Married and Cheating Statistics

[Ed_Sumner]

I came across a few interesting stats on cheating in marriages and thought I would pass them along for discussion and responses.
44% of women said it was with someone their husband knew.
The top cheating occurrence was Business trips.
The percentage of affairs that begin at work: 60%
Up to 60% of all spouses will take part in some form of infidelity at least once during their marriage.
56% of men who have affairs claim to be happy in their marriages.
Women and men cheat at the same rate within a marriage, although the reasons why women cheat are very different from the reasons that men cheat.
34% of women who had affairs claimed to be happy or very happy in their marriages
The most common reason why a woman cheats on her spouse: emotional satisfaction.
Men [74%] and women [68%] say that they would have an affair if they knew that they wouldn’t be caught.
17% of cheating spouses have an affair with one of their in-laws.
The percentage of cheating spouses who have a fling while on a business trip: 35%.

I sure as fuck can vouch for the stats on business trip cheating. It's so tempting, easy, and low-risk for the cheater. The non-traveling spouse like me, at home minding the kids, can be clueless for years. A decade even.

 

[Beth_Anne90]

Statistics and polls are so unreliable. At least that's what statistics show!

 

[saintcero]

What kind of things?

she won’t do oral of any kind with me but at one point said she gave him a blowjob. She now denies that. She is so tight lipped about any details of her tryst that I wonder if she gave up her butt to him. I have never even got a fingertip in her ass. My imagination fuels this suspicion more than anything. It just seems like the most plausible reason for keeping things to herself and being inconsistent with her story. For example, she says they didn’t fuck but she went to get tested for STDs. Why?

 

[Roadratt]

This is a subject that I have pondered for so many years.Im happy married and love my wife so much but don’t want to die not having experienced some sexual desires.
First post new to the platform

 

[MarsterKevin]

So on a thread about cheating stats. You posted a fantasy of yours SMH!

That’s not a f*

So on a thread about cheating stats. You posted a fantasy of yours SMH!

why would I lie ????

 

[cockford]

I sure as fuck can vouch for the stats on business trip cheating. It's so tempting, easy, and low-risk for the cheater. The non-traveling spouse like me, at home minding the kids, can be clueless for years. A decade even.

I think my wife was genuinely surprised that i hadn’t ever cheated on a business trip. She on the other hand, was playing while i was away…

 

[lifeis2short2b]

That’s not a f*


why would I lie ????

Why would any guy lie about there sexual endeavors?

 

[JuanVato]

As a woman who has affairs, I cheat because of a lot of reasons. I stopped being seen as a woman, in my marriage. I became a maid, cook, personal shopper and all the tiny things women do that get so taken advantage of. I was a self cleaning masturbation tool for my husband. We haven’t kissed in over a decade. It was “take your panties off, we are having sex” as foreplay. Or just locking the door and putting on a porn. I told him no, but it was hell in my house after, think toddler getting wrong sippy cup tantrum, until I gave in. Now, I use toys to cum, turn around and let him have doggy, so I don’t have to look at him.

He’s also extremely controlling and manipulative. I know, why don’t I just leave? He turned my kids against me when I tried. He has stated he would spend every penny we have in court rather than me see a dime, after being a housewife and sahm for 16 years. I am scared to leave. I have been working but the jobs I have pay awful and the hours are worse.

Affairs, emotional and sexual, I feel seen, beautiful, sexy, desired. I feel wanted. That is what I needed.

Yes
What you posted.

 

[000777]

I sure as fuck can vouch for the stats on business trip cheating. It's so tempting, easy, and low-risk for the cheater. The non-traveling spouse like me, at home minding the kids, can be clueless for years. A decade even.

Yeah, I totally agree and I experienced that.

 

[HotflixLust]

Two weeks ago my wife went to her business conference in a different city with mostly her male colleagues and she had been naughty

 

[000777]

Two weeks ago my wife went to her business conference in a different city with mostly her male colleagues and she had been naughty

Care to share any details?

 

[HotflixLust]

Care to share any details?

She face timed me at night and she was quite drunk and was dancing in a night club very provocatively almost grinding against a guy who was her coworker. Her sequen dress was almost close to her ass, I felt a jolt of jealousy yet arousal.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

Yeah, I totally agree and I experienced that.

As the cheater, or the cheatee?

 

[000777]

She face timed me at night and she was quite drunk and was dancing in a night club very provocatively almost grinding against a guy who was her coworker. Her sequen dress was almost close to her ass, I felt a jolt of jealousy yet arousal.

Anything happen beyond that?

 

[000777]

As the cheater, or the cheatee?

I was the cheatee. My wife and her boss on a business trip.

 

[HotflixLust]

Anything happen beyond that?

DM to know more

 

[Ed_Sumner]

I was the cheatee. My wife and her boss on a business trip.

Hot. How did you find out? Happy to take this to DM land if you'd rather discusd in po private.

 

[sexfest2016]

As a woman who has affairs, I cheat because of a lot of reasons. I stopped being seen as a woman, in my marriage. I became a maid, cook, personal shopper and all the tiny things women do that get so taken advantage of. I was a self cleaning masturbation tool for my husband. We haven’t kissed in over a decade. It was “take your panties off, we are having sex” as foreplay. Or just locking the door and putting on a porn. I told him no, but it was hell in my house after, think toddler getting wrong sippy cup tantrum, until I gave in. Now, I use toys to cum, turn around and let him have doggy, so I don’t have to look at him.

He’s also extremely controlling and manipulative. I know, why don’t I just leave? He turned my kids against me when I tried. He has stated he would spend every penny we have in court rather than me see a dime, after being a housewife and sahm for 16 years. I am scared to leave. I have been working but the jobs I have pay awful and the hours are worse.

Affairs, emotional and sexual, I feel seen, beautiful, sexy, desired. I feel wanted. That is what I needed.

My sister was in the same situation, but in a 38 year marriage. Sux. I’m sorry. DM me if you’d like to talk…

 

[000777]

Hot. How did you find out? Happy to take this to DM land if you'd rather discusd in po private.

It was a couple years when we were at her company holiday party. I happened to catch her boss and a coworker being very cozy and handsy with her. They were off by themselves sitting together and I watched them play with her. I didn't say anything at the party but later when we got home I did and she confessed that she had sex with them several times.

 

[regina75]

i did twice regina is my fem name

 

[citywidepanic]

I think that most of what we have been taught about gender based differences in sexuality - including the propensity to cheat and why we cheat - lacks objectivity and is often contrived to suit a male centric view of the world.

Men have sought to perpetuate the notion that it is somehow more natural for men to stray as a way to justify giving themselves the latitude to do so while not affording the same latitude to women. For much of history women were expected to accept the "oh well boys will be boys" mentality alongside the premise that a woman who dared stray was evil incarnate and deserved the harshest possible punishment. Meanwhile the notion that women were naturally monogamous because we needed a man to provide for us existed alongside societal rules that precluded us from providing for ourselves without the slightest awareness of the contradiction. And the premise that the complexity of the female orgasm and sexual capacity of women might make us more suited to seeking diverse sexual experiences was not even considered.

To the extent that we accept that women do stray we have tried to convince ourselves that for women it is inevitably due to something emotional lacking in the marriage rather than simple sexual desire as is usually the case for men. I am aware of no evidence to support this distinction aside from stereotypes about female behaviour gleaned from baseless assumptions and anecdotal evidence of female behaviour in a patriarchal society that punishes women for not complying or pretending to comply with their stereotypes. Reality is that both men and women may stray for any number of reasons. Recent work by sociologist Alicia Walker on the topic of why men and women cheat actually turned conventional thinking on its head. Her work suggested that women who cheat are just as likely as men if not more so to stray in search of sexual fulfillment and empowerment and men are at least as likely as women if not more so to stray in search of an emotional intimacy or sense of security missing in their marriage.

I think that to some degree men want to see it the opposite way because that portrays them in a more favourable (in their view) light. They prefer to see themselves as sexual animals rather than emotionally needy. Meanwhile if their partner cheats on them men would prefer to think that it was because it was because they were emotionally distant (thought of as a masculine trait, albeit imperfect) rather than because she was seeking a better sexual experience (the ultimate offence to the male ego).

As if to further tweak the male take on things I noted two other conclusions of her work. Firstly when asked their ideal cock size in a husband and ideal cock size in a cheating partner, the latter was on average an inch larger than the former (ouch - yup she is acting based upon sexual desire and that includes looking for bigger). Secondly, when asked if they would consider an open marriage the women were substantially more inclined to say yes.

Personally I do think that male and female sexuality differs in many ways. But those differences are not accurately reflected in conventional thinking which is heavily influenced by men, how they want to see themselves and the power they have consistently tried to exercise over women. In a world where women have as much freedom as men we are just as likely to cheat and at least as likely to be doing so purely in search of sexual pleasure.

Ouch indeed. Once again proving any guy who isn't big is useless and worthless

 

[LMWM321]

Ouch indeed. Once again proving any guy who isn't big is useless and worthless

Is that what you read from her post? You need to work on your reading comprehension.