My father had a stroke..

[~Dacendaran~]

My dad collasped last sunday, from a stroke, and after the CT scan we found out it was a major one with alot of swelling in the brain and a bad chest infection, the first 48hrs they tried antibodics and drips, then on wednesday they decided they was nothin else they could do other than make him comfortable, as he was getting worse by the day. then the doctors told us he would have days and not weeks left. Tho on friday he moved abit and on saturday opened his eyes, but it was clearly a strain for him but at least I think he knows we are there. It's now a full week he's been in hospital and tomorrow my dad will get another scan, this time to see how active his brain is and what the swelling is like, but today was another bad day and to honest it's looking bleak

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

sorry to hear babe

 

[Noor]

Sorry to hear this, I hope he recovers.

 

[Denae]

I am so sorry that you and your family are going through such a hard time. Either way it goes for him, there are going to be lots of hard times ahead. I hope that he is aware of all of those around him who love him so that it will bring peace to him. Holding you and yours in my thoughts.

 

[wally2450]

I wish the best for your dad and your family.

 

[poppy1963]

Oh sweetheart...I am so sorry.

I remember when my dad was going through all his stages of illness before it got to the stage your dad is in now. It was so hard for him and for us who loved him to watch those changes happen. I think though, looking back, it was a bit harder on us in many ways. He was aware things were changing and that he was moving toward his "transformation"...for want of a better word...LOL. But he was kinda out of it and just seemed to be taking it in stride and "experiencing"...instead of fighting it.

My prayers are with you all. God love ya. Phew.

 

[~Dacendaran~]

Thanks everyone I think it's just a matter of time now, but watching him day after day laying there, is slowly killing me , it breaks my heart to watch, but i can't do anything else besides be there for my mom.

 

[done_got_old]

My thoughts and prayers are with you MK.

 

[~Dacendaran~]

My thoughts and prayers are with you MK.

Thanks hon, means alot

 

[EJFan]

you and your family are in my thoughts MK.

Thanks everyone I think it's just a matter of time now, but watching him day after day laying there, is slowly killing me , it breaks my heart to watch, but i can't do anything else besides be there for my mom.

as important as it is to be there and be strong for your mother, please be sure you have someone or something that can be strong for you too.

i'll look for updates and will be hoping for the best. be well.

 

[bobsgirl]

MK, I am so sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to see your dad in this condition. I will keep him in my prayers. Don't lose hope.

 

[pleasteasme]

Sending good thoughts your way MK

 

[Cathleen]

MK, I am very sorry to read this news. You and all your family will be in my prayers and continue to be. I know it's difficult.

 

[Quoll]

Strength and positive thoughts your way.

 

[sereneone4u]

I am very sorry, MK....comforting hugs and thoughts sent your way...you may wish to contact hospice...they are great at helping with grief.

 

[glynndah]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree with the post about hospice. When my father in law was very ill, they were a great help to the family as well as the patient. Warm thoughts to you and yours.

 

[~Dacendaran~]

Thanks everyone , I doing not too bad tho, my friends and family have been fantastic

Yesterday we seen the consultant, they gave my father a scan that morning first thing. The results were not good. My dad has major swelling from the stroke and parts of his brain have shut down, he is also suffering from MRSA something or another in his blood and has amonia. Best case is if they hooked a direct line into him via his neck and pumped him full of drugs, he may survive but would end up in a vegetable state and the mrsa would attack the line as it's plastic and the infection would get worse.

So after we discussed all possibilites and concerns with the consultant. We decided not to carry on with any treatment whatsoever and let my dad have a peaceful and respectful death, rather than subject him or rather what is left to anymore pain or stess.

 

[EJFan]

i'm sorry to hear this latest news. in whatever form it happens to come to you, i hope you all find peace. you're all still in my thoughts.

 

[Quoll]

I hope your father and you and your family find peace.

 

[Cathleen]

I wish you all well during this process. May your father pass with Grace, as deserved.

You and your family will be in my prayers.

 

[Leah57]

MK, so sorry to hear this.... your family will be in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this most difficult time.

 

[Noor]

Sorry to hear this

 

[Denae]

Thanks everyone , I doing not too bad tho, my friends and family have been fantastic

Yesterday we seen the consultant, they gave my father a scan that morning first thing. The results were not good. My dad has major swelling from the stroke and parts of his brain have shut down, he is also suffering from MRSA something or another in his blood and has amonia. Best case is if they hooked a direct line into him via his neck and pumped him full of drugs, he may survive but would end up in a vegetable state and the mrsa would attack the line as it's plastic and the infection would get worse.

So after we discussed all possibilites and concerns with the consultant. We decided not to carry on with any treatment whatsoever and let my dad have a peaceful and respectful death, rather than subject him or rather what is left to anymore pain or stess.

I'm sorry to hear the bad news. Even in the best of circumstances, it's not an easy decision to make. For what it's worth, I admire you and your family for deciding to give your father this gift. He is so lucky to have you all working for him. He'll leave this earth knowing that he was loved, we should all be so fortunate.

holding you and yours in my thoughts.

 

[poppy1963]

I'm sure you and your family have made the best decision regarding your father, MK. He's very fortunate to have loved ones who can understand such things. Will keep him and you and yours in my thoughts and prayers until we hear from you again.

 

[silverwhisper]

MK, i'm so sorry i haven't read this until now, and sorrier still for what must be done. i know you're being strong for your mother, but please tell me there's someone to whom you can turn when your hurt is too great.

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