Looking for a writer for my women empowerment erotica!

[MillieDynamite]

I don't consider 'female empowerment' to be about women dominating men. To me, it's about women being in charge of their own lives and destiny. To be capable of making their own decisions without consulting men. To be the ones selecting who to go home with for the night.

Yet, at times, women do dominate men. Not just physically, though some can and do, but in business, in the home, and in the selection process for mating, (weather it be seduction or by force).

 

[NotWise]

Here's a question, for the OP and for others: what's the biggest audience for these stories? Is it women who want to dominate or fantasize about domination, or is it men who fantasize about submission? I'll bet it's the latter. I've spent a little time on some other fetish sites, and my impression is there's an absolutely enormous pool of men out there who fantasize about being dominated by women, but our society doesn't look well on that.

I don't see that female empowerment would require a submissive man. In the stories I linked above, the men aren't submissive. They go down fighting.

There's a third story here (the link is to part 1 of 2) that's a little more subtle and maybe not entirely what the OP referred to. It's a non-con story with the woman in a very dependent state at the beginning. She gains in confidence and independence as the story goes on and ultimately claims what she wants. While maybe not what the OP was looking for, it's a more realistic sort of female empowerment.

 

[SimonDoom]

I don't consider 'female empowerment' to be about women dominating men. To me, it's about women being in charge of their own lives and destiny. To be capable of making their own decisions without consulting men. To be the ones selecting who to go home with for the night.

I agree with this 100%. I'm taking my cue from the OP. My impression from the OP's comments is that female domination is what she was talking about. It wasn't clear to me.

My idea of "female empowerment" in erotica is that it has to do with a woman asserting her sexuality, in whatever form. My impression was the OP had a more specific idea about it.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Can we change its official name to The Pit of Loving Wives? They all just sit down there waiting to be "slutified" the moment hubby wants to break his marriage vows...Lol. All the stories seem the same on there! I can not write now, so I should not judge others efforts...I know. Kudos to all authors of effort. I was just disappointed a bit.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Where is this Rapture? I thought you meant the city under the sea....

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

My last thought for now~promise. Maybe someone better then me should start a thread for feel good woman centered erotica? Some great authors are speaking up but often not listing the names of their stories....

 

[MillieDynamite]

I have been to Rapture, powerful waves crashing over me, sending me to new depths of joy, and heights of ecstasy. Rapture is just short distance beyond exaltation, and just shy of Paradise!

 

[LAHomedog]

I don't consider 'female empowerment' to be about women dominating men. To me, it's about women being in charge of their own lives and destiny. To be capable of making their own decisions without consulting men. To be the ones selecting who to go home with for the night.

I agree with you 100%. Female empowerment doesn't mean being in a leather corset with thigh-high boots and a whip and femdom. I think it means a strong, self-assured woman who is equal partners with a man whether it is business, friendship, or in bed.

I believe in egalitarianism and my marriage of 38 years is built upon the foundation of being equal partners. I find strong, self-assured, powerful women sexy as hell. There was, back in the early '90s, a stand-up by the name of Stephanie Hodge who did a great routine about how she "never dates a man she can take." And all about partnership and equality in a relationship. I don't want a woman "I can take." Give me an equal anyday.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I'm happy all the men can agree on what an empowered woman is, LOL!

 

[Rustyoznail]

Where is this Rapture? I thought you meant the city under the sea....

Rapture is a depressing place. I actually felt sad for the splicers.

Anyhoo - Women centred erotica. They are out there, you just have to weed through the things you don't like to find them.

Have a look at my Cathy & karate story. The main character is pretty tough. My cricket series below - Madiha and Neha are more than a handful for most guys.

 

[NotWise]

I'm happy all the men can agree on what an empowered woman is, LOL!

You see a consensus? Can you summarize that?

Or were you being sarcastic?

 

[SimonDoom]

I'm happy all the men can agree on what an empowered woman is, LOL!

That's not what's going on at all in this thread. I think there's some confusion about what, exactly, the OP means by "women empowerment." I have my own thoughts about that, which I'm entitled to have, as is everyone else, but I have no idea if my thoughts dovetail with those of the OP.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Thank you. I will try these. I feel sorry for the Little Sisters and mechaBig Daddys. ( the only time a big daddy will have my pity.)

 

[MillieDynamite]

That's not what's going on at all in this thread. I think there's some confusion about what, exactly, the OP means by "women empowerment." I have my own thoughts about that, which I'm entitled to have, as is everyone else, but I have no idea if my thoughts dovetail with those of the OP.

It was a statement that many of the comments are from those self-identified as male writers.

I think empowered women are in all walks of life, all professions, including homemakers. As for those who are empowered women in erotica, cuckold stories should be one place where they are, but generally they are about the bull taking control of the couple and I plead guilty there as well. Empowered women are self-confident and should be portrayed as in control of all aspects of their lives. Beyond that, there are whole words to be enumeration on how, where, and to what degree a woman might be empowered in her life.

 

[SimonDoom]

It was a statement that many of the comments are from those self-identified as male writers.

I think empowered women are in all walks of life, all professions, including homemakers. As for those who are empowered women in erotica, cuckold stories should be one place where they are, but generally they are about the bull taking control of the couple and I plead guilty there as well. Empowered women are self-confident and should be portrayed as in control of all aspects of their lives. Beyond that, there are whole words to be enumeration on how, where, and to what degree a woman might be empowered in her life.

The suggestion of your comment is that the opinions of self-identified male writers don't matter . . . because they are male. I think that's BS. That may not be exactly what you are saying, but it seems to be what you are saying.

If it was the case that all the self-identified male writers making comments in this thread were all saying the same thing and making stereotypes about women, that would be one thing. You might have a point. But that's not the case. So there's no call for that sort of comment. Male authors, who are interested in this subject matter and write stories about it, have every bit as much right to weigh in on the subject of stories about female empowerment as female authors.

My very first comment -- the second comment on this thread -- was that empowerment can mean different things for different people. I was curious what the OP meant. It's not entirely clear from the first post.

You say: "Empowered women are self-confident and should be portrayed as in control of all aspects of their lives." I'm not so sure about that, about women or about men, for that matter. A character who is in control of all aspects of his or her life is a dull character, and a bad character for fiction. Interesting characters have flaws. They are strong and empowered in some ways, but they have flaws and weaknesses, too. Empowerment is a malleable concept.

My own idea of empowerment in fiction -- non-gender specific -- is of a character with flaws and weaknesses who gains strength and self-affirmation in some way during the course of the story. But that person doesn't have to be in control of all aspects of their lives. That would be uninteresting, and also not realistic. I don't know many, if any, people who are in control of everything.

 

[Magineer]

The challenge remains.

The thread shows a lot of backtracking and somewhat sheepish side-stepping of the actual possibility of women gaining their own way physically over men in a non-con way.

It seems to fight shy of the possibility, obfuscating with things like "seduction" and "deception", as if women necessarily have to gain their ends via some back door route.

I contend that this is not true - and that the challenge remains to the imagination of a truly inventive writer to show the way. As mentioned earlier, when you look at the general standard of imagination as shown in Lit. stories, it probably would indeed be too much of a challenge.

 

[Ada Stuart]

Hi everyone!

I am so sick and tired of always seeing and reading erotica where the women seem helpless and like "damsels in distress". It's 2021, c'mon people! Lol. There are enough badass women in the fictional world that could easily turn the tables on a guy sexually.

Have you read the stories posted by ChloeTzang? They might be perfect for you

Most of mine also features strong women, and there are plenty of other authors on this site that write those kinds of stories .

 

[MillieDynamite]

The suggestion of your comment is that the opinions of self-identified male writers don't matter . . . because they are male. I think that's BS. That may not be exactly what you are saying, but it seems to be what you are saying.

If it was the case that all the self-identified male writers making comments in this thread were all saying the same thing and making stereotypes about women, that would be one thing. You might have a point. But that's not the case. So there's no call for that sort of comment. Male authors, who are interested in this subject matter and write stories about it, have every bit as much right to weigh in on the subject of stories about female empowerment as female authors.

My very first comment -- the second comment on this thread -- was that empowerment can mean different things for different people. I was curious what the OP meant. It's not entirely clear from the first post.

You say: "Empowered women are self-confident and should be portrayed as in control of all aspects of their lives." I'm not so sure about that, about women or about men, for that matter. A character who is in control of all aspects of his or her life is a dull character, and a bad character for fiction. Interesting characters have flaws. They are strong and empowered in some ways, but they have flaws and weaknesses, too. Empowerment is a malleable concept.

My own idea of empowerment in fiction -- non-gender specific -- is of a character with flaws and weaknesses who gains strength and self-affirmation in some way during the course of the story. But that person doesn't have to be in control of all aspects of their lives. That would be uninteresting, and also not realistic. I don't know many, if any, people who are in control of everything.

I was only saying that most comments were by men, not by women. As to control in all aspects of their lives, this only as far as it is possible for anyone to be in control. Being in control doesn't mean a person doesn't have flaws or weaknesses, it means, for me, I don't let others make decisions for me. Of course, fiction is different than real life. Then again, not all that much. After all, most of us model our people after traits we have seen in the real word.

No one can control every aspect, and I shouldn't have said that way. But all confident people attempt to control their circumstances and make adjustments on the fly to maintain that control. In my personal life, where I'm weak, Jo is strong, where she falls short, I shine. That's what a marriage should be. Two people more prefect together than apart.

The problem in the real world, which we exploit in our writing, strong confident women are treated as bitches in the business world. There is term in theater management for good female managers, the theater Bitch in charge. My pops hates it, but he has heard it all his life. In other business, strong women are thought of the same way.

Anyway, I didn't mean disrespect toward men, not really for real, I just was amazed how few women were commenting compared to men. But then I think there are more men writers here than women.

I apologize if offended you... And no, I don't think of apologizes as a sign of weakness. I think it is just good manners.

 

[MillieDynamite]

The challenge remains.

The thread shows a lot of backtracking and somewhat sheepish side-stepping of the actual possibility of women gaining their own way physically over men in a non-con way.

It seems to fight shy of the possibility, obfuscating with things like "seduction" and "deception", as if women necessarily have to gain their ends via some back door route.

I contend that this is not true - and that the challenge remains to the imagination of a truly inventive writer to show the way. As mentioned earlier, when you look at the general standard of imagination as shown in Lit. stories, it probably would indeed be too much of a challenge.

Jo, my spouse, can and has dominated men. But, to be fair, she holds three black belts in three different martial arts. She is also a very muscled up woman. Not the bulging type, the wound wire rock hard body type.

Of course, she doesn't hold down a guy that outweighs her by 100 pounds, but if they are near her weight, even 35 pounds more, she can probably take control of them. Not that any guy would object to fucking her! But she belongs me!

 

[SimonDoom]

Anyway, I didn't mean disrespect toward men, not really for real, I just was amazed how few women were commenting compared to men. But then I think there are more men writers here than women.

I apologize if offended you... And no, I don't think of apologizes as a sign of weakness. I think it is just good manners.

You did not offend me. I apologize if it seemed like I overreacted to your statement. I agree with you completely that an apology is not a sign of weakness, and I appreciate that.

I think you hit the nail on the head. Men outnumber women here, and our opinions are overrepresented. I like to hear women's opinions, especially on a subject like this one.

I find this concept of "empowerment" in erotica very interesting, both for women and men. I think it means different things to different people. There are women who say they feel empowered by posting naked photos on the Internet. My own way of looking at it is that it's a matter of affirming one's own values and who one wants to be, sexually. For instance, if a person has submissive tendencies, a person can empower themselves by giving in to them and becoming a submissive.

That may not be at all what the OP is talking about, but I thought the OP's post was somewhat unclear, so it invited some questions.

 

[MillieDynamite]

In the BDSM world, the submissive is always the one in control. Odd to think of it that, but very much the intent of community. I'm not in that community, but have had some experience with members. LOL an odd fetish, but to each her or his own.

 

[MetaBob]

Jo, my spouse, can and has dominated men. But, to be fair, she holds three black belts in three different martial arts. She is also a very muscled up woman. Not the bulging type, the wound wire rock hard body type.

Of course, she doesn't hold down a guy that outweighs her by 100 pounds, but if they are near her weight, even 35 pounds more, she can probably take control of them. Not that any guy would object to fucking her! But she belongs me!

In my stories, every woman and most of the men are what I consider to be empowered. Some are physically dominant, some want (relatively) equal relationships with their man (or woman or wo/men), some just want agency. All of the women and men who aren't bad actors get what they want. Some of the bad actors do, too.

Real Amazons, Real Magic
Mari, the titular antagonist in Were-Tigress, is a martial artist and later becomes basically superhuman.
Callie, Kelsey, and Jess are black belts in Cascade Fire. Sati and Ingrid are immortal goddesses. Dani and Taylor have different talents. None is physically dominant, but all get (something like) what they want.
The same characters, minus Sati, Ingrid, and Taylor but plus Morgan, a virgin demi-goddess who gets plenty of sexual pleasure even if not from penetration, inhabit Crossings.
Packback
Megan has black belts in four disciplines, untouched in six MMA bouts, and enters open unsanctioned tournaments, beating the women easily and sometimes beating good male fighters who outweigh her significantly due to her skill, focus, and sprinter speed. Graciela is a lifestyle domme. Peri is a hypnotist. Glyn is a Hollywood filmmaker. Shana is another black belt and former NFL cheerleader. All, plus Greta who is none of the above but knows herself, get what they want. Most (along with Scott) participate in physically and emotionally overpowering a very bad man.
Senioritis
Nia is a black belt in two disciplines and physically extremely strong. Not as strong as Marc in her upper body, but stronger below the waist. She is dominant, including physically, not superhuman like Mari but she's made herself as close as she can be. She easily overpowers Marc. In Book 2 (working title Plus Ça Change, unfinished) we meet Maeve, who is a pro-domme.
The Dog Whisperer
Carmen, Nell, Krista, and Janie are all lifestyle dommes, used to getting (taking) what they want from men. Only Krista is physically dominant, but while she's a wrestler and judoka, she's not a black belt.
Flightback
Greta is a flight attendant. She learned hypnosis in college. Bob is a passenger on an intercontinental flight that's less than half full. She upgrades his seat since he's the tallest person on the plane and there are empty rows. He thanks her. They talk. He's a writer of erotic romances. She knows one of his stories (Packback!) and liked it very much. That story includes some hypnosis. She asks if he's ever been hypnotized. He says not, but allows her to try. She succeeds. It turns out that Bob is a very good hypnotic subject. Greta takes advantage.
Valley Winter Loop (unfinished)
Becca is a collegiate volleyball player. Not strong enough to physically dominate* Chris, though she has done so with previous (smaller) boyfriends ("she squats more than you, bro"), but fully capable of getting the female-led relationship she wants from Chris despite her trauma.
Personal Assistant (unfinished)
Molly, tall, overweight, and awkward, starts out shy and insecure, not empowered at all but she knows several women who are. She meets a software genius who needs significant help with his business and brings in her empowered friends. With their help, she grows into a role with confidence and agency as she and Alex build something wonderful together.
Celtic Vampiress (unfinished)
Cliona is a vampire. Yseult and Undine are fae. None is physically dominant (Cliona can be but seldom needs to), but all get what they want. Yseult, especially, has to grow, including literally, into the empowered woman she becomes even as she chooses to remain submissive to her man.

 

[MillieDynamite]

In my stories, every woman and most of the men are what I consider to be empowered. Some are physically dominant, some want (relatively) equal relationships with their man (or woman or wo/men), some just want agency. All of the women and men who aren't bad actors get what they want.

Real Amazons, Real Magic
Mari, the titular antagonist in Were-Tigress, is a martial artist and later becomes basically superhuman.
Callie, Kelsey, and Jess are black belts in Cascade Fire. Sati and Ingrid are immortal goddesses. Dani and Taylor have different talents. None is physically dominant, but all get (something like) what they want.
The same characters, minus Sati, Ingrid, and Taylor but plus Morgan, a virgin demi-goddess who gets plenty of sexual pleasure even if not from penetration, inhabit Crossings.
Packback
Megan has black belts in four disciplines, untouched in six MMA bouts, and enters open unsanctioned tournaments, beating the women easily and sometimes beating good male fighters who outweigh her significantly due to her skill, focus, and sprinter speed. Graciela is a lifestyle domme. Peri is a hypnotist. Glyn is a Hollywood filmmaker. Shana is another black belt and former NFL cheerleader. All, plus Greta who is none of the above but knows herself, get what they want. Most (along with Scott) participate in physically and emotionally overpowering a very bad man.
Senioritis
Nia is a black belt in two disciplines and physically extremely strong. Not as strong as Marc in her upper body, but stronger below the waist. She is dominant, including physically, not superhuman like Mari but she's made herself as close as she can be. In Book 2 (unfinished) we meet Maeve, who is a pro-domme.
The Dog Whisperer
Carmen, Nell, Krista, and Janie are all lifestyle dommes, used to getting (taking) what they want from men. Only Krista is physically dominant, but while she's a judoka and wrestler, she's not a black belt.
Valley Winter Loop (unfinished)
Becca is a collegiate volleyball player. Not physically dominant* but fully capable of getting the female-led relationship she wants from Chris despite her trauma.
Personal Assistant (unfinished)
Molly starts out shy and insecure, not empowered at all but she knows several women who are. She meets a software genius who needs significant help with his business and brings in her empowered friends. With their help, she grows into a role with confidence and agency as she and Alex build something wonderful together.
Celtic Vampiress (unfinished)
Cliona is a vampire. Yseult and Undine are fae. None is physically dominant (Cliona can be but seldom needs to), but all get what they want. Yseult, especially, has to grow, including literally, into the empowered woman she becomes even as she chooses to remain submissive to her man.

Sometimes my bad actors get what they want and the good actors suffer. That's life! But yeah, I like my stories to have variety one from one to another. Empowerment, doesn't mean you won't be on the shit end of the stick from time to time.

 

[JuanaSalsa]

In the BDSM world, the submissive is always the one in control. Odd to think of it that, but very much the intent of community. I'm not in that community, but have had some experience with members. LOL an odd fetish, but to each her or his own.

It may be a nice idea to claim that the sub is always in control, but that can only be true for some subs. I once stayed with a dom who specialized in working with subs who had suffered trauma at the hands of ignorant doms who thought that just because they had a list of limits and the sub didn't use their safe word, that meant everything was OK.

Any dom who works with a new sub should be painfully aware that it is they, the dom, and not the sub who is in control. They should bend over backwards to make sure that they are paying attention to non-verbal cues because they should know that a sub, even if physically capable, may be mentally or emotionally incapable of asserting their limits.

As a sub, I only ever asked a dom to make an adjusment, not even stop, but just do it differently, one time. And that was because I thought something might cause permanent damage due to a condition he was not aware of. Actually, there were two doms working on me at the time and the one who was in control at the moment was so surprised at my request (I never asked for anything) that the other dom had to instruct him to make the change.

And I'm just a masochist, not even really that submissive. Now imagine if a person really wants to please their dom, would they ever say shit? No, they don't.

A dom needs to be aware that no matter how much a sub could take control by setting limits and using safewords and communicating verbally, many won't. The dom needs to be supremely aware that they control the whole situation, and they need to know exactly what they're doing because it's incredibly easy to go to far with certain people and not know it.

It's not the sub's fault if this happens. It's the dom's. Because the dom is in control, not the sub.

 

[MillieDynamite]

It may be a nice idea to claim that the sub is always in control, but that can only be true for some subs. I once stayed with a dom who specialized in working with subs who had suffered trauma at the hands of ignorant doms who thought that just because they had a list of limits and the sub didn't use their safe word, that meant everything was OK.

Any dom who works with a new sub should be painfully aware that it is they, the dom, and not the sub who is in control. They should bend over backwards to make sure that they are paying attention to non-verbal cues because they should know that a sub, even if physically capable, may be mentally or emotionally incapable of asserting their limits.

As a sub, I only ever asked a dom to make an adjusment, not even stop, but just do it differently, one time. And that was because I thought something might cause permanent damage due to a condition he was not aware of. Actually, there were two doms working on me at the time and the one who was in control at the moment was so surprised at my request (I never asked for anything) that the other dom had to instruct him to make the change.

And I'm just a masochist, not even really that submissive. Now imagine if a person really wants to please their dom, would they ever say shit? No, they don't.

A dom needs to be aware that no matter how much a sub could take control by setting limits and using safewords and communicating verbally, many won't. The dom needs to be supremely aware that they control the whole situation, and they need to know exactly what they're doing because it's incredibly easy to go to far with certain people and not know it.

It's not the sub's fault if this happens. It's the dom's. Because the dom is in control, not the sub.

Yes, there are predatory pretenders using the community to find victims. I'd caution any woman or man who is submissive they need to negotiate limits and be sure the dom will respect theirs. Then again, if they are a predator and not just ignorant of how things should be, they will agree to anything until your at their mercy.

It is a dangerous lifestyle at times.