Millie's terrible day thread. You can post any and of your disappoints for the day, week, month, year, or your life.

[Bramblethorn]

Today’s biggie? We’ve all but made the decision to return our older rescue dog to the shelter. We’ve had him for a year, and he’s a sweetheart. We love the guy, and he clearly loves us. However, his separation anxiety is so severe that he cannot be left alone at any time. He cannot be boarded - I still owe the kennel several hundred dollars in repair costs from the last time, but the owner keeps waving me off when I try to pay her for it. He’s chewed-up the car interior. He tears himself up if crated for more than a few minutes. And this is still after a year of training and working with him in general.

Ah, that's rough. Got very close to that with our last rescue dog; he had fear/aggression issues that the shelter probably didn't know about when we adopted him, and if somebody did the wrong thing he'd go instantly from a sweet friendly boy into full-on attack mode. My partner still has the scars. We got a handle on it but we couldn't allow him near children, just too dangerous :-/

Dealing with his needs and the impacts to our lives is damaging our marriage. We just made the realization that if we go our separate ways, the situation with the dog gets worse for him, not better.

Like they say, gotta fit your own oxygen mask before assisting others, but it's a hard hard choice. I am sorry for all of you, and hoping he finds a situation that works for him. At least you were able to give him a good year.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Oh god damn it, I hate the internet sometimes.

Here

Just for you. (By clicking on spoiler, you accept all responsibility for consequences.)

 

[MrPixel]

Ah, that's rough. Got very close to that with our last rescue dog; he had fear/aggression issues that the shelter probably didn't know about when we adopted him, and if somebody did the wrong thing he'd go instantly from a sweet friendly boy into full-on attack mode. My partner still has the scars. We got a handle on it but we couldn't allow him near children, just too dangerous :-/

Our previous adoption attempt was close to that. He was okay with the meet and greet, so we took him home. We had him about four weeks when he bit my face hard while I was petting him, drawing blood. He went back to the shelter that day. We were later informed - here on LitE, as a matter of fact - that his breed, blue heeler, was not exactly suitable for indoor living. When the shelter re-listed him as available, he was still billed as “Dalmatian mix”. Nuh uh. He was pure heeler.

This sweet fella, though, is being given a reprieve at the moment. We (and the vet) have had him on various meds - trazodone, prozac, xanax - trying to reel-in his anxieties with varying results, but not enough to trust him alone. Changing-up the protocol a little bit, we found some success at least in the car with trazodone, provided he received the dose with enough time to take full effect. Just yesterday in hopes to save him, we tried medicating, but locking him in his crate instead of taking him with us to fetch take-out. We were gone for ~25 minutes fully expecting shredded bedding and a bloodied nose. No problem, he was fine. We’re going to gradually extend the time away and see if we’re on to something.

Hope springs eternal.

 

[KeithD]

Not a terrible Christmas. My children redeemed themselves by calling and giving good chat today. Knowing I couldn't travel, they didn't nor did they give us any plans that they might. But they called today, so Christmas was good.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Our previous adoption attempt was close to that. He was okay with the meet and greet, so we took him home. We had him about four weeks when he bit my face hard while I was petting him, drawing blood. He went back to the shelter that day. We were later informed - here on LitE, as a matter of fact - that his breed, blue heeler, was not exactly suitable for indoor living.

Wow. No, not unless your indoors has a flock of sheep for him to herd for several hours a day.

This sweet fella, though, is being given a reprieve at the moment. We (and the vet) have had him on various meds - trazodone, prozac, xanax - trying to reel-in his anxieties with varying results, but not enough to trust him alone. Changing-up the protocol a little bit, we found some success at least in the car with trazodone, provided he received the dose with enough time to take full effect. Just yesterday in hopes to save him, we tried medicating, but locking him in his crate instead of taking him with us to fetch take-out. We were gone for ~25 minutes fully expecting shredded bedding and a bloodied nose. No problem, he was fine. We’re going to gradually extend the time away and see if we’re on to something.

Good luck! I hope you can make it work.

 

[jaF0]

These are tales of why I no longer have anything with tails.

 

[Duleigh]

My recent Octalogy - Enchantress, has been getting rated very highly, and Enchantress 4 - Turtle Eclipse has a perfect 5 score, the rest are all in the 4.90s
I went to the top scores for SciFi, and only a couple are in there with low scores that they never had. My two best, Enchantress 4 with a 5.00 and Enchantress 2 with a 4.94 (which should put it in 53rd place) are nowhere in the list. Nor are they listed in overall stories. Enchantress 4 should be #1 overall.

Enchantress 3 has a 4.97 but @Laurel shows it with a 4.91 a score it never had. She also has Enchantress 1 with a score of 4.90 far lower than it has ever had.

Database corruption?
My "Fan Club" hacking the system?
If a few months some of these will be eligible for story of the month, but how can they win if the database doesn't even show them? I've contacted Laurel twice and got "Things Happen" for an answer.

 

[MillieDynamite]

News from the parental front is that Mum may be going to the hospital ER later today because of an apparent lung infection. I wish I had a silly, trivial thing to post, but that's all I have. We were so fixated on my Pops issues, we missed that Mum wasn't feeling well.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

Divorced and single. Too cold to go for a ride. Damn the day after Christmas sucks...

 

[Duleigh]

News from the parental front is that Mum may be going to the hospital ER later today because of an apparent lung infection. I wish I had a silly, trivial thing to post, but that's all I have. We were so fixated on my Pops issues, we missed that Mum wasn't feeling well.

I can understand were this is coming from. When Mrs. Duleigh fell and broke everything but her fingernail we were concerned for her. Wheelchairs, crutches, canes, even one of those recliners that stand you up. Meanwhile I have multiple lung issues. Lung issues like infections, pneumonia, COPD, CTEPH, don't hurt, they're just bothersome... until they become very bothersome.

Go take care of momma, she needs you.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Well, she's put off the ER for now and insists she can wait until her doctor's appointment. But I think she'll change her mind when it worsens in a few days.

I can understand were this is coming from. When Mrs. Duleigh fell and broke everything but her fingernail we were concerned for her. Wheelchairs, crutches, canes, even one of those recliners that stand you up. Meanwhile I have multiple lung issues. Lung issues like infections, pneumonia, COPD, CTEPH, don't hurt, they're just bothersome... until they become very bothersome.

Go take care of momma, she needs you.

 

[StillStunned]

Well, she's put off the ER for now and insists she can wait until her doctor's appointment. But I think she'll change her mind when it worsens in a few days.

There doesn't seem to be a "moral support" emoji, so have a cup of tea instead:

ETA: For all you non-Brits out there, there's only one acceptable response if someone offers you a cup of tea. You have to say, "Ooh, lovely!"

 

[MillieDynamite]

Not a Brit or an Auzzie, but my Mum is both. Oooh, Lovely, make it Darjeeling, please.

 

[Dunes_et_Soleil]

Not a Brit or an Auzzie, but my Mum is both. Oooh, Lovely, make it Darjeeling, please.

Both British and Australian?

 

[MillieDynamite]

She was born in England, emigrated to Australia, obtained dual citizenship, and then married dad and moved here 25+ years ago. Soon, she'll be an American Citizen, or so she says.

Both British and Australian?

 

[Dunes_et_Soleil]

She was born in England, emigrated to Australia, obtained dual citizenship, and then married dad and moved here 25+ years ago. Soon, she'll be an American Citizen, or so she says.

I see, hope she gets well soon! Great to hear that you're taking care of your loved ones.

 

[Duleigh]

Well, she's put off the ER for now and insists she can wait until her doctor's appointment. But I think she'll change her mind when it worsens in a few days.

I do the same thing, it drives my wife crazy, but when you have these things, you tend to know what is going on with you body. Today I feel like my lungs have a wet wash cloth in them, but I know what that means and how to treat it. I hope your mother is able to do the same.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

My recent Octalogy - Enchantress, has been getting rated very highly, and Enchantress 4 - Turtle Eclipse has a perfect 5 score, the rest are all in the 4.90s
I went to the top scores for SciFi, and only a couple are in there with low scores that they never had. My two best, Enchantress 4 with a 5.00 and Enchantress 2 with a 4.94 (which should put it in 53rd place) are nowhere in the list. Nor are they listed in overall stories. Enchantress 4 should be #1 overall.

Enchantress 3 has a 4.97 but @Laurel shows it with a 4.91 a score it never had. She also has Enchantress 1 with a score of 4.90 far lower than it has ever had.

Database corruption?
My "Fan Club" hacking the system?
If a few months some of these will be eligible for story of the month, but how can they win if the database doesn't even show them? I've contacted Laurel twice and got "Things Happen" for an answer.

The All Time top list needs 100 votes to get on it. The Last 12 months and Last 30 Days don't, just use number of votes to order stories with the same score. All the top lists seem to get updated more slowly than other parts of the database. Don't know if that's relevant.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I've never checked any of those lists, because I know my stories won't be on them. Saves me aggravation not looking.

My recent Octalogy - Enchantress, has been getting rated very highly, and Enchantress 4 - Turtle Eclipse has a perfect 5 score, the rest are all in the 4.90s
I went to the top scores for SciFi, and only a couple are in there with low scores that they never had. My two best, Enchantress 4 with a 5.00 and Enchantress 2 with a 4.94 (which should put it in 53rd place) are nowhere in the list. Nor are they listed in overall stories. Enchantress 4 should be #1 overall.

Enchantress 3 has a 4.97 but @Laurel shows it with a 4.91 a score it never had. She also has Enchantress 1 with a score of 4.90 far lower than it has ever had.

Database corruption?
My "Fan Club" hacking the system?
If a few months some of these will be eligible for story of the month, but how can they win if the database doesn't even show them? I've contacted Laurel twice and got "Things Happen" for an answer.

 

[Duleigh]

The All Time top list needs 100 votes to get on it. The Last 12 months and Last 30 Days don't, just use number of votes to order stories with the same score. All the top lists seem to get updated more slowly than other parts of the database. Don't know if that's relevant.

Nope. because my stories have been excluded from the Last 12 months list of sci-fi and all stories. Enchantress 4 should be on top of all stories, last 12 months, instead they've been wiped or corrupted in the db. Out of 7 stories only 1 is right, the rest have the wrong number of votes (usually high) and the wrong score.

 

[Dunes_et_Soleil]

Well, she's put off the ER for now and insists she can wait until her doctor's appointment. But I think she'll change her mind when it worsens in a few days.

How's your mum doing today?

 

[MillieDynamite]

She's better and still refusing to go to the doctor.

 

[Duleigh]

She's better and still refusing to go to the doctor.

It's always the care givers who have it the hardest. You may have to call the doc, make the appointment, and drag her to the doctors office.
If she complains just say, "We have to go, I put this appointment on your card" That always worked for my mom.

 

[MillieDynamite]

She's holding out to go to her doctor, not the ER. As she is improving, I'm not pushing the matter.

It's always the care givers who have it the hardest. You may have to call the doc, make the appointment, and drag her to the doctors office.
If she complains just say, "We have to go, I put this appointment on your card" That always worked for my mom.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Well, suffering succotash, I say suffering succotash, folks, I'm out of Darjeeling tea! I say I'm out of my favorite tea. If that doesn't make you mad, nothing will. So, Tea, Earl Grey hot. Just doesn't do the trick like my Darjeeling does. Pack up my baby, lock up my cat. By golly, by Gumby, I'm heading for the tea shop right now.