope topping is of interest to me and I’d want to switch regularly for the spanking.
I don’t think I can honestly say that not being kinky for 35 sexually-active years has cost me, but I do think that if I had realized at, say, 25 or 30 what I know now, my sex life for those decades would have been very different and probably a lot more intense and varied.
PM me if you want to add me on Fetlife.
RachelWalsh
Little Miss Rachel
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I know I get kinkier as ai get older. The old stuff just gets boring and need crazier stuff to get hot.
SPARTAN047
Veteran Fetishist
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That's it. I'm bored with my old fetish.
