making a pass on another man

[lifensf]

Ok so here I go posting to the boards wanting to know something. I have never made a pass on a man but, I would like to live out this fantasy I have about giving another man a BJ. I know a lot of men will be saying things like “fag, homo and sicko” or other negative things so if that’s you just move on to another post…. My wife and I have talked about this at great lengths and she is cool with the idea. Matter-o-fact she thinks it’s hot to think about me getting a man off. Any thought would be great so thanks in advance!
lifensf

 

[HeavenCanWait]

The best way to go is to crack open the porn, and offer him the chance to get more comfortable. Then literally offer him a hand with that. It's worked for me.

 

[human_male]

No one's gonna call you fag homo or sicko. And believe me you're not alone. Have a look on the GLBT board, there's no end of posts of straight, or more or less straight men and their bi fantasies. You're really lucky that you have a wife who's turned on by it and is in to you doing it.
I don't know how you'd go about it though, I'm stuck on that problem myself.

 

[emap]

Hmmm, if your wife wants to watch and you don't have a problem with her watching, do a couple looking for a guy ad on adult friend finder.

No seriously, there actually are more gay or bi men looking through ads than women, so most likely you can find at least one guy who would let you go down on him through the personals.

Alternate method, go to a club or bar with your wife and let her approach the cute guys and lay out what you want to happen. She will get alot of no's, but all you need is one yes. Besides, alot of guys are curious and if your wife is there to watch or help out they will say yes because it's not just two guys doing oral sex and not 'gay'

I wish you the best of luck with this.

 

[3andOut]

You see posts for requests like this on craigslist for NSA type of experimental stuff like that. If you are serious about doing it, it might be worth a look.

 

[lifensf]

The best way to go is to crack open the porn, and offer him the chance to get more comfortable. Then literally offer him a hand with that. It's worked for me.

I did something like what you mentioned. He called on the phone one day to say he would be over to do some work on our flat the next day and I said “I guess I will have to hide the guns, drugs and porn” lol of course, and he said “you can leave the porn out”. So needless to say I left the porn out. Two DVDs one run of the mill “straight” and the other was a title called Mile Bi Club. He did not say anything about it when I got home. Who knows? All though we all went out one night to this show and after we went and had some drinks. During this time he kept touching me. I guess if I was good at reading stuff like that I would have taken it as an advance. Most assuredly would have if it was a woman doing it!
Any thought from the ladies on the boards?

 

[Explaura]

sounds kinda hot.

 

[HeavenCanWait]

it's the only way to go, really.

 

[deluxe3000]

Find a mutual friend who might be able to mention your interests to him. That's what I did years ago. I mentioned to two gal pals of mine that I was interested in seeing what it was like to be with another man. One of them knew of a gay friend of hers and mentioned my interest to him. Needless to say he was interested. We got together one Sunday and started out on the couch talking, which progressed to us undressing and taking a bath together. Then, off to his bedroom. It was a lot of fun and I'd like to do it again but I'm married and my wife isn't into it. Drag.

Best of luck!

 

[lifensf]

Thanks to all that have replied to my post! I finally got up the nerve to say something and it went pretty good. I started by asking him if he remembers his dreams? He replied that sometimes he does but most of them fade fast. I then commented that I was about the same but once and a while you have one that really sticks with you. I started to tell him about my “dream” and was doing some him-hawing around and he asked if it turned sexual. Why yes it did I said that I had caught him masturbating in my “dream” and that when I walked in on him he turned around then I said something to him. He then turned around stood there for a min. then started to touch himself again and then I walked up to him and started to touch him. So it opened the door to a lot of talk about sex. Bottom line is he might after a few beers loosen up a bit to receive oral from another guy but, does not think he could give which is cool with me because I’m more interested in giving than receiving. So who knows? Maybe some day soon…

 

[lifensf]

One more thing sex for me has always been about giving pleasure to the woman I’m with and now maybe a man….

 

[sirensiren]

Hope it works out for you