Making Anal Sex Easier

[DevilRider13]

Ok, so I love anal... I like playin with toys, fingers, rimming all that good stuff...


Thing is, I get sore extremely easily when the SO use his hands and I really wanna let him stick it up my ass.. The idea turns me on a ridiculous amount, but it hurts to badly...

We use ton of lube....

Ideas on how to make it easier woud be great!

 

[infinity706]

Well, if you're just getting sore and you're already using a ton of lube, you could just keep trying frequently. Eventually, your skin will grow tougher. As for the pain from having his dick in your ass, though. It might just be too big for you right now. You might need to work up to it with some smaller toys.

 

[shortstuff02]

You definately need to work your way up. I had trouble in the beginning. We started with fingers then worked up to a slim vibe which I had trouble with in the beginning. We took our time and used fingers and slim vibe til I was completely comfortable with that. Then we moved on to him entering in my ass. I had good and bad times with it. He was patient and eventually we got to where I had no problem at all and enjoyed it.

In the beginning I did have soreness. I also found a lot of my issues were mental. I would unfortunately concentrate on the pain aspect or how I was nervous and obviously that would work against me.

I say lube, patience, lube, lube, relaxing and just take your time.

 

[seela]

Relaxing is paramount. I know it's not PC to suggest, but a glass of wine might help you to relax the firs time around. Because even after you've done all the taking it slow with fingers and small toys you'll probably be a bit tense and nervous when it's time for the real deal.

So yeah, a lot of it is between your ears and not physical per se.

Other than that I have no good hints to give that haven't already been given. Oh, and there is such thing as too much lube, at least for me. If I use too much of it, it kinda messes with my stomach and rapid pooping may ensue. TMI? Probably. Can't always tell.

 

[Gary_1169]

Relaxing is paramount. I know it's not PC to suggest, but a glass of wine might help you to relax the firs time around. Because even after you've done all the taking it slow with fingers and small toys you'll probably be a bit tense and nervous when it's time for the real deal.

So yeah, a lot of it is between your ears and not physical per se.

Other than that I have no good hints to give that haven't already been given. Oh, and there is such thing as too much lube, at least for me. If I use too much of it, it kinda messes with my stomach and rapid pooping may ensue. TMI? Probably. Can't always tell.

EXACTLY..what me and my first wife use to do. Once she realy got turned on..it also helped add to it....let the woman be the one to decide if tonight is the night for anal sex.....if she's done all the above things...sex will be most pleasurable for both.

 

[kittyn_]

Eh, I may be weird, but my suggestion would be not to use fingers, mainly because while I enjoy anal sex, I find my partners fingers to be uncomfortable. I think that may just have to do with calouses and fingernails or something. If you don't like his hands, don't let him use them. If you enjoy toys and have some not to far off from his size taht you think feel good, I'd say just try it and see what happens.

 

[bronzeage]

The anus is a muscle and it can stretch a lot. If you stretch it slowly, it will be pleasurable. If you stretch it too fast, it hurts like hell.

Lube is good and more lube is better, but it doesn't do much good if all it does is let his cock force you open too quickly.

Fingers are best to start. When a lubed finger enters with little resistance, use and ordinary vibrator. It's easy to hold and tip is gently tapered. Go slow, pressing lightly and withdrawing. When the vibrator slides in easily, he can push his cock inside you with no pain.

Some people like the pain of a fast insertion. That is a different kind of thrill. If he is curious, tell him it's something like getting kicked in the balls.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Other than that I have no good hints to give that haven't already been given. Oh, and there is such thing as too much lube, at least for me. If I use too much of it, it kinda messes with my stomach and rapid pooping may ensue. TMI? Probably. Can't always tell.

That tends to happen to me anyway

I find, if you're trying to work up to it, whether you're using fingers or toys, you need to do more than just move them in and out.. you need to move in a kind of swirling, circling motion, opening the entrance wider, getting it used to the pressure.

Do it gently, even tug a little bit.. as long as there's no alarming pain, persist, once you get used to the sensation, you'll relax. Even try pushing a little, like you're trying to go to the bathroom, it'll help you open up.

 

[KinkyLove4me]

Clip those fingernails AND file the edges smooth. That is definitely a number one priority!

 

[EbonyGoddess1987]

Anything that makes anal sex easier is okay by me.