Kinkier as we get older?

[riverj]

If only I knew then what we know now. The mind opens to more unconventional exploration as we age. At least it's been that way for me.

I agree..... well stated.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I don’t think we are kinkier but we are different. The days of having sex all night in 30 different positions has a toll on the body the next day. But we’ve added more mental and visual stimulation to our sex life that’s just as fun.

 

[Handydan]

I don’t think we are kinkier but we are different. The days of having sex all night in 30 different positions has a toll on the body the next day. But we’ve added more mental and visual stimulation to our sex life that’s just as fun.

Us as well. The journey is much more interesting.

 

[bbwAlexa]

I think it's because we are more confident in ourselves. And also generally not thrill seeking in the same way 20year olds are, but kinky sex is giving us thrills.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I think it's because we are more confident in ourselves. And also generally not thrill seeking in the same way 20year olds are, but kinky sex is giving us thrills.

Agreed!

 

[van_delay]

I definitely have. Much more varied tastes.

 

[subdudeme13]

For me i have always been kinky. But with age come the confidence to express myself. The things that turn me on now have always turned me on but a bit of expereince that comes with age helped me pin point what it was that was turning me on.

Care to share one of those points that you pinned?

 

[Replicant2018]

I think it's because we are more confident in ourselves. And also generally not thrill seeking in the same way 20year olds are, but kinky sex is giving us thrills.

My spouse is very vanilla. Miss those kinky days when younger

 

[RjThoughts]

I think it's because we are more confident in ourselves. And also generally not thrill seeking in the same way 20year olds are, but kinky sex is giving us thrills.

I totally agree. I am different that I was in college, more understanding and knowledgeable. Yes, the roommates gave me reading material but then, there wasn't much DDlg play, nor readily available clubs and groups for likewise minded people to meet.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

As I get older, the more submissive I want to be to a man.
I find myself wanting to be at his Beck and call.. his only.

 

[Replicant2018]

As I get older, the more submissive I want to be to a man.
I find myself wanting to be at his Beck and call.. his only.

Sounds perfect.

 

[Erosfan]

I don't think I've gotten kinkier. I have become more comfortable with my kinks. I'm no longer afraid of sharing my feelings, needs or wants.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

I've always been very sexually adventurous in my imagination, but because of my religious/family upbringing, I was always too scared to let many people see it (I did have one incredible gf for several years, she and I realized we both had bi desires and had a ton of fun playing with that between the two of us).

The older I've gotten, the more strongly I want to be myself and stop hiding. So I've become much more honest about all the sexual things I'd like to try. My awesome wife is down with many of them, but not a key one (mmf, me being bisexual).

P.S. My disgust at the still-dominant prejudice (by men and women) against bisexual men is deep and profound. The hypocrisy pisses me off, as does the evident insecurity of so many men.

 

[RjThoughts]

I've always been very sexually adventurous in my imagination, but because of my religious/family upbringing, I was always too scared to let many people see it (I did have one incredible gf for several years, she and I realized we both had bi desires and had a ton of fun playing with that between the two of us).

The older I've gotten, the more strongly I want to be myself and stop hiding. So I've become much more honest about all the sexual things I'd like to try. My awesome wife is down with many of them, but not a key one (mmf, me being bisexual).

P.S. My disgust at the still-dominant prejudice (by men and women) against bisexual men is deep and profound. The hypocrisy pisses me off, as does the evident insecurity of so many men.

I hear ya. I'm not bisexual, but I will not put down bisexual men. My anger is towards nudists and naturalists who think that, because I am one of them, I should be bisexual.

I'm from a family where "Being bisexual means you've doubled your chances at happiness" was the motto LOL

 

[Your_Goddess]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

The things you learn as you get older

 

[Deadfreak]

I hear ya. I'm not bisexual, but I will not put down bisexual men. My anger is towards nudists and naturalists who think that, because I am one of them, I should be bisexual.

I'm from a family where "Being bisexual means you've doubled your chances at happiness" was the motto LOL

Good to know about nudists
I am straight but would explore nudism
Pressure is uncool no matter what someone thinks a person "should" be or do

 

[RjThoughts]

Good to know about nudists
I am straight but would explore nudism

I grew up in the lifestyle, well since I was a preteen. Those men who've been in the lifestyle for as long as me "can't" understand how I can't be bisexual, BUT they understand my prefered body style (like plump, chubby women).

 

[FlirtyWordy]

I hear ya. I'm not bisexual, but I will not put down bisexual men. My anger is towards nudists and naturalists who think that, because I am one of them, I should be bisexual.

I'm from a family where "Being bisexual means you've doubled your chances at happiness" was the motto LOL

Ha ha. Not mine!

 

[Hipshot1554]

For me i have always been kinky. But with age come the confidence to express myself. The things that turn me on now have always turned me on but a bit of expereince that comes with age helped me pin point what it was that was turning me on.

Something I've always believed...

 

[ChristyDancer]

Kinkier as I get older? Oh, I dearly hope so....

 

[Older_Pervert]

For me the progression coincided with age. Meaning as I got comfortable and pushed limits, I discovered more soft limits that I wanted to explore, each time progressing to be more and more open to kinks. The hard part part is finding someone who is open to those same things.

It takes luck and patience to find a match!

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

We do things we have not done before ... but the fantasies were all there and we now have the courage and the understanding to talk about it and to try.

We are not kinkier in the meaning that our needs and wishes become kinkier, i. e. the "dosis must not be stronger", we are kinkier as we now do things we wanted but had not the courage to try it.

That’s exactly how it’s been for me.

It really warms my heart to see so many folks in midlife and older talking openly and joyfully about sexual pleasure and intimacy.

As @magic_rat said, I envy the younger folks. They have less stigma and shame to deal with. I am happy for them. I’m happy for us too because we’ve found it’s not too late.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Yeah. I know we need to discuss it more. The communication around sex is terrible. She doesn’t like to talk about, and that makes me uncomfortable to make her feel uncomfortable. I would talk about it all day long if I could.

Might a sex positive kink friendly therapist be an option to help with communication? Either just you or both of you. Some do sessions online.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Please don’t be too hard on yourself looking back. We grew up in different times and had no internet. We cannot change the past but we’re not dead yet and each day is a new opportunity. May you find what you seek.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

I've always been very sexually adventurous in my imagination, but because of my religious/family upbringing, I was always too scared to let many people see it (I did have one incredible gf for several years, she and I realized we both had bi desires and had a ton of fun playing with that between the two of us).

The older I've gotten, the more strongly I want to be myself and stop hiding. So I've become much more honest about all the sexual things I'd like to try. My awesome wife is down with many of them, but not a key one (mmf, me being bisexual).

P.S. My disgust at the still-dominant prejudice (by men and women) against bisexual men is deep and profound. The hypocrisy pisses me off, as does the evident insecurity of so many men.

If it’s any comfort, I find bi men in MMF scenarios incredibly hot. (Not hitting on you, just want to support our exquisite and delicious bi guys)

Yes, there is still so much prejudice.