Kinkier as we get older?

[RjThoughts]

If it’s any comfort, I find bi men in MMF scenarios incredibly hot. (Not hitting on you, just want to support our exquisite and delicious bi guys)

Yes, there is still so much prejudice.

Yes, there is. There's NOTHING wrong with being bisexual, nothing at all. Just please, respect people's limits

 

[LookN2Talk]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

My wife and I have become much more adventurous and open as time goes by. Still not big talkers together about sexual things unless we are in the heat of the moment. Hoping for her to continue to grow in that area as I have in many of the areas she is interested in. Love having a community to talk to about things such as increasing new desires & exploration.

 

[PrettyReckless_ILM]

That’s exactly how it’s been for me.

It really warms my heart to see so many folks in midlife and older talking openly and joyfully about sexual pleasure and intimacy.

As @magic_rat said, I envy the younger folks. They have less stigma and shame to deal with. I am happy for them. I’m happy for us too because we’ve found it’s not too late.

I know what you mean Lotus...If I could do it all over, I think I'd be more open than I was. I'm a choir boy compared to some of the folks on lit, what an eye opener it has been.

 

[goodtimes21]

I like this discussion. I’ve a thought I would perhaps like to add to this and it goes like this…. When I was younger sex was much more available… good sex too and intimate and emotional as well. With some dry periods of course and the usual mismatched relationships. And so forth. Now it’s become much rarer and if I’m honest with myself some of my more wild and kinky fantasies (of which I have enough) are driven by frustration. The less I have on my table the wilder my desires become. Does that make sense to anyone?

 

[graysilver]

Kink is a relative term. It along a spectrum. As we’ve aged, our creative sexual appetites have increased. When we were first married, missionary and simultaneous orgasm was our goal. As we’ve aged and enjoyed knowing what each of his desires and needs, we elicited engage in more erotic sex. Prostate massage, anal sex, etc.

 

[LittleB58]

I think I'm the poster child for this topic. Until recently the total number of women who had seen me hard and uncovered numbered less than 5. I've kinda blown that outta the water here don't ya think..?

I'm in my late 60s.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I agree that it seems we have gotten kinkier, but It's more than that. Before the internet, there was really no way to know the inner thoughts of so many people.
Forums like lit have given people a platform to hear others views and evaluate our own.

Finding so many others that don't frown on your wants and preferences Was very eye-opening.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

If it’s any comfort, I find bi men in MMF scenarios incredibly hot. (Not hitting on you, just want to support our exquisite and delicious bi guys)

Yes, there is still so much prejudice.

I know there are incredible people like you out there—thanks!

Also not hitting on you, but let me know if you’re ok with me sending a DM

 

[shrek100]

I would say we defiantly are more Kinky.
I (Mr) got taught many lessons from a older lady when I was a young lad. she knew what she wanted and really wasnt afraid to teach and Lead me.
Fast forward, poor old Mrs, got a bit of a crash course when we got together 20 ish years ago.
Now, Late 40's. not much hasnt been tried and the things we enjoy we will do as often as mood takes. Strap on, Prostate, creampie eating, anal etc etc. if the moods takes we do it.
Reason, I think with age your inhibitions reduce and you stop worrying how you are viewed to a point. Trouble is, with age it gets harder (softer) to do some of hte things you like.

 

[9to5]

as I get older I don't think I am any kinkier. But I think the need for it is stronger. I never got to act out my thoughts much but now that I am older I feel the need for them more.

 

[Hipshot1554]

For me i have always been kinky. But with age come the confidence to express myself. The things that turn me on now have always turned me on but a bit of expereince that comes with age helped me pin point what it was that was turning me on.

This is why mature women are such a turn on!

 

[Jordanjack]

Might a sex positive kink friendly therapist be an option to help with communication? Either just you or both of you. Some do sessions online.

Oh absolutely. I know we both could benefit from some sex therapy.

 

[Mike130]

Definitely more kinky. I would consider a host of new things that the younger Mike wouldn’t conceive of. It helps that being older gives you a different perspective and a greater age range that you consider sexy. As a younger twenty something a married woman in her 40’s hit on me, and we did some things, but I think now I would definitely appreciate her sexual experience more. But also there were younger girls that were even more experienced and wild but I was pretty naive in my early twenties. One girl, who was very kinky, she ate my ass and even hinted at swapping. I was more possessive then and passed. Now would gladly do a swap.

The younger me would never consider sucking a dick. The older me would definitely do it, especially if it was covered in a woman’s cum.

I guess we all evolve…

 

[ChasBozwell30]

I'm in my mid 40s now, and I've changed as I've got older. I'm bisexual and would love to explore this side of myself more. I find I am more curious, more interested in experimenting and exploring myself, than ever before. My sexuality is so much more fun now than it was ten years ago. As you age, it feels like there is simply more and more to discover. I have less hang ups, and i'm less self conscious, I just want to experience more of life

 

[SPARTAN047]

When I found the pleasure you can get being fucked in the arse, licking arseholes and sucking cocks, even drinking cum — my sex life started to have few or no limits.

 

[hiker1234567]

I have done more things in chat rooms than I ever considered. Is it self discovery or just fantasies. Or is it the same, depending on what one chooses to do or have done to them. If it makes me cum I guess it may be more of the former. With age comes the means, but not as much opportunity. Chat provides at least one avenue.

 

[Rascal69]

Like fine wine or cheese our kinky ness gets stronger with age.

 

[suzie_n1]

I am in my forties. I was pretty much born a slut. I had kinky fantasies from a very early age, but it wasn’t until almost two years ago that I found my Master so that I could explore those fantasies. The thing is, my Master has gotten me to engage in activities that I previously had never thought of doing. This is turn encourages me to get creative when thinking about things I might want to try.

A bit of truth being born a slut. Babysitting in my teens gave me access to plenty of magazines then opportunity to experience some, but not all, of what I'd seen and read. Still a few things on my (at a minimum) bucket list however

 

[KentLondon]

Once you both retire from work, you naturally have more free time. That can go two ways. Some guys I know are on the golf course all the time and their wives have to make their own entertainment.
I would rather go for country walks with my wife than drag a bag of golf clubs around the local course.
We are both healthy and play a lot of sport together, which helps to make the bond much closer.
We enjoy our extra time together and we put it to good use in the bedroom.
I am helping my wife to overcome some lifelong inhibitions (thanks to her family history and religion) and we are enjoying the best sex in more than 45 years together.
She has reignited her wonderful oral skills and enjoys some gentle pussy slapping during our regular lovemaking sessions, when she now has multiple orgasms.
We are both 71 and aim to keep this spark alive for as long as possible.