My Lovely Lady is curious about something...

[tastylover]

Hiya Litsters,
I've got a bit of a question for you, for my lovely lady friend. Two, actually! Not lady friends, questions! With much blushes she said I could ask yall's advice

Her clit is super sensitive. Sometimes it is painful for her to even just rub a little bit. She has tried out a little toy in the past and did not like it (its a little vibrator) because it was too much. I told her I thought this was normal, but she wants to know. Does anyone have any advice on what would be a good toy for her, or the best way for her to play since its hard for her to rub her clit a lot?

Our second question, is when she cums or is about to cum, sometimes she feels like she has to pee, and it makes her feel uncomfortable. Is this normal? What should she do? Or not do?

If you guys could help us with any advice, it would be so appreciated. Thank you!

 

[Reba67]

When you say painful to rub her clit, are you using lube of some kind? I find it extremely painful if I'm dry and my clit is being touched.

I do sometimes feel like I need to pee just before orgasm. One way to help myself know for sure that it's not that I'm about to wet the bed but have a great orgasm is to make sure my bladder is empty before the sexual stuff. I have been known to get up partway through a session because I need to be comfortable. I just can't relax enough to orgasm if I really need to pee.

 

[isseii]

Like Reba said, it's not at all unusual for it to be painful if it's dry. It's also helps a lot if you rub around it, above it, etc. and not the actual clit itself until you're highly aroused if she tends to be overly sensitive.

As for feeling like she needs to urinate as she approaches orgasm this is generally a very good sign as long as her bladder is empty beforehand. From what I have read as well as from my own experience, the need to urinate feeling is actually the build up to one incredibly intense explosively wet orgasm. It's also a common sign of a "squirting orgasm" so if there's a lot of fluid afterward there's a very good chance it's not urine.

 

[CherryBomb24]

my advice - lots of lube. Dont get the scented / heat / cold / lube, just get her the good old fashioned lube with none of that added crap.
Like one of the other ladies said, rub around it above it etc.

 

[infinity706]

Well, you could try rubbing her clit through a pair of silk panties, a towel, or some other kind of barrier if direct stimulation is too much.

 

[tastylover]

Thank yall! She gets really wet and excited when we play, so I hadn't thought of that being an issue, but maybe we can try and see if that helps. She usually does try to go to the bathroom before playing. Thank you guys, you have provided a lot of re-assurance and good advice

 

[Adakgirl]

Along with the lube and rubbing around, not directly on it and rubbing through soft clothing barrier advice. She should make sure the fingernails on the fingers she is using are clipped and filed smooth. She might try using two or three fingers together flat against it rather than just one. Rub lightly and play with it two/three/four times a day for a few weeks, not going for orgasm but just playing with it for short intervals, the more she does this the more she will be able to do it without pain. If it's to sensitive then she needs to work on desensitizing it.

 

[Reba67]

Keep in mind too that much of the clit structure is internal. If it's getting too sensitive wtih direct stimulation, try stimulating around it, above it etc. When I'm getting really turned on, I like a palm of the hand on the mons pubis and moving the whole area around. Experiment really. Unless something is just NOT working for me today, I let my boyfriend explore however he chooses.

 

[girly_dew]

similar

I am similar to your friend. Can't stand to have it touched, or for me to touch it, directly. As others have mentioned, you could play with the area all around. By myself, I often use two spread fingers on either side of the sensitive area. Light touching gets me started and then heavier touches (that move the skin around) stimulate more deeply. In my experience with guys, they tend to want to rub mechanically. Wrong! Think more in terms of lightly teasing, at least in the beginning, with lots of creative imagination. Sudden need to urinate is true with me also. At a certain level of excitement, I sometimes have a quick burst, or sometimes more than one. It is never a lot in volume, but I keep a towel under me. Hope that helps. Jill

 

[Dancer_Frog]

does it get really wet when she comes (feels she has to pee)? if so she is a squirter! Congrats! not many women can do that. I can. It annoys me, because I am so scared that I am gonna pee. That is the exact same sensation, but it is female ejaculation. so tell her she she is unique in the fact that not all women can do it. make sure that she pees before you two have sex, and once she gets the 'feeling to pee' during sex, tell her to push and enjoy the climatic orgasm.