Need some advice on a "swing club"

[louwriter]

I was looking around on-line the other day and found an "adults only" club (read swing club) and became interested. I was looking into a little more when my wife saw it. She didn't express an opinion about it when I asked her if she was interested.

Any thoughts or ideas about how I can go about getting her to try it out, even if just for one time?

 

[Blindinthedark]

Have you tried talking to her? That might be a good place to start.

 

[sheath]

Seems we might need a little more detail...

Just how sexually open are you and your wife? How sexually adventurous is your relationship? Have the two of you done anything like this before, even in the ballpark of the swinging game? Maybe playing with multiple toys, talking about fantasies, letting someone watch you have sex?

If we know how far you have gone already, then we will all have a better idea of how to help you with the next step.

S.

 

[louwriter]

Well Blind, I've brought it up a few times, she just hasn't taken it to seriously. She's always thought I was joking. I think she has the old stereo-typed, porno images in her mind, and everybody i've talked to has said they're a lot different then that. i don't even know if it's something that we'll like, I want to try it out at least once, just to see if we'll like it or not.

Sheath, we've had a few threesomes (all with my best friend) and have always been rather open sexually to different things. We've used a variety of toys to "assist' us.

 

[princess4u]

try this website swinglifestyle


it's a very active site with a chatroom - you can find couples/singles in your area - like all sites, some of the people are "real" and some are not - but those who are truly in the life style could probably give you some advice - you can join as a "free member" or pay a membership fee (which gives you a few extra benefits)

 

[curvacious]

try this website swinglifestyle


nodding in agreement


Most of all though I think you need to talk some more with your wife and try to convey to her that you would seriously like to try playing with other couples.

Good luck to you.

 

[Mstrskey]

Have you tried talking to her? That might be a good place to start.

...now there's an idea...talking to your wife, a novel approach I know, but every now and then it's worth a shot. Sometimes us wives can suprise you.

Just so ya'll know....he can talk to me any time,I'm in the same house with the guy! and Nope I've never taken it to seriously. I've always thought they were bad 70's cliches that had outlived their time. I don't like the idea of sexual intimacy with people I have ZERO connection with hence my general distaste for a swing "club". I'm sexually "open", but I can't say I've ever had an interest in this sort of thing.

Key~
aka " the wife"

 

[sunfox]

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This moment of speechlessness brought to you by the letters O, M, and G.

for Mstrskey, cause I wouldn't have been that adult about it, and she deserves it.

 

[Blindinthedark]

Nothing like cheezy 70's porn.

In my thinking swinging/open lifestyles, whatever you want to call it is not something you should have to try to "convince" someone to do. There's nothing worse than being pressured into something you don't want to do.

You've had some experiences in the past but "the wife" doesn't seem to be all that into the lack of emotional attachment. If I read Mstrskey right (and I'd like to think I am), a club may not be for you. If you're looking for sexual intamacy or a connection with another couple/people/whatever you're not going to find it instantly by going to a club one way or the other.

Get "the wife" to give you a definite answer instead of jerking your chain around by joking about it. If you two want to play openly, set ground rules. If not, close this chapter and move on.