Monogamous Vs Non Monogamous

[awired50]

Trust is the pillar of all relationships.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I know friends and family view us as the perfect couple. Nobody is perfect!
If you never have a disagreement, get mad at each other, feel like at times you are on your own I want to meet you in person.
I have never met anyone that has that.
My childhood friends are all like us married long-term 40 plus years.
They all have to work at it and give and take.
Many feel 15 years is a long time 30 years went fast and easy. Now aging parents, life in general, health issues all come into play.

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

I know friends and family view us as the perfect couple. Nobody is perfect!
If you never have a disagreement, get mad at each other, feel like at times you are on your own I want to meet you in person.
I have never met anyone that has that.
My childhood friends are all like us married long-term 40 plus years.
They all have to work at it and give and take.
Many feel 15 years is a long time 30 years went fast and easy. Now aging parents, life in general, health issues all come into play.

Love it. Well said.

 

[CountryBoyy]

What I don't understand is, people keep talking about some people can't communicate with people. Things in there past they may not want that person to know about. If you have to hide anything from the person you claim to love, that's just sad . Explain how some people even have a relationship ? I have done things in the past that I'm not proud of. My past life has made me the man I am today. If I was in a relationship, and if she asked me about my past life, I would tell her everything she wanna know. I'm not judging anyone, I'm just trying to understand.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

What I don't understand is, people keep talking about some people can't communicate with people. Things in there past they may not want that person to know about. If you have to hide anything from the person you claim to love, that's just sad . Explain how some people even have a relationship ? I have done things in the past that I'm not proud of. My past life has made me the man I am today. If I was in a relationship, and if she asked me about my past life, I would tell her everything she wanna know. I'm not judging anyone, I'm just trying to understand.

You obviously don't understand child abuse, sexual abuse and rape or I don't think you would say that unless you have been a victim and came out the other end a survivor who has excelled in recovery

 

[MaturemanAJ]

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You obviously don't understand child abuse, sexual abuse and rape or I don't think you would say that unless you have been a victim and came out the other end a survivor who has excelled in recovery

Need to rephrase that as people that haven't had that trauma willnever understand. My mistake and apologize to any victims for using that word

 

[CountryBoyy]

I will say this, and finally be done with all of this. I mean what I say and say what I mean . What I believe is what I believe. It's simple as that. You don't have to agree with what I have said. Everything I have said has been nothing but the truth .

 

[Hipshot1554]

the idea of being able to date on the side with my husband's blessings would be my dream come trueeeeee - and would only make me love him more, and better. now to find a man who would agree to that, that's the part.

Been there, done that.

 

[OralAllOver]

Some (most?) are insecure and unhappy at prospect of their partner with another. (I'm not, particularly). Ideal or dysfunctional, fact is lots & lots feel that way

So I see monogamy as a gift: One less thing to worry about for someone i love

 

[CountryBoyy]

I will say this and be done with this. Marriage is where two people come together to love and care for one another. Marriage is about sacrifice. Till death do us part. Marriage is not just about sex and what you can get. Like I have said before if you love someone you will not have sex with another person. If you love someone you will not do that person wrong.

BiggDogg91 that's so true. Keep telling the truth even if people don't agree with what you have to say.

 

[EmmAgain]

I love my husband. He is the only man I have ever loved and he is the only man to whom I’ve said the words, “I love you.” We love each other and would - heaven forbid - die for each other.

But I’m not monogamous. I’ve never been monogamous in my life, from my first make-out session many years ago to my marriage.

He accepts that I have certain needs related to my hyper sexuality, and we play by agreed rules that keep me sexually satisfied and our marital vows intact.

Every marriage is different. This is my marriage.

 

[Str8One]

I was in a monogamous marriage for more than 15 years - and I loved it. We were both virgins when we met and we were able to explore and develop together. Part of the reason it felt special was that it was just between the two of us.

Now I'm a widow, so technically single. And I find myself less attracted to the idea of monogamy. I've discovered that I really like variety and surprise. That's difficult to keep finding with just one partner. As a result, I am not really looking for another marriage, but maybe more of an open kind of relationship.

I believe either can work, as long as everyone involved know and agree on how things should be.

Non, I have an extremely high sex drive and sometimes that hits in a moment with others.

 

[MrMaurice000000]

Let me ask everyone on Literotica a question? Monogamous or Non Monogamous? Why do people feel the need to be in a non monogamous relationship? There is nothing wrong with being in a mongamous relationship. Let's keep it :that means let's keep it real and tell the truth. I would like to hear from the single men and women,as well as the married men and women.

@BiggDogg91 You are right there is nothing wrong with a monogamous relationship.

 

[ppete3]

I've never understood the appeal of a strict monogamous relationship. It's one thing to say that you don't want to sleep with other people. It's something entirely different to say that you don't want your partner to sleep with other people - yet, that's what monogamy ends up being for most people. Even if you have to deal with some jealousy, I see nothing wrong with your partner sleeping with other people.

I like the variety that goes along with sleeping with other people, and more importantly, I enjoy being able to build intimate bonds with different women. I've been married for 10 years, and while I love my wife dearly, I have never been in a relationship where I never felt the desire/need to sleep with someone else.

For me, nonmonogamy is a way to be the freest and truest version of myself. Everything else feels like a golden prison. Not knocking people who are fiercely monogamous, but sometimes it's difficult to live in a society where anything that goes against monogamy is so readily castigated.