Ladies, how can I find her?

[i_want_kitty]

So I am a 22 year old girl. I am very shy, don't exactly have the best confidence. For the past years, I have been wanting to experiment with a girl. For the last year or so, I have been wanting to be with a girl more and more, but I don't know how to go about to finding her. I don't know where, how to approach, how do I know she is interested. Help me anyone?

 

[xhardchick]

If you want to get a girl, then you have to gain confidence. Girls don't like misery, you know. The best place to find a girl to experiment with is a bar / club. If you spot a nice lady, then stare her. She'd like the attention, most definately. If not, she won't turn her head again. Keep doing this for a while. Then appoach her or buy her a drink. She'll appreciate it a lot Then start flirting her.. The rest is up to you! Good luck! If you need any extra help, PM me.

 

[qtcouple]

interested...

Im also a 22 year old girl looking to experiment with girls. I have a boyfriend but maybe you and I could try some naughty chatting to start and see where it goes from there

 

[lauren26f]

So I am a 22 year old girl. I am very shy, don't exactly have the best confidence. For the past years, I have been wanting to experiment with a girl. For the last year or so, I have been wanting to be with a girl more and more, but I don't know how to go about to finding her. I don't know where, how to approach, how do I know she is interested. Help me anyone?

California? Lesbian bars are plentiful. Don't worry, they'll approach you. Dress sexy. Let them know you are new to it. Be honest. Most I know love "breaking in" a new girl. I do. Put an ad on craigslist (pic for pic) and be honest in emails about your lack of experience. Even if a small town, you'll get responses maybe from even someone like yourself. Just tell them you're new and nervous. Most I know, unless they want experienced girls, will jump at the chance. Oh, be sure to put you want the sensual and loving type. I love "breaking in" a new girl. I'm gentle and reassuring.

 

[i_want_kitty]

California? Lesbian bars are plentiful. Don't worry, they'll approach you. Dress sexy. Let them know you are new to it. Be honest. Most I know love "breaking in" a new girl. I do. Put an ad on craigslist (pic for pic) and be honest in emails about your lack of experience. Even if a small town, you'll get responses maybe from even someone like yourself. Just tell them you're new and nervous. Most I know, unless they want experienced girls, will jump at the chance. Oh, be sure to put you want the sensual and loving type. I love "breaking in" a new girl. I'm gentle and reassuring.

Thank you for the advice! I guess I am just a bit...scared to go to a bar by myself. Ad on craigslist...most girls on there are just looking to just do it...get right into it...whereas I am super nervous and need a little time to break out of my shell.

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you for the advice! I guess I am just a bit...scared to go to a bar by myself. Ad on craigslist...most girls on there are just looking to just do it...get right into it...whereas I am super nervous and need a little time to break out of my shell.

How about posting an ad on CL or elsewhere asking for a lady or three to hit the bar(s) with you, just as a friend/activity partner?

Also, have you checked Meetup and elsewhere for local groups for bi women? We have several up here, and they can be great resources for learning, making like-minded friends, gaining confidence and sometimes even getting dates. Some are discussion/support-type groups (though the ladies usually hit the bar after and go do other activities at various times), whereas others are more activity or event-focused.

By and large, I don't think CL is a great place to meet quality women, especially if you're a nervous newbie. You'd probably do well to try OKCupid, though. There are tons and tons of women who like women there, and they're looking for many different types of relationships. Most have pics, a good deal of info about themselves and it's a completely free site. Again, if nothing else, you might meet some friends or a buddy who's also interested in hitting women-focused venues and events with you.

There are also tons of hot women at Pride (which is usually May-August in most areas), but that's probably another event that'd be more fun with a friend. Here, there are always a gazillion ladies looking for dates or new friends to attend Pride with in the W4W section of Craigslist, so you could easily browse those ads and post your own in the month or so before.

 

[orgasmsgalore]

Craigslist

 

[brunette1989]

um craiglist killer anyone? lol

 

[Lust Engine]

I think confidence is key here. Granted I'm a guy here but I think even on a base level most people like a confident secure type. It's not necessarily a physical attractiveness you've got to cultivate here. Lord knows I've seen some physically drop dead gorgeous women with the lousiest of attitudes and they're just a huge turn off. For years I dated thinner women (it was a preference in my youth) but hell, I've been attracted to some slightly chubby ladies because they exude a strong sense of who and what they are. They know what they are and not afraid of being who they are. There's something incredibly sexy about it and it's mildly put- a turn on.

So go with a purpose. Know who you are and what you want. Take charge and realize that you might not succeed at first but it still shouldn't change who and what you're about.